Let's get her started. /Love/ General allows your random questions about relationships, how to get them, how to get out and how to improve and ready yourself for the long stick of pain that is love.
Already this general has cut down on the number of random threads involving: Does she like me? How do I talk to her? What does this mean? Ect.
You're in good hands anon.
I'm not sure mine applies to that section. Might do but I'm not sure.
>>17674266
What is it anon?
>>17674275
If you look for my post on this page it has a blonde guy who looks like a trap. I am just having a bit of confusion about attraction and that sort of thing.
>couldn't get hard having sex with girl, we did other things that made her happy
>jerk off everyday
>haven't been with anyone in like 3 years
What other things can I do besides not jerking off (I'm planning not to jerk off anymore) will help me?
Take up a hobby like martial arts or some other form of physical exercise as it will both keep you healthy and fit with the added benefit of learning and improving a skill. Other things could be music, films etc etc learn to be creative or if it comes down to it you could always take up an anti-masturbation religion lol.
Not getting hard has nothing to do with how many rounds you have in the the cylinder.
It's about nerves.
You were anxious to have sex for the first time in 3 years. Huge pressure.
You need to chill. Ironically, there is a specific amount of whisky you can drink to help.
Or you can chill in other ways.
More pressure, the less your dick wants to perform
>>17674245
That too but hobbies are also good
I am going to be quick with this to keep it simple. Recently I have felt attraction to another guy. He's a famous..ish musician called Yohio. I have listened to his music and all the rest of it for a while now but only now all of a sudden felt anything towards him. At the moment I am still quite confused about my feelings. Is there any way to confront my feelings and try to understand what exactly they are. I'm not a very emotionally open or expressive person nor do I generally feel much for anyone and I think this is probably why I am so confused as of now. Thanks in advance.
Picture related
Can anyone give me some advice?
he looks like a female. Are you attracted to traps?
>>17674285
Kinda but generally no. I never really saw much in them to be honest, never interested me. This guy I just happened to like for his music and pretty cool attitude.
so I accidentally copied ten thousand images into the same folder, and the duplicate files have (1) after the file name.
I bought a new macbook and I'm trying to filter out the (1), by putting it in the search tab but it INCLUDES BOTH THE FUCKING DUPLICATE AND ORIGINAL FUCKING FILE.
I HAVE BEEN DELETING SHIT FOR 20 MINUTES AND I CANT TAKE THIS SHIT NO MORE, I PUT (1) IN THE FUCKING SEARCH OPTION IN FINDER BUT IT STILL LISTS THE FUCKING ORIGINAL HOW THE FUCK DO I GET RID OF ALLL THIS SHIT FUCK THIS MACBOOK
THE FINDER IS IGNORING THE FUCKING PARENTHESIS HOW THE FUCK IS THIS EVEN ALLOWED ON A FUCKING OS SYSTEM
Sort by date of creation maybe?
>>17674181
On one hand I'd love to see you suffer, on the other you could probably right click, open terminal at that location and just do something like rm -r ./*(1) or something like that.
I don't know what to do with my life
>Long distance relationship of 4 years with a married woman
>Best friend I've ever had in my life. We love spending time together so much, we love each other deeply and can talk for hours about nothing, love spending time together. Love having sex. Love everything.
>But it's falling apart due to stress and mistrust from the distance and situation
>I still feel a true connection as if she's my soulmate, she claims to also
>We've been trying to split up for about a year but both of us can't manage it fully
I don't know what to do. Two options:
>Just leave her and stop fucking another guy's wife. Get real, he might kill me, I'm being an asshole, she's a cheater, move on and find my own girl
>She's literally my soulmate and it would be a tragedy of both of our lives if we were to give up on each other for good
Which is it. God help me
You dont date the woman who's cheating on her husband man, you know well she will do the same to you when you are in his place
>>17674151
Thank you.
>>17674138
Fuck this soul mate bull shit. I don't believe in it. In my opinion I would be extra careful around a girl that's cheating in her husband because the likely scenario is she would do the same to you. I think you should fuck as many bitches as possible to get over her.
Feel free to laugh at me, but I could use some advice right now.
