I'm only 21 years old, she's 26 already a single mother.
She's also my coworker at a job I really care about.
What's the smart thing to do? We're going to have breakfast on Sunday.
>>17541664
1- don't shit where you eat
2- stay away from single moms, they will open their snatches to lure you and then trap you into raising their fucking mistake.
3- you will officially raise someone else's spawn, effectively making you a cuck.
>>17541664
Unless she is absolutely amazing and you can't pass out on being with her, i'd say it's a bad idea bc of ur job
No. Simple answer not even going to go into why. You already know why. I know your not going to listen from that depressing pic, but meh. Statistically you are fucking yourself. Also if stats dont matter what kind of working mom has time for a relationship? Sure she may want to trap you to help pay for stuff, but she will not be emotionally available to you. If your so insecure you can go after that whatever.... Oh shit I kinda started on a tangent but I will stop short.
What is the best match for the pisces man?
>>17541660
You are a fucking idiot if you believe that nonsense. You either click or don't.
>>17541663
>You either click or don't
very true, but which clicks for pisces men ?
>>17541666
Someone with the surname Fisherman?
Dumbass.
Every fall I get extremely depressed.
Right now I'm fine, but it's only early September. I know that by the end of October I'm going to be totally fucked up and it's not going to start clearing up until February.
Should I preemptively see a doctor about depression and try to get on anti-depressants (so that by the time I'm fucked up they'll be well-established in my system)? Or should I wait until I'm fucked up.
I've never sought out any form of psychiatric help but I'm 26 and too old to still be dealing with this shit. I've got a lot of other bad wiring that needs to be taken care of but this seems like a good first step.
Google Seasonal Affective Disorder
>>17541645
You think I don't know what that shit is?
I get the feels in autumn. I kind of like it though, I enjoy some stuff more like reading.
Well. Me and this girl were doing great. I take off my mask for like 3 texts and boom, no reply. Guess life is shit lol. Please support me in this loss of a great girl and another support for never taking off the mask to anyone again :/
She was a qt virgin :(
The question is why you even need a mask and what is underneath it...
>>17541597
Shit
>>17541589
You take off the mask after getting married
At least that's what most men do.
>>17541597
Underneath is just a normal human, with flaws.
People nowadays can't accept that. They want someone perfect. Flawless.
So we have to pretend we are so.
I need your help Pleeease no bully
im studying a course to go to uni next year, but I need to earn money. Should I forget about the course I'm studying (it's to gain Uni entrance) but now that I am 20 I can apply and get entrance without needing it, and work a job instead of studying? Currently only studying 12hr per week but all the jobs interfere with the class time.
Again pls no bully
Tl;dr need to work but am studying, leave study?
Where do you live? What's the course?
>>17541546
A course to gain uni entrance.
I chose to do it so I'm prepared for uni study, people 20 or over can get uni entrance, so would i be able to do well in uni after a 2 year break since high school?
>>17541562
I suspect you live in NZ, would I be correct?
And what are you thinking of studying? Depending on that, you might be better off sticking with the preparatory course.
Ok /ad/ need some tips feels.jpg
>be me
>be 19
>still a virgin
>sad.jpg
>really looking for relationship
>awkward with chicks
>just like in the movies
>"uh...nice...nice to meeting you"
How do i grow a pair and get a legit girl and a legit relationship?
>>17541534
the same way as everyone else
practice
>>17541534
start by talking to girls you're not really attracted to.
work up from there
-work on social skills (parties, generally just talking)
-don't worry about being a virgin
-start platonic and work up
creepy or smooth?
she's not feeling well, and I thought I'd surprise her with a home made chicken soup (in a convenient easy to drink and handle thermos)
I would give it to her before her class. (she will be busy all day)
BTW, only dated 2 months or so
>>17541527
Trying to be smooth is creepy. It implies an ulterior motive, or some kind of gain. If you are giving her soup because you genuinely want to make her feel better and don't expect anything, then do it as a nice thing to do. I'm assuming you've already slept together.
>>17541527
If you're dating, how in any way could this be weird? What is your definition of dating?
If you're dating, that's a nice gesture.
I gambled a fart and lost at work. I have 5 hours of work to go, no change of underwear, and the shit on them is literally liquid. No chance to rinse them.
What do I do?
>>17541516
Tell your boss you shit your pants
The fuck is he gonna say? You have to stay?
He will let you go home and probably think you're a retard but at least you aren't wearing poopy pants for 5 hours
>>17541543
I threw my underwear to the trash and just go commando for the rest of the day.
>>17541575
this if you want to keep it a secret
>>17541543
this if you want to be conferrable
>i would just tell your supervisor you had an accident and need to go home, but you'll be back
I'm sick of living in fear of the fucking cops coming after me if I hook up with a girl who is drunk on some level
Tonight I was groping a girls ass and making out with her, and I fucking let her go instead of ask her to get out of there which she totally would have agreed to
How do I stop being such a fucking pussy and just fucking go for it
Also a while ago I semi-hooked up with a girl, got head, fingered her, that was all
She was semi-drunk but I still have her number, she doesn't have mine and has no way of tracking me down if she ever wanted to
Should I message her or stay away?
Again fucking fear of the cops is making me hesitate, I'm afraid she will be pissed and report my number to the cops and that's all they need to track me down
Also I got the girls number from tonight but I don't know if it's worth anything
I'm so fucking mad at myself
Gf is so hot. I just want to fuck her every waking moment I can, but she gets tired quick. I can go for hours without getting tired of it or cumming, but she says it hurts and goes to sleep. What the fuck, /adv/? What is the point of having an intimate partner if I can't even fuck them for the maximum amount possible?
