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How about you don't be a cunt and not sleep with your uncles ex-fiance who appears to be doing you a huge favour by letting you crash at his place

>>17542407
That's where it gets moral, would you not do it? I mean this have to be a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity if I haven't read this whole situation wrong. He left her, he's behavior against me have made me want to do it even more.

>>17542413
I don't think most people would it, out of respect and consideration. It's clear she's trying to use you to harm him. You're going to fuck this side of the family up if you try anything.

Every girl in her right mind would fuck pic related in an instant. You will have to focus more on personality and sucess but definitely try to make the best of your appearance too. You'll be drowning in pussy

I withdrew too. It was hard at first too accept, maybe it's different for you because you have a term to attribute your ugliness to, a demon that attached too you and ruined your appearance instead of identifying your very being as ugly, so maybe it'll be harder or easier for you to accept. But otherwise, you'll be fine.

You can be ugly and live exactly the same, the only difference is no gf. Fuck, women aren't the cruelhearted bitches that faggots on /r9k/ make them out to be. If you take pussy out of the equation, they're just like dudes. There are shallow women, sure, but most will behave like any other person, you just won't get mad when they don't give you the puss because you didn't ask for it in the first place. You can have friends, and hobbies, and all of that. It's gonna be fine OP.

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>>17542380
My problem lies in the fact that no matter how hard I try I will still, at the very core, be unhappy with how I look and how random people treat me.

Anyone can try hard enough and get laid, I've had opportunities to fuck ugly girls too (with varying degrees of ugliness) and a good looking one might happen down the road, that's beside the point. Not having sex is just one side of it, too.

>>17542382
>because you have a term to attribute your ugliness to, a demon that attached too you and ruined your appearance instead of identifying your very being as ugly
You nailed it, anon. So far I'm healthy, at 5'11 with a relatively good posture, so it's doubly frustrating because I don't believe I'm genetically fucked and shouldn't procreate. If it wasn't for the cleft lip thing I'd be perfectly fine on that front.

>Fuck, women aren't the cruelhearted bitches that faggots on /r9k/ make them out to be.
Definitely, but that's obvious to anyone who actually goes outside and interacts with people. In my experience, I can make women laugh easily if I try, I have friends and so on, but it all seems so fucking empty anyway. And it's all connected to someone always looking down on me, on top of whatever else I'm forgetting. It drives me insane sometimes.

>>17542348

Do both of you have Snapchat?
Go out by yourself, or (better yet) find someone else to hang out with.
Take lots of pictures and post on Snapchat if both of you have it.

That'll do the trick.

>>17542348
another offer she considers better

Nah she just replied me
>"Yess"
>"Got some wounds on my feet from some shoes I wore yesterday hahahah"
>"So I'll only get to arrive to this one pub"
I said "oh dear" and proposed an hour and she said "great"

You probably aren't going to like what I say.

You can't be there for her all the time. It isn't heathy. What she's doing whether consciously or not is establishing a dependency with you. She now needs you because you're what pulls her from the brink. This means she can never leave your side because then she'd have no one to comfort her. I'm also going to make an educated guess and say this sounds a hell of a lot like her previous relationship with Cunty McCunterson.

What she needs to do is be able to be there for herself. She needs to develop the ability to be her own advocate and her own comforter. That's totally not to say you can't be for her ever, not at all. Part of a relationship is picking each other up when you fall. But when she can't get herself up then you have a problem.

Support her, be there for her when she's having bad days, but don't let her use you as a crutch. If she needs also arrange some therapy for her.

It's going to be a difficult balance to decide when she's really in need and when she's reinforcing you two's dependencies, and an even more difficult balance to decide how to act on that. It's going to be tough but trust me when I say you both will be much happier.

You are the definition of captain save a ho lmao. You'll probably end up in a relationship with her and the same trash will happen. I've also seen many cases in my personal life where a women will accuse the exes of everything under the sun. Their ex bfs are the cause of the break up they say.

When people point fingers like that they are normally trying to manipulate you somehow emotionally.

Also you can't help an abused person. Probably groups and therapy will help.
You will make things worse for her, and she will.most definitely make things worse for you.

(this is coming from an emotionally damaged person ad well who does similar, I know I'm general how my peeps behave)

>>17542396
obviously, I just want to know if there are things I can do to help, I know she cant depend on me completely, and i wouldn't want her to anyway.

>>17542410
>captain save a ho

nah man, shes a good friend, and I wan to help

Get arrested
Pray you get male judge
???
You just met a well off guy

>>17542311
Stop being a god digging whore.

the service industry.
bar work, house keeping, table service.

>>17542307
Is this bait or legitimate?

Get her a baby, shell never forget who she belongs to

>>17542307
Break up

The fact is that she is kinda dumb, childish (she cried when i said the homeopathic meds she was taking were bullshit) has "daddy issues" and needy, her emotional weight is all over the place and is all the time doing sad faces (acting) and claiming attention. This has put me in a state of submission to her.
I fucking developed depression for having my assertiveness and ability to claim respect from others completely gelded, i learned to be a passive subhuman and keep it all to myself.

Since she started going to uni she started using whatever trendy liberal slang and calling me "male bossy chauvinist" for simply my mom preparing me a bread with butter when i was early teen. When i was her bitch/gay-friend she talked to me in such a docile way and like i was hers, like there was no barrier. Then i dared to have any dignity and now she only talks to me like we're enemies in an agressive, arguing way.

