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Okay guys my son has kind of fcked up
he didnt quiet get the grades in gcse we were looking for 5(cs). Now he has to do applied science instead of the ones he wanted (chemistry maths and physics).
pretty sure this is gonna limit him hard.
still though just want to know what he could get as a job and also if he could ever make it in medicine/oil engineering with those grades and applied science.
from the uk btw.

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I need your help /adv/
Got myself a virgin gf and I can't fuck her, like literally can't fuck her , my dick wont go in no matter what , I get frustrated and my boner is dying immediately after , what the fuck do I do? We've been doing just about anything except anal and fucking but I dont know how longer things might last like this

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I'm constantly plagued by thoughts of dumb/embarrassing things I've done in the past. I cringe quite consistently throughout the day. Any way to be more self accepting, even if other people may never be?

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I need advice on how to get that girl.

>start at new uni
>met her during the first week ("girl A" from now on)
>we had sex a couple of times during the start of the semester
>she wants it to be secret, which is ok for me
>other guys are always approaching her in bars and clubs (lots of parties at the start of the semester), I try to keep them away by dancing closely with her etc.
>she tells me she doesn't want me to do that because people could find out about us
>next party in a club, i do nothing as some guy from our uni dances with her (apparently he also tried to kiss her)
>it made me feel really bad, didnt enjoy the evening at all
>fortunately, she didnt like him and eventually went home with me
>great night, lots of cuddling and kissing as well, and sex in the morning, everything seems perfect
>by this point I have developed feelings and want to be together with her

>yesterday
>we're at a birthday, this guy talks with her all night, I am "not allowed" to interject
>at the party, another girl ("girl B") tells me that I am the type girl A and that she is searching for a relationship
>the other guy suddenly walks her home
>the girl B says that he seems to be her type (she didnt know about me and girl A)
>I down a shot and leave the party as well, following girl A and the guy from the distance
>maybe it was just paranoia, but I think they noticed me, so I increase the distance
>I lose sight with them because of a tram, not sure where they went
>she texted me later that she was home (alone), with a picture of her, the time fits with the time needed to get to her place, and she tells me to trust her

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why would my boyfriend friends ask him to go to a night club..
I saw in his texts (I don't look thru his phone a lot and I know it's wrong but it was sitting right next to me and I was curious) two of his friends (who one I know cheated on his now ex gf and the other is nasty and probably does the same) were asking him to come out to a night club place Friday night, they were like, "come on, it's the last weekend of the summer, we'll have some fun" it just seems sketchy. my bf said he had other things he was doing and then they kept trying to convince him but he was like "I don't even like bars lol" but I looked up the place and it's a night club... which early on in our relationship we both decided/he told me he doesn't think ppl in relationships should go to clubs - and I woildnt date him if he was going to clubs bc that's all for singles, and I don't trust the way alcohol makes ppl act .

idk it just seems weird they were asking him like it makes me wonder if he goes to them ever. idk what to think. I don't want to confront him bc he will get mad and be like well I didn't even go and will deny if he ever went before so there's no point in asking...

what should I do? I'm honestly tired of him Ive been thinking of leaving him for the past month at least .. my main concern about things likethis now is getting stds if he ever cheated on me

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I'm at my wit's end with my girlfriend, /adv/ - but I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable?

She expects me to share EVERYTHING. We get a magazine - we have to read it together. I cook pasta after she's had dinner, I have to pre-empt her wanting some. I buy carrots, you can bet I'll get in trouble if I don't offer her one if I eat it raw.

I'm not a complete bell end - I do think that sharing is nice. Just not all the time with every little thing. It feels like she has this concept of sharing on par with that of a school child and I'm expected to go along with it wihout compromise. I can't have my own things or do my own things - everything has to be a shared experience or shared in some other way.

I'm I being unreasonable? :/

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Hi, I need some advice on what to do (obviously)

I'm on a medicine (methylphenidate) which is more known as Concerta and maybe Ritalin, too. And it has quite a bunch of side effects which I can't decide myself wether it's worth taking or not:

Pros
>Can study
>Can wake up at reasonable time, ie. fixes sleep schedule
>No longer gets distractef by surroundings
>brain thinks one thought at a time instead of multiple

Cons
>Complete loss of apetite
>Complete loss of sleepiness(can't rest until midnight if taken at 9 AM)
>it's a diuretic medicine, makes me pee a lot and makes my penis shrink
>higher body temperature
>cold hands
>sweats more
>higher heart bpm (60-70bpm to 75-85bpm)
>higher blood pressure (from 115/60ish to 135/85ish)

and the worst cons of them all
>takes all the vivid creativity out of me and makes everything look so dull, as if the medicine adds a layer of greyness to everything

What do?

tldr
>in uni, ADD med. has a lot of considerable negative effects, but it also helps me study

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Im going to break up with my girlfriend tomorrow.
She just dosent make me happy, shes so boring and needy, hanging around her is never chill, im always drained emotionally.
Im young not even out of school and i dont want to stay with her for the rest of my life.
but weve done everything together like first time touching boobs, lost my virginity and had a few new experiences with her that if i do them again i know im gonna think about her.
I feel so sick and worried. what if its the wrong decision? just when ever i think about her i get anxious and basically depressed. im unhappy but she loves me endlessly.

