Hello. Recently my mom has told me how concerned she is with my loli posters and other various objects. I don't exactly get why she has to be upset about it, it's only located in my bedroom . I'd really like it if she stopped judging me soo harshly and treated me like I'm normal. It upsets me how she worries about it like I'm some sort of mental case
Bait thread
tell you mom least i like women and that im not a faggot. tell her get off my dick, you got your type why cant i appreciate what i like.
Destroy poster,
mom's right,
avoid weird adolescence fixation.
nothing good will ever come of it OP.
A close, but not extremely close, friend of mine has a girlfriend and daughter. However, his gf (we'll refer to as gf from now on) is the one with the job and income, and who watches the kid. His mother provides, too. Gf has said to other close friends who are girls that despite being 'together', it's mostly for her daughter and mere convenience, and she doesn't really consider them actually a true couple. Despite that, it seems the boyfriend doesn't really think that way (of course), and they still sleep together.
Gf, though, has been hitting on me. More than hitting on me, actually. Suffice to say, she's interested and so am I. We've never done anything that could be considered cheating. Her boyfriend, my friend, doesn't let her have a facebook, and she can't give out her number.
I like this girl. I want to take this farther. But I don't know what to do, or if I should betray my friend like that.
advice, /adv/?
You should know she is only looking for a provider for her child.
>>17482284
Maybe I could be that. I don't know.
>>17482292
so you're a cuck
I'm 22 and I'm going back to college. I dropped out when I was 20 because I was depressed about not really knowing what I wanted to do with my life. I have a little better idea now though. I was also really lonely and felt like I would never be with anyone. A lot of my friends moved on with their lives and I also blew a lot of chances to get a gf. The loneliness really fucked with me.
How do I fix my mind set and just be okay with being alone?
Get some counseling OP (I know it's a meme)
but developing some outside perspective on your life history and methods of coping.
I had/have similar problems for many years.
recognizing codependent patterns that have permeated my life has helped a bit, ways of coping that I've had since youth and dysfunctional relationships with family.
the other life event I've had happen is I've seen people come and go, lost friends even good ones and made friends and after a while you recognize that you have to ultimately deal with yourself.
don't feel so bad about it though, we all need friends to some extent.
>>17482305
I did use the college counseling, but they weren't that great.
I have been diagnosed with depression and my doctor did write me a prescription, but idk pills kinda freak me out.
>>17482336 (me)
Yeah, I don't care for them either if you can help it, but if it keeps you from becoming completely dysfunctional that may be some good.
I think for me it comes down to healthy self-esteem (which I don't have), but if you believe intrinsically in what you do on a daily basis, your identity, and your value as a human, other people's validation matters a lot less.
is it possible to live in nyc if I get 2 jobs and live with nothing?
Yes. Youll most likely live in a shit ghetto area, but the answer is yes.
ok so you know how there's 8 million people in NYC?
you can too
No it's not possible, nobody lives in New York. Sorry
Oh look, another girlfriend related /adv/ post.
Girlfriend is mad at me because I didn't sleep over at her place tonight.
>Tuesday Night.
Get text at 9pm after hanging out with friends playing nerd trivia and having a few drinks. I had invited her but she didn't want to go. No worries but now she's scared about noises outside and would like me to spend the night. Tell her, fine no problem. I'm 2 minutes from home. Grab my stuff and go to her place 20 mins away. I end up sacrificing to miss an optional work related morning meeting.
>Wednesday
Sleep over
>Thursday
Ask her if I can stay home, I'd like to clean my bathroom which she complained about and do some work related stuff. She has "sure, do what you gotta do."
Get a call at 11pm that her dog accidentally swallowed 2 lightbulbs.
So, throw my shit in a bag, stop at walmart to get some stuff for the dog and get there. Total sleep that night 3 hours.
>Friday
Drop roses off at her house (I have a key) but she pulls up when I leave. We go to dinner but she goes out to some chipNdales dancer thing with a friend. Rather than wait around at her place to come back, I go home.
>Today
Go to her place after work as we had planned. She's asleep. Wake her up. She's crabby as fuck. So I let her sleep until 8pm. Go get her pizza. She eats it in bed. Tell her I don't plan to spend the night, I need to desperately do something work related that I had planned to do during the week and it never happened. She is pissed at me.
>Tomorrow
Don't bother staying the night because I'm going to a friend's party and I'll be out late
>Monday
I'm leaving for Rome for 6 days and want to get a good night sleep. Don't come over
>Tuesday -Sunday
Going to Rome for fun as a perk from work. Sadly without me. No price for her. It would have been $1,500 for airfare alone me.
