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>>17540796
advice I've gotten before is just talk to them like they're my bros, but I'm already pretty distant with my bros that I haven't known for a long time

Show a girl too much interest and she will friendzone you. Kek. Most guys would want to be with a girl but you want to have a friend.

The only girls I can be honest friends with are ones I have absolutely no sexual or relationship interest in.

One of my very good friends is bi and she's chill as fuck but has a bf so it's cool we just hang out.

Take her bowling

>>17540761
I like the atmosphere of bowling alleys, but it seems like a bad date because you're not really beside each other for an extended amount of time...you're sitting up and standing down and going back and forth to the bowling stance.

>>17540770
>sitting up and standing down
Wow. I meant "sitting down and standing up."

>>17540723
Shekles

>>17540723
Many many shekels

>>17540723
A pouch of shekels.

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>>17540706
>I wanna know what I can do to stop it or prevent any personal info from being compromised.

Well, about damn time you got to the core of your problem, son.

First, understand what a Good password is, for example; you do not need Pandora chewing on the pomegranate when you're trying to change the seasons, if you catch my drift.

That? That's a good password. You might think things like 8zklm0kkk is a good password, but it's not-- such a short password while difficult to type and remember is also easy to rainbow crack.

Even a simple sentence as a password, like this, is WAY too wide a permutation set to crack even with 100 years of a super computer's time.

And, it's also easy to type, and easy to remember because you can write a sentence password in plain view and it's still secure.

F.ex, keep a journal. Just stick your password within the entry for that day.

And in another part of the book write a table
> 9/11/2016 : facebook [email protected]
> 4/20/2017 : underground faggot [email protected]
Even if someone stole your journal it would be unlikely they could figure out what the fuck was going on-- all you'd need to do is apply a rolling cypher to the dates and it would mind fuck > 99% of the population.

A rolling cypher can be as simple as

- First position +1
- Second position = 2nd + first position - 2
- Third position = 3rd + second position +3
- Fourth position = 4th + third position -4
With each place value simply rolling if it goes under 0 or over 9.

F.ex, 1942 -> 2977

Do not use this cypher, it's just an example. Make it easy to remember, mean something to you, and tricky enough it would head fuck anyone short of a mathematician or cryptographer.

Next, security questions are security holes.

Consider;
> where u go to school?
and you answer
> New Zealand
Good job, now anyone who knows SHIT about you could break into your account.

Fill your security questions with COMPLETE nonsense with NO meaning.
> where go school?
> I AM KING OF THE LIZARDS!
k?

>>17540887
Most of this is paranoid and unnecessary. Use a short 14 character password that is not a dictionary word, and change your important accounts, email, online banking, social media. That's all you can do.

Google Password Checker
Click the first one
And make sure that the password takes a few centries to crack on modern PC
Use something you can remember

I always use my tongue when I'm kissing a bunch.

It's not necessary.

>>17540673
If your mouths are open. Just don't shove it down his/her throat. You can open mouth kiss without tongue too, just whatever feels good. Tongue feels good so that's why we do it.

>>17540692
Tongue also has an interesting evolutionary purpose. It, along with smell, allow you and your kissing partner to asses your biological/genetic compatibility. There's a lot of subtle chemical cues that you don't register consciously.

She doesn't want a relationship, she likes seeing you but she will fuck other dudes, guaranteed. You can try to keep seeing her but you seem to already be too invested in it. She is not in love with you, you're fuck buddies, that's it

>>17540643
Yes, OP.

She really likes you and is probably just really affectionate to the point that she might be giving off the wrong impression but this anon is correct.

>>17540621

That girl is definitely not 18.

you're correct that good communication is crucial, and is potentially a dealbreaker. Why do you think her communication is shit, though?

>>17540594
because she holds herself back from me. she's not open with her feelings, and worse yet she lies to me about them, she tells me everything is okay when I can see it's not and then she bursts out after telling me for a half hour she's okay. it's so frustrating.

>>17540566
>she bottles everything up inside and insists nothing is wrong when she's upset
>the old "don't even come tomorrow"

That's not bottling it up, buddy. That's the silent treatment. She knows you know she's upset and blocking you out is her way of saying, "Go stand on the naughty step and think about what you did until mummy is nice again."

>>17540517
Shes being unreasonable. You are clearly making more compromises in your relationship with those two than they are.

This is called a dysfunctional relationship. That said, sometimes u just gotta put up with what you got. I mean, u could threaten them that ud be independant and move away, but i got the feeling thay ud rather live with ur dad and also have him help around with thihs like driving than to really live alone in ur own place, without that kind of support (however minimal it may be)

I know u wanna have ur revenge by lowering rent, but face it u have a father, sure /adv/ can give u the tupical r9k of how he should be the one sacrificing more for your sake etc, but you are both adults and family as well, people often make these sacrifices for the sake of family (inb4 western mindset of fuck family be ur own man fly the coop dog)

You may risk deteriorsting ur relationship with ur fsther, even if there is not much to it left.

If u are really intent on a better life: learn to drive, save for a car/find a public transport alternstive. And move out in 6 months - a year

>am I in the wrong
That's not important, what's important is that you need to move out.

