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Business degree and then go into sports business? Sports management, sports marketing, etc.

>>17646760
The reverse just as often comes true--by making your passion your job, you learn to despise it.

>>17646762
Do you know of anyone who went into that by chance ? I have thought about it.

>>17646759
Do something useful with your life. Start volunteering, focus on your studies, or find a job you like.
Meet new friends. Socialise more - classes, hobbies, team sports, volunteering like I said.
Seek therapy if you can.

>>17646759

Usually growing older helps with teenage angst notably. Come back in a few years and let's try this again.

>>17646759
>he fell for the /fit/ meme
Every time.

>>17646715
Stop lying to yourself and move on.

>>17646722
Not lying to myself about anything. Actually the reason we broke up is that I had already moved on and fallen hard for a different person.

That said, my ex was still a close friend and I'm worried about how she's coping with a hard time in her life.

>>17646741
>Still a close friend
>Hasn't contacted you since you broke up

>>17646722

Any help is appreciated..

>>17646695

Anu particular reason why you don't have a job? Education? Ambitions? Any dreams? Also, do not push your friends any. You might feel like doing it when you're down, but once you are truly alone you will regret it.

>>17646695
If you can't take care of the kid, you could talk with her mother about putting her up for adoption.

Leave it OP. Move on. You'll only make yourself look bad if you keep trying. You did good, on to the next one.

>>17646393
She made it very clear that she's not interested in you.
Why would you want to pursue her when she said that she isn't all that attracted to you? Are you retarded?

>>17646402
Because all her body language pointed towards being interested, but and it seemed like she was lieing to herself because she wanted to give the other guy a chance. I know she doesn't want me to, but I feel like that if I just sort of be subtle she'll come back because she can't resist me.

Hey, whenever I can support a thread that isn't "how 2 git layd" and "is gurl interdasted?" I will.

For me one of the hardest things when I moved out was setting a compass direction. Basically you're whole life's been plotted out step by step and holyshitballseverythingsfuckingscary.

You're in a new environment, with infinite opportunities and you have no idea which paths lead to happiness and which lead to unhappiness. I know I felt paralyzed, like I was about to venture into a minefield. My brain said, sticking with the analogy, "I know the ground I'm standing on doesn't have any mines on it, why should I risk going on the land that might have mines?

The most helpful thing I did was just moving, which way doesn't matter that much right now, just by the act of pursuing something gets you half way there. And yeah, you'll do some stuff you won't want to do again, but most of the time you can turn back and try a different way. But if you stagnate, you're still never making it out of the minefield.

Hoped this helped anon.

Since the topic of moving out is up there, my question would be how to do so without friends.

Now, when I say this, I don't mean I have no friends whatsoever. Because of recent complications throughout life, I've had to move back and forth between two states and two parents. Originally had moved in with my mother because my dad is too strict and doesn't know how to live a life outside of his imaginary rules. Now, she's dead, all of my friends are in that state, and I'm not back to living with my father and it's causing my life to stagnate. He's so negative about anything I actually do (not the idea, he promotes that. As soon as I start doing anything, he immediately jumps to shitting on it in every way possible until I quit because he honestly just wants me to be a copy of him) that I've come to a point where I don't do anything but cook or clean, and even that pisses him off.

It's starting to seem as though until he dies and my life is fucked, I'm not going to have any freedom or actual life, and if that does happen, the only freedom I'll have is to be homeless.

Halp plz? Also have a snide older sister that minions for my father in also trying to make sure I have no social life whatsoever. Literally started dating my best friend, who was known for being a lying cheater, just to ruin our friendship and social circle. How do I know it was definitely this? She has over 2000 Facebook friends, tries to talk to all of them; networking is her life. She, by definition, would have no need or purpose of putting input on my life yet still insists on doing so every waking day, even if it produces no positive results for me and every single one for her. Literal demon.

Please help.

>>17646403
>I *am* back to living with my father
Little mistake.

oh my what do we have here.

not much you can do oh my god you dumbass

>>17646356
Yup, i'm one hellofa tard, i know. shit
Any other options besides fucking myself with a 10" dildo?

>>17646376
Options for what? I don't think you have a chance with this girl anymore, oh and get the drinking under control.

>>17646333
Can you fucking degenerates please fuck off already and stop shoving your mental illness in our face already? Kill yourself, you disgusting degenerate queer.

>>17646337
Ugh, go back to /b you are probably around 17 and hove completely no idea what or how the world goes around, or how it is to feel this way

>>17646337

I'm a straight white person, and I'd say that I'm relatively cis-gendered. Apart from quite a relaxed view on sexuality and some slightly camp mannerisms, you would imagine me your regular straight man.

Now, I have absolutely no qualms about OPs post. Asking for advice on this board seems fitting, and I really do not consider OP to be shoving anything in our face. It's simply the fact that this person exists, isn't it?

Because this person makes you feel so uncomfortable, so horrible, don't they? It's a lot easier for you to imagine this person not as a human being with feelings, but as some sort of thing that needs to be removed. See now, how you feel about the world is how you feel about yourself, and I really pity you. Not only to have these feelings, but to actively try and upset people who don't share your world view, or ruin your pretty picture of life.

If you knew, even in the slightest, about the suffering of others, about what trans people have to go through just in order to live comfortably, you might be forgiven and even feel empathy for them. You might stop being so threatened by them and start loving them for who they are, rather than behaving like a ten year old and the sheer mention that someone isn't cis-male or cis-female.

