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Or you are just ugly.

I started using tinder in March and have had dozens of matches. Crazy thing was I put the least effort possible in my bio and on POF I said some nasty sexual shit to them yet they want to go out.

>>17570552

>Literally thousands

I am very sorry OP, but there can be no reasonable doubt that the problem lies with you.

>>17570560
You're an idiot, it doesn't mean shit if you aren't fucking these girls. Go jerk off loser

mmmm fresh pasta

Keep studying to be a nurse.

Continue to work as a paramedic. I know it will be tough and people will misuse you but hang in there.

Once you have become a nurse then see a shrink in private when your finances are more in order.

Regarding the depression.

Cold showers on a daily basis. They help you feel energized and brighten your mood. Trust me I have been feeling like utter shit for the last couple of months after I found my girlfriend cheated on me with my best friend and this has helped me immensely. I stay in there for 10 minutes at max cold setting.

Next is meditating. Go on youtube to get the idea of how it works but it is all about aligning all your thoughts so nothing is jumbled. Work on controlling your breathing and if possible listen to relaxing ocean music.

Do these on a daily basis. As well as try getting out of your comfortzone little by little on a daily basis. Nothing big, maybe it is starting a short convo with a cashier at store. Do these everyday so you feel like you accomplished something good that day.

>>17570539
Thank you.
I will start taking cold showers and il look up meditation altrough admittedly i have tried that in the past and failed completely.
As far as talking with a cashier i dont really have much or any at all problems talking with people or starting a conversation its just that I dont take any pleasure from it anymore like i used to sometime in the past and it feels like a chore.

>>17570525
Have you ever had a calm discussion about this?
Talk to this about her when there's no upcoming event and such - just a random discussion.

You should get over your anxiety. She should do things to ease the situation for you.
First tell her you don't want to ask her to stop going out or to spend time alone with her friends.
Second, make sure she acts responsibly - doesn't get drunk, doesn't accept drinks from strangers, looks after her drink.
Third, try to find a compromise - maybe you can go out with her just when she goes clubbing, or she can come home earlier on those nights, or you can go and pick her up, or she can check in with you every hour or so.
On the other hand, try to work on your anxieties - see a doctor about it? Keep yourself occupied by going out with your friends?

>>17570543
>Have you ever had a calm discussion about this?
Talk to this about her when there's no upcoming event and such - just a random discussion. We mostly talk about this subject when she tells me she is going out since it shows on my expression and she can tell right away; or the day after the events,always result in a fight.

> tell her you don't want to ask her to stop going out
I do this all the time and she knows this,the problem is really just these nights outs that she says that is something that was part of her before we met each other(and I knew this) and that there are some friends of her that she just get to see in these hangouts.
> make sure she acts responsibly
She is quite responsible,some times she doesn't even drink alcohol.

> find a compromise
She does tries to keep in contact but even though I try my best to hide she can tell anxiety is eating me inside-out,that only spoils the mod for her and for me when I try to go out the same day but no matter what I try I stay paranoid about this.

>try to work on your anxieties
I know this is mostly a problem with me but it sincerely pains me to go through this role situation.The worst part is that she also tells me even though she misses me I should also go out with my friends for nights out that she would be ok with it.

those are some good points,thanks for the considerations.

>>17570576
Have a discussion when there's no upcoming event. You'll both be calmer and maybe work things out better.

She really sounds like she is acting greatly, to be fair. She's doing everything possible to make you happy.
If it causes so much anxiety to you, you should see a therapist. It is not normal to be very anxious about this, or be this paranoid.

>>17570498
What are we talking about?
Do you wish she lost 50 kg, cut 40 cm of her hair and changed a large part of her personality, or are you annoyed because of something minor?

Relationships require a lot of compromise, you won't go anywhere if you aren't both okay with changing small things for each other or helping each other.
If she totally refuses to do anything to adapt to you, then you can leave her already. She's very immature.

Not a healthy relationship if she won't change and she's doing things that upset you. If she were actually "perfect", then no she wouldn't have to change obviously. But if she's doing things that upset/hurt you, you bring it up to her and discuss it with her, and she doesn't try to change herself or at the very least the situation, it's just a toxic relationship. Sorry dude, but it looks like this relationship won't be going anywhere good if this is how things are. You may have to give her some sort of ultimatum, but in the end people are who they are and oftentimes won't change no matter how much they love you back.

No. Love is measured in the amount you're willing to sacrifice for your partner.

You sound like a complete social retard and more than anything it feels like you're posting this here to brag to yourself rather than ask for advice. You already know what to do. Don't pressure and be a friend. It's nice and simple.

