if your gf/bf doesnt text you or talk to you for a week then goes back to texting you normally is everything technically fine?
I've been in a 7 year relationship and there were only two times when this happened and both times we had some pretty intense discussions.
Did they stopped talking to you without warning? or did you have some fight or something?
2nd case, it's normal, people need time to heal, in fact to be in touch when mad at someone can make things worse.
1st case... damn IDK, why dont you ask them why they stopped talking to you?
>>17645080
they said they wanted to talk less.a few months ago. which they did, but not by a huge amount, talking daily--> talking most of the week, 1 or 2 days of no texting became common.
>>17645162
I understand, I had also felt smothered when the only chat we had was
"hey how are you"
"what are you doing"
because I felt that we were talking only for the sake of talking, do I explain myself?
I wanted more time for me, to do whatever I wanted, play games, take a walk to the park, read, be with me and only me.
Then, I started talking again, we had meaningful things to talk about and our relationship has been great since then.
Maybe that's what they need - some time alone, I could relate to that. Of course this doesn't mean they are not interested in you anymore, but that they feel frustrated with something.
Anyway, my best advice is to talk directly about this, why they wanted and How can both of you improve your relationship. Communicating is the best way to sort those obstacles in our lives
Ok, this is quite a long story but I'm gonna try and make this as quick as I can and fill in the details as needed.
So basically, I met this girl who is really hot and realllly liked me for some reason. She's just as weird as I am and wanted to know everything about me.
She hid the fact that she had a Bf and I hung out with her and became attached. I ended up getting really annoyed after awhile of knowing she had a bf and flirting with me a bunch.
I had a knee jerk reaction and said I was pissed that she was acting like this when she had a bf. So she got really pissed and we didn't talk for awhile.
I ended up seeing her after not talking all summer on my birthday with some friends and we started being friendly again. My friend said her and her BC had broken up he was pretty sure. I apologized to her saying I was in a shitty spot since my mom was sick and I was depressed. She was fine with it and said she wished she could have been closer to me during it all. She hadn't mentioned her bf at all in all the times we hung out and she often messaged me on Facebook and would share stuff with me. I ended up hanging out with her at the library for hours the other day and she kept gazing at me a specific way and looking at me when she though I didn't notice.
I asked her if she was busy Sunday in hopes to go to the park together, and she said her bf was in town for his break and she'd like to maybe go to the park later this week. My jaw dropped in that she had majorly kicked up the way she flirted with me and talked to me.
Basically, I know I shouldn't talk to her. Am I completely fucking stupid for thinking this is weird? She had me over to her house when it was just her and I, as she wanted to 'talk' bc she wanted me to talk to her about what happened last semester. I feel really shitty I've never liked a girl this much.
Sounds like a classic case of
>girl and guy are friends
>girl acts completely normally towards guy
>guy's wishful thinking takes over and misinterprets her behaviour as flirting
>>17644703
OP here, I thought that too, but I professed that I really liked her and all that the other day and she agreed she knew this. So then, she kept hanging out with me and making plans. Isn't this at least being shady towards her bf?
>>17644715
No? I know this is a radical idea, but maybe her boyfriend trusts her.
Evening /adv/
tldr weird ass bump in pic on balls, what do
I woke up feelin fine, got home and changed into my PJs for max relax, and immediately felt immense sharp pain in my scrotum when I happened to accidentally squeeze my legs together.
I checked what was up and it so happened that I have some weird looking bump on my sack with dark red around a single white dot. If I leave it alone it's fine but messing with it hurts like hell.
Anyone know what this is? Any suggestions? This isn't something I really care to involve a doctor with yet and I'd prefer not to shell out the money either.
I'm sure it isn't an STD because there's only one bump and I haven't had any sexual contact in years nor any signs of infection (and that contact was a pretty clean BJ)
Attached is the pic of my ball bump.
That's a pimple, dipshit
>>17644620
Haven't had one in years, and never one that really fucking hurts when it gets messed with. Nor have I had one that gets surrounded in blood like that.
Looks like an ingrowing hair to me
Been dating this girl from uni for about a week and a half now. We're both quite shy but we first got to know each other after making out together at a uni social whilst drunk.
Since then we've been out together a few times (stuff from coffee, exploring the city to exploring an abandoned building for the first time) and it's been a lot of fun. We've gotten to a stage where we speak quite a lot on Messenger, between lectures, kiss and hug goodbye sometimes when it's just us, held hands and sometimes she grabs my arm but in an awkward (sort of nice) way. I'd like to think we're quite into each other at the moment which is fucking fantastic but at the same time, I feel like I have no idea what i'm doing since I've never had something like this with a girl before.
Anyone have advice on the next step of our relationship or how I should let it "naturally" develop? I'm just fucking clueless and would appreciate anything.
General too, I guess.
