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>>17568142
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please respond...

Yes, you can.

"something strange in her movements" doesn't mean she likes you though. You can't expect anyone to figure out whether she's attracted to you or not from that, do you?

Here comes the fuckery. The next day she contacts me, semi freaking out. Her pussy was swollen from the weekend and she thought she had a std due to discharge and pain urinating. I tell her its probably a yeast infection and a few tears and she should calm down cause I am clean. She still is freaking out cause she can't see her OB til later that week so I tell her I'd go get tested. By this point her responses are waning.

OK screw it she is busy right? I call her the next day and she hangs up saying she doesn't think she can have a conversation with me right now and that she will talk to me friday after her visit to the OB.

I give her space but remind her that I don't have symptoms and wouldnt do anything to hurt her etc.

I get my results the next day and I am negative for everything. I rejoice and contact her, the only response I get is a thank you. She still wouldn't talk to me

Come friday she msgs me, she has a lot of tears a yeast infection and bv. we text back and forth a few times and I ask her what the course of action is. she lists a few things and I never heard back from her again.

I tried reaching out to her twice over the next few days but it was clear she was fading on me.

I just dont get it, am I a knob? am i overthinking this? did i dodge a bullet? why do i still like her so much? i dont get anything

>>17568128
Everything will be fine. She overreacted. Probably having aftershock from meeting you and then this happening. Probably feeling insecure and stupid for overreacting. Give her time. Tell her to eat right. Drink lots of water. Comfort as if you're comforting a kitten that was just ganged up on by a bunch of dogs. Wait a while for her to recover and hang out again.

>>17568155
Its been a month now. I would think she would reach out to me especially considering I basically wrote her a long ass love letter more or less

i should probably mention shes not even my girlfriend.... its been like this for the past 6 years............. saving up my money just to see her everyday was worth it..... but not until the end

shes supposed to live in pa.... and now shes back in jersey................. she said hello to me but it wasnt sincere .... all this happened in the front of my house.......... she even took off with some guy.......... instead of talking to me because i look n feel like shit... she has to go run off with a guy shes fucked numerous amount of times

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Stop....being....a.....faggot.

She doesn't like you.

Cut her from your life and move on. Take a break for a while then find someone else.

That's it. That's all you need to do. I'm not going to sit here and argue with you about this. You've come to this board fro advice and here it is. Take it or continue to be retarded. It's your call.

sorry to hear things are going badly for you, OP. but why are you telling us this? are you asking for advice?

I'd start with a lightweight set of steel strings so you don't have to press so hard. the only thing you have to be careful of is that they can break easily, so take it easy when adjusting the tension, especially when you first string it. and you don't want to wail on the strings super hard. stick to more flexible picks or strumming/fingerpicking.

if you find lightweight strings aren't strong enough, then as your fingers regain strength and calluses, you can go to heavier strings.

as for brands, I've always liked d'addarios. ernie balls are pretty nice too. there are probably other good brands that I can't think of at the moment.

as long as the basement wasn't damp, you should be okay. but if you find the guitar doesn't want to tune properly, take it to a music store and see if they can adjust it for you. most obvious sign of this would be if you fiddle with the tuning for a while but can't get it to stay in tune on both open notes and fretted notes. also take a look down the neck before you string it and see how straight the neck is. if it looks visibly bowed, take it in and have someone work on it.

>>17568179
I work with my hands alot so how strong is "strong" for guitars. Already got calluses. Should i still get lightweight strings?

Should i use a pick or fingers? I've played other string instruments and if it required i'd just use my fingers.

>>17568112
>>17568198
First of all, I'd suggest to first remove all the old strings, get a VERY soft sandpaper and remove whatever has accumulated over the years on the fingerboard.

As for what strings you should buy, I'd suggest to start with normal tension, since you're pretty much a beginner, and, afterwards, IMO you should shift to hard tension (extra hard, soft, and extra soft tensions are a big fucking joke, but I guess you could try soft, still not recommended by me). I personally use the D'addario ones, they last at least 2 years before one of them breaks, which is pretty nice, but I still recommend changing them once a year.

As for pick or fingers, it's up to you. If you only want to play your favorite songs on guitar, you're probably gonna use a pick, sometimes maybe your fingers.

>>17568099
>Icecream for dinner
fix'd

>>17568099

had a similar issue, but id stop by the porn theater on the way home and get passed around by old gay men. now im developing a grandpa fetish.

i really really wish i was joking right now but it took me like half an hour to get hard fucking a really hot guy, but the thought of an old man spitting in my mouth makes me horny.

>>17568123
That sounds horrible to me, but to each their own. Did you manage to get your life back on track except the fetish? For me it feels like it's only escalating

>>17568084

you dont. frankly birth control exists so you can cum in her, just follow the guidelines cuz some days still arent safe to fuck. avoid those and you'd be fine though.

beyond that, if you cant agree on what happens if she got pregnant, you cant be with her.

>BUT I ALSO LOVE HER AND OTHER STUFF IS FINE AND-

nope. none of that matters once she gets pregnant. if she doesn't agree with your rules, then get out, cuz otherwise you'll have a baby in a year.

>>17568096
Really, this.

>>17568084
>says "we'll just have to take a big step together" when I ask what she'd do if she got pregnant
>How do I make her think logically
She is thinking logically. She wants to get pregnant or at least welcomes the possibility with open arms.

