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>Is it over?

Had it ever begun?

Wait for her to contact you. If she doesn't, move on.

You can always meet other people by actually going out.

>>17535258
I meant to ask if there's a chance she will still contact me. Considering it's been almost a month since we met, I'm really not sure.

Also go out where? I have no social circle, and I'm not the type to go out alone at night (I live in a shitty part of the city).

>>17535494

Probably over, girls who show any interest in a guy will contact them asap. Its been a month and nothing so that goes to show you where you are on the priority list.

Even cold hard business men love "giving back" - this is fundamental to every religion

IF you think I'm a faggot who tried, say "you tried, fag"

I want to be happy. I want the people around me to be happy. Making people happy, makes me happy.

Boom, purpose of life, nailed it.
No need to make shit overly complex.

I don't need a scripture nor god to tell me what's already instinctively in my heart, just follow your gut and act reasonable. We don't know why we are here, we will never know because our mortal minds cannot understand the mechanics of the universe. We aren't meant to. Anyone who claims to know is a fucking bullshitter.

>>17535202
When you're a kid or in high school you tend to get typecast. The world decides you're cool, or goth or a nerd or whatever, and it's hard to break the label. (It is in fact just as hard for a cool kid to lose status as for an outsider to gain it).

But you are in one of the few times in your life when all that can change. NOBODY KNOWS YOU. Nobody knows whether you're in or out chad or loser. Nobody has any preconceptions about you.

This is a big chance to re-define yourself. If you can pull it off, you can act like a winner and people will believe you are. But at the very least they WON'T meet you with the pre-assumption of who you are, and will take what they see.

(Meanwhile, they're all strangers in a strange place, too, and at least as nervous about how they'll impress you as you are.)

>>17535202
>I am going to be the ugliest guy in the class. By far.

How do you know?

>I'm a loner, which I'm normally completely ok with - but being surrounded by people happily talking and forming friendships just terrifies me. But these are city kids, they're exotic and dress handsomely and are at their social peak of human society.

Other people behaving and living normally terrifies you? How does that even make any sort of sense?

Or maybe it's the idea that these people acting normally will serve as a reminder to what you lack and that terrifies you?

>I was bullied a lot when I was a kid, and I know that when peope become adults they stop but I still know what these people want to do to me. How do I stop this from affecting my work?

Adults do not stop bullying, so you can get that out of your head right now.

You don't know what these people are going to do or not do to you.

The first few things you can do are stop assuming, stop panicking, and stop making things out to be like some sort of catastrophe. Your biggest enemy here isn't potential bullies. It's you.

I was bullied a lot in school and at home, grew up thinking I was a fat ugly piece of shit. College was really interesting, and university too, because none of that previous baggage comes with you. I was amazed at how differently I was received.

>I am going to be the ugliest guy in the class. By far.

I think you should ignore whether you think you're ugly or not. If I were you I'd make sure I had reasonably clean, good clothes & hair.

>I'm a loner, which I'm normally completely ok with - but being surrounded by people happily talking and forming friendships just terrifies me.

I'd say that this 'people talking happily and forming friendships' is something you are part of too. Like, you are part of this, while you feel like an outsider, you can approach it a bit more cheerfully. Remember as well that you're looking at other people with rose tinted glasses too.

>But these are city kids, they're exotic and dress handsomely and are at their social peak of human society.

They are not a homogeneous group of kids all with the same styles and tastes- they're all like you, as in they're individual and come from countless walks of life. Sure, a lot of them will be used to living in London. Living in London has a lot of good points and you can *shudder* learn something from being around these people- and they can learn from you. I'm not from London, but it's fine there.

>I was bullied a lot when I was a kid, and I know that when peope become adults they stop but I still know what these people want to do to me. How do I stop this from affecting my work?

Look, bullying exists in college, university, work, basically anywhere. The great thing about college is that, people start to relax a bit and accept that not everyone likes the same thing. The slightly more mature vibe means that you're less likely to be bullied, especially for no reason.

TL;DR - you can make friends too, don't worry so much

Also sorry if my advice is a bit "GO OUT AND MAKE FRIENDS, SON!"

>>17535144

(character limit cut me off)

What should I do? I was up for hours overthinking what happened until I finally sobered up. All I want for now is clarification, but I don't know what I should tell her.

The only way that you will be able to find out what this woman wants is to ask her.

Ask her specifically if she wants to call things off or take things slow. From her saying "things went too fast" it sounds like she wants to take things slow at this point, but if you want further clarification you will have to ask. She was irresponsible for getting drunk and sleeping with you so early if she wanted to take things slow. Keep that in mind.

Anyway, communicate with the girl that you are into. You will get no answers about what she wants here.

