How do you get a dominant gf?
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>>17675357
Fapped to this a thousand times.
You date different girls and see who is okay with this.
I am intrigued by the sexual aspects, but in everyday life I can't be bothered to be dominant. It turns me off infinitely.
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>>17675372
R u a dude?
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>>17675377
Nope.
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Why is being called insecure an insult to males but just a normal trait to women?
In nearly ever thread here I see the word insecurity is thrown around, and when it's about a male it's an awful, horrible thing but when women are insecure it's taken as "just let her know everything is alright :)"
>though most threads where the male is insecure the woman is legitimately testing him (not responding to texts, hanging out one on one with guys, etc are just a few examples from recent months) and he has a valid reason to be
>a girl will post being insecure and it'll be because her boyfriend doesn't pay all his attention to her
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>>17675337
Because men are supposed to be strong
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>>17675337
Gender roles.
Women are supposed to be caring and loving, emotional, weak, submissive. Men are supposed to be strong, unemotional, secure, dominant.
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Never thought about that
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11) have money
12) don´t live with your parents
13) be yourself
14) have a car
15) don't be ugly
16) be tall
17) have confidence
18) smile more
19) have a beard
20) have a dog
21) don't be a asshole
22) love
What more would you add? I know to have a girlfriend you just need confidence but if i had everything in this list i will have every single girl
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>>17675331
23) Tattoos
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>>17675331
24) have a big dick
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>>17675331
25) have blue or green eyes
26) be blonde
anyone interested in talking anonymously via skype? i consider myself understanding and could offer to give advice personally or if you're here just to browse the threads we could find sth to just talk about.
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halp pls
>i'm just at the start of a new relationship and soon i'm gunna have to initiate (probably our first) 'serious' discussion about how much time we spend together.
>2 months in and i'm getting a little uncomfortable with only meeting up few hrs one day a week and one text a day.
>how should i approach this. i don;t wanna come off controlling or push her away.
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why do you see eachother only one day a week? Can't you see eachother more often?
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I'm kind of down.
But I don't have am anonymous account, so darn.
So there's this girl I like and we've gone on two dates. Today we're meeting for about an hour, we're just grabbing something to eat. I'm not sure if I should go in for a kiss today since we're just eating.
Also, she was messaging me a lot of explicit sexual stuff about what turns her on a few days back....
This is a sign she's into me right. I'm not too good at this stuff lol
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Pls help. Is it cool go for a kiss after a quick meet up like this or should I wait for another time?
We're going on a real date on Tuesday . Should I wait till then ?
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Yep. Have fun.
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You'll know the right moment to go for the kiss.
When you feel it, regardless of the date, go for it.
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I'm about to go to uni, what are some fields/courses/whatever they're called that will make me earn some good money? I'm not talking about earning millions of dollars.
Keep in mind that it needs to not be so mainstream that you can't find a job in that field since everybody majors in that (lawyer/medicine/comp sci etc..)
I really wanted to major in biology but biologists, where i live, earn less than 1000 euros a month, you can barely live with that.
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Pretty much anything in STEM
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Get MA in mathematics
>Real Analysis
>Linear Algebra
>Measure Theory
>Martingales
>Probability Theory
>Stochastic Processes
After that any bank will suck your dick and give you a starting salary of 200k/y without experience.
Or, you know, do something ethical.
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>>17675236
Do i have to be a fucking einstein for those?
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Why does God do this? Why make people with such deep rooted flaws?
I've reflected on my life and all of my problems seem to be due to "autism" (if that's really the name for it, I'm not sure). From the moment I was born to now I've been doing things that are obscure. I was born and would refuse to eat anything but milk and cheese. I would act calmly around other little kids, not because I am "calm" but because I didn't understand their interactions so I didn't react even when they insult me - BUT I still had terrible fits of rage when I felt bad. Then in elementary school I did not have friends and played alone, but I acted weirdly like hitting other kids. I wanted friends so I also acted overly-funny/friendly and got some friends but could never maintain them. In middle school I saw that being good looking was becoming important to be popular so I became overly vain, stopped being funny and friendly and tried being "cool". Again I made friends and had girlfriends (I could barely get close to them since I can't even make a close friend) but I still was the same, it was fake and hard to maintain. It seems I'm struggling with autism all my life.
