So my gf went to a therapist two years ago and this faggot unearthed some hidden trauma
My gf remembered she was molested as a kid about 9 months into our relationship.
Ever since then sex has been really difficult and rare, and plagued with issues
My gf now developed vaginismus which makes her clamp shut her vagina, makes her anxious, and makes sex impossible. 1/4 times we try to have sex is successful, other times it ends in tears.
It sucks having sex only once a month as I have a very high drive.
What do I do /adv/? I just wanna get a nut bust.
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masturbate without porn
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I don't enjoy masturbating much. I only like sex.
She won't do anything sexual with me if she's not in the mood which never happens due to her anxiety
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>>17645960
dump her
she is not entitled to an inequal relationship
Recently a 'friend' of mine told everyone at my work place that we slept together. If I give a number, Facebook. Picture to meme the f out of? To ruin this person as I'm completely helpless to do anything.
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>>17645952
Why not file a complaint with a supervisor?
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>>17645954
This. He acted like a child and now you think its ok to reply him in kind? Because if you do, then you deserve what happened with that attitude
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I would've gone straight to HR but he's leaving the job and the country in three weeks.
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How To Make Time Passage Seem Slower 2016-10-07 07:42:53 Post No.17645868
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Are there ways (preferably proven/scientific) to make time passage feel slower. Time passes too fast and makes me anxious and have FOMO. Really don't like it.
What can I do to fight this?
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You're 18 or a girl?
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>>17645868
Hmmm. For me, time tends to move slower when I'm at work, laying in bed without sleeping, and doing something that's slow paced yet comfortable.
One major thing you can do is give yourself a period of meditation each day. If you're serious about this, not only will it give each day it's own significance upon reflection, but it will give you time to clear your head and adjust yourself.
My "meditative time" is each morning when I wake up, I make a cup of tea or coffee and sit in my window for about twenty/thirty minutes.
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You are gonna miss out, it's unavoidable. If you feel you're missing out too much wouldn't it be better to do something instead of posting here? Because we're all gonna kick the bucket, maybe even tomorrow, let go of feeling compelled to do something
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Instead of suicide, could I get helped for my disease that is unheard of? I know there is a cure but it's so complicated, I am home alone so IDK if I should call 911 or wait for my parents to come, then I need to go to a hospital and get help ASAP, I need to explain the complicated UNKNOWN situation to doctors and they may not believe me (which happened months ago when it was much less serious) or they take time to think and I don't have time - every hour counts, I am only here because I don't know how to proceed. No matter what I do, I have no hope of ever living a normal life again (unless doctors comply and give me the cure ASAP, within the next few days at the most)
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I'm not sure I follow. What makes your condition so special?
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>>17645846
It has never happened before to anyone else. If I eat food or do light exercise I get side effects that can't be undone. So I am not eating or moving until the end of the day, by then I hope something good will happen or I'll have to kill myself.
Please don't waste my time with questions anymore, just give some advice.
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>>17645864
Mhmm. Why aren't you explaining the specifics?
If it's so serious, why haven't you called an emergency dispatcher?
The reason we haven't "given you advice", is because you haven't provided us anything with which to give you advice on, child.
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I'm tired of wearing bucket hats but dad hats are fucking retarded. 2016-10-07 07:21:26 Post No.17645820
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I'm tired of wearing bucket hats but dad hats are fucking retarded.
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I'm a big guy, not as big as Suberbad Jonah Hill, but not as small as 2011 Jonah. Anyways, I've been wearing bucket hats for a while since they fit my head shape well and slim my face a little. Now I feel like a loser because people call me ScHoolboy, so I'm done with buckets.
So /adv/, what kind of hat should i wear.
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You could just not wear a hat
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>>17645820
Believe it or not, I have a similar issue. I'm a "big-ish" sort of motherfucker, and honestly, in my experience, hats just don't look right on me or fit on my head right.
I've actually had complete strangers tell me, "Dude that hat makes your head look tiny", or just the opposite.
My advice? Go with no hat.