Seriously that's a tldr but am I the bad guy here? What do I say or do to get her to understand that we both have schedules and that it's a two way street?
just break up.
>>17482194
Thanks for the scholarly advice.
>>17482194
Yeah this guys got the right idea
I'm gonna need some input on this one, wont be visiting an eye doc any time soon, unfortunately.
Does anyone know why does my vision in one eye go almost entirely black if I cover the other one? I noticed this a month ago, and it's freaking me out because I never had this problem before.
Also, my vision just keeps getting blurrier, my eyes are strained and tired all the time, I'm getting my first glasses next week. I'm 20 yo.
>>17482179
>I'm getting my first glasses next week
By this, do you mean you've already had your eyes checked and you're waiting for your glasses to be made, or do you mean that you're getting your eyes checked next week?
Dude I have no idea what's going on but I really hope everything is alright.
BUT if it doesn't, you could wear two eyepatches and be the best at parties.
What you are describing relates more to a condition like Amblyopia or lazy eye, where you have a weaker and stronger eye. The weaker eye looks the same but does not work as well as the stronger one and begins to deteriorate. This is a disorder that affects people early in life, but can develop later. If not treated properly and promptly it can progress to blindness.
Either way, this is speculative without a full exam. Get thee to a fucking doctor if you enjoy seeing things in that eye.
why do I enjoy drinking alone even though it makes me depressed, when I'm sad I get drunk and when I'm drunk I get more sad.
why do I keep doing this to myself
>>17482123
Because you haven't ditched the alcohol for pot.
Seriously, get all stoned up and watch some documentaries or something. If getting drunk is making you depressed than stop drinking. Sometimes the most obvious answer is the best one.
>>17482142
But it's hard to stop, that's the problem, I am drawn to it even though I hate it
I try and get pot whenever I can but I don't like getting involved with dealers, I'm in NYC and it's easy to get caught in some gang shit or worse, by a cop if you're not careful.
cmon /adv/ I need help
>Be 21
>Mom always said never pop a zit (apparently it pushes back acne)
>Sister says go for it
Does it cause more harm than good? Also since we are on the topic does masturbation effect acne? Also coffee = bad skin?
>>17482074
Always pop them, but only when they are white heads, and wash the area and your hand before and after, use tissue between fingers and skin to soak the puss
If you have cysts, you can try lancing them with a sterile needle, but it really depends
You're 21 and asking if masturbation causes acne?
No, it doesn't. All the "hormonal fluctuation/sex chemical" bullshit you read on 'natural living' websites is fake.
As for acne, go to a dermatologist. I didn't have facial acne but I had a pretty shit case on my back when I was in middle school. I finally decided to do something about it in 10th grade. Six months of creme and I just have scars.
I'm 20 now and it's fading. You should look into that, OP.
>>17482133
Creme. Jesus Christ, I need to sleep.
But since I've opened this up again, I think it was something like benzoyl peroxide. Ask your doctor.
I have three skin tags at the moment. I'm almost 20. Will I be developing more skin tags? I'm at a normal weight. My mother has a lot of skin tags, but she's older and has been very overweight most of her life. I'm wondering if weight and blood sugar levels have anything to do with them developing further. Can anyone give me advice?
>>17482033
Skin tags are normal and can be removed easily. Just research it man. Obesity makes you more prone so I would eat healthy. Try as little carbs as possible. This means bread, noodles, rice, ect. Otherwise its not a huge concern. Dont worry about it that much man. Could be me. I have a two cm mole growing right on the side of my nose, but that doesn't stop me from living a content life.
>>17482134
>Skin tags are normal and can be removed easily.
Wont they grow back?
Yo man, it's carbs. Try going on a keto diet and see if they get better.
Would a female bartender ever sleep with a patron?
>>17482021
No, this is a completely impossible interaction that will never happen anywhere
>>17482022
Given your advice and the situation, I will try to get her or to interact with her outside the role, and I'll treat her like a bartender at work.
Until better pussy comes along. School just can't start soon enough. Small town. Days nao.
Also won't be a shitshow at that bar
>>17482021
no, she's fucking the male staff not the patrons
Alright so basically, I've had a crush on my best friend for a long time now, he doesn't know I'm into guys and he could be bi, or maybe just using me as an outlet because he doesn't have a girlfriend
I just started going to a new college, and the first day I met this fucking qt girl with short pixie hair, shes so gorgeous, and the first time I saw her I had stomach knots, I haven't felt this way about a girl in my entire life
>we've started talking and shes amazing
>the last time a girl gave me stomach knots was in like 3rd grade, i realized I was bi in highschool but never really felt anything romantic for girls
What do I do? My Bestfriend could be into me, but I have no idea what to do with these feelings towards this girl, I've felt sick all weekend just thinking about her, every time her face comes into my mind I get weird and 'sick'
>>17481964
I forgot to mention that even my bestfriend doesn't even give me stomach knots, or any of this jazz
>>17481964
Fuck bestfriend and then date girl
Simple
Im a guy and i want to make reciving dick better, any position, any secrets to make me happy
(To clarify i bottom)
spread dat ass for daddy boy
>>17481908
>To clarify i bottom)
No fucking shit
>>17481947
Come along friend, this comment helps nobody.