Like I said, I'm a straight white relatively cis-male from a conservative family, and I'm all for encouraging trans participation in everything. I don't see why you have to be so full of hatred, but then again I suppose you're quite scared to leave 4chan and go out into the big wide world.

You're the real degenerate here, and I wish you'd stop shoving your agenda in our faces.

alcohol helps

>>17646331
>I didn't sleep more than 3 hours in 3 days
Well this is definitely a problem. Even if you're the most social butterfly on the planet you're not going to feel good enough to socialize if you're that sleep deprived.

You should probably not go to this because you're going to be a zombie from having not slept very much. Just explain that to your friends later and that you'd like to go to the next party and they'll be cool with it. They're likely to have another party down the road.


It's completely natural to be nervous about meeting somebody for the first time. I say this so you don't interpret that part as crippling social anxiety. And it's totally natural for them to be nervous about meeting new people too so don't take any distance from them initially as a bad sign. They've just met you.

Uh don't really obsess over the topic you want to talk about. Just the fact that you're talking to them about anything will be a good first step no matter what it is. They'll be glad you're at least trying with them. As you get more comfortable talking to them in general you'll begin to feel more comfortable to talk about more deep meaningful things with them. Don't worry about freezing up and running out of things to say. Even for somebody with ridiculous social anxiety like me that isn't an issue when I actually get around to conversing with them. Really you'll find it easy to keep chaining the conversation into other thing and finding more talking points the more you go along in the conversation.


Can't really get much better at dancing in one night so i'd say probably no.
Drink enough to where you're more social and fun to be around, don't drink too much and get messed up. Not a good idea for you to be messed up like that especially around other drunk people.

Try to approach a group. The feeling of being accepted into the conversation by all of them will make you feel more confident in being accepted by people there.

>>17646352
>You should probably not go to this
I feel the same way. But at the same time I fear if I'm not doing this now, it'll be the same thing next time it happens, IF I ever get invited to something ever again.

>Try to approach a group.
How do I do this? Do I just stand close and then chime in on a conversation they have? Or do I just walk in and introduce myself?

Thank you for the advice so far!

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Is pus coming from the piercing itself? Can you take out the jewelry?

>>17646248
Kill it before it lay eggs.

>>17646255
No pus from the actual piercing its just on top but I think I can take it out. Is there a way to save the piercing?

And how do I fix my sleep schedule? I'm tired of refreshing 4chan when everyone is asleep when I'm still up.

In the simplest terms: It's a phase.

You're still depressed but you're reaching the tail end of your depression which could mean your depression started because of some major event that happened in your life, correct me if I'm wrong?

You're starting to get your life back on track and so everything is starting to feel dull and repetitive. Try to take up a new hobbie. Maybe read some books you're not usually interested in reading. See where you go from there.

>>17646139
>reaching the tail end of your depression

Pretty much. A year ago, I thought I was trans and actually did take hormones for two months before I stopped due to financial reasons. Depression worsens due to hormonal imbalance and thinking I had gender identity dysphoria. Tried to commit suicide multiple times, but ultimately couldn't do it.

Then, I got laid and realized I look attractive and giving up my male body would be a waste. In fact, I don't really think about trans related stuff anymore.

Anyway, I'm not really depressed anymore, I guess. Like you said, everything does feel a bit dull and repetitive, but the one thing that gets me going are my grades. I'm doing so well academically and it feels infinitely better than before when my grades were dropping due to depression a year ago.

I'm an only child, but I know a group of siblings, 1 boy and 3 girls. The eldest girl was never as close to her younger 3 siblings. The younger 3 were always very close and very similar in personality. Even today, they're in their mid 20s to mid 30s, the eldest one is still not close. She lives alone on the east coast while the younger 3 live together in one house on the West coast. They seem to have a clique and don't give a thought to the eldest, I believe, and don't really seem to put great effort in including her.

I'm not in their family and don't know how they really feel, but it probably sucks for eldest.

>>17646023
I am prepared to bet that at their darker moments each of your sisters thinks she is the odd one out and mother prefers you.

This is ordinary family dynamics.

>>17646116
I don't think so. When siblings have cliques, they know whose in the clique. The favored child or children is also obvious. No one seriously thinks, "oh maybe I'm secretly in my own special clique and I'm the favorite:3"

Careful with what moves you make next OP.

For all you know she could be doing this to flip things on you and hurt your feelings.If you do decide to go forward with making moves, take things slow... Like, turtle speed slow. Start off with pulling her hand (while holding it) up to your lips and kissing her hand. It sounds cheesy as shit, but girls go for that type of shit. See where it goes from there.

>>17646107
I considered that too, but she's been telling me extremely personal problems and shit like that.

Also that's too late, I got drunk at a small party and she was there. I grabbed her thighs and ass and she seemed to enjoy it. She certainly didn't stop me. I just think I could be so friendzoned that she thinks if me as basically gay

>>17646119
>I could be so friendzoned that she thinks if me as basically gay
no you're just her rescueboat in case that her relationship sinks

>>17645966
Move in together.

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hold the fuck on to her.
I have a similar situation only difference is me and her have been apart far far far too long.
when love comes knocking on your door you hold the fuck on to it, not everyone is so lucky as to actually get a response from there beloved so you just hold on to it while you can. for some of us, the dream died so you keep it alive buddy. the best of luck.
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>>17645966
Disregard the opinions of your friends and family. Unless they express options on her having a negative effect on the rest of your life, fuck them. If this person gives you the emotional support you been socially and emotionally, then fun your stupid friend s