The girl i'm trying to make my gf, has been dating another guy at the same time as me. The fuck should I do?
>>17534229
find someone that actually respect you.
Cut contact and move on.
>>17534229
Be more charming than the other guy.
Did the two of you mutually agree on an exclusive relationship? If not, then she hasn't done anything wrong and you're just being insecure.
If you did, it's time to dump her.
I'm 23 and me and this guy went to school together from grade 8-12. We were good friends pretty much the whole time. He's quite an obnoxious person for the past few years and annoys the hell out of me. I could go into detail all night but I'll keep it brief, he's a compulsive liar, he always talks up himself because I believe he has insecurity issues sparking from his childhood, and as a result he comes off as pretentious. After only a few hours of hanging out with him I've had enough and need a break for the week. I know someone will just say "don't talk to him or hangout anymore". I wish it was that easy. I don't have any friends that I do stuf with besides this "friend" and he doesn't really either. He's always messaging me on Kik and if I don't reply right away he'll send me like 6 messages in a row. How do I ease out of this without burning bridges?
>>17534226
if you are a girl, get a bf.
If you are a guy, get a new friends.
>>17534238
That doesn't help or answer my question. Lel.
just ghost him or openly say you and him are not friends.
hey guys, this is slowly killing me
>be me, 22 turning 23 next month
>have a 8/10 gf Who is perfect in every way
>has saved me from deep shit back in the past
>have this female friend, let's call her Alice, she claims herself a lesbian and is a 7/10
>know her for the last 5 months
>once me and and my gf had a 3some with Alice
>she seems like a really nice girl and a nice friend to hang out
inb4 being friends with a girl
>we start to hang out with Alice to parties that I actually always hated to go in the first place
>but since she likes it I pretend it's all ok, and pretend that I like it too
>start to really like Alice
>can't make it casual
>fast forward 4 months, went to a lot of parties, made a lot of new "friends" all because of her
>but Everytime we go to a party somewhere, dudes try to hook up with her and I start to grind my fucking gears
>this start burning from inside out and I can't name it but it hurts and I hate feeling it
>usually my gf comes with us, so I don't give a fuck about Alice when I'm with my gf
>but when I'm not... it pains me every time a dude gets near her
>realize I'm in a friendzone while I have a gf
>go to this one of her friends party last Saturday
>I know that I shouldn't go because I've seen it before and already learned a lesson about this
>party full of people I hate, bad music and bad drinks
>I ignore my instincts and went anyway
>be there like a fucking idiot watching her dance with a guy way uglier and worst than you in every fucking way for hours until I got fed up and went home
>later she calls me asking what happened
>I just said I was tired
>I'm hiding the truth because it's I'm so ashamed to feel this
>she claims herself a lesb
>only saw her with a girl twice
>this kill me everytime
I don't want to feel this anymore but I also don't wanna lose her friendship.
she uses me as a wallet to pay for her beers and parties but she is the only friend I've got...
what the hell do I do?
also, I can't tell my gf about what I'm feeling. she already feels uncomfortable around Alice because it seems I give more attention to Alice than her...
Alice's personality can be shitty sometimes but she is the only friend I got...
I really dont know what to do to end this pain
>>17534203
God I can't imagine what it's like to be this dumb
Stop being friends with her. It will literally go nowhere
>>17534191
Mate, you're clearly very much into her. Seeing as it's not going to go anywhere you need to remove yourself from the situation. It doesn't sound like you have much in common and she's using you for cash too? Run away.
Is it normal to have hair growing around your anus?
It feels uncomfortable and I shaved it off with a razor about three or four times.
>>17534175
It's normal. I want to shave mine but people told me not to. Has anything bad happened when you shaved back there?
>>17534180
itches a lot afterward and you'll sweat a lot more
>>17534180
It just itches a lot, nothing else beside that.
I am pretty mad at my girlfriend, mainly for being mad at me. A couple weeks ago, I got too drunk and threw up. I cleaned the toilet, as well as the whole bathroom afterwards - not because I "had" to, but because I'm not a fucking asshole.
Two weeks go by, and she is purposefully and tactfully withholding affection. I ask her what's up, and she brings up this moment. I didn't gamble away rent money, I didn't cheat, and this is literally the second time in the 5 years we've been dating that I've puked from alcohol.
I understand that what I did was stupid and caused unnecessary worry, but it was also 1) incredibly rare for me to do and 2) completely fine in the end. I don't like being on the hook for this, and honestly I don't think this is a big enough fuck up for her to string me along for a million apologies. What should I do?
What you fail to understand is that she's seen a side of you that she doesn't like. You say you've only done it once in the past, which means that she probably thought you'd grown up and gotten over the whole 'get drunk till you puke' thing, but she's mad and disappointed that you haven't.
