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I made the mistake of being calm and saying that I missed him when one of the two people who ghosted me came back. He then blocked and unfriended it was the most infuriating thing ever. To all the anons who are being ghosted: if they come back, tell them to go fuck themselves

>>17664570
it always make me laugh when they come back. Like nigga you ignored my texts and messages for a month and you expect me to forget about it 6 months later?
how stupid can people be lol

>>17664598
See, these motherfuckers unfriended and blocked me in august, and a month later one came back, and gave me two word responses. "You guys missed my birthday" "oh, interesting". I should have told him "Next time, cut deeper, maybe you'll do something right in your life for once." Maybe that's a bit harsh but there's some other background shit to it

no, but if she comes back to you then you bring it up. otherwise just ignore and move on

Nah, you'll tire yourself out doing that in the flake generation and look like a vindictive dumbass.

Move on to the next one.

>>17664484

its kinda shitty, but she was shitty to. id imagine its too late to do it unprovoked, but if it comes up in a cohesive way, let her have it.

Umm unless poorfag means something more than just "poor" the two best options would probably be spending less or earning more money.

>>17664410
Go to college and get a degree and if you can't do what I did by quit being a pussy and work dangerous hard ass manual labor jobs. Most factories have jobs that start out at $15 bucks an hour and work 4 days on and 4 days off. Save money then go to college while working the 4 days off.

>>17664410
Social mobilty is a fucking lie.

>>17664400
tell her she fucked up and is a slut. Can't really blame her tho, ldr are bullshit and don't work

>>17664416
yeah i know it I've told her she fucked upand she has admitted to cheating before (her BF was her 1st love) but she keeps asking what to do specifically because she's never been through anything like this and I feel Im giving her useless advice
now she wants a relationship with this guy but without the commitment bec she "loves him" after 1 night with this guy but also doesn't want to be with him. from what I've been told he wants a causal thing and doesn't seem interested so how do I break it to her that maybe this guy was using her for sex

I don't have any advice just wanted to say I'm in a similar situation as you op.
I work woth this girl and we aren't close by any means but we get along fine. I usually get a lot of people confiding in me for some reason and she started asking me for advice. So she's been married for 6 years and while their relationship was the most intense love she's ever experienced that spark has long since worned off. She feels unloved because they're both very busy with their own lifes and she said at this point she feels like she's roommates with her brother. So apparently a month ago she ended up having a one night stand with one of our co workers. She thought he was incredibly sexy and just wanted to have sex but she found her self wanting to spend more time with him. He's acted as if nothing has happened and has shown zero interest in her when he puts herself out there and she said it's driving her mad. She can't figure out why he doesn't want her and I honestly don't even know what to tell her

She's probably not cheating- if she were she wouldn't tell you she talks to him. I think they're just friends. Friends talk a lot. I wouldn't worry about it. If you ask her to stop you're giving the relationship the kiss of death. People hate being told what to do.

What are they talking about?

Honestly tell her it makes you uncomfortable. If she doesn't change her behavior, clearly she doesn't care enough about your feelings and may not be worth dating. The fact that she's doing it all the time while you're around is pretty rude and uncaring IMO. I would NEVER sit there and text other guys when I'm spending quality time with my boyfriend.

I just booked my doctors appointment. They can't get me in until one day after my big assignment is due. So by the time the school can actually help me it'll be too late.

What's a shit show of a semester this is. I really can't handle it. No one else seems to be having this much trouble....

>>17663563
Trust me, I'm having this much trouble too. I went to my third counseling appointment a couple days ago and my counselor is pretty convinced that I'm severely depressed, and I would agree with that. I don't want to because I hate feeling like or acting like a victim, and I know I should just take care of my own shit but I really do agree. This was supposed to be the semester I turned things around but I'm failing three classes and had to withdraw from one. I broke down today and cried for the first time in years. Everything seemed to spiral out of control faster than I could even realize things were going slightly more wrong than usual. I wanna stay positive but I'm not really sure if there's hope for people like us.

>>17663582
I really don't want to have to drop/retake classes. I'll be severely disappointed in myself if I do.

I don't even know if this is what I do anymore. The work has me stressed and miserable. I feel no real passion toward it. I'm not sure if it just isn't for me, or of my anxiety is getting in the way of me enjoying it.

If this isn't what I want to do, idk what else I'd would do with my life. This is what I thought I wanted since I was 12. I have literally nothing else I'd want to do if this doesn't work out.

>>17663011
Yeah man, I know how you feel. It's gone in stages for me.

Recently I met a really great, attractive, compatible girl who made it known that she wanted to spend a lot of time with me, and I committed some pretty intense self-sabotage. Just the idea of someone like her actually caring for me was so weird to me. And she tried multiple times, too. She really did try to let me know she cared about me, but I couldn't accept it and felt like she would end up not being satisfied with me for some reason.

I would say don't cancel with this girl, but see how you feel when you're actually around her. See where things go with her. For me, with this last girl, I realized that I have some personal issues I need to work out before I try and get anyone else involved in my life. Here's to hoping that you're better than me.

>>17663209

It is really confusing. A few years ago I was out with a girl I really like and really cared about there was a point our faces were really close, and we were looking into each other's eyes, I wanted to kiss her so badly, but I knew I didn't deserve her kiss. She's too perfect. I wouldn't have deserved it. she knew I had some issues with anxiety, but still cared for me. But even tho I liked her so much I couldn't accept it. After time she found a better guy.. that was years ago but I still think about her.

