I am poorfag, son of arabs living in Belguim. Life is shit because dad is dood, we are a shit poor family and I'm only getting into college at 21.
My first year of college was nice, my courses are cool and I've got a gf, which is probably the best thing that ever happened to my life but also cause of my issue.
I've made her aware of my situation without mentioning it too much because I don't want to sound like a cry-baby or some broken person that she shouldn't date, she's aware of my situation and she's supportive and she doesn't mind. But seeing her, going out with her is rough in every way because her life is too shiny for me. She's from a big school, never failed, she's rocking at every exam while I'm doing ok, but struggling. I am not that much focused on points and I don't compare ourselves too much but I do believe I'm losing confidence because I'm with her. Because she's such a great person, I see every of my mistakes and compare it to her successes, I'm afraid that she'll look down on me, I'm afraid to be not enough for her while I'm doing my best at every dimension of my life. I'm also too shy when it comes to anything sexual and I'm afraid that's a turn-off on her side. It's been 7-8 months and she's showing affection every day, support when I fail at x course she's already cleared out, at this point I'm not supposed to be afraid of losing her but I still feel awfully bad for everything, like I will never be good enough for someone so amazing.
How do I stop comparing to her ? I am divided between two thoughts : be a better person and I will never have her capacity because I don't have the (financial) means to keep up.
I am not giving up, I will not give up and I will still perform way better than before during my college years, that's an objective from now on, but I also feel so bad.
Will tell more if anything's not clear
>>17536026
Please, bump.
>>17536026
First off, I am obligated by code to ask you to gtfo of Europe before you bomb someone. Probably even more pertinent in your case, because you already exhibit some of the signs of being susceptible to radicalization. God forbid that girlfriend of yours left you.
Now that I've gotten that out of the way....
1. Have you told her how you feel regarding this?
2. Objectively speaking, and from personal experience, the first two years of college are the hardest and things DO improve later on. But it still matters on personal initiative.
3. Measuring yourself to others in college is dangerous, usually because half the people will always out-do you in some manner regardless. This increases personal pressure and can lead to a depressive spiral. It's more common than most would think. Best approach I've noticed is to stop giving too many shits.
4. Re-double your own self-improvement efforts. A moment of leisure could be spent studying more.
Muslim, druze, Christian?
Hey /adv/ I was wondering, how do you guys save up money? I have a savings account, and I occasionally put money in there to pay for small things, but I'm curious. I usually keep a lot of money in my checking account but it just sits there and I'm always thinking of things I would like to purchase.
Do you guys keep large sums of money (over 2K) in your checking accounts, or do you spend it?
>>17535934
Get a job and spend less then you make.
Simple as that.
I don't keep much in checking, just enough to pay monthly expenses. I put 20% of every paycheck into retirement and keep about 1 years pay in savings that doesn't get touched except for unexpected expenses, and once a year I put my bonus into a CD I know lolcds but it's my "oh shit" fund that I like to keep out of reach unless I really, really need it.
>>17535934
>emergency fund (~6 months expenses at bare essentials)
>invest everything else
>look for stable and secure investments with predictability
go to /biz/ and gamble
Hello /adv/,
I have a problem.
I'm a Uni student and i live with my mom and her mom, meaning my grandmother (in my country there is no dorms at uni). The thing is, my grandmother is a fucking crazy demonic bitch.
She's in this crazy religion that says they're the only good people, and that god hives them powers of adivination and that God does everything that they tell him to do, and she specially think the good thinks that happen to us are because of her, because, again, she think she has control of life, no kidding.
This bitch is fucking nuts and believes she can see what we are doing at all time and she makes ip this crazy stories. This has obivously affected me as she conciders me 'an enemy'. I dont talk to her, but she still says i attack her.
She has said things like i'm beating her, that my mom is a lesbian, that i 'smell', that we are demons, etc; and i can't take that shot anymore, because she talks shit about me and my mom to outsiders and given that she's 62 and can pretend being a good person, they believe her.
We want to stop living with her but she has no money at all, and my mom provides everything for her even when the crazy whore treats her like shit; and she says living with her is the punishment from god to us, she's our 'karma', so she dont want to get out of the house.
She's the most evil person i know and im pretty sure i'll EVER know, and her craziness is ruining my life and my mom's.
So what can i do? I can't go to the police because they'll believe her and her bullshit, she wont take the offer of her living alone and she's abusing us all the fucking time, screaming and making my mom cry and faint.
What can i do /adv/? Sometimes i think of desperate measures like making her room smell bad or hacking her emails or something, but shit, im so tired of this.
>>17535924
If that's really how she is, cut contact. My mom was less of a bitch that your grandma seems like and I stopped talking to her completely because of it. The best way to deal with people like that is to make their plans not work.
>>17535924
The older people get, the more crazy and religious they get.
Coming to terms with your own approaching death is not easy.
I also live with my mother and grandmother, but fortunately my grand is relatively sane, aside from being overly religious and kinda whiny.