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Pretty recently my girlfriend ended things with me. I'm starting to deal with it alright now - I think. This was my first 'serious' relationship, and I was gonna marry her. I supported her through so much, so so very much. I gave up an amazing job in an amazing city and moved to be closer to her. We both knew I was basically going to be starting from scratch. Car died, moving back to no job, had to move back in with abusive parents, but I did it for us. And then she decided she couldn't handle it. The one time I needed the support in our year and a half, and she ran off.

The things she said during the breakup and after though, that's killing me. I spent the past 3 years going from absolutely no confidence, to having a normal amount. But the stuff she said, that destroyed it all. Everything I thought was good in the relationship, she suddenly hated. Everything about me, I'm finding out is awful. I spent 23 years thinking I was unlovable, and she changed that, and then she changed it back in a single night.

Before I met her, I really had no standards, and it was damn near impossible for me to find anyone interested. I tried, I tried so hard, and nothing ever came of it. I met my ex from an anomaly, something that had never happened to me before her, and very very unlikely to ever happen again.
In the past year and a half that we were together, with time and confidence gain, in addition to being with her, I found out what I do and don't like in other people. Now that I actually have stuff that I would like to look for, I don't see myself ever finding someone. Before her, I never wanted to get married or have kids, so I was contempt with spending my life solo. She changed my opinions on that, and now I don't want that solo life, but I think I'm doomed to it, and that terrifies me.

I'm not really sure what advice I'm after. I guess I just finally need someone to talk to it about.

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I'm going to a university that's like 40% chinese international students. They sound like a pretty frigid bunch. Gimme tips on how to bang them. I already heard they hate facial hair so that's one thing.

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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.

FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.

>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.

>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.

>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.

>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant.

>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't fucking know.

>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.

>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.

>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.

>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off.

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My gf went behind my back and kissed another guy and let him lightly touch her. She asked him to stop, but she told me that she actually wished she could do more. Not that she's more into him sexually, or that she wants to actually have sex with him since that'd be "gross", but she loved the excitement of breaking the rules. However, she deeply seems to hate herself for what she did. She has barely eaten, she's been a constant wreck, she's an emotional disaster. She said she loves me but I deserve better than what she's done, and wanted to hide it in the hopes of a continuing happy future, but feels as though she's totally lost me. We've been together since she was a sophomore in highschool and she's now in her senior college year.

Now here's my perspective, as much as I'm pissed, she's been nothing but honest and seems to be hurting over the stupid shit she did. I'm also viewing it as relatively minor, and even potentially forgivable considering her attitude.

But she's too full of self loathing and self doubt, and is emotionally melting down. She doesn't want to lose me, but feels as though she already has. I've offered to solve the situation for her if we can mutually forgive from some pain I caused her in the past. She tentatively agreed but also said she's too fucked up emotionally agree. I'm certain she hasn't done more than what she said because she came clear with everything, texts, messages, times, verified by her roommate. Is there a potential for forgiveness and a path towards repair and redemption with very mild infidelity and great self shame?

Tldr; gf got slightly frisky with someone else. Doesn't regret what happened but hates herself deeply and feels great shame and disappointment for it. Is unsure if she can trust herself and is worth my time and effort. Pls help

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*Feel free to not read this. I'm just rambling here. If you have constructive things to say I'm happy to hear 'em.*

Long story short, I am working along side a new co-worker, and he has got to be the sweetest/nicest person I've ever met, including my own family. And I don't mean in a fedora-tipping polite way, I mean an overall great guy to be around. He has been super helpful in the office as far as work stuff, but he also has been super open about himself and his life to me. He openly stated his anxiety problems (similar to my own, which I told back), we both told each other our interest in recreational chemicals, we have been talking every night about movies/games/music/tv/memes we each like and share with each other, and most of the time make each other laugh each other asses off. I guess I can call it flirting, I've never done it before so fucked if I know.

And now, the curve of difficulty begins to show. First off, this is a coworker. I'm guessing an "office romance" is one of these modern day minefields you see on network TV. I like him a a coworker (after years of assholes and chucklefucks I've had to deal with), and I'd hate to fuck that part up of my daily life after not having it for so many years.

continued-

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Like a girl for a while. She seemed to like me. We hit it off, had fun. Turns out she's been using me. I've slowly turned the table and manipulated her into doing whatever I want without thinking it was my idea.

I don't know whether I should feel good or bad about this. I've always tried to be a good person but she twisted my good and trusting nature into something so warped that I have these kinds of questions and behaviors.

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As of tomorrow I am going to be nude modeling for a college figure drawing class. I am not too sure what to except. I am a girl and I am honestly only doing this because it pays like 20 an hour. Does anyone have any tips?