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'Billy no mates' must be the most hurtful thing people say, even when they don't mean it.

My dad used to call me 'Billy no mates' EVERY DAY because I would always go to play football by myself.

I snapped one day
I then started running around the house screaching loudly and kicking the ball as hard at his plate collections as I could while yelling 'DADDY SMASHED PLATES'

He grabbed me and smacked the shit out of me
I was 23 at the time

I deserved it but it was his fault.

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My girlfriend recently broke up with me. And it was all my fault. I've been a dick to her constantly threatening to break up with her and telling her she was shit at everything and she had no friends. And for 6 months she dealt with my mood swings and bullshit every other week. Until this weekend. I finally pushed her past it when I was being an dick to her. Her grandmother died and I was complaining about us not having enough sex when she was physically tired and just wanted to cuddle. It escalated in to me going off on her on how our sex life is boring and she can't get me hard and that I should just break up wth her and that I regret even dating her or or falling in love with her. I told her that her grandmother dying didn't matter because she wasn't part of her immediate life. And when she came back from her spa retreat, she broke up with me and said I need to work on myself. I can't be with her and she's happier without me. she had been dealing with shit like this for 6 months and now she finally ended it. I don't know what do about her. She's obviously right. I can't be mad at her for breaking up with me. I refused to improve myself and I helped her improve her life. I was constantly projecting my own fears and insecurities to her and getting mad as fuck at her for them. I would say she had no friends but I was the one with no friends because I had been kicked out of college and now I'm finally back in it. I was such a dick to her and she was still nice to me for so long. I don't want her back yet and she still loves me. I need to work on myself and I'm going to see a therapist. 1/2

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>see thicc goddess around campus
>her bf last year was an average looking dude
>he's like 6 or 7/10
>she broke up with him
>tfw I'm much better looking than him

How do I introduce myself to her without being so autistic?

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There is a woman who had an affair with my husband years ago. Couple of times a year she sends him email to check in and say hello and says shes waiting to become "friends" again. How can I get this crazy monkey off our backs?? She completely ignores our request and legal letters that ask her to leave us alone. I need help.

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What's an average day like in a UK prison?

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I need a job. Not a part-time, shitty retail or customer service type job, a real, career starting job.

I have a degree in liberal arts, a masters in public relations and I'm completing a cert in business. I have been working shitty jobs since I was 16 to support myself and make money, but I'm at a loss as to how I'm supposed to figure out what the fuck I want to do.

I currently work a part time customer-service job for cash, but I am getting older and my peers seem to be establishing themselves in their lines of work. My question is, how do I figure out what I should be doing?

I don't know where I fit, I don't know what kind of work would suit me or vice versa, can someone give me some insight in this? It seems like everyone around me has it figured out and is climbing the ladder and I'm still stuck in the same place I was four years ago. Where do I go from here?

TL;DR: I need to start my career, but I don't know how to or what I should do.

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I HAVE BEEN UP FOR 24 HOURS AND PRIOR TO THAT I GOT LIKE 3 HOURS OF SLEEP AND I STILL CAN'T FUCKING SLEEP. I HAD CLASS ALL DAY FROM FUCKING 10 TO 8 PM I WAS TIRED OBVIOUSLY SO I DRANK AN ENERGY DRINK AT LIKE 5 PM YESTERDAY. NOW ITS 8AM AND I'M STILL UP AND I HAVE TO DO THAT SHIT AGAIN AND I CAN'T EVEN FUCKING SLEEP. I AM GOING TO [FUCKING] KILL MYSELF

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

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England: A family member has had all there computers confiscated today. Police say someone downloaded indecent images of children in Febuary.
I want to find out a few things if you could help me get a few educated co clusions: Do the police only do this if it's a serious case, as in if they where distributing, sharing, or downloading large amounts? By which I mean this wouldn't happen if it was a single accidental image right?

And why would it take so long for action to be taken from Febuary, when there are 3 children living in the house.


Note: I'm in no way advocating there actions. If someone's viewing that stuff, specially in a family home, it needs looking into.
The facts are my 3 niece's age 3-8 live in that house and I'm worried and out of the country for 48hours.

Any advice, or knowledge in this area?

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Hey /adv/ i need advice.
what do you do if your whole life you think you are average to above average intelligence occasionally being in the wrong place at the wrong time, but after sitting down and REALLY coming to terms with it you find out that you are in reality stupid. not very stupid or a fucking moron just stupid.

i can provide examples of my stupidity if it helps but i am really looking for advice as how to correct this or hide it better. i cant go to anyone i know as that would be more of an ego boost.

please any advice i would be very grateful for.
>m
>24
>UK

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Will love ever feel as good as it did the first time?

I peacefully broke up with my ex about a year ago. She was my first real girlfriend.

