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it's probably because you're jealous. when you find out someone is far more popular and successful than you imagine, it comes as a shock, and you feel insecure as a result. another good reason is that you start to feel that if she has so much good stuff in her life, why would she care about you?

been through stuff like this, one of my first gfs was way more popular and well liked by everyone, and it made me pretty weird and insecure around her

best advice would be to just keep it cool, and don't take her social standing so seriously..it's really not that important at the end of the day. if you like her, continue being interested

>>17664854
Not op but still thanks, I really needed that

OP here cant reply to people for some reason but
>it's probably because you're jealous
no
>successful than you imagine, it comes as a shock, and you feel insecure as a result
more like it, because shes the first person that made me feel wanted and showed some signs that she liked me even though i ignored them fearing i might be other thinking and i just thoughts she has no social life like me so that also.
>another good reason is that you start to feel that if she has so much good stuff in her life, why would she care about you?
definitely
but yeah i'll see how it goes.

Other than leaving her all you can really do is try to figure out exactly what drivers her decision not to have sex.

Most of the time it's years of sexual repression and shame, which means she really can be quite freaky if you get past this barrier

As to the concept of waiting till marriage itself you could argue it as ultimately demeaning to women rather than respectful.

You either deal with it or break up. There's no getting around this

Listen to something like the "My Dad Wrote a Porno" podcast together and make sex not seem so serious.

>>17664787

I regret settling.

I initially had a bad gut feeling about settling. Shoulda have listened to my gut.

But your dick kinda overrules when there's a naked woman on your bed waiting for you when you get out of the shower.

Depends, theres a difference between settling and compromising in my book.
Life is full of compromise, if you wait for that perfect "the one" type person, well you're going to miss out on a lot of life son. No 2 people match perfectly, you have to pick your battles and overlook some things, and in turn they will be doing the exact same thing with you. Compromise is fine, it's just another part of life.

Settling however, id when you have almost nothing you like about them. They're a 3/10 at best, you have next to nothing in common, and you're just taking them because they offered and you're done looking. Settling will only leave you hollow and with a shit miserable life, because it will end eventually when you get sick of one another. With that in mind, you're better off alone. But that still a rather miserable existence in my book. Just slightly less so than settling.

>>17664806
Not OP but none of the women I meet are available or interested except for a couple every now and again. They all lose interest and "ghost" me eventually. I'm convinced that no woman has ever truly liked me and were just latching onto me temporaririly because the guy they wanted was not meeting an emotional want of theirs.

There's been maybe a couple women who liked me for real but I wasn't physically attracted to them in the slightest so I declined. I am pretty convinced that I will either die alone or that I will have to wait a very long time before I find someone who meets my standards *and* is interested in me as well.

>>17664725

move out?

It's simple


Steal the catto

Move out of your moms house first of all you fking manchild. But second of all it's your cat and you need to lay down the law. Maybe get a spray bottle for when your mom misbehaves? And get some treats for when her fat ass is good. That's how I trained my mom to behave around animals at least.

>I more than once came up with philosophical concepts and shit before I knew they existed

Oh right so, you 'came up with philosophical concepts' that have existed for hundreds of years before you even knew about them. Think about it, these ideas have permeated culture, they are embedded in our daily lives. What I mean to say is, most people can make that claim because the ideas are ALREADY FUCKING THERE.

THINK ABOUT ALL THE MEDIA YOU HAVE CONSUMED CONSTANTLY THAT WILL INFLUENCE YOU, AND NOT IN A LITERAL WAY BUT IN A MORE SUBTLE, SUBCONSCIOUS WAY.

Also, there is no such thing as originality.

>there is an objective truth, because we cant and will never see it doesnt mean we shouldn't strive for it

So;

>there is a god, because we cant and will never see it doesnt mean we shouldn't strive for it

You need to learn to write or communicate your ideas better for a start.

And I think a person is inherently subjective.

tl;dr - just because you feel something doesn't make it true in the slightest. Shut up.

>>17664716
>>17664794
Listen to this guy OP

You didn't come up with these concepts, you absorbed them by osmosis from movies and books and listening to people talk and tangentially reference them

Yeah you may be smarter than average, but some are billions of other people

If you can't apply your knowledge in a technical real-world way then you are not intelligent. Intelligence is being able to manifest the innards of your mind as real world effects.

>I think that you might think I might be highly narcissistic

Honestly, OP, I don't think anything about you at all.

>>17664695
Take the wheel?
>derp

>>17664699
Hes not the happiest individual when drunk. He's probably just yell and say no.

>>17664699
Plus can't drive.

Get fit for your own health, not to impress women. Be funny and fit, proceed to win at life.

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>>17664662
but do you get pussy or

Nigger i workout because it makes me healthier, happier, and more proud of myself. Has nothing to do with women.

>>17664636
Because you're doing what you want to, which is probably giving off an aura of confidence.

