In the morning, I want to tell my job that I'm leaving. I am responsible for major things, and will be hurting my coworkers and friends. I would like to give them time to find a replacement, and would happily work a few more weeks/months.
I am going to fail them if I stay on board, but I would like to help the transition. I would love to try to find a new job while this search happens, a mutual thing.
Is this even possible, or do I just have to outright put in my two weeks and leave?
>>17645557
you just put in your two weeks and leave
get a new job lined up before you do that though or you could run into problems. A job search can sometimes take longer than you think it will.
>>17645557
Get a job "lined up", then put in your two weeks notice. No need for dramatics. Just leave. If your coworkers are as tight as you think they'll stay in touch after you leave. Y'know?
>>17645565
>>17645575
They aren't anticipating me leaving, and expect me to take on huge projects. They trust me and like me a lot. Before they push in all of the chips on the table on me, I need to leave.
If it was all in my own self interest, I'd take my sweet time to find a new job before going. But if I let this last another week or two, everyone will be holding a big bag of shit. If I tell them I'm leaving now, they won't start the project.
So I need some advice. I was in a relationship with a girl for close to 3 years. And we were madly in fucking love, and I mean madly, we were planning on being together for a long time. About a year and a half in I had second thoughts and turned into a bit of an asshole, I didn't mean to, but this hurt her and basically she was gonna leave me and I was like no no I get it and straightened my ass out slowly. I mean I am still MADLY in love with her, she is my fucking world and holy shit, like, she was THE ONE as they say. Basically a few months ago she left me because she said when I hurt her the love started to fade and it never came back. I had to work that confession out of her, other than that she just says "she wants room to breath" or wants to be single for a while. She's the only person I've ever loved this much. I would take her over my family. I fucking begged a few times for another chance, for us to work it out together but she is solid. We agreed on being friends but she was being more distant and it's shitty, mostly because I'm having major trouble letting her go. I don't want her to go, I'm too fucking attached to her, what do I do, is there a chance she'll come back? I don't see these feelings going away. I feel like I explained this shit poorly but, if a question comes up I'll elaborate. Can't stress how strongly I want her back, even after months. Wanted to spend my life with her, back when things were good she claimed she did too. But I fucked it. Any advice would be helpful. So fucked and confused.
>>17645518
Forgot to mention we still see each other and fuck. But I think this all she wants, I feel kind of used. I like it anyways.
>>17645518
I'm going to go out on a limb here and guess that this is either your first serious relationship, or that both of you are still very young.
Have you ever heard that saying, "There are other fish in the sea"? Well, it's true.
Right now you're probably in a place where all of those sappy love songs and breakup songs make sense to you. But you gotta know that they're all bullshit.
It sounds to me like this girl might have the right idea though. Maybe both of you really do need a break. Two people, even if they have honest intentions, can be toxic to one another.
You only have one option. Get away from her, start focusing on yourself. There are only two things that can come of it, and they are both better positions than you're in now. If you focus on growing, and becoming a better person, you could attract someone even better, or you could end up showing her how much you've changed and make her consider being with you again.
I know it hurts, but postponing things won't make it better.
>>17645540
I figured I'd get answers like this. I appreciate them anyway. If you'd seen all the conversations you'd probably think us still banging is a little fucked up. I feel like death. I've had a bad breakup before but this one is a million times worse. I would have called the relationship toxic, before I was a dickwadd It was great. Idk I didn;'t want a break but I'm getting one. I focused on being better after I realized what I was doing, and now that she got what she want and I really did change she fucks off.
Going to see my doctor tomorrow to tell him about my problems but i feel like once i start ill crack and start crying.i dont have anyone to vent to and i feel like he would be able to help me. what should i do?
well Matt, you've already made a thread so why not start by venting here
Tell me about yourself
>>17645545
its a long story but i guess ill start with my most recent problem
i met this girl through a dating site and we met in person it went great and we talked every single day she did mention that shes interested in someone that has a girlfriend
this was atleast 4 or 5 months ago so i thought it wore off because shes been saying that she really likes me and wants to date me
then two days later i get a message saying that he and her were hanging out and one thing led to another and they fucked and now shes confused and depressed and i was already depressed and i was starting to feel better
i get incredibly angry at the thought of them doing anything with each other
Is there any way I could make some quick cash writing erotic fiction?