I'm trying to move on but I find it really difficult to look at other girls, I just don't find them interesting.
As a kid I'd fall in love with every pretty girl that passed me by, but now even the hottest girls barely spark a reaction in me.

Should I force myself into talking to others, should I just give it time, what do I do?

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Okay so hear me out on this.
I have a girlfriend who's really sweet. Is completely everything I want, except she's very shy and doesn't really talk about her interests or anything. She's boring, but she's my type and super committed, but I always have to make the initiative or else we don't talk. She wants me to protect her and take care of her.
Then there's another girl who's really into me. She wants to go out with me, wants me to dump my current girlfriend. And she makes me feel amazing. She acts like she actually cares about me. She engages me in conversation and she takes initiative with me and leads me by the hand and she's exciting to talk to. She's cool and she makes me feel special, like I'm the only person in the world. And she wants to take care of me financially. But she does a lot of drugs, she's crazy into hardcore sex stuff like beating and such which kind of makes me uncomfortable.
Which one would you choose?

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We been together 4 months now, I'm her first boyfriend, I'm her first kiss and first everything beyond that to including sex.

She's always saying how perfect I am, how good I treat her, and how I spoil her, and how she wouldn't change me for the world, and she's written me cute letters and of her feelings etc. I've opened up to her about a lot of personal things, and so has she to me (like her low self esteem, her shitty past etc)

But sometimes she gets in this weird mood where it just feels like she wants to cause an argument. She will say a bunch of different reasons or excuses for why we can't be together. I got really annoyed and hurt and she could see that while I was in work and when I was out for a walk, she was begging to talk to me and how sorry she was and everything. And she feels all she does it treats me like a dick. Now saying we might just be better as friends, as we still see each other but we still hold hands and she still sends me cute pics at night and I told her friends don't do that you know.

Her friends tells me she wants to be with me but feels she treats me like a dick all the time. And then apparently some girl went behind her back and asked a new guy friend of hers out, so now she's stressing about that because she doesn't want to fall out with him, but I don't really understand what that has to do with me (and she isn't going out with him her sister and friend showed me messages where she is saying, she doesn't know what to do). I told her to tell him you just have a boyfriend but she's worried incase he gets 'funny' about it. It's like she is so worried about what other people think of her or something?

What do I do? she literally lives 1 minute away and I work in the local shop (we live in a pretty small village), I've cut all contact from her but it's not exactly hard to find me. And just for the record, she came in the shop and handed me a love letter the day after I asked her out, that's how we first got together.

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How do I ask for Adderall as an adult who just figured out that he has ADHD? I'm 28. I finally fucking realized it. I have many other mental health issues and I've been on SSRIs before, but I quit taking them because I moved across the country and the side effects were out of control.

I'm terrified they will think I am a drug addict. I have shit health insurance, and there is only one clinic in my area I can go to. I'm afraid if they turn me down I won't be able to get any, and I'll be humiliated. I already have anxiety that causes me to avoid doctors' offices because of extremely negative experiences there.

A few weeks ago I took 20 mg, a normal therapeutic dose, of adderall for six days and it made me feel normal for the first time in my adult life. But it was leftovers from a roommate who changed her dose; it wasn't prescribed. I just took it because I'd always suspected I had focus problems. It wasn't just that it made me able to focus, it also made me able to leave the house more easily, buy groceries, look at my bank account, and get things done without literally hours of procrastination.

I think my life would probably change if I took it regularly. It wasn't like SSRIs at all. It really helped me. I didn't even realize how bad my focus problems are because I've never been normal before.

Should I tell the psychiatrist I took it? Would I get arrested? Would they think I was a junkie? I don't normally experiment with drugs. If I don't, how do I convince them to give it to me? Should I just ask without saying I have previous experience with it?

How do I ask for a drug I legitimately need?

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I've become somewhat obsessed with a fantasy I have of getting a girlfriend who looks...I guess you could say 'punky' or 'dangerous,' but is super sweet and feminine.

Like, a girl with tattoos and a partially shaved head and a few piercings, (think maybe Christy Mack, or the character Jack from Mass Effect) but is a complete Disney princess in personality. Who wears ultra-feminine dresses, who loves being around and playing with children, who only says sweet and kind things and would never swear or talk about sex lewdly.

The fact that girls like this don't exist kills me.

What do, lads?

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Why the hell is it so hard to find a job here in SE QLD?! My Father left school at 16 and walked right into a job the next day and has been working as a prison manager since. I finish year 12, get an OP 5 and everywhere I look even casual positions want ~3 years experience and a slew of other things, not to mention the distinct LACK of entry level jobs in the first place. I'm 20 now and into my second year of a duel law and business degree and want to be independent (move out, pay for my own lifestyle) but I CAN'T because I CAN'T FIND A JOB.

How the hell is this fair? How can I fix this?