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>>17645820
Fedora
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Hey guys, I'm 22 and studying marketing right now but I feels so fucking unfulfilling, that led me think about some other thinks to do based on what I like (really like space), and IT seems like a pretty good choice (Space X wants some IT guys for automated landing systems), but also considering some other engineering careers, like aviation.
Any advice on it?
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Stem fucking sucks and it's hard as shit. Just do what you're passionate about.
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>>17645802
None of it will matter in the end.
The rain falls on the just and the unjust.
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aerospace engineering m80
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Depression/symptoms/past medications 2016-10-07 07:10:07 Post No.17645797
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I never thought I'd share my thoughts on 4chan but here it goes. I think I have come to the conclusion that I may be depressed. I don't know if there's any medical diagnoses for depression, I'll have to look into to it but reading symptoms and seeing how they relate to me, I am 100% sure it could possibly diagnosed in my case at least.
I have lost interest in many things, including life. I once enjoyed playing the drums, watching MMA, listening to various types of music but it all slowly drained away. (I believe I have been suffering from some sort of depression since youth) When I was in elementary I had to take medication for school in order to pay attention in class. These pills caused me to become moody and not eat, I feel at this young age it may have triggered something in my brain to cause depression in my current years. (I stopped taking the pills and I was eating and had an outgoing attitude but for only a while). In my teens I had hard break ups which may have impacted me emotionally to now and I also feel that it could have also caused and triggered something in my brain to cause depression. To this day now I have no wanting or desire to continue living. I constantly think about dying or being shot and wonder how others would react. Only recently have j started thinking about taking my pocket knife and getting the job done. But there's something that holds me back. Could I have some type of mental issues? I want to reassure you guys that I am not socially awkward and I can socialize with people perfectly, I never had that problem although my brother does, but he does not suffer of any mood changes.
What can I do? what should I do? I don't want to feel this way but it haunts me every day more and more..
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OP here. I just wish someone could respond. At least one. If not then I guess there's nothing else to it.
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>>17645797
It's fairly unlikely for most of the common ADHD medications to cause mood disorders, the things they do in the brain only tangentially affect those processes.
But the standard advice applies: if you think you have a mental illness that needs treatment, go see a psychiatrist. Simple as that.
They're doctors, and this is what they do for a living.
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>>17645797
what is the reason you feel depressed
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How can I get my mom to leave me alone?
I don't like talking to her. Her advice is always unhelpful. The calls are boring and mostly her rambling about problems. She beats around the bush for 20 minutes until she eventually asks if I've found a girl friend or if I'm taking an anti depressant.
I don't hate her. I just don't want to associate with That part of the family.
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Well, you should talk to her about it maybe phrase it a little nicer than you did in your post, but don't be afraid to tell her you're busy.
My mom was always like this too, always calling me and "bothering" me. Now I would give anything to have her call me one last time. Appreciate your mother, if you have one that actually cares.
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Is she kill, or did you have some big fight?
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>>17645793
Yeah. She is kill
Why is school so boring? ive been in school for 9 years and the fact that i have approx 5 - 6 more years and maybe even more than that left makes me just wanna drop out. Is it even worth going to college and shit? I rarely think that what i learn there is not useful later in life at all and that its all a waste of time.
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You're in year 9 and you're going on 4chan?
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>>17645735
One, you are not supposed to use this website unless you are at least 18 years old.
Secondly, you learn shit you don't need to know as a way to expand your mind and retain and learn new information more quickly. There's a reason literally every kid asked the same question as you, yet when we become adults we don't change the education system to only be a couple of years. Once you are an adult, you would have realized this had I not just told you it.
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Yes, college is worth it. Reach as high as you can. If you don't, you'll end up with a shit lower-class job and no future prospective.
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Help with obsession with porn and really bizzare porn, how to quit, fix myself??? 2016-10-07 06:08:00 Post No.17645683
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Help with obsession with porn and really bizzare porn, how to quit, fix myself???