>>17645509
not really, there are tons of people who do it for free for every fetish. I've noticed some furry erotic fiction writers do commissions but it would be hard to get them without having established yourself as a writer for that particular subfetish. Here's an example of what the going rate could be http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/6151288/. But unless the fetishes you're writing about actually turn you on I doubt you'd really enjoy it.
What are your fetishes anyway? Oh and while we're at it do you have somewhere I could see your work, if I like it maybe I'll commission you to write something.
>>17645528
Damn...
Well it was just an idea. I enjoy writing, but I never save the stuff. I guess I can find somewhere to start saving it though.
>What are your fetishes anyway?
Mostly non-consent/dark, and/or a bit of hentai. Pretty common stuff, so you're right, would probably be hard to sell it. I guess what I was hoping to find would be like..a dollar site where people pay a buck to read something, and I could try to sprite it up with some pictures or something.
>>17645588
Spritz*
I got my first fast food job at a busy McDonald's and it sucks. After working 7 business days, I already gave a heads up to my store manager that I "can't" (i.e don't want to) work weekends anymore and missed today (after letting her know) for a pre-employment drug test for a Rite Aid job. I told her I was getting hired in my academic field, which isn't true. My new job gives me weekends, less hours, not as busy and pays higher.
I've never quit a job so I feel kinda guilty for leaving so soon. I hear there's a high turnover rate for McDonald's anyway. The past few days I saw new hires and applicants so I don't feel too bad.
How should I approach quitting? Should I still be polite and offer my 2 weeks even though I already have conditional employment somewhere else and don't want to be there? Should I be honest about why I'm quitting?
Note: I won't be returning to a McDonald's any time soon so assume getting on their "Do Not Hire" list isn't an issue if they have one. I won't be able to list them as experience or reference due how little I was there but not like I'd want to anyway.
>>17645493
if its an "at will" job where they can fire you for any reason without notice then no you don't have to give them two weeks notice. Realistically you don't actually have to do that anywhere, its just polite to do so, and will piss them off if you don't which is kind of important if you want to remain on good terms with them.
But since this is just a shit low end fast food job I'd say the proper etiquette would be to either tell them at the start of your shift that this will be your last day you're working for them (you don't even need to come up with some shitty excuse like you did about getting work in your academic field) or if you really can't do it anymore just call them up and say you quit. It'll suck for them since they'll be shorthanded for the day but who cares, your manager can work the register.
You don't owe them anything.
>asking about real world problems in a board full neets who bitch on the daily at every hour about MUH GF/BF PLEASE HALP!!
>>17645550
fuck off
My girlfriend doesn't want to take birth control and condoms dry her out so fast. She says that even with lube, the condom hurts and doesn't feel good.
What do I do? I don't really mind using a condom and I really don't like the thought of having a kid on accident. It's kind of a shitty situation. I don't want to force her to take birth control, because I think that her concern with it is valid, and the quality of the sex is defiantly being affected by the condom.
just tell her that you're not going to have unprotected sex period, if she can't handle that then let her go have a kid with her next boyfriend
>>17645478
Why the fuck wouldn't she want to take birth control?
You know what this seems like to me? And it's likely not the case, it just seems like it. But this looks like another one of those, "My girlfriend doesn't want the fug anymore" threads. What's with the trend of bitches too lazy to get their freak on lately?
>>17645478
have you/her looked into Nuva Rings?
or other barrier protection (for her, not you)?
She puts in a nuva ring once a month I believe? and while it's in there, it releases hormones or whatever locally, and has a very low chance of affecting her in any other way.
i'm assuming she refuses to take birth control because of side effects.
my gf used nuva rings and we got to fuck all the time with no other protection. came inside of her all the time. good stuff.