>>17664642
Could also be the hair... I don't know

>>17664642
Literally how? I'm still as autistic as it gets and do all my beta hobbies, I just thought that my looks will always be terrible, even if I try to look as fashionable as possible, my face etc. will always be ugly, so I wanted to be as comfy as possible while forcing myself to do something in life.

I'm moving out on the weekend, but I'm not suffering I just want my own apartment.

> Also, how much of my income should I spend on rent?
Something like a quarter or a third of your income after tax, depends on the area.

Landlords is required to provide "white goods" like fridges, at least where I live.
Do you really need food storage? where can you find a house without cupboards.

Anyway here's some... scissors, lamp shades, conditioner, bleach, salt/pepper, pizza tray.

If you can't even afford power, borrow a pile of books from the library if you can do that in your country.

You're going to want a lot more cleaning supplies for starters. Outside of the shit you need to replenish frequently, like soap, toilet cleaner, shit like that, you're gonna want a vacuum, mop and broom, trash cans, etc. Especially since you'll likely live in a cheap shit hole that's gonna be filthy.
If you don't have access to a washing machine/dryer, you'll want to look into that. Laundomats will eat up your money quickly.
You'll want to invest in some safety items, such as a fire extinguisher if it's not provided for you, a rudimentary first aid kit with the basics, and some basic shit like candles/flashlights.

Also, protip, don't sweat your electricity too much. I'll tell you, I've got 3 people living in my house, and 90% of our monthly electric bill is running the AC. In the summer, our bill is in the $200 range. In the spring and fall, it's like $50 because we just open windows and allow ourselves to be slightly uncomfortable (In the winter our gas bill spikes). If you want to save money on bills, sweat or shiver it out. (Keep in mind depending on where you live, in the winter you can't just shut your heat off all together because then your pipes will freeze and you will have a bad time.)

>>17664632
>mattress

just get a futon.
a lot cheaper and the quality difference is marginal.

>computer

You expect me to believe you typed out all of this on your phone?

>somewhere to put clothes

that's called a dresser
You probably don't need one though, if you are planning on going really frugal

>what am I missing?

A table.

>sketchbook

Pencils.

>What is good for entertainment that is cheap and non electronic? (books are expensive so no)

m8, you sound plain retarded.

I don't know what is up with you and non electricity, but it is unbelievably stupid.

I would recommend learning an instrument, but that requires the internet(and therefore electricity) to learn via online tutorials.
And if you ever want to actually do something with your music, like posting it online, then you will still need electricity.

Other than that, art is pretty much your only other option.

I'm not even going to finish writing this shit. This i s just toa mucha

>>17664581
Don't be a cunt

>>17664586
how, you make that sound simple

>>17664589

stop being cunty?

stop being a recluse?

stop looking at people weird?

although if you're an aussie, you'll always be a cunt m8, there isn't no rectifying that tragedy.

donno why the fuck I wrote pol I never go there (I swear I'm a leftist)

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how many times do u see porn?

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>>17664523
>I never go there (I swear I'm a leftist)

You never go there except for work,shill? right?
I'm right.
Your typing is exactly the same as all the Shill threads.

you have to develop your personality/talents to the point that strangers would care

>>17664478

post pictures of cute girls and pretend you're them.

>>17664478
It won't raise your self esteem at all I promise. It just turns into a competitive thing

I don't see why not

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Yeah dude go for it.

>>17664460
>Should I tell my friend that I want to have sex with her? We're not particularly close or anything,

Bad idea, at least add some subtlety first.
Don't just bust out "DAYUMN GIRL, I would... I would. Keep doing dem squats girl cuz I'd deffo hit that".

Ask if she's got a boyfriend.
>She says "no"?
"Why not, you're cute?"
>She says yes
"Lucky guy, how did he manage to get a girl like you?"

Boom, you've just shown interest, she knows she's hot shit, and you've managed it all without going turbo-spergo and creeping her out (too much).

>>17664448
>sort of a fat fetish and that she masturbates a lot thinking about fattening me up.


Invite her for a drink then if she accepts that offer invite her over to yours for pizza and cake.

Honestly, she sounds a bit crazy. Don't stick it in crazy.

>>17664459
Odds are that she'd be the one to invite ME over.

>>17664466
I know she's a bit loose but she's medicated and sees a shrink. No pets, only a few tasteful tattoos. Like, light coke -crazy.

Stand your ground laws only exist in certain states. Those laws basically allow gun/weapon owners to KILL attackers if they are actively posing a threat to their life.

Regardless of whether or not it exists in your state, I would absolutely pull a knife on an attacking group if it means saving my life.

>>17664424
Ok I knew the stand your ground laws but I wasn't attempting to kill just a stab to stop them or a good cut or something. I hear a lot of stories of people surviving stabbings and shit so I wasn't assuming death.

But no I live in New York so no stand your ground

>>17664430
>New York

Kill them and dump the body. Im dead serious. You're better off trying to get away with it than not trying. You'll go to prison either way, so might as well go balls deep.