If you're in the kissing zone already, you might as well just bluntly ask what you are/what she wants you to be. "So, how are you seeing this relationship we're having, do you want to be official, are you just wanting to keep it casual?"
Sounds like you've been going good so far for the "natural" aspect. Nothing seems forced or rushed, but if you keep it passive indefinitely then nothing will ever come of it. You'll have to nail down a title for your relationship eventually, and you'll only realistically do that by just asking.
How to find a date in college? Finding sex is as easy as breathing, but finding a second date is damn near impossible. I just want to meet people, and irl because online dating just gives me the creeps.
My classes are all women. None of the student organizations here are interesting to me at all and most of them aren't even active, plus idk how weird it would be joining a club int he middle of a semester.
>>17644604
Nah.
You're already in a "serious" relationship, OP. You're just going to make things awkward by asking. I mean, you could, not much harm done, but there's no point in it.
Stop thinking about what you should do, not all relationships have to develop in the same way. I mean, if you really want a next step that would be sex, but you should do whatever you want. Spend time with her, talk, do things both of you enjoy. Whatever you did so far seems to be working, so I don't see any reason why you should be worried or try to force any kind of development.
How do I deal with jealousy over a woman? I hate feeling this way.
>>17644570
Maybe you just need him to tell you more often how much you mean to him.
Like, you would never be jealous if you had no fear of him going away, right ?
So try and talk to him about it,about how your feel, and get through this together.
>>17644611
fuck off
>>17644638
>asks for advice
>gets advice
>"fuck off"
welcome to /adv/ everyone
As a lady is there any ways to tell a guy I wanna fuck without him thinking I'm being too forward?
Context: It's been 5 dates
>it's been 5 dates
just fucking tell him
or make an implication so obvious that it cannot possibly be ignored or misinterpreted
>>17644532
Body contact, try to kiss him as much as possible, lure him into privacy with lots of time to spare.
If you don't want to be too forward, just flip his switch on and his male instincts will take care of the rest.
>>17644546
This. Its been 2 dates and we fucked. I was so oblivious now that I know better. She wanted my cock the moment she looked at me. Those two dates were her inviting me over to her house while her parents were out. We would get drunk and talk for the 4-6 hours we had to ourselves. During that time she gave me so many signs it hurts now but the second visit she actually had to take me to her room and ask "mind if we do something?" I then realized what was happening.
>tfw sex
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Lmao. I'm in plg right now too and going to post the same thing.
Girl smiles at me, etc, I ask her phone number and she doesn't bite. Can I have some courage or tips to make small talk? I am probably going to just going to say the usual.
It took me a while to talk to her in the first place. I had one girlfriend over the summer and I'm only 18 so I'm young and she's 15 or 16.
I got a haircut from a Japanese lady after this who knew her shit and gave me a part (basically a H. Jugend cut). Should I shave my goat beard? I keep it because other guys can't grow anything so it sets me apart but it's also impressive.
Im also not autistic, was just wearing the suit for a portrait.
I know I have to work to win her, but I can't go and punch somebody. How do I flirt smooth like Scarface?
>>17644527
Fuck I look like a bitch in that picture. At least I got a haircut...
A friend of mine has started acting strange. I've known him for 2 and a half years now.
A few months ago he was totally cool, fun to be around, usually just laughing and telling jokes. I don't know whats happened to him. But now he's so distant and frustrated.
I tried to talk to him about it and from what I can gather he's really depressed
>he has terrible self-esteem and seems to think hes a terrible person
>he's been avoiding a bunch of us for no reason
>hes barely functional in class
He told me he's had 2 mental breakdowns over the past month. And he took a week off of classes which is really unusual for him.
Should I prod him for more info so I can help? He seems to want to talk about it, but then hesitates and shuts up. How can someone go from fun to depressed so quickly without something major happening to them like a family member dying?
It's a mental illness, and there's no logical reason for why depression flares up as intensely as it tends to.
Best you can do is stick around so long as he doesn't do anything to hurt you or himself, psychologically or physically.
If you ever do the "sarcastically making fun of each others flaws" thing around him, cut that out completely. Start getting used to telling him what you like about him, but keep it spontaneous and in the moment. Unexpected and genuine.
Well if he hasn't discussed his reasons then you don't really know if something major is happening or not. Some people just aren't happy with the way the world is or the way their life is turning out. I'd talk to him more and also recommend professional help.
>>17644471
He mentioned something a few weeks ago about not being able to watch his favourite movies or listen to the radio anymore. Could there potentially be something "triggering" in them?
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>forced to drop out of college due to anxiety
>back to being neet, this time with debt
I put all my eggs in one basket and it backfired. I'm not even sure where to go from here.