We should take care of our elders, especially if they are relatives.
You can just ignore her whining and screaming. What's the worst she can do if you respond with 'whatever' every time she talks or simply not pay attention to her?
>>17535936
I did that 7 years ago, but she still scream outside our rooms.
Also, she manipulates my mom, who still feel pity for her and is like im a catatonic state and just let my gramdma abuse her because, as she says, 'it's my mom'.
So she messes with her to get me too.
I dont even look her in the eyes, not a hello not a greeating, nothing, like she doesnt exist, but still the bitch finds a way.
Convince me not to kill myself
No one likes me.
>>17535914
it gets better if you make an effort.
if all you do is shitpost on /adv/ and continue this "woe is me" attitude then it becomes a struggle.
start off with activities that will improve your self-esteem. the lesson you're trying to learn is that your self-image is what's most important. actively trying to better yourself is a worthy pursuit. the benefits that come with it are simply a bonus.
>>17535938
I have never posted on here before Anon....
Those people are most likely nobody. You don't rely on them so why do you even care?
Guys I need some advice on bisexual girls.
This is me
>5'7"
>tiny frame
>long hair
>round face
>non-masculine demeanor
>bubbly
>timid
>graceful
>in no way homosexual whatsoever
A guy on /r9k/ suggested I went after a bisexual girl. Does that sound like a good idea? Where do I find them? What should I expect from a relationship with them?
Just talk to girls, don't care about looks or anything just talk to some girls and show genuine interest in them and don't be a fuck boy. If you show interest in someone they'll likely give you some in return.
>>17535932
I try, I haven't been able to pull a girl since high school.
Girls don't like guys that are feminine.
>>17535890
What makes you think bisexual women would be more open to non-masculine men? I'm a bi girl and if I wanted to date someone feminine, I'd date a girl. That's sorta the whole point.
>be a kid
>never had a good gaming pc, used to play on low/medium
>parents never let me play long or raid in WoW
>have just one dream, when I get older, I will play games just as much as I always wanted and become pro raider
>years pass
>you go to college
>you finish college 5 years later
>during that time you enjoyed some games, but nothing really high-end
>finally go to job
>wait 3 months
>buy BAD ASS GAMING PC, including big ass LCD monitor, gaming mouse, gaming keyboard
>you realize that you are burnt out
>you realize games don't entertain you like they used to
>you realize that all you do is browse chans
>besides, when you come back home from work at 5 PM, you're already too tired to grind in WoW, too tired to die in FPS because kids are better than you, you are too lazy to find a new interesting games
Fuck me. I feel like I've been cheated by life.
And yes, I have a gf, if it changes anything.
Shit, I forgot the question:
How do I recall that enthusiasm, how do I enjoy it all once again?
>>17535853
>>17535859
When you find your gf cucking you with some Chad or some nigger, you will get redpilled on females and real people in general and realise anime and vidya are the only pasttimes worth your time and effort.
Then you will start enjoying again.
>>17535881
ultra low quality shitpost
I am 8/10 from every object standpoint but a kissless virgin at age 27
what places can I visit where women will approach me based on looks alone?
>>17535842
you are more like a 6/10 and look creepy as shit my nigga
also
>27 and a virgin
kek
You sound like a typical fuck boy.
You must learn the ways of being a decent human being and not make looks and sex the only things you care about. Show honest interest in a girls life and maybe, just maybe, she'll love you enough to actually get intimate with you.
>>17535842
>8/10
good one mate
My girlfriend left me, she was my only friend, I have nothing. I don't want her back she was fucking insane and it took me 4 short years to realize it.
I don't have a Facebook since I deleted mine shortly after high school and have not been keeping in touch with my high school "friends"
There are some girls who liked me in the past (far past, elementary and middle school) who I literally rejected because I probably have Aspergers and thought they were joking to play a prank on me, but they weren't. It has been fucking 5-10 years since I've seen some of these girls though
One of them is so hot now I swear to God but she doesn't seem to have a boyfriend on Facebook. She liked me for a while and we were actually okay friends in elementary school, flirting with each other before I realized what flirting was and instantly became horrible at it due to shyness. This other is really wholesome and religious but seems really nice, and she seems still single from my stalking of her Facebook as well.
Should I just say "Hey, this is that one guy from ages ago and I just remembered you and wondered whether you wanted to get to know each other a bit more? I always thought you were a really cool girl and regret that we never became closer friends. It's no big deal"
Or should I give up on the prospect because it's fucking pathetic and has zero chance of working?
>>17535819
Let me clarify, high school as well, some of these were still touchy feely with me and getting mad that I wasn't asking them out as little as 4 years ago. Should I take a chance on them?
>>17535819
Dumb whore cucked you with Chad and you still don't realise all women are worthless scum?
Stick to vidya and anime bro, real people are not worth the trouble.