>>17481908
Sorry OP, I've nothing to offer except trying more lube and more foreplay.
I dont know why I started doing this. But I just hated my life and how afraid I was of everything, I also have borderline schizophrenic paranoia and traits. All alone, no friends etc, abusive past. I just couldn't handle life anymore, I was cycling through crying, laughing, being said, being really happy every hour. My mind was a rollercoster. My identity did not exist because every hour I would re-define who I was and forget who I had been before.
Anyways, to deal with all this shit, I somehow decided that I would start walking through forests at 4 a.m it sounded like it was a good idea (areas which have paths of course).
I have been doing this for a month now. I feel afraid as fuck when I am out there all alone, but I feel good when the light comes back. Sometimes I fantasize a lonely pretty girl would show and suddenly accompany me, some girl who is just like me in a way, someone who understands me.
Problem is that very recently, two extremely weird events took place. First a guy in a black hoodie showed up from no where, he kept walking in front of me and then looking back, then he would look afraid and walk forward alittle faster. He did this for a while and then disappeared. He looked mortified, but this happened after Dawn, during the dark hours I probably would not have noticed him, either that or maybe I would have hurt him out of fear.
Then, the other day out of no where, a gust of mist appeared. The fucking ball of mist would go into the forest, then come back and be on my path again. As soon as the light appeared, the ball of mist was gone. I honestly felt like the ball of mist was a being from another dimension. Could it just be fog? but why would fog just isolate itself into a ball.
Anyways, what I want to know is what I am doing dangerous? could I get into trouble? or will this type of shit eventually help me overcome my fears / possibly improve my awareness of my environment (aka get my head out of my ass). The first hour or so is extremely painful on my senses because I feel really really fucking afraid. But we come into this world alone and afraid no? maybe if I start appreciating the dark I would start appreciating my existence.
I have no idea where to start with this. First, let me correct any misunderstandings you may have with your apparent existential crisis. Throwing yourself headfirst into a potentially dangerous situation will not lead you to discovering shit.
You claim to have borderline schizophrenic symptoms. Have you been professionally diagnosed? If so, seek treatment. Walking into a forest in the dead of night is a fool's gamble, except the only prize you get is getting fucked up.
Also, you seem like you're desperately reaching out for some form of validation or help. Seek counseling.
You seriously claim to have done this for a month? Bro, what are you going to do if you get attacked by an animal or a random stranger? There are much safer options of exploring your identity. Take up a hobby or try improve your overall fitness. As I mentioned, I would start with the professional counseling. If you have legitimately started to experience insane levels of paranoia, get some help.
You are not alone in dealing with these feelings. The support you need is there... there's nothing waiting for you in the middle of the forest.
Why am I only motivated at 3 AM when I'm about to go to bed?
How do I fix this?
>>17481789
I think it has something to do with knowing that you don't HAVE to do shit and you have the choice to go to bed any time. That or your internal clock is fucked and you get hyped.
Pull an all nighter through the night to reset your internal clock and don't sleep until like 9pm or whatever a normal sleeping time is.
>Why am I only motivated at 3 AM when I'm about to go to bed?
Because you've given up on any preconceptions that you need to accomplish or do things for the day and you are completely free of internal pressure at 3am
>How do I fix this?
By working even when you're not motivated.
How do I get A - A+ in college.
I'm gonna be a freshman soon and I just wanna few tips and tricks.
>>17481782
Go to class. Do the reading.
I actually had a really easy time not going to class a lot and I almost never did the reading, but I scraped by with Bs a lot of the time too.
I think you have to get yourself in the mindset of enjoying learning and being interested in what you're studying. That's the biggest thing. When I was in college I was used to being forced to go to high school and shit, so I didn't let myself enjoy it or be interested. Shoulda taken a gap year probably.
Everything else is study habits, which I think vary so much by individual that it's dumb to tell someone they need to take notes a certain way or whatever.
>>17481782
Study and make friends to study with. There is no secret.
Apart from the whole "go to class, do homework and readings" spiel, there's an element of inherent intelligence. For some people, it doesn't matter how hard they work, the most they can achieve are Cs