>you didn't destroy property, injure anyone else, or cause her public embarrassment and you cleaned up after
>has a problem with you but doesn't communicate it like a functioning adult would
>instead throws a tantrum and expects you to figure it out
>purposefully withholds affection to get you to do what she wants
Dude no
>>17534128
Yes, I actually do understand that. Throwing up because of alcohol is really embarrassing, and trust me I was really embarrassed and ashamed. What I think is fucked up though, is now that I've gone and done something wrong, is that I'm in a perpetual state of penance.
I really think that rather than put me in the dog house for an indefinite period of time, that she should just decide whether I make the cut or not and deal with it. That is what adults do in relationships, is it not? It's not like she hasn't disappointed or ashamed me in the past, but I let these discretions and embarrassments slide because I'm not a spiteful person.
Ok so I went on Reddit. Yeah I know fucking Reddit. Anyway I asked a question as a white man trying to move with his family near an area of town that has a reputation for black/Latino gang violence. Basically asked is it safe for a white family to move and the shit storm of PC police started flooding my thread. So I deleted it rather than loose all muh karma points. Of course they called me racist but how exactly is it racist for whites to try and avoid black and Latino gangs that have propensity to specifically target whitey? Is there something I'm missing here? If blacks avoid white hick neighborhoods over shit like Emmet Till and not be called racist shouldn't whites get to avoid black racist neihborhoods over shit like the Knoxville Horror murders? Just trying to avoid carjackings, home invasions, robberies, rapes and murders.
>>17534110
>>17534110
>>17534110
Yea, sounds reasonable to me.
ur not racist. but I would stay away from that neighborhood if possible. Better to spend an extra 100 on rent then spend a 1000 on medical bills/ theft.....
>>17534110
>Am I a racist?
No.
You just aren't a fucking sheep.
Hey guys.
>be me, 23, male US
I've just graduated this year with a Bachelors in Architecture, have acquired an internship, and am about to start paying off my loans in six months as any other grad.
I've been massaging the idea of joining the navy, as I love the sea and want to serve a greater purpose in my country -- as well as being trained in an environment that promotes betterment of self.
Am I looking in the right direction, as an aspiring architect that wants to serve his country as well as getting experience? Not as important , but does anyone know the benefits?
--my favorite architect, Paul Rudolph served in the Navy and I feel it's one of the things that encouraged him to be resilient.
Only if you will be an officer upon joining.
>>17534090
Good point, my mother said with a degree, you're already an officer.
Bamp
Pros
>intelligent
>would be a good dad
>tall, handsome, athletic
>funny
>lots of interests
>caring
>pretty happy and easy going for the most part
Cons
>can be withdrawn
>don't care about social conventions that much, can be a problem for people who do
>get angry if someone gets defensive or irrational or has a different standard for themselves than they do for me
>come from a toxic family of origin so some baggage
>cut contact with parents, so if someone has to watch our kids it will be your parents or a baby sitter
>not super ambitious, pull my own weight, but I'm not going to be a doctor/lawyer or earn above $60k/year unless I start a business that takes off
>spend a lot of time on 4chan
>pros
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Pros
>am crazy
Cons
>am crazy
I have 2 certified trips to psych ward to back me up on this, boys
Pros
>Knows two languages?
>Low maintenance expenses
>uh?
Cons
>Premature ejaculator, couldn't satisfy you in bed. Additionally I'm not into cuckolding, so you are pretty much setting down for a life of not enough sexual pleasure.
>Zero motivation
>Avoid responsibility at any cost. So children are out of the picture.
>Shitty dental hygiene
>Still live with parents
>Won't shower unless is absolutely necessary
>Have 0 friends
>Unemployed
>Can't handle a conversation unless is about something I'm really into.
>Into anime and video games.
>Have played over 1600 hours of dota.
>Might be into little girls.
>Spend 80% of my time in from of a computer, 10% in bed.
>5'8'' manlet
>spic
should I be worried if my bf didn't text me back?
we talked on the phone for a little at like 830 and then he said he'd text me but he didn't so I texted him at 930 I love you :) and he never wrote back and it's 1am.. should I be worried or just let it go ? Or is it nothing ? should I ask him tomorrow if he never writes back or addresses it ?
>>17534026
btw I know he's not sleeping
I mean yeah it's definitely a little weird if he'd usually write you back.
I would wait it out and see if he has a reason
>>17534041
so if he never answers and doesn't address it should I wait for him to contact me then ask why he didn't write bak?
And it pushes me to do weird shit and act real unnatural around my gf of 1 month.
There's this weird sensation that she's secretly despising me, that she doesn't want to be with me and is pretending to enjoy my presence whenever we're together.
An annoying sensation that I shouldn't be happy or that good things shouldn't happen to me.
It all stems from my skewed views on relationships and how should people act in a relationship.
I've been a basic kissless dateless handholdless virgin before and my only experience with relationships has been from seeing other people kiss or whatever.
Whenever my gf doesn't kiss me, I just get sad inside and instantly go
>ofc she doesn't want to kiss someone like ME
Or whenever she does something to resemble life, even if it's meeting with her best friend, even when I'm at work, I go all
>ofc she doesn't want to spend her time with ME
It kills me inside.