>girl I like is in a five-year-long relationship
>suddenly single
>keeps liking my Fb pictures with hearts
>send her a funny video about weed
>no reply
Wtf do I do??!
DUDE WEED LMAO
on a serious note, dont make a storm of this, just talk as if nothing have happened
>>17645437
About what? All we have in common I think is the same favorite anime.
>>17645427
Did you send words with the video or was this a random link?
I have a Gf of about 6 months that is awesome.7/10 blond, funny, nice, great family. The only problem is that she not into anything sexual. Recently my long time crush has started flirting with me, hard. Shes 8.5/10 redish brownish hair ( hair color in pic). Shes also a lot more willing with sexually stuff. I love my Gf and it would crush her if I left her, but I'm so tempted to. What do?
>not into anything sexual
Like she won't have sex? Or anything?
If so yeah no doubt fug the other girl.
>>17645438
Nothing yet but I think Its getting closer. I just dont know if I could break her heart like that
>>17645442
If after 6 months she still hasnt put out at all then you goobed
My on and off GF of the past few years told me last night that she loves me, and loves kissing me and cuddling with me and sees a future with me etc. But that she just doesn't ever have the desire to have sex with me anymore "I don't know why but I'm just not feeling it with anything below the waist." and basically just dislikes it every time.
She said that in times past when she was into it, the sex was average to good, and that I'm great at oral. Nothing has changed on that front really, so we both think it's a psychological thing for her, but we don't know why. I'm a bad boy that rides motorcycles and gets into trouble sometimes but I have a great job making a ton of money and have a bunch of friends - I sound good on paper. We have some baggage from the past but she claims that she's over it. (years ago now)
What the fuck can I do?
Move on. Find someone who wouldn't say something so hurtful.
>>17645412
Have you ever even had a long term relationship? She wasn't being malicious, she was communicating.
I wasn't mad that she said that, I was glad she felt comfortable enough to tell me there was a problem.
>>17645430
have you been gaining weight?
My parents don't love me. I'm lazy and uninspired and they think I have potential when I really don't. They just yelled at me for an hour about how much of a regret I am.
>"anon why dont you ever talk to us? you only care about your computer"
>"why did i bother having a son when i could get the same experience from a pet rock?"
I just realized I haven't loved my parents in years. This is so fucked. Is there nothing I can do?
Sorry for this post. I needed to vent.
>>17645386
why the fuck are you still here on your computer then go take a walk with them and play pokemon go togetther or something
It's alright about venting, that's what /adv/ is here for. Sounds like you guys need to talk more, say what you're up to perhaps? even if they don't find it interesting at least they'll feel important enough and loved enough that you want to tell them about your day. Hear theirs. Even if you don't want to. It might do wonders.
>>17645400
Thanks.
What does /adv/ think about the idea of a soulmate? Are people destined to find someone eventually or is it normal for someone to die alone?
>>17645348
Even if there were that "one true love/perfect match" for everyone, its statistically improbable that you'll ever meet them.
More likely, there are multiple people in the world, possibly thousands, who are highly compatible with you and will have a functioning relationship and bond with you. There's no such thing as perfection, there is only compromise and balances. That doesn't have to be a bad thing though. Life is full of compromise.
Is it normal for someone to die alone? Define normal. Statistically, most people will not by choice at least. Most people find someone, and in this day and age multiple people to spend their lives with. Very rarely do people never have a mutual love (even if this love never actually leads to marriage).
However normality in the social sense is subjective. I for one don't see anything abnormal with someone choosing to be alone their whole lives, so long as this is what makes them happy. A lot of people would disagree though.
What I would find abnormal, is a person who craves and desires to find companionship but never does, because to me this lies more on their unwillingness than anyone else's. As I said, there are thousands of people who will be compatible, those who actively choose to stay single, while complaining about being single, baffle me because you can always settle for someone. Chances are, they are set on this idea of perfection, and do not think they should have to compromise on anything. But again, this is their choice and they must accept the consequences of their choices.
>>17645348
Well, those are some pretty shallow questions that can evoke some pretty profound answers.