Most of my issues I didn't even explain, but the point is that every memory, every action and thought I can remember (literally EVERYTHING) is obscure and weird in a way I can only call "autistic" - It would not happen that way if I was "normal", my whole life, problems and personality is due to my mental obscurity / autism. And I was diagnosed with aspergers as a teenager... They may be right, it feels like I am a programmed robot, my whole life is struggling because I think differently than everyone else.
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lol just love yourself. your problem is not the autism but that you think you have to fulfill some societal norms to live your live fully
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Autism
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God doesn't do jack shit to create humans, he just harvests your soul when you die.
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So I'm torn between 2 girls. One is hot, young, sweet and creative but only wants to see me once or twice a week. The other is funny, creative, smart and would go to the ends of the world for me but I'm not very physically attracted to her. Which is easier, turning lust into love or vice versa? What to do?
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How much sexual experience do you have already? If you're young, I don't recommend the second choice, because that's the kind you could actually get real emotions out of. What I mean by this is most young relationships fail one way or another and there's no point in hurting someone who's done nothing wrong. The hot chick is going to go through it her whole life, she's hot. No offense to anyone.
I say this because sex has become a priority is this day and age. Better to get it all out of your system so you can see how miniscule it really is and then settle down for something like option 2. Not like you have to tell anyone about your sexual history if you're clean.
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>>17675116
I'm 38, the younger is 25 and the wifey material one is 34. Was married for 15 years and have kids so lots of experience. I guess I'm institutionalized and current day dating boggles my mind lol.
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>>17675140
Oh, fuck the young one then, man. Not literally, just drop her. You do NOT want to even dip a toe into current day's dating pool. You'll lose the toe.
What's the wifey one look like/ sound like? That's a big thing; need to love my girls voice if I'm going to be spending long amounts of time with her. Pretty sure this goes hand in hand with most guys.
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I have a real problem.
During sex, my gf can have trouble getting wet. She's told me before it's because she gets anxious around it, and I feel like she's too self conscious sometimes (I'm her first partner).
This can lead to some embarassing situations. She doesn't like foreplay, so I don't have much time to help her, as she asks me to "fuck already," and doesn't like me to use lube. As a result, she often complains about pains and it "not going in right," which in turn takes me out of the mood and I sometimes lose the bonerino.
What's the solution?
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Time for a new gf, OP.
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Explain to her the importance of lube
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>>17675096
She said she doesn't want to use it because she read on the internet somewhere that lube can cause holes in condoms (?)
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How do I regain my drive? 2016-10-16 13:39:45 Post No.17675059
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How do I regain my drive?
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I'm currently a college student. I have always been an overachieving student, always striving to do my best in the things I do.
Mainly to get into medical school, I'm a pre-med. I've been very diligent with my work so far but now I just feel empty, I don't find much fulfilment and satisfaction in my studies. Don't get me wrong, I didn't lose meaning in pursuing medicine, I still hold on to the dream of one day becoming a doctor and hoping to stay in public practice for as long as I live to help those that are really in need.
I think I've lost meaning in my studies, it has happened before, I've picked back up and regained my drive. However, right now I don't feel like it's coming back.
My major exams are coming up, ones that determine whether I get my long desired dreams get fulfilled or dies.
Please help me anons, it really means a lot to me.
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>>17675059
Discipline obviously.
Passion will always fade so you just need to be in the habit of doing what needs to get done. Having come this far you already know how to pass exams, so it just comes to forcing yourself to study.
And I mean what else would you do?
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>>17675208
Thanks anon, i really appreciate your help.
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It doesn't get easier. The entire first 2 years of med school are worthless studying where you learn things that don't matter. Then the third year is meaningless unless you're on the rotation that actually interests you, and fourth year is just a waste of money. Not to mention intern year is just being a note bitch.
My point is there's like 5 years of not quite clinically relevant studying ahead of you. Learn to tough it out now in prep for the future
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Hey guys,
These forums look super fun and id like to ve involved with it vut i am cöueless. I dont get how it works, what posts i am allowed to do? And what i need ro know to actively post here.
Any other tipps are appretiated!
Thanks,
Anon
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>>17674991
do you have a pic of yourself ?
post it!
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If I post a picture of me how am i anonymous then? ^^
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>>17675002
how are you not ? no one knows who you are from a picture
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Hi /adv/, quick question
What do you think about a white girl like me dating a black man? I'm reading some few horrible things about black people and the general idea i'm getitng is that society disapproves what i'm doing. I've been called horrible names. I don't know what to do, i love him, he is a great guy but he is black
Is it really bad or it's just me being paranoid?