I predict you'll have an "accident" within 4 months. I hope you're ready for parenthood with your gf, anon

>>17568077
Don't date anyone please.
You sound horrendous.

>>17568077

I actually lolled at that last one being downvoted. Stackoverflow mostly doesn't have a sense of humor.

>>17568138
Because I expect an answer within a reasonable amount of time?

Man the fuck up swing on a clown. Bloods, blood dog. You can either show him he can keep doing it or keep his chin wagin and it will end. Potential is hiding never known

>5' 3" and doughey (he's only an inch taller than me)
>5' 3"
Are you really 18 lmao

>>17568133
Unfortunately. I got fucked over playing the genetic lottary

>>17568024
Honestly I don't want you to get advice, your scum for just quitting like that and not saying anything. Hope you don't get your money.

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Lulz scum for quiting a mcdicks job because I got an offer to roof and make as much money in two days roofing as I was making grilled cheeses? Alright enjoy never making money it's called sacrifices enjoy being on 4chan not making any money ever. Fucking loser.

>>17568054
OP here. Meant to say as much money roofing in two days as I was making grilled cheese for 40 hours a week.

Yeah, I do it sometimes

>>17568025
Happens alot to me. I fuck up alot of things by it. I think its my comfortability in control and my impatience with things that bother me. May be wrong

>>17568034
For me I just bottle shit up for so long that it just comes out eventually in the worst way possible. I just get to a point where I have to get those thoughts out of my head and I don't care how.

>>17567965
First boyfriend tried to fuck a male friend of mine.
Honestly, it is not that bad (not much worse than many other breakups) but you feel like you've been used, and you feel repulsive physically.
It's sad.

>>17567965

it depends on the context.

but a lot of people think 'me me me me me' as opposed to just trying to understand their partner.

so they might think that they look like a man (thus being ugly) and thats why their bf settled for them. if its been years, they might think they were being used and their whole relationship was a lie (versus a regular break up which still has its nice memories in tact). they might think that there is something WRONG with them that turned them gay, etc.

most of the time its the guy didnt quite understand his sexuality. i looked at gay porn for years and didnt think i was a gay. the level of delusion our culture has is really awesome.

but especially if its been years they'd feel like they lost a part of their life toa lie.

You just feel a bit lied to, is all. I don't think it's worse than any other kind of cheating, it just has that added layer of doubt when you find out.

>>17567957

There's no friendzone. Only being a spineless ass blaming the girl when you never made a move.

>>17567957
There is.
Ask her out.
If she says yes, date her. If she says no and says she wants to be your friend, say you don't want to and stop talking to her.
Friend zone is a self inflicted condition.
It's like saying "there is no way to stop being fat".

>>17567957

yes. the friend zone is simply 'betanese' for 'friend'. to not be someones friend you either escalate the relationship, or pull away from it.

you can just not be her friend, or if you mean how to make her like you, you just go for it. no there is no government approved step by step guide to make a girl love you. if there was, we'd all know it, and it'd be something we do regularly. all you can do is present yourself as you are and ask if she feels anything (re: 'lets go on a date this weekend').

and if she says 'sorry i only see you as a friend'. you say 'sorry but we can't be 'just friends' and you move on.

>>17567956

Rich parents supporting you? Medical school.

Otherwise? Engineering (doesn't matter which)

Do you have Any interests at all? Chad? Robot? Regular? Do you like physical activity? Are you smart average or potato? Do you like studying or atleast are you good at it? Are you lazy? Do you prefer a desk job over physical work? Answer all of these and ill give some reccomendations

>>17567962
It's a bit of an unfortunate situation.

I'm medicated for bipolar and schizotypal. In a few years my dad will retire and i'll lose my medication because we won't be able to pay for it anymore. Once that happens i'll be too fucked up from my mental illness to be able to put myself through school.

And because my dad is retiring in a few years, I basically have to go to college now if I want to graduate in time before I lose my medication.

So I have a few months at best to make up my mind

I don't think my parents can afford medical school and i've never really looked into engineering much. My dad is an engineer though.

No, and no.

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>>17567942
I have no talents as well. I failed in school and have been let go of 6 jobs last year and this year. I'm now in debt at 19 and still a virgin. Got rejected 10 times for homecoming by 10 different girls in front of people. Family doesn't care shit. Have a spic stepdad and stepbrothers. Live with cockaroaches and rats. Have 3 friends only. Losing all hope and sanity at this point. I can't even cry anymore, I'm so used to failure. I should kill myself but I'm too pussy. Life is hard dude.

>Inb4 edgy

>Inb4 fratboy/motivational speaker/cliche faggot/you-can-do-it-overly-confident-narsistic-dick.

>Inb4 join the army faggots.

>>17567991
Man. Nothing? I'm lucky I have a girlfriend

Another bump

>>17567930
What about a meal? They're pretty easy to book, they get everyone in the same place and you don't have to worry about renting a space or buying booze or whatever because everyone pays for themselves. Then afterwards you can go out drinking nearby or something.

I did that for my 22nd and had a good night. I actually hated my 21st because I felt too old so my friends just dragged me kicking and screaming to a pub for the night.

As for organizing it, I'd make a fb event or a group chat maybe 2-3 weeks in advance.

that feel when I thought about making a birthday party and inviting my uni friends but I remembered that I already tried to invite them for a beer earlier during the holidays and it didn't work out and it would feel so much worse if they didn't come to my birthday
also I could only message them on facebook since i got a new phone and forgot to copy the numbers