Hey /adv/ my girlfriend wants to have sex in front of our friends. I'm confused, don't know what to think about it. She told me she doesn't mind my male friends seeing her naked body, and wants to walk naked from bath, when we will gather at our apartment to test their reaction, and asked me to touch her boobs and "accidentally" upskirt her in front of them while she wears slutty dress. She even told me which my male friends she prefers to see us fuck.
I have shared her naked photos on 4chan and I have no problem strangers seeing her body in internet but it's different I think.
Whats your opinion? Is she a slut? What should I do?Have you ever experienced something like this? What would you do in my situation? I'm totally lost.
In your situation? I'd consider breaking up. I wouldn't ever let someone I date walk around my apartment naked in front of my friends.
Are you secure in your mutual friends? Do you feel like they respect your relationship, and wouldn't look down on you for letting them watch you fuck your girlfriend?
post her pic
Just got into a car accident. I was trying to make a left turn into an intersection. There was a gap as seen in the pic and a total of 3 lanes. While they gave me the go ahead to make a left turn, the car on the 3rd lane hit my car. She was on her phone and (thinking she was texting) She did stop before the gap like every other car did but she somehow decided to hit my car. I was waiting at a stop sign so am I at fault? Also the light was red and I think when the light turned green she just thought it was safe. This in in California by the way
>pic related. The "gap"
>>17644423
>so am I at fault
Yep.
>>17644433
Fuck. Well is there anything I could do about it?
>>17644438
I really don't know, sorry.
I was involved in an accident like this. I was just a car in the other lane waiting for the light to turn and someone was trying to turn left while the oncoming traffic had a green light. The person in the near lane had stopped to let them turn but as the left-turner was halfway through a car came and T-boned at full speed and it knocked the car so hard it ended up sliding into mine.
What I learned is: just fucking wait for the light. Or when there are no oncoming cars at all. It's nice of people to stop to let you turn but it's dangerous to do it.
My brother who is 24 is addicted to heroin. He's been to rehab, came back and started using again. He has all the characteristics of a drug addict including extreme mood swings, stealing, lying, denying, manipulating, etc etc. My dad was paying his rent up until this month. He has decided to cut my brother off financially for good. My brother will not have a place to live by the end of October. He has no job and no place to go. Today he asked me if I could buy him food, even something off a dollar menu. I told him no because I think he needs to hit rock bottom. Did I do the right thing? I can't help him, or can I? What would you do? I love my brother but I don't recognize him anymore.
He is begging me for food telling me he is starving. What do I do?
Shit sucks man, how old are you op? I would start off by saying no and letting him think stuff through, then afterwards tell him youll do it. If you love him and dont want to lose him, i would try and help him the hard way.
>>17644448
I'm only a year older than him and trying to live my life too.. I barely make enough money to support myself. life is already hard enough!! but i love him:( ugh I just know he's lonely and depressed and now HUNGRY too.
I seem to have bad breath at the worst times possible. I brush twice a day, I do the whole routine with the tongue brush, flossing and mouthwash. I even pop mints throughout the day, but when I need to speak the most with others my mouth and lips go dry and I can feel it. It's terrible and I don't know what to do. Am I not drinking enough water, am I eating the wrong foods, am I not eating enough? I read that skipping meals can make your mouth very dry.
Tonsil stones
Two possibilities:
>1
Crash dieting, fasting, and low-carbohydrate diets are a possible cause of bad breath. They cause the body to break down fat, which produces chemicals called ketones that can be smelled on your breath.
>2
Some people are convinced they have bad breath when they don't. This psychological condition is called halitophobia.
People with halitophobia are paranoid about the smell of their breath. They often misinterpret other people's behaviour and comments, thinking they're suggesting they have bad breath. They become fixated with cleaning their teeth, chewing gum, and using mouth fresheners.
Treatment for halitophobia involves talking therapies, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), to help the person overcome their paranoia and fixation on the smell of their breath.
>>17644387
Brush your teeth and your tongue, most tooth brushes have a part behind their head for brushing your tongue. Finish with flossing.
If it's something related to bad gut flora and stomach acid, I think one part ground clove and two part ground flaxseed once in 2 days, should solve the problem in a week or so.
Hey adv,
My water company is claiming I used more than 80,000 gallons last month. That's $800 I don't have. What do? There are no obvious signs of leaking at my house and they sent out a guy to check who also found nothing. They claim to have a leak checking service that obviously didn't work. What do?
Could you possibly have left on a faucet for the whole month?
Check around all the outside faucets for leaks. Check around the meter too. I have found leaks there. A slab leak could run it up. I would have them send another guy out for a double check.
>>17644365
Plz tell me you weren't stupid enough to not ask the guy for a record or a note saying he didn't find any leaks with his id and number and complete name.
You can sue them you know? Call again and keep pushing anon
Just type B no slashes or dashes fagit
>>17644358
Noice boobs
doesn't work