>>17540559
The thing is, she's lost all of her pull in the house over that baby situation (Which ended recently, but 2 years of that shit being pushed on you has its limit) and I believe my dad is going to lay into her, he's all about people working to live, he laid into my brother for going on welfare.
So in my mind it's either
1. My son who was trying to score some overtime at work
2. My girlfriend who got black out drunk at 4PM.
He's obviously going to make her regret this shit, because my dad likes playing his games online as much as I do and empty threats from a drunken bitch are beyond hilarious.
I'm just frustrated because she insists on treating me like a child, however when she took that baby in, I had to bail her out financially 3 times.
I always pay my rent early.
I don't rock the boat.
I mind my own business.
I was just kind of looking for a third party confirmation that I'm not insane and somehow being an asshole for doing as much as I can while this bitch slams 8 beers a day and pretends her life is so difficult.
I don't want to move away from my father, me and him are 100% okay.
It's her that's the problem.
My dad doesn't turn into a doormat for her so I'm not being railroaded.

>>17540507
Why are you looking to move out?

>>17540521

Sadly, I'm 27 and still living at home. My very forgiving parents whom I could not appreciate more has allowed me to stay here. However, much like myself, they wish to see me become a bit more independent from home.

I lost my job recently, but I have a part-time position starting in a week. I'm just considering my options because I'm not feeling oh so great about staying home at this age.

>>17540585
Do you have anybody you would be ok renting a room with? Having someone close with you apply to share the cost of a rented room makes it dirt cheap and also provides a bit of support while also creating independence.

Like a significant other or maybe good friend.

I was on lexapro when I got diagnosed with ADD and put on adderall.
For me, I didn't stay on lexapro long after because frankly the adderall did more for my depression than the lexapro ever did. I honestly only took it to say I was trying, and it made me feel physically sick.
The fucking adderall was a godsend. I wish it wasn't abused so much, shit saved my life I wish everyone could experience that bliss. Adderall worked just as well as an antidepressant as it did to keep me focused and get through class without spacing out.

>>17540509
If you look around you'll see that antidepressants have ruined so many peoples lives at this point, that mixing with anything is definitely going to do more harm than good, i.e. making you want to kill yourself I mean for christ sake man that's a red flag. Unless you've been diagnosed with adhd by a professional stop both of them immediately, at least one of them between the two.

>>17540509
I take the Celexa at night now because if I take it in the morning with Adderall I cant focus at all.

>>17540456
>How does a super hardcore introvert get out and meet people?
You want an honest answer? They don't.

>I am not going to start drinking because I will become an alcoholic.
Come on OP, most of us drink and only a few of us are alcoholics.
And let me tell you, in rural areas where there's fuck-all to do, drinking is what young people do. All people, actually. I lived in wyoming for a year and there's only 2 forms of socialization: bars and pubs.

>I need places where people are likely to approach me because I'm a shy little bitch who won't take the initiative.
Are you male or female? If male, it ain't gonna happen. Only guy who's approached me in the past 6 years was gay. And the only girls were the ditzy extrovert kind, most of whom i can't fucking stand.
Seriously, meeting other introverts requires a huge amount of effort, you'll have to put it in.

If female, it's piss-easy, just sit in a bar or pub and look sad, you don't even have to drink.

>>17540456
There's a reason people that are approached often have no problem approaching others. If you want to get good at something you're going to need practice. Stop fucking around in your comfort zone. You're going to have to swallow your ego and realize that no one really cares what you do or say as much as you do. And the reason they don't care is because they're busing caring too much about themselves as well. Realizing this took a lot of the pressure off for me.

>>17540456
>How do I get the world to just start walking up to me and shower me with attention?
You don't. You learn to get over your social anxiety, man up, and try talking to people. If you aren't willing to put in the effort, you don't deserve the results.

I'm on my second job after college, same grad year.

You want to just get one with less stress closer to home mainly?

>>17540449

Mostly the being away from home part. I love my job currently but my "homesickness" has been affecting my quality of work and motivation and my manager and teammates see it. I understand stress is part of any job. I'm currently looking for jobs on linked in, my university career center, etc.

Forgot to ask, what do employers expect from someones resume after they have their first "big boy" job after college? I read that I should emphasize on what I currently do in my job now that is applicable to the job I'm shooting for and more or less about my education background. My degree is in Business Marketing.

>>17540412
>what is invasion of privacy
>consent to have personal pictures online for everyone to see, including SM accounts
You really didn't think this through huh buddy?

>>17540419
>complains about invasion of "privacy"

> works as a store in a job that makes them public figure

Yeah sounds like a good way to get sued for stalking/doxxing. An app for people to air their grievances with a store or employee maybe, but most people just use facebook for that lol

invent global capitalism

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>>17540354
you should probably be in therapy, even if you are trolling. what's wrong with you?

>>17540326
You should try summoning demons like I did until you realize they aren't real

Or maybe you're possessed and don't know it

>>17540326
It's not typical but it also doesn't have to be a huge problem. Just keep a flashlight nearby when it's dark.

>>17540326
I wouldn't say it's weird. it's probably a sign you're anxious about something though.

in any case, I'm 40 and I still sleep with a small light on, if for no other reason than I seem to have a lot more nightmares if it's pitch dark in the room.