>>17535825
That moment when you both first admit to each other that you love each other is the epitome of human life. It is the best feeling you can possibly experience, in any capacity, for any reason. From my experience
It is worth waiting a lifetime for it to happen just one more time. Or maybe yeah I'm a fucking cuck loser and that's why I enjoy it so much.
So I got into an argument last night with my girlfriend about her opinions about my race. She's black and I'm Hispanic/ white mixed, and basically she was sending me those stupid Buzzfeed-esque, anti-white memes. When I told her that I didn't like that and why she thought it would be appropriate to share those with me, she said it doesn't matter because she's not oppressing anyone.
This is the second time this thing has happened in 4 months, the first time she called me her "oppressor." What do I do?
>>17535788
laugh in her face and terminate all association with her
seriously, what did you think was going to happen? these kids that have been indoctrinated with this sjw shit are ticking time bombs
>>17535788
Dump her.
>>17535788
she evidently does not respect your feelings and, by extension you. irrespective of the rights and wrongs of what she is sending to you, this is the long and short of it.
i'd lay down the law, personally, or get rid. someone who doesn't give a shit about your feelings on things like this is someone who will be abusive in other ways. it's lucky she showed her true colours this early, OP.
If you're ever feeling suicidal, just know that a single dose away lies a paradise you can't even imagine before you've seen it, and which you quickly forget once it goes away
Behind close eyelids lay Peruvian quilts of infinite beauty, oscillating crystalline entities which impart a love upon you unlike any love which can be felt in life, trying to teach you the act of language - the abstract mapping between mental concepts and spoken words
A single dose of MDMA and you will fall in love with the world again
A single dose of LSD or mushrooms and you will fall in love with any painting on your wall again
A single dose of DMT and you will fall in love with the universe again
Don't kill yourself, save up $2,000 and take a trip to India to live in squalor with the local homeless people in a slum. Travel to Iceland or Norway. Stay here for a night and meditate while taking peaks at the view after an eternity has passed
Don't kill yourself. Enjoy these low moments, enjoy the fact that you are miserable. Sit there and focus on nothing.
I've taken shrooms like 8 times and I'm still suicidally depressed
>>17535784
>Take some Soma.
>>17535789
You didn't take them right
Shrooms teach you how to ignore depression through consciously induced ego dissolution (voluntary dissociation)
How do I solve this?
The answer is 100 but I don't know how to do the square root thing.
>>17535747
square both sides
multiply the top together
reduce fraction
square root of both sides
>>17535757
what does it mean to square both sides?
>>17535765
It means you make Q^2 and get rid of the square root
Hi guys. I'm a male at the age of 20 years. I've had a couple girlfriends in the past, but the one I'm with now is probably "the one".
The main issue I'm having is that I literally cannot control my erections around her. I can't even cuddle with her without my erection getting in the way. I like sex with her and stuff but obviously you can't have an erection in public or around family.
Does anybody have any sort of advice? Thanks.
>>17535718
What the fuck are you wearing that so tight people would know about that?
>>17535719
I've had to stop wearing jeans, I only wearing jogging pants and my penis can still poke through desu (I wish I had a smaller one)
>>17535719
Erections tend to be noticeable no matter what you wear. Most people probably aren't looking down there anyway, but if they did they would notice.
My life is boring. How do I trigger the flag for something interesting to happen? I want a story that sounds like it would come out of a TV show. I want to have an interesting series of life events, like Train Guy, Denko, countless random strangers, Ziploc kun.
Travel.
You meet people, have interesting experiences and have vivid images of the places you visited. It will require planning and money but it is well worth it.
>>17535604
As someone who traveled a bit it changed nothing
Nothing exiciting ever happened, no stories to tell or anything, never met people either
If you are boring traveling will not change anything
>>17535621
Thats because you are a boring fag who didn't do the most while travelling. You can reinvent yourself when you go out travelling and experience untold things but no your faggot ass probably snapped some pics and called it a trip.
I'm going to a physical exam soon and I have a couple of self harm scars from 4 months ago. I stopped now. What would happen if my doctor saw them. Would I be sent somewhere?
>>17535584
Almost no chance on him doing this, anon. Would you let us take a look at the marks?
>>17535584
no, the doctor wouldn't send you somewhere. he/she will probably address it and ask if you want help with whatever it is that's causing you to be a beta cuck that still cuts themselves in 2016.
>>17535584
>Would I be sent somewhere?
>self harm
>furry.jpg
You should be sent somewhere, anon
Everybody hates each other.
Everybody wants all the money.
Everybody wants perfection.
Everybody wants this
Everybody wants that.
All i want is to leave.
Fuck it all.
Like any of you assholes give two shits about the people who post here.
Fuck you.
Fuck all of you.
If you are going to kill yourself think of the costs to your parents and make it as cheap and as inconvenient as possible.
A small note expressing your state of mind and maybe apologizing would be enough. See ya cowboy.
>>17535582
Fuck you too buddy
Everybody wants to be a cat.
Everybody wants to rule the world.