>>17541476
Use more lube. Focus on making her feel good. Hopefully you aren't just shoving it in.
Either that or she's a lesbian bud
>>17541491
I make her cum before I cum. I don't know what the fuck I'm doing wrong.
>>17541496
Okay yeah, my ex did the same thing. After acting like that for like a month or so, she just up and said she didn't like penis and wanted to be with girls.
could it be childhood abuse?
Ask peggy
>>17541472
A combination.
I think its real in rare cases, but its mostly people getting their fetishes confused with real life.
The politically correct word is transgender. The psychological/medical word is gender dysphoria.
Asking a question like that is a lot like asking why, OP, are you such a fag.
My father is an alcoholic. He has been an alcoholic for at least 20 years. Recently I have noticed that he is deteriorating mentally and physically. Despite his alcoholism, my father has always been a strong and fairly intelligent man (despite his becoming an alcoholic). He drinks about 10 lagers every day.
Is there any way I can help him? Does anyone know people who have become clean after so long?
>>17541439
>(despite his becoming an alcoholic)
Didn't mean to repeat myself, just trying to defend against
>alcoholic
>intelligent
posts.
>>17541439
Confront him and express your feelings about his alcoholism
>>17541460
I have, he admits to being an alcoholic. Orignally I thought I'd reached him, but that was 5 years ago and he always responds with comments such as 'my life is too hard not to be an alcoholic' or 'it is my only escape' etc.
Last night my gf and I have finally had "the talk".
She opened up to me and told me about her past relationships.
I handled it well through all the details and shit, but now after I woke up, I feel slightly depressed and disturbed.
She basically felt really shitty about her breakup and a week later she was already in the arms of another dude, some druggie who for some reason left her deeply marked. She claimed she was literally insane. They wanted to marry and they barely met 2 weeks ago.
The druggie broke up with her (thank the lord), and when I asked whether she would have broken up with him herself, she reluctantly said no, or rather, she was frozen every time she thought about it.
We agreed that next time we have a few hours to spare, it's my turn to talk about mine.
How do I not feel shitty? We've been for a month together and we haven't done half the shit she did with the ex.
They only lasted 4 months mind you, and I'm the third guy in her life, almost a year later so I think (she also said) that she's alright now.
I ask you /adv/ how the fuck do I not feel shitty about it? How do I stop this actual, physical pain in my chest?
I thought we were doing great together for a month in, then she told me all the stuff she did with the last guy (he was rich) and I feel like absolute shit.
Never in my life have I felt like this. I'm this close to kill myself, man. I can't bear the thought that she will likely always think about the honeymoon phase with the rich druggie and that I'll never be able to woo her that way.
>I ask you /adv/ how the fuck do I not feel shitty about it?
Grow up?
>I thought we were doing great together for a month in, then she told me all the stuff she did with the last guy (he was rich) and I feel like absolute shit.
So you were doing great and you hear some shit that went down in their past and you go to pieces? Man, as you get older no one is a virgin and no one has been locked in a closet with no weird shitty awesome odd life experiences. She says she's fine now, and up until now you never knew this shit went down, yeah? Carry on.
>>17541447
This.
Also, i highly doubt you'll end up marrying each other. Just have her for company while you do your thing and learn how to emotionally grow for the next better partner that comes along.
I myself have found a virgin girl at the age of 23 after a handful of fail relationships :x she's almost my 10
You need more baskets, OP.
Never put your eggs all in one basket.
I had my first interview today and was told to come back in a few days for another interview, background check, and drug test. I know three other people that work there and they weren't drug tested so why am I? I haven't smoked weed in about two weeks and I also smoked a couple weeks prior to that(about a gram each time). I'm very skinny, so I'm thinking I might be in the clear. Should I buy some fake piss? Which is about 60 dollars for the kit that I know works, although I can't really afford it at the moment. I only smoked because it was my friends and it was free. Please I need your help /adv/, I really need this job.
Take the chance and hope you don't get drug tested because it sounds like you can't afford the kit.
>>17541403
How much do you smoke on like a month to month basis?
From what you've said so far just drink a shit load of water before the test and hope they aren't too concerned about the color being too light...and if they are just tell them you knew you had to pee and drank too much water.
Also if they do a cheek swab you're fine...that shit is clear in 24 hours.
>>17541413
I just don't understand why I'm being tested and no one else was, perhaps he meant to fill out the drug test papers in case I hurt/injure myself?
Ever since my son was born i was a great deal less anxious about him than most parents around me are about their kids. This has earned me a reputation as a bit of an irresponsible mom. Am i really? I obviously don't let him do really dangerous stuff like play on the streets, but i have teached him to use a knive instead of taking it away. He is allowed to help me with tools if i fix something. And the one thing that irritates most people: i let him climb on things. Obviously not in inapropriate situations and on stuff that might break but other than that i don't yell at him to get down there because he might fall and hurt himself all the time. I have earned a great amount of unpleasant glances and comments for this over the years so i figured that if everyobody tells you you are an idiot you might want to carefully consider that you actually DO idiotic stuff. Oh and for the records, he has never injured himself seriously. Scrapped knees or bleeding lips are the worst we had so far and they didn't even happen whilst doing "dangerous" stuff
>>17541398
Sounds like you're doing okay. Fuck 'em. Maybe pay a bit more attention? But yeah, it sounds like you're parenting pretty well and including him in your life, so, as long as he's happy you good.
>>17541398
Too many people think they are god's gift as a parent put on this earth to judge other parents and tell them how to raise their kids.
Just watch out for the obvious shit like letting him run into open traffic and shit like that and you should be fine.
Is there a second parent around the house to get a second opinion?
>>17541436
I am god's gift to the earth