If she will not clarify or starts acting funny or playing games, let her go.

>>17535151
>I was up for hours overthinking what happened until I finally sobered up.

When a woman is involved, you don't ever waste your time overthinking. You will burn yourself out.

Just reading your post made me dislike you.

who knows

>>17535084
Tell us more about yourself.

>>17535059
It looks like snoo.

>>17535059
Excess semen that couldn't be absorbed by the body

>>17535059
your body is saturated with semen and can't absorb any more

hahaha and i fucking go onto 4chan, look at me

>>17535038

Turn off your router, take apart your computer and put the pieces around the house. Turn off your phone or give it to your neighbours or someone you trust. Put on headphones so you wouldn't hear outside world.

Make getting distracted as hard as possible basically.

>>17535038
You sound like the type of person who doesn't appreciate or value his or her time. If you did, you wouldn't need to ask for tips on being productive.

Get off of here and go study for your exams.

Acing those exams, doing well in classes and graduating is so much more important than seeing what latest trip has popped up on social media accounts for the last 10 min.

If you lack the willpower, then deactivate those accounts and disable anything else that will distract you.

>>17535015
>Her friends were teasing her because she likes some buff upperclassman
>She goes and hangs out with her drunk friends at parties, but she claims (and doesn't seem to) that she doesn't drin


You only like her because you think of her as loyal
The truth is she is just as much of a slut as any other girl
Advice is to fuck her and then move on

Became successful and find a girl that is actually worth something and not washed up trash.

>>17535015
Maybe just ask her out.
You're a pussy.

>>17535015
>I really like her and can see a future with her.

Nothing good came without some work and some risk. Give it a shot anon.

Yes, it's perfectly normal.

>>17534976
No

>>17534976
sometimes

>>17534961
First of all she is being nice and looking at you while you talk, that's basic respect when someone is talking. Second she would be starting conversation with you if she liked you at all. Third girls laugh at stupid shit when they like a guy. Fourth you have to move on because what happens if she stays with this guy forever. Or the break up takes a year, don't wait that long. But on the other hand you can make yourself a viable choice for her if they ever do. Just kept talking to her and making her see you as a good person.

>>17534973
She's always looking at me even when I'm not talking.

One night we were watching a whole bunch of movies and she kept glancing over at me during them.

She's also pretty shy from what I gathered and doesn't really talk to our group unless she's spoken to.

>I'm pretty sure that she's into me
well, everyone here believes she is into them, too.

>>17534919
damn he could do way better than her

>>17534921
why?
>>17534926
lolwut

>>17534919
My dad told me this story. In the 1980s the word was that the only way to get a job was to major in business, and so everyone and his sister became business majors. By the early 1990s the world was up to its knees in unemployed business majors.

That is going to happen to STEM majors any day now.

>>17534866
Morning in the shower

>>17534934
Might try and wake up before my sister and crank one out whilst she's showering.

Cause I can't fap on my feet without porn.

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How do you settle for a girl?

One girl I know is ridiculously beautiful, not that bright but very kind and loving, another is amazing to talk to, we share the same interests and have the same type of humor, a third one is very formal, she just oozes style and I find her to be such a cool and comfortable person to be around.

How are you supposed to settle for one girl when there's so many girls out there? This loneliness is driving me insane.

>>17534865
You cannot be 100% sure she doesn't cheat.

You can lower your chances by
>Dating a good person
Loyal. Mature. Not an attention whore. Not insecure. Upfront.
>Dating someone who is really into you
>Putting effort in the relationship
>Communicating

>>17534868
Fucking hell, /adv/ is on point today.

>>17534868
This

Choose a good person, then never even think about her cheating until you have solid evidence that it happened. If you dwell on it all the time you'll just be beta and overprotective and anxious. Which will push her away.

She either

>has a ladyboner for another guy

or

>has a short attention span and got bored with you

Either way, don't think about it too hard. She's history.

>>17534863
This >>17534871

Sometimes the fire just doesn't burn in the right spots.

If I were you? I'd cut through any desire to eek anything more out of her and just accept what she's said.

Just keep your goodbyes short and sweet. She has said everything she has to say...

She's just not that into you.

Just say it was fun whilst it lasted and try to cut her off to help yourself get over her.

>>17534863
>Roastie
well thread was going places until this

>>17534843
change your alarm tone to this
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXcdYBh3hgg

One basic trick is to throw your phone or alarm across the room, so when it goes off in the morning you have to walk over to turn it off. Once you're up on your feet it's easier.

Also try drinking some water right when your alarm goes off.

>>17534843
Put your alarm on the desk.
As soon as you get up, hop into the shower. Then make the bed.
Write down a list of things you want to do each day and do them.