I don't want the relationship to end because of my crippling insecurities. I'm not afraid of a breakup, I've been through some shit in my life, but I'm afraid of a breakup BECAUSE of my own insecurities and issues.
How do I solve these issues and mental microbes of mine?
Self bump
Shed some insight into my problem /adv/
>>17534020
natural male enhancement
>>17534020
realize she wouldnt be there if she didnt want to. unless she's a sociopath thats toying with your emotions, in whih case who cares what she thinks. either way stop being a bitch
Where do people meet sexual partners?
pretty much everywhere
Soapland
>>17534014
There was an interesting study out about that earlier this year.
Been depressed for years. I never did self harm or plan a suicide, I just kind of in a drunken state of mind said why the fuck do I keep trying and downed a bunch of sleeping pills, downed a handle of whiskey, and went for a walk in the woods. Woke up a few hours later with vomit all over me. Came back to my apartment like nothing ever happened, made up some story that I got really drunk with my friends to my roommates and then just went on with my life not thinking about it.
A few days later, I went to visit my best friend this weekend at his school and all of it hit me at once at what I did. Left last night without telling him and just had a mental break down in my room for the last two days. I haven't eaten anything in two days.
I just can't believe I would do something as selfish and egotistical as that. Just kill myself without even saying goodbye to him or any of my friends.
My last year of uni starts in two days, I really don't know how the fuck I can move on from this. Show up to class as usual and act like nothing happened, continue to wear this mask that hides how mentally broken of a person I am.
I still haven't told anyone about this, I'm a pretty closed off person when it comes to my emotions.
Tell your best friend.
>>17534232
I, I honestly don't know if I can do that. Just tell him, hey, I tried to die. I could've not been here and not leave a single message or goodbye.
Tell your friend and family that you love them that you are happy to know them, then if you feel that life isn't worth living carbon monoxide poisoning is your best bet. Easiest way to clean up for funeral home and cheap.
Hi folks,
Is 33 partners a normal amount for a 35 year old female to have, or is it a lot?
>>17533991
Not particularly. If you do the math that works out to 1 to 2 people every year since she was 18.
Its kind of strange if she hasn't settled down yet but 2 different sex partners every year isn't ridiculous.
I don't know what perspective you're writing from but if I met a 35 year old woman with 33 different partners I'd be more concerned about why she hasn't settled down than her number of partners. Sounds like a fear of commitment. 2 different partners a year sounds like a semi-health sex drive.
Then again, if I met a 35 year old woman I really liked I wouldn't ask her number.
Only insecure people ask prospective partners about how many sexual partners they've had, especially when that person is fucking 35.
Good enough for gf material, but definitely not wife material
How do you stop wanting/expecting people to coddle and protect you?
First off there is not an answer that will solve this problem for you any time soon and maybe even ever. Accept the fact that you are a sensitive person. That's ok.
What is not ok is believing people NEED to insulate you from the world. Stand up for yourself. You are worth while. You matter. You are the only person who truly understands you, and the only person that can protect you 100% of the time.
I believe it is ok to ask for a helping hand but to understand how to react when one is not offered.
Begin to invest in yourself by thinking of the person you want to be. What dreams do you have that are currently being stopped by some fear? It may be worth while to understand that fear and how it began.
Everyone is scared of failure but success is earned not gifted.
Find someone to coddle and protect.
>>17533925
Last weekend I planned my night poorly, and ended up stranded in the city, black out drunk and nodding off in the street. This woman and her friends found me, asking me questions, whether I was ok, whether I was homeless, what was I doing there in the dead of the night.
I explained my situation nd they concluded that they can't just leave me there in the rain, and one of their friends agreed to let me crash his place for the night.
I don't know what the fuck I was expecting, getting into cars with strangers like that, but it was only once we made it to his home that he let me know he expected sexual favours in return.
I got away with no penetration on the grounds that it hurts and he had no lube, but I had to make him ejaculate other ways. I didn't think I'd feel so bad about it afterwards.
Somehow I guess I figured that since there were women in the party, they wouldn't leave me with someone who'd hurt me.
I know I deserve everything that's done to me until I learn my lesson and stop fucking trusting people, but it keeps happening.
How does one generally improve their looks?
I've looked around and asked other places but they start in on "find your color tone" or "get the right clothes to match your aesthetic" and that just isn't helpful.
So anybody got tips to make fairly average dude a little bit better looking?
I think you're fine, except for that pained expression on your face. Even the hair doesn't bother me, I think it suits you. What does it look like when you button your shirt all the way to the top btw?
I'd recommend watching your posture and smiling in general. Oh and also look confident.
Girls generally aren't as into looks as guys are. They like a guy who's charismatic and passionate. I'd advise you to practice a musical instrument or a sport and let that be the driving force to you becoming a more confident person because chicks dig that. Also try to smile more because it makes you easier to talk to.