I personally like to think there's such a thing as a "reverse soul mate". That is, any two people on the face of the earth can form a lasting, personal bond, provided that the circumstances are just right. It may be a million to one chance that it would ever work out between to people, but if both partners are willing and accepting, I don't see why it couldn't be possible.
Will everyone have someone? No.
Will someone come along eventually? Maybe.
But, don't get the two concepts confused! Everyone dies alone in one way or another.
>>17645348
>What does /adv/ think about the idea of a soulmate?
No such thing.
>Are people destined to find someone eventually or is it normal for someone to die alone?
Neither. Although there is o such thing as a perfect match for anyone, there are many thousands of excellent matches. The process of finding one and cultivatig a relationship is error-prone, and can be time-consuming or even discouraging, but the only difficult part is fighting past the fear and putting yourself out there.
So I found out my wife (i have two kids young) is haveing an affair with a girl.
I had encouraged a threesome with a girl, but...on a condition we were all involved.
She just went off an fucked this girl.
Anyway I got the girl over and have since fucked my wife on top of her a few times, fingered the girl, in the vagina and ass, sucked her nipples and kissed her infront on my wife and watched them fuck.
I let them fuck/make time all they want now, and walk in after they have warmed each other up a bit.
I don;'t feel as jealous cut up about it now, as well I have shown the girl stuff she will never do, except if they exclude me.
the girl started of wanted to be accepted by me…but know says does not like me to touch her.
I dont want really to stick my dick in this other girl...as who knows std...I want a check out first. Sometimes i feel I should, but my wife threatens to go and fuck some other guy.
I say not fair is if I bring a guy back home and fuck him then a few months later if he is still around you can fuck him then it would be fair. As this is what she has done with a girl.
the girls BF walked out on her, then came back
what do now
should I jsut not care, or get this gril to live with us…
I have two girls in my be now every other day last week…..
>>17645341
your wife gets to fuck this girl and you don't get to fuck her too? Chump tier, bro
>>17645346
because my wife threatens to go and fuck a guy, the agreement is no dicks invovled.
I do pretty much everything else and my wife has no dick,
and i get to do it with both of the mat once, so fuck my wife and lick the other girls pussy/boobs in front of my wife....so I guess that the compromise
>>17645341
Your marriage is completely fucked. What a mess.
>Meet cute girl
>We hang out more
>We start dating
>She's perfect, she has her flaws but she's a wonderful and beautiful person
>We move in after a while
>Sex all the time, every day, even now
>She literally loves me like fuck, always likes to be around me, makes me food, etc.
>My sex drive is now much lower after a year
>Start to hate her for no reason at all to the point I'm often passive aggressive as fuck
>She's still just as loving and caring as always
What the fuck is happening to me? She's a wonderful person and beautiful and stunning and we have similar hobbies and the sex is great, why do I hate her now?
>>17645330
Nigga, would you be interested in trading girlfriends?
>>17645350
Absopostivafuckinglutely
>>17645330
cos you're an asshole apparently.
Married, father of two, 1 and 3, one kid is in preschool, wife is a stay at home mom. House isn't maintained properly, I'm starting to majorly resent her because I feel like she's not holding up her end of the bargain. What do?
and I've tried talking to her about it, she just plays the victim and cries.
>>17645326
>maintained properly
What does this mean?
I mean, laundry, dishes, general household chores.
A friend of mine has been dating her boyfriend for about 18 months. Recently she's had a guy confess guys love to her, and she turned him down but later realized she has feelings for him.
She has some things she's dissatisfied with in her current relationship, and thinks she can work through them if she tries, but doesn't know if she wants to when she could potentially be happier with the new guy.
She feels she clicks better with the newbie and he understands her better, but doesn't know what the relationship will look like once the passion dies out.
Her current boyfriend has some issues but he's trustworthy, loyal, and generally a good guy.
What can I say to convince her that doing the hard thing, working on her relationship, is probably the better move?
You shouldn't.
Interfering will only damage your relationship with her.
>>17645294
She's asking for advice, but personally I'm a little out of my depth.
Trying a bump