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>M-anon
>I am into some really weird porn that I wish i wasn't into (notably bestiality porn is the worst I look at)
>I wish I wasn't, I hate it when i think about it, I look at it from time to time, masturbate half-way through and become guilty as hell, as well as fearing I might go to jail or be sued for looking at it
>It's made me realize I have a porn addiction
>How can I overcome this
>I feel so ashamed and guilty of what I have looked at and fantasized about, I just wish I could turn back the perv. scale, or probably just drop porn outright because of this
>I'm just so anxious atm and worried
>I need some advice about quitting porn, or at the very least reducing my addiction or perv. scale way the fuck down (idk if I am being autistic or what right now, but I can't think straight atm)
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why contain it?
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>>17645693
RL bestiality porn is what I looked at, not feral toon stuff. Jokes aside, because it's wrong and it makes me feel wrong. (Not including the ironic fact I am religious and only adds to my burdening guilt complex)
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>>17645683
the way i got over my weird porn thoughts was to act them out in real life. experiencing different kinds of sex with many different women has molded my attractions to certain kinds of porn.
>>17645707
maybe try having more one night stands with women you have no emotional attraction to, and don't have to commit anything long term with. you will at least have more experience of being with another human. you will find things you liked about the date, and find things you didn't like as much. you might find it more beneficial for your well being.
whatever you do don't blame them for everything wrong in your life and end up being gay or not attracted to them at all. this is what newbie lesbians tend to do with guys. then later on in their 20s they end up being bisexual, then straight, then back to lesbian, etc. basically don't use labels and do what you do. but you need to explore your sexuality irl.
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No matter how I look at it, my girlfriend is super plain 2016-10-07 06:03:47 Post No.17645678
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No matter how I look at it, my girlfriend is super plain
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I love her, but appearance-wise, she's just super duper plain
Like, a salmon in a tank full of salmon
Dust in a museum
Water in a full water bottle
I hate myself for thinking this way, but I can't say I'm physically attracted to her. Like, I don't dislike her appearance necessarily, but it's just so completely average I can't find myself LIKING it either
How do I rid myself of these intrusive thoughts?
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Apperance? Clothinng?
U sound lustful
Then try to push her into doing this out of her comfortzone
.....or call her fat
Thsts love....
Idk she sounds skinny
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break up with her if you don't find her physically attractive. it's not her, it's you.
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this anon is on drugs
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Ok so I feel like you guys could help me the most in this situation.
So basically I'm in this Discord chat where a bunch of random people from all across the world (literally no one knows each other in real life) collaborate on a shitposting Youtube channel. It's a helluva good time and we swap memes and overall just fuck around.
So there's this particular person on the channel, let's call her Sakura, who is from Japan. They make vocaloid shit for the channel. A Korean dude on the channel called her a weeb once because she started typing in Japanese, and she acted really pissed off that he'd even suggest that. I have no evidence that this person is actually from Japan, or even a girl, but she gets on at the wildest hours, like at 1:00 AM for the North American East Coast and stays on for like the whole night. I've asked her what time it is over there at random intervals and she says the time that it is in Japan. So I think she's in Japan. We have voice chat disabled to avoid spam (theres a lot of us) so I've never heard Sakura's voice.
Which brings us to our dilemma. She sent me a random pic of her desktop and I was all confused. Then I saw the file name. It said "I_have_a_crush_on_you" and holy shit this story sounds so fake but I swear it's not.
Now, I'm basically a loser. I like video games, tabletop games n shit, and yes, anime, but I don't obsess over it like some gay Tumblr user hopped up on drugs. I've never dated a girl. I'm not unattractive, I'm just stupid and never made a move on my female friends, and I said no to the ones that were interested in me (kinda regret that).
I pm'd her and told her that I would like to get to know her as well, but I need to gather my thoughts, since it's 1 AM and I was lucid.
So what should I do, 4chan? I figured you would be the guys to ask since she's Japanese and you guys would probably like that. I haven't even asked her if she's 18 yet... She knows that I'm 19 tho.
Hopefully she looks like pic related...
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Has she seen your face? (Not familiar with discord)
Probably trolling bro it's the internet and you're literally in a chat with trolls
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There's no facecam on Discord, but I think I'll at least ask to hear her voice, or go on skype because it has a facecam. I'm not gonna fly all the way over to Japan to find this dude...
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Care to elaborate? how did it get to this point where she sent you that photo?