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>>17674907
>Is it really bad
Yes. But it doesn't matter; you're too stupid and impulsive that you'll end up doing it anyways
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>>17674910
>Yes
But why?We love each other
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There's nothing wrong with it. People love to nose around other's business. Girls dating black men is a hallmark red flag for dudes with insecurities, because any girl who burns coal once must be an insatiable roastie and they can't cope.
People will bitch about race mixing, all the while gnashing cheetos into their face and complaining to /pol/. There's a semi famous picture of a dude complaining about how the white race is being taken over, and when someone asked him for a picture, turns out he was some fat virgin fuck. Another dude who's insecurity translated into virulent racism.
tl;dr fuck whoever you want, there are always people who have some idea or another about how YOU should choose to live your sex life. If you like digger nick, then do you.
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How to stop being toxic? 2016-10-16 11:27:17 Post No.17674818
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Hey /adv/, so I have a "problem".
My mindset is what is usually considered extremely toxic, defeatist, pretty much every negative adjective you can think of.
Some of the things I believe in
>Most of your life is determined by things out of your control
>Working hard to compensate for your shortcomings is humiliating
>There is a clear social hierarchy among people that is strictly enforced
>Having a more difficult life because of things out of your control is unacceptable
>Ignoring reality to be happy is not real happiness
>Accepting unfairness of life makes you weak, also participating in society that treats you unfairly is retarded
Obviously these views are completely socially unacceptable. Yet I don't understand why, because they make sense. People often have shitty life and have to work hard for everything because they got born with a shitty starting positions. Big reason why their lives are shitty is because of other people enforcing the social hierarchy.
Now the "rational" reaction to this is to work hard, be the best version of yourself without being bitter and angry. I don't understand how it is rational. When someone hits you, you hit back. You don't just bend over.
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>>17674818
Social hierarchy is bullocks. To the extent that it is there, it shouldn't affect you
Macro social hierarchy: lower, middle, upper class. So fucking what? I'm from the lower class (one of four children to a single mother who works a manual job), and I'm now a doctor. Sorry if you didn't work hard at school lad. I still prefer being around the minimum wage mates I've had for years
Micro social hierarchy: that between your friends. There are clear divisions of power within my friendship group. By power, I mean ability to make decisions that everyone will follow. Myself and one other guy hold this card - we just don't abuse it. If one of my quieter mates expresses a desire to go to the beach, I make sure I jump on board right away so everyone will come
Just find a friendship group where people will do the same
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>>17674832
Your post is retarded. Not even worth replying seriously.
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>>17674837
Keep being negative, bro
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I seem to have developed the need to collect and obsessively organise pictures of one particular lady. She has a body of risqué but not too racy material. I don't have this urge for similar pictures from other people, it's just her.
What gives?
She doesn't look like anyone I know (so far as I can tell) but I don't know what's driving this and it's rather confusing.
I know that people like to collect stuff. But don't people's collections normally have some sort of reason behind them?
I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on this, anon.
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I guess nobody knows.
I should ask a celebrity.
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>>17674799
jesus
she has a moustache
kill me
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>>17675952
Why are you looking so closely?
Keep away from there.
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ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything 2016-10-16 08:49:16 Post No.17674635
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GUIDELINES:
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
FAQ:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
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I really hate texting. It feels so impersonal. I find myself making excuses to end conversations over text, even with my girlfriend. I'm good at talking to people in person or over the phone, I just really hate texts, e-mails, etc. Is there any way to not hate it?
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>>17674635
I'm not sure if this is the right place, but nonetheless, I have a question.
In essence, my question is - why do I want to sleep with other women besides my girlfriend?
I've broached the issue with her and she's open to the idea of me sleeping around so long as I tell her everything and there are no secrets between us. I just really don't understand why I have such a need to sleep with other girls though. I took this woman's virginity, we're a great match personality wise, and I couldn't be happier when with her. But I still have this urge to fuck other girls. Why could this be and is it a bad thing?
Also, I am sort of afraid to sleep with other women because it might lead to her wanting to sleep with other men, and I know that would not be something that I could cope with.
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>>17674740
Same feel dude. I wish I had an answer for you but I'm struggling to figure it out for myself. Plus my gf doesn't know about the urge, it would probably break her heart if she did.