I'm a 32 year old loser from a shit ghetto trying to fix his life, attending university. Will finish in the next 3 semesters. Still live at parents, together with my sister who is 22.
2 semesters ago, I landed in a class with a 20 year old grill and well,... I was really attracted to her but of course I never talked to her and avoided her at all costs. The things is: She is friends with one of my sisters friends and that way I basically got to know that she apparently was asking for me. She also gives me shy looks whenever I see her in a hallway etc. I'm scared of landing in the same class with her.
I basically want some solid advice on how to adjust myself emotionally in order to ignore her. Not look at her. Not think about her. I just want to keep my mind free of this.
Is this retard serious? You diagonally across from her so that you don't see her that easily. That way if you do look, you will have to look past a bunch of people and be awkward.
Focus on the class you bum besides a girl like that wouldn't be interested in a guy like you. Get real.
You don't. You're human. If you feel that way about someone, the only way is to avoid contact. Which, it sounds like you might not be able to do. So to mitigate in the mean time, minimize contact. Don't sit near here if you land in a class. Maybe change your route a bit if you consistently pass by each other, shit like that.
As an aside: as someone likely to become a wizard and die alone, fuck you for squandering an opportunity like that.
>>17674051
Thanks. I needed that.
/biz/ seems too wrapped up talking about other shit at the moment, so I guess Ill ask here as well.
>Okay, so this is kinda /biz/ related I suppose. Im sure most people at least somewhat well versed in business know that the big boys at the top are all very effective speed readers. Whats the best way to go about learning this skill? Ive done a little research, but it would seem that most programs are locked behind a fucking paywall.
>tl;dr
>Redpill me on speed reading.
I'm quite a fast reader so I can offer you what I think.
I'm no expert nor am I any sort of teacher.
But here goes.
Anyways, the bottom line is learning how to see words not as groups of letters but as single units.
It starts with basic words like "the" "and" "to" and all pronouns.
You don't see each letter, you see the whole word as one thing.
When you can do that, you can filter them out and see only verbs and nouns.
If you can do that, you can read a whole page in a few seconds.
That's the bottom line. Letters are for children. Words are how you actually read.
On a side note, you can find speed reading programs that flash words at you, so you can learn how they look quickly.
>>17674064
Yeah, thats kind of what i was reading, and watching on youtube. What website or whatever can I go to that does this? Also out of curiosity, about how fast can you read wpm wise?
>>17674089
Googling says that "Spritz" is a thing, but it doesn't seem to line up with what I'm saying.
That seems to derive reading speed by aligning words and reducing the amount of eye movement.
I'm talking about more seeing the entire word and then page as a unit to be understood.
I can't really tell you how many wpm I read, but I can read 100+ pages an hour if I'm just reading for fun and paying attention
Is a skinnier girl automatically more attractive, all other factors being the same?
Fuck no. A girl with muscle and some meat on her (not fat but has some shape) is better than skinny. I dated skinny girls and they don't do it for me.
Depends on how fat the other is. I'd prefer normal over skinny, and almost anorexic over fat
>>17674012
Which factors? Cause skinny ones have small tits and asses, so there's that.
Also, how fat on the other side?
When you bring an awesome girl on a first date, end up meeting your friends out, and she likes your more attractive friend than you.
I don't even know how to explain my feels ;(
you look for another whore if you want to fuck
Move on to another girl.
>>17674024
Even though it was first date we were talking for a while. Everything was going good it just seemed like she was way more interested in him than me.
This is hard for me to take
what do I do, I don't want to be lonely yet almost every chick I've met doesn't want to be with me or I was too late to the punch, I'm too afraid to ask girls out because i know they're gonna reject me. What do I do?
You do nothing. If you are too scared to ask girls out then continue being lonely. Eventually you will be so fed with you being a pussy that you will approach them.
If there is no downside to getting rejected I don't see why not try. I mean if she isnt in your social circle its not like you will see her much anyways
>>17674002
People get rejected all the time dude. Guys get rejected. Girls get rejected. I've been rejected a shitload of times. You can't control that shit. You have no control over other people. Like a girl? Ask her out. Wanna get coffee? No? Ok thanks anyway, bye. Next.