The girl I'm suppose to date tonight, I already canceled. Its better I don't even waste her time..

>>17663248
That's tough to hear man. It was similar with the girl I'm talking about, but even worse really. She was bold enough to make the first move with me, and we actually made out a couple times. She actually wanted to have sex with me, and was basically begging me to do it. But I got anxious and told her I had to go. Even then, she wanted me to stay the night and just cuddle and stuff but I was too embarrassed at that point. We hung out a couple more times over the next few weeks, and I had her in my bedroom alone several times, but I couldn't do anything. I just couldn't make a move, even though I really liked her.

If you're like me, chances are people have told you several times that you're a nice/good person. Maybe you even have some pretty good friends that you know care about you. But for some reason, none of it feels "real", and you can't believe it.

If that's the case, I don't know what to tell you. I don't know what happened to people like us that makes us feel like we're so fucked up and unworthy of love when people keep trying to tell us that we are worthy and give it to us

>>17662879
I've talked to her about it, and it's reaching the point I'm afraid to continue to do so. The conversation always devolves in one of three ways

She either decides it's a hormonal issue then refuses to see a doctor because she doesn't want proof it's not a hormonal issue

Or she decides I only loved her for the sex. If that were true I would have left a year ago - she's smart, nice, caring, and shares my interests -- the sex was just a REALLY important part of my life that was taken away pretty unexpectedly

Or she promises to improve then never does

She has even pretended like she's taking steps towards improving sometimes. Almost a year ago on my birthday I received sex coupons. Things like "will wear whatever outfit you choose for 24 hours", or "will insert whatever object you choose", etc. However after 6 months of trying to use the coupons I gave up. Literally every time she said "not now", or "I'm not in the mood", or "I can't believe you're asking this of me"

I ultimately ended up throwing those coupons away. What good is a useless birthday present? It upset me more just to keep it around

>>17662880
I guess my primary goal is to understand if this pattern is normal for women: Intense curiosity, interest, and sexual experimentation at a young age (15-22) followed by a complete reversal and lack of interest.

I suspect it might be judging from what limited view of the world I have. Some random evidence:

>18 year olds have just moved out of the house and are stereotypically prone to drunk sex with strangers
>Every girl I knew in high school read smut novels and talked about sex
>Most girls I talk to now have stories about experimenting sexually with their house pets or dolls, but no longer participate in those activities
>Many anime, books, and movies suggest that "at that age" girls are willing to fuck anything that moves, with the age often left vague
>Men complaining that their wife lost interest in sex is a common and huge complaint
>Teenage pregnancy is on the rise even though marriage and gender roles are on the way out among college and post-college adults

Women this day and age are whores. This is why you find a nice Asian to settle down with because they have some self respect and dignity.

How long have you been a doctor?

I recently found a couple yellow spots on a few places on my body, there is no other discoloration anywhere else on my body. They're not bruises because they don't hurt but I'm kind of freaking out. What are they?

>>17662777
3 years

>>17662783
Need to see them to have a vague clue.

Don't do drugs if you're a hypochondriac.

>>17662556
I wouldn't say I'm a hypochondriac per sey, I just think about killing myself and the inevitably of death alot and it stresses me out a bit.
I smoke weed currently and drink alot with nothing terrible happening.

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>>17661556
>Future mother of my children
Tone it down plz it's creepy

>>17661588
This.

I didn't even read past that because I just thought "Jesus, he's already fucked."

>>17661556
Have no expectations as these things don't always go so well. Don't look at it as trying to seal a deal, focus on enjoying yourself. If you click you click

>suicide note

It's not that it' won't be read, it's that it will go in one eye and out the fucking other

Caroline,

My memories of you are sweet as honey. Seeing you stirred up a lot for me. I didn't realize, but I still love you... Not selfishly. I know you have a life to live far away. But I wish I could have said more...

C

Wish I knew why you were so heartless.

moaning is not staged bullshit

I'm a virgin too, but putting a finger there feels pretty damn good.

>>17660802
I refuse to believe that.

i have a job, i'm good at what i do. but i hate it. i can't go a week without having a anxiety shitshow with myself. I want to leave everything behind and travel. but i don't think i have the balls to do something so different.

>>17659578
i have to go to my cbt-therapy session in one and a half hours and i have accompished nothing we talk about in our earlier sessions and the reson i go to the meeting is to relive stress and held get rid of my GAD but it only makes me more anxious and i feel so worthless i just wanna jump of a roof fuck i don´t know what to do

>>17659586
I know this feeling. Just wantinh to quit, but being scared of ending up in a worse place. Part of this fear comes from lacking a base to return to. Having few friends and no so makes you scared of losing the little social company and friends you have at work.

Do you ignore compliments?

>>17665669
Kinda

>>17665666

Whenever someone criticizes you, subvocally say to yourself "No matter what you say or do to me I'm still a worthwhile person.".
Also convince yourself that if you can not take it when others are disliking you then you do not like yourself enough not to care whether others are liking you.
If you liked yourself enough then it would not matter if others disliked you, because you would be liked by the most important person in your life, you.