Exchange students are the best for people like you because they don't understand norms quite yet. Your awkward coming onto her will feel normal and she'll roll with it in an attempt to fit in and find a place in the new country she lives in.

>>17570713

Exactly. Also, this thread needs that /adv/ bingo image

>>17570484
You're doing fine. Keep it up.

Post your face on here and we will judge it.

>>17570417
Lift heavy, get a dog, and learn to like kids. Congratulations, tons of single mom poon for the taking.

Protip: don't love them hos.

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>>17570417
just go Elliot Rodger on them
remember to blast this song
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SDTZ7iX4vTQ

Weed

>>17570364
Can you please post your backlog? I'm too lazy to find new shows to watch. I can tell you if I've seen any of them and if they're shit not worth watching.

>>17570364
A better diet will make your backlog small.

>>17570335
>I tell her that's also low and not normal for a healthy couple
Your wording really isn't helping anything because you are trying the watered down version of "if you loved me you would have sex with me".

Considering you haven't mentioned previous relationships, I'll presume this is your first one.
If your gf only wants to fuck once every 2 weeks either find a way to encourage her to fuck more or leave her.
Otherwise, shut up.

I used to get laid every other day when I was cohabiting, but ultimately it depends on how long you have been dating.

>>17570335
you think it's low, she think's it's normal. you two are not sexually compatible, and should likely break up because I guarantee you sex will not become more frequent no matter how much you beg.

she will call you names and a shitty boyfriend, and scream YOU NEVER REALLY LOVED ME

but at the end of the day you need to find someone that fulfills you sexually, emotionally, and intellectually and she is not the one

and she kinda just sounds like a stuck up cunt

People have different sex drives. It's just how we are, it's like how some people need 9 hours of sleep every night and others just need 5.
You can't force someone to want something.
You can always try to seduce her more - but it's not 100% guaranteed to work either.
So either deal with it or leave her.

>>17570296
Wow you are a normal introvert

>>17570309
it's a little beyond that

>>17570310
Well then you're just like me and 90% of the faggots here. Unless you're an extrovert you won't be able to be yourself around people you don't know that well

>>17570294
Lmao just use tinder dude.

>>17570308
Well I mean the time and energy it takes to fuck a normal looking chick off tinder is annoying. I'd rather just pay a hundred, blow my load and leave. Makes a lot more sense

>>17570308
how do you know if a tinder chick is dtf?
I'm taking one to the movies after we smoke

>Need money to do stuff especially with new gf
Clearly you've got messed up priorities.

>What do /adv/?
Get better money management skills.

>>17570264
Would obviously pay bills etc before

>>17570267
Sure, but if you don't even have savings to back you up when you have some shortfall like you're experiencing now, you're doing something wrong

I'm naturally optimistic and resilient. I don't really know how I'd advise people to develop those traits though.

I personally find pushing my comfort boundaries makes me happy, the exhilaration of doing something new that I am not necessarily comfortable with is such a joy.

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>>17570198
Reddit. Also ive been meaning to find good uncensored jav

>>17570202
no such thing. japanese adult videos come straight outta japan where they have archaic censorship laws that don't allow porn producers to show a penis going into a vagina (yet drawing naked anime 12 year olds is somehow totally normal and acceptable for them)

uncensored "jav" is literally just american porn staring japanese men & women

>>17570209

so ur saying the 'skyangel' series and the 'i love my dildo' seriess were produced out of japan? intredasting

>>17570179
Bitches come and go
Creampie her ass

Personally dude, I would ask your friend out of respect. If he says no, I would honor that.

>>17570183
Yeah that to me seems like the right thing to do.
But I don't even want the asking to ruin our friendship.
Because like what if he says no. Or says yes but secretly resents me from now on.
Just for some pussy? idk.
I guess it all comes down to how I tell him. Or don't.

>>17570178
Porn consumption is a bigger cause of ED than masturbation.

Because you don't masturbate a lot its possible you have a low sex drive.

Ultimately, go to a doctor, explain your issue. I believe ED is a health issue. They can probably give you something to help you out.

>>17570178
>While we're out in public and she's in my arms or we're making out I'm rock fucking solid.
well fuck in public
you know bushes , whatever

>>17571174
Right. I wouldn't say I am/ever was a porn addict, but I did use it to mt advantage for many years. I'm not sure about the low sex drive though because I always want to fuck. Like you said I should probably see a doctor. I came to this board because I havr a feeling it's largely psychological rather than physical