Make it a game. Let's see how many times we can roll the dice and ask a girl out. How many rejections can we rack up? Oh this girl's not into me? Not my fault. Can't control that shit. Next.
I have no clue how to express my negative emotions. Whenever I'm depressed or angry I can't talk to anyone about it and my brain just shuts off whenever I try to talk to my parents or anyone about how I feel. Anyone here dealt with this or have any strategies to deal with this problem?
See a therapist, we don't fix broken people.
I just play pokeemen
I'm with you on that.
I don't express myself negatively.
Some kind of old residual childhood programming.
My MO is to repress it for months until something slight triggers the avalanche and I cry over something stupid.
Though, the thing that's helped me the most is having good bros that I can talk to.
Like I lose a job or a girl dumps me. I just shoot the shit with them and be like "Man, I'm so fucking bummed about X" and they're all like "Yep, that sucks".
That seems shallow but it helps.
my boyfriend is a complete douche. he broke his ankle and is taking out all his anger out on me and his family. it pisses me off. i think he needs to stop being a pussy and man up. i mean, it's not the end of the world. he will be able to walk again soon, and I tell him that but he doesn't seem to believe me. i care for him, give him advice, and i tell him that i love him but nothing seems to cheer him up. he's always in a shitty mood. what am i supposed to do about it?
>>17673987
Go out somewhere and find someone to cheat on him with if you haven't already. He is clearly a retard and you should find a real man.
>>17674004
Wtf is wrong with you?
Stop talking to him so much and give the guy space. Let him heal in piece without you constantly yammering in his ear.
I just can't stand life anymore. Every day, except for a few things, feels horrible. I'm almost crying right now, and I'm a "serious guy" for others.
I just understood too much. I feel I know way too much in human nature. I can see human selfishness EVERYWHERE. In my family, friends, TV, street, JUST EVERYWHERE. I can't stand it anymore. And just a few hours ago, a "friend" told my friends in our Whatsapp group that I tried to "steal" his girl a few months ago. He is lying, but the others don't believe me. On monday, when I go back to school (I'm 17), they'll all treat me like shit. But even without all of this, I just feel depressed going to school, seeing the same superficial people, hearing the same bullshit everyday. I can't stand it. This torture is worst than dead. I feel depressed at least half the day, everyday. I'm already going to a terapist and a psychiatrist, but they can't help me. Again, I know too much.
I believe in a "God", as something that created the Universe and its physical laws, but I don't believe that this God has morals, or cares about us. Hell, I don't even think he is a "concious" being.
I'm seriously considering suicide. The only thing stopping me from doing it is my family. I don't want to hurt them, but I can't stand this shit anymore.
Help me, please.
Uh here's a bump for you
Have you found national socialism yet? In a national socialist utopia, no one is selfish because everyone cares about their own and everyone else is their own. I'm also 17 and I would also be very depressed if it wasn't for this dream I have of freeing the world
>>17673967
I believe in natural laws, not "magical" stuff. Nazis were right in that, but I won't join a movement like that. A political party won't change human nature, nor the nature of the world. I learned that a long time ago.
>tfw every single girl I know likes my best friend more than me
>tfw in a constant state of jealousy of him, even girl I like is crazy for him.
Should I just an hero
>>17673952
Why do you think that is?
>>17673952
Kill your friend, im sure the girls will settle for second best.
>>17673955
He's better looking, funnier and more charismatic than me. I have crippling social anxiety and depression.
>tfw you want to breakup because she is not reciprocrating your love anymore, but deep down you know you'll never get another girl as beautiful as she
Seriously, this feeling is worse than >tfw no gf
Just beat the shit out of her. She'll either start to love you like the little whore she is or she will leave you. Win/win
How attractive are we talking about? Bombshell 9/10 who you can't believe is interested in you or just cute?
>>17673965
Fat busty 8/10 face
I like fatties, so its not really a negative for me, but even then I doubt I'll get another hamplanet as attractive as her, because i'm a fucking disgusting fat balding little dicked manlet