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Bump, would just like to know is there any point for this decision? Or should I just return to normal workforce job.

>>17496736
if you did all of this stuff, i believe that you have that passion for learning something so of course you can

26 isn't too old for anything.

>>17496632
For me, Theatre is the best medicine. I find it to be very therapeutic. Not sure about social anxiety but it can definitely help you escape some of the issues of your real life

>>17496632

it depends. on everything.

lets break this down
>there are different anxiety levels

if you can get into a theater group we dont know if you will just sit there the entire time or actually get up. only you know.

>there are different KINDS of anxiety

some people can perform on stage in front of everyone and thats fine. but ask them to talk to some cute girl at the after party and they refuse.

my best friend can join a new group for, say, dodgeball, and do all sorts of retarded shit during it that makes me cringe. but he refuses to apply for a job as a baker cuz of his anxiety.

im kind of the reverse. could easily talk my way into any job, but at dodgeball i tend to stick with really basics, dodging and avoiding the throw. one doesn't necessarilly help the other, though it can.

>is it a good idea

ultimately, yes. the worst case scenario is you quit. you dont have a lot to lose.

>>17496643
>ask them to talk to some cute girl at the after party and they refuse
OP here, this is my level of anxiety. Sometimes I go out for a beer with my friends (who call me less and less often as months go), once a few months I even go at some party. I feel relaxed when I talk to my close friends, but when i'm around some new people I am quiet, and I don't talk much.

Maybe theater group will help me break this blockade in my mind, help me approach people and talk to them without fear of being judged.

>>17496619
Mostly to women:

In online dating, why do you never initiate chat with a guy?
Why does the guy always have to do the first step?

Anyone; how do I find casual sex?
Im 24 year old guy with no romantic or sexual history and I feel left out. I just wanna play like everyone else and I dont see a relationship happening anytime soon.
So how do I go about finding someone willing to do a casual thing?

Ladies,

If you brought your little bro with you too hang out with a guy, is the guy safe to assume that it's not a date? She just sees you as a friend?

Girl is early 20's, little bro is 13.

...

How deam you cocked-blocked yourself? THREE TIMES IN A ROW
Well this doesn't mean you are losing testosterone you just lose interest and motivation. Is pretty different, your problem may be hormonal yea but only an expert could say what is wrong with you. Go see a doctor

>>17496675
I'm too embarrassed to talk about it.

>fetish that should only be a small facet of your life
>so overwhemingly obsessed with it that you want to kill yourself because a few people made fun of it

Your average footfag, everyone.

Why does your life have to revolve around a silly fetish? Why can't you just enjoy regular sex and get into kinks later in the relationship?

>>17496585
You'd think college students are open minded.

>>17496585
Well, they're not wrong.

Same here bruh. I don't know what to do about it though, xcept I'll probably kms someday. Sorry for no help

>>17496636
>Sorry for no help
I don't think anyone can help me.

I have thought pretty hard about it and I think most of my points are true. Any time I have been given a reason to not feel self pity it is usually because of something not in my control like how my parents are able to help me out a lot with school and that I am smart, which makes me feel worse because now I know others do better than me with even less.

>>17496566
How old are you? I was similar but things got progressively better between 19 and 23.

>>17496556
Have you tried Drano?

Drain plunger
Drain cleaner
Clean out the hair trap more often

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>>17496567
Next step

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How old is the child?

>>17496547
16 in October

>>17496555
Yeah, they don't have a fuckin' clue what they want. Give it a month or two, it'll pass.

>>17496542
>old nice christian man
just dont

>>17496544
why? as i said, i feel like kms, i have no friends, shit grades and I only think about him. and i live in norway, old christians respect faggots, and they are pretty liberal.

>>17496542
Confess after you graduate. Or else you might actually have to kys.

>>17496534
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AFi0hLc9_gk

Set it up so the whole household is banned from /pol/ if he's a computer illiterate.

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Tell him you overheard a girl say he's cute.

Eventually get him laid.

Yes, it does give off the impression that you are either gay or a sperg, if you don't have any female friends.

>>17496529
women are awful beings and not worth to befriend.
For most men, the women they interact the most is their significant other, any more than that and you'll be close to be a faggot than a real man.

As a woman I do not recommend befriending women ever.

I have one female friend, and she is dating a friend of my boyfriend. If not for that neither of us would likely be aware of the other's existence.

>>17496511

if you've made it into adulthood without being diagnosed, then getting a diagnosis won't help you, it will only enable you to be the worst version of yourself.

as soon as people find out they have anxiety, they stop trying to do the things they claim to want to. they are in a sort of 'comfortable misery' because they no longer blame themselves.

its no longer them being shit, its about 'MUH ANXIETY'

this will be similar except you will excuse anything that goes wrong in socializing and never work towards being a better you.

hold yourself accountable. we've all done stupid shit. you dont get a pass either.

>>17496538
I don't think that a neurological condition is something that you can just learn out of.

>>17496604

entirely, no, but to suggest that there is literally no way for an autist to improve socially is the most ignorant thing I've ever heard.

the problem here is that most people diagnosed with this are using it as an excuse rather than as a reason to start therapy. it becomes hugbox. Trust me, I've worked with legit autists and know how it goes down. there are two types. those who improve, and those who excuse.

but you've made it into adulthood. so its not stunting you that much if literally no one thought you needed to get seriously tested. so keep moving forward and trying to improve socially.

as opposed to getting your diagnosis, telling everyone and then saying 'WELL THATS NOT MY FAULT CUZ ASPERGERS' like some sort of tumblrina.

That's not for me to decide.

>>17496488
What do you think?

>>17496472
Why do you worship him? What's the story, anon?

Also, yes, you're insane.

>>17496466

i think the problem is that you're equating being in a relationship with being happy, and its not.

the native americans had a spirit totem for the bobcat that teaches those born under its guidance how to be 'alone without being lonely'. this isn't to say they were meant to be hermits, forever alone or permavirgins. just that they need to learn how to be happy on their own cuz, like dr seuss said, alone is something you will be often.

if you aren't happy, take some of your hobbies and try to externalize them. no matter how introverted your hobby may seem, there are at least people who want to sit around and talk about them over a drink.

if your response to this is
>BUT I LIKE VIDEO GAMES OR BOOKS AND THOSE CAN ONLY BE DONE ALONE

then you didnt actually read my post. if FURRIES can have conventions you can meet someone to just discuss similar hobbies so ur nto on 4chinz all day.

that being said, 4chinz isnt so bad. i met a guy off 4chan, and now im abotu to be a groomsman in his wedding.

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Make a bunch of slips of paper with various things to do that you never can bring yourself to do. Put them in a hat. Draw one every day, and do what the slip says.

>>17496477
But the thing is, generally I am happy. Going home and playing vidya or whatever can make me really happy.

The problem is, I'm getting to the point where if I don't start getting girlfriends or whatever, the ideal time of starting a family will pass me by.

Is it really that hard to do what people ask without thinking you somehow fucked up?

Can you not see her in person? Perhaps give her a call after work/school?

>>17496454
its not about me fucking up. Theres actually more to the story which i might post later.
it started off with her saying we should stop the daily greetings "goodmorning texts" because "theres no point in letting you know im awake if im going to be busy"
then it was "i didnt say we cant hangout, i just said irregular texting is better"
now i dont necessarily have a problem with this initially. but where it may lead is what im worried about. Especially since i asked a relatively important question.