The psychiatrist thing, hmm. The "trigger" for forcing me to it was when i slapped my mom one day after i woke up for mocking me to play cool for the maid, but its been some months that ive been feedin hate for her for treating my dementia-going father like shit and mocking him; and for gelding my heterosexuality and parental alienating me (i was very worried on it at the time).

She inculcated in me such a shame for being man and against conservatives, that until recently i couldnt help making strange and angry faces to masculine and grey-headed men.
She made me grow like an effeminate submiss equal-to-girls outcast and made me such a big mental block over sports, she used to say i was too delicate for that, and i fell for it because i could not disappoint her

Right now my brother is picking on me for keeping my feet dirty (its almost black), he is telling me to shower and asked how long its being like that (to know how long i'm not showering).
I'm afraid he will tell it to the psychiatrist. I'm so fucking afraid of this shit.
This brother is suspectinging i'm schizophrenic, because our oldest sister is schizo and he compares me to her as was intelligent as a child and started to isolate on teens and now he thinks i'm hallucinating.
With the fucking psychiatrist """diagnosis""" (its been almost a whole year already) he got assured of it and now i can't share two words without him freakishly asking me to repeat because he thinks i'm saying meaningless schizo babbling. This is so fucked up. When i think he has forgotten this suspicion of me being schizophrenic he comes up with this and makes me fucking scared again and wanting to kill myself out of fear of being doped or commited to a ward.
He is dumb and started to treat me like a weak baby after the depression and schizophrenia retarded """"""""diagnosis""""".

Move out and cut the contact.

Wherever wastes of human life like yourself find friends is a good start. Finding a partner is dead simple, just find a good enough friend you trust to spend the rest of your life with; bonus points if you're physically attracted to each other.

So, clubs, conventions, work wherever you met your best friends is a good place to look.

And, just for me, don't start out with the mindset of looking for a partner. Another Anon here put it best when saying "finding love is like finding your keys. The moment you stop looking is when you find it." Look for cool new people and, as corny as it sounds, let love find you.

And maybe with a partner to keep you in line you'll stop being such a miserable failure ;)

Good luck, Anon.

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>>17542362
Yeah that helps

>>17542245
>programmer
>useless piece of shit
what the fuck, can you only code in prolog?
you've made some poor life decisions my friend
un-make them first, then think about relationships

>>17542174
Watch porn, it will eventually come to you.

>>17542174
Sleep?
Play handheld vidya?
Watch anime on your laptop?
Read LNs on your phone?

I dunno, what do you want to do?

>>17542174
Sleep?

I can't even whine to friends, because i think they'll leave me, when i'm not pleasant to talk with

bump for interest

>>17542021
It is the opposite of Tweeter's Syndrome, the delusion that everyone in the world is interested in every single thing you do or think all day.

>I know I'm rather handsome and could easily find somebody else but I really like this girl
Uh...

>>17542023
Relax, anon, he knows he's superior to all women. Fuck, he eve sacrificed some of his manliness just to STAY with one instead of breeding with more. Clearly, what he's doing is insane, and it's totally viable for him to breakup with this bitch.

I mean, hoes be hoes, dawg, ya dig? I kno u do.

>>17542019
Dump her ass and breed with another bitch. You know you'll get another one soon enough.

But it sounds like she's cray-cray. Why'd you stick it in a cray-cray, man?

>>17542019
Hatefuck and kick her out right away.

If you're too much of a pussy give her a warning, then ultimatum. Be prepared to go thru with it faggot.

>>17541995
Poop on the floor so they can eat that instead. Then grab a swatter or some shit to smash them with your shit.

Vacuum them. Worked for me. Also, close all windows and make sure you don't have any moist places where they can breed

>>17541995
Go to your local home goods shop or even grocery store and get some traps/poison. Also close your windows and doors, or if you can't stand the heat/poorfag and don't want to use a then install or fix mosquito nets.

Also don't be a filthy creature and clean your house, degenerate.

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>>17541991
Domination reasons, of course.
That, and more cum comes out if it's up a certain way.

>>17541991
I knew a woman with actual legit Textbook penis envy. We were going to date but then she told me she wanted to peg me with a massive dildo and it scared me. She was really into chicks with dicks porn too. She said that she wanted to reverse the roles of power.

>>17542013
Most women I've dated wanted to try this at least once...even the sexually timid ones. Needless to say, I declined.

>>17541918
Well you better talk to him seriously and straightforward. If he doesn't want to listen and up his sex game then do yourself a favor and break up before you fuck someone else.

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>>17541924
I tell him to be more aggressive and initiate more but he does the same old shit every single time in bed. It's so boring. I love him and we live together but idk how much more of this I can take. I can't cheat on him. I just don't think this is gonna work out in the long run. I feel so bad to be making something big out of this because everything else in the relasionship is perfect as all fuck.

>>17541918
Maybe he lacks the energy to engage into any sexual activities or he is focused on things he values important, maybe he is even tired of dealing with you to a degree that it is just not turning him on as much to engage with you. If you really want him to do more then try harder to get him in bed, maybe not in the way you would imagine but rather think of a way he thinks is attractive.

Other than that, communicate, talk about this, tell him how important it is for you. Even if it is just sex for him.