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should i buy a dildo? y/n 2016-10-07 05:56:13 Post No.17645659
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should i buy a dildo? y/n
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do you have any negative experiences with possible bf reactions to you owning a dildo? i dont have a bf atm but in general
do you think it ruins your vagina to use it too much?
what kind do you have or would you want? realistic or not? what size? what about pic related?
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>>17645659
I think your boyfriend would be more comfortable with a vibrator, especially if you're young
Young guys think about sex way more than older guys, so he may take offense in it, but it depends on his type
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>any negative experiences with bf
not really, I had a couple "massagers" myself, but my bf and I went to a sex shop and picked one out together that we both liked. We use it as a tool while having sex (in addition to masturbation obviously) he likes to use it on himself as well
>does it ruin your vagina
your vagina is a lot stronger than you think anon, these things are literally built to push out babies
>what kind do you have
a bunch now, my bf is a furfag so he was always kind of into the dragon dildos which are little more than a meme imo, overpriced and oversized. Personally I don't really like the realistic ones, just something vaguely phallic shaped that vibrates does it for me.
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>>17645659
They're kinda gross and distasteful. And it's just plain common sense to know that they're gonna stretch you out. Also have to think of the fact the using one gets You familiar and partial to a certain size. What if your future bf is smaller than your dildo? That would take alot of getting used to and would most likely be unpleasant. I think that using your brain and fingers is the best way to go. No disrespect tho OP.
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There's this girl in my life that I want more than anything.
We're pretty close. We change in front of each other, we spend the night with each other, we've had sex once and beyond that she's everything I want in a person. She's beautiful, treats my daughter like royalty and acts like more of a mother to her than her own mother does. The other night I fell and hit my head and she got out of bed and drove me to the hospital and sat there with me until 3 in the morning. While we were there she was going on about how she thinks we would make a good couple and such. She is kinda talking to someone and it hurts to see. I'm pretty good friends with the dude and I invited him over to hang out with us because I wanted to do something nice.
It's really hard to cope with but I just want her to be happy. I know she's into this dude and it sucks to see. I haven't told her how I felt about her, and I don't know if I plan to or not Because I don't want to ruin a good thing. What do I do?
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You deserve to be happy too, anon. Did you ever talk about your feelings with her? Why are you guys not together already?
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How do you know shes into this dude?
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We've talked about it.
Pic related, her and my daughter eating together
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Need cash fast. Around 200~
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One of my debit cards racked up a bunch of surcharges when it went into -20 and it's now sitting pretty at -138. Gas is low, I have rent due next week, and to top it all off I'm unemployed and been so for the past 4 weeks and been scraping by off my last paycheck. I now have 25 bucks to my name.
What's the best way for me to get my financial situation in check? I'm a freshman in college staying at my step-dads house. I applied to every place I could think of but no one has called me back, and have no skills/experience and can only work limited hours every week.
I need a sure fire way for me to make a decent amount of money fast and I'm pretty much at a lost here. My debts are piling up and kinda overwhelming me, so I haven't been able to really sit down and figure it out.
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Ask your step-dad for help. Be honest and tell him you don't know what to do.
Also, never just wait for a call back. Go in and ask the employees when the manager or boss will be in. When you see the manager or boss, ask them when a good time to possibly talk to them might be, if they offer to right then, then make your intentions clear right away that you are a broke college kid in need of a job.
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>>17645609
Asking step-dad is last option currently, personal issues, though I may call some family members and ask for a loan to pay my initial bill.
I got my last job turning in applications, manager sat me down and hired me right there, so I know I can get lucky hopefully. It's just that every time I asked they always told me to go online and didn't even give me a physical application. Should I really tell them I'm a broke college kid? I don't wanna come across as desperate (even though I totally am) and not get hired.
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>>17645609
>never just wait for a call back
don't listen to this anon.
companies these days have blacklists for applicants that don't know how to follow instructions.
companies that want to hire you, WILL CONTACT YOU. hassling them in their office or over the phone is only going to make your position worse.
this bullshit "go-getter" attitude used to work, maybe 15 - 30 years ago. this no longer applies.