Hi /adv/,
I'm a 24 yo medical student that is about to finish his degree. The thing is i never wanted to do medicine by heart. I chose my study because i had no idea what the fuck i should do with my life. Never liked to study it but somehow slipped through the cracks and now i'm almost a doctor. A lazy underachiever that knows how to trick the system.
At the moment i'm working at the hospital during the week and on weekends i use benzos and other drugs to relax and enjoy social activities.
Another thing is that i have a lot of depression and anxiety issues, some related to me not being too sure about my career. Some of them regarding my very unstable relationship to the people around me. I always have the fear of people leaving me or not accepting me as friends anymore.
I have some artist friends around me that somehow channel and vent their issues into something productive, while i spend most of my time being lazy in front of the computer as a form of escapism. It seems like I have a big validation problem, because i constantly think people around me are better than me.
I feel like i have been in quite a quarter life crisis for a couple of years now and it really isn't getting any better.
My relationships with people is drifting further apart as my social circle is constantly shrinking. The same thing is happening with my family. I'm too much in my head to care about other people, and therefore they don't care about me. Lately i've been thinking often about suicide. I'm not sure what i should do.
I'm sorry for being all over the place and maybe cringeworthy self pity. I just wrote this down to get it out of my head. But thanks in advance for any advice on my situation.
>>17750419
i have the same problem except i'm not a doctor.
A shitload of people feel like this every day.
Either it will pass or it won't.
If it does pass then you better make sure that you haven't just fucked everything you've worked for up till now.
You know that your drug problem isn't helping, you know the other problems that are not helping too.
Fix them, keep up the work and hopefully in a couple of years you'll look back and you'll be like thank fuck I didn't let things turn to shit back then because now I wouldn't have all this.
>>17750483
Thanks for the response.
This girl that I like won't stop saying "silly billy" and it's beginning to affect our relationship
Is you name a variant of William/Bill?
>>17750395
Get over it or call her something even more ridiculous. Either you'll get used to it or she'll stop
>>17750403
Eric
I got offered to TA for a class that I didn't enjoy and fully comprehend during my undergraduate. I'm getting offered $5000 to do it, but it's for a freshman scholars program and I'm already TAing another scholars class.
pros: looks awesome on resume, $$$
cons: I don't know the material and might end up making myself miserable and looking like a complete jackass in front of aspiring scholars
Should I do it?
Do it
>>17750342
Don't do it. A bad teacher is worse than no teacher at all. Admit to your profs that you don't really have a handle on the material and would rather teach something else like [have alternatives ready]. The profs, who have enough trouble with students who didn't learn what some inept TA was supposed to teach them, won't hold your honesty against you.
>>17750342
If you can't teach the subject don't do it.
Should I still join a fraternity in law school?
>>17750313
How can you be clever enough to get into Law School but not clever enough to weight the risk of potential gains with potential loss here?
>>17750313
wait, the fraternity shit from the movies is real?
don't join them, it's stupid.
America is like a big clitche movie I swear to god
>>17750313
Yes, you will need the connections if you want to make it in that industry.
Hey guys I'm building a small site is related to tea, and one of the areas Im building is a a Deals & Coupons page where discounts are featured (only a few from Amazon sellers right now).
But now I'm actually wondering - does anybody else actively look for and use those coupon codes?
Genuine answer here, I never look for coupons unless it's a big purchase and you could save some real money.
Do people actually use coupons on food and drink unless their financial situations require it?
>>17750283
Yes, all of the time.
And a key piece to tracking your marketing initiatives is to put a unique promo code on it that people must redeem. Then you can calculate your return on investment.
I don't always use coupons (for example with grocery shopping I just look for in-store deals), but I will for slightly larger purchases.
whatever happened to all of those coupons they used to make on /b/?
Stores get wise to 'em, or would they still work with Walmarts Self Checkouts?
How do you deal with that?
It's cold, rainy and everything looks so gray
>>17750273
I like this Weather.
>>17750273
I prefer it like this. A cup of hot chocolate and some 4chan just feels so much better after a long cold wet dreary day. It's the summer that bothers me.
>>17750332
>>17750304
Very helpful, jackasses.
@ OP: get one of those UV-lights, they're made specifically to combat winter depression.
I need an advice.
>Long story included
anyone?
>>17750270
do it fag
>>17750270
>be me
>femanon
>some say 8-9/10 but I have a critical look at my appearance so I don't think so
>met this guy, called M at my workplace about 9 years ago where he freelanced sometimes during some events and at my uni about 6 years ago again
>9/10
>he was my lecturer
>in his 30s
>talked few times
>got in touch
>we've had some nice conversations about just everything
>chemistry_in_the_air.png
>smugpepe.jpg
>we went out together about 5-6 times to pub or eat some goodies
>strange but satysfying mutual glances during the meetings
>some unnecessary touches
>some suprising hugs
>we have been on some local underground concerts together
>god, we shoudn't seeing each other in the private way, it's crazy, if our deputy dane would find out someday, we will be fucked just because
>but feels good man
>but we shouldn't still
>he was calling me a cat-woman, but not in this fucking alpha-way of men's cheap pickup line
>saying that I'm purely attractive in the mental and physical way, that he respects me and always wanted to have such brave and meaningfull person in his circle
>not overhelms me in spite of this all cause he's an intelligent man and know how to live
>he have the same fucked up actions and habits as me
>ah, such an understanding, amazing
>unexpectedly I've met guy called F
>got attracted to him by a strange reason
>3/10
>either in his 30s
>different priorities and style of living, BUT, still fucking attracted
>not a bad guy
>we've become a couple month later
>moved to the other city 4 months later with him
>happiness af
>i started to run my own company, as I always dreamed about to do so
>hard work but worth it
>he was smoking weed n looking at me how fucking tired am I
>kek'd at me everytime that I'm a psycho normie with a false vision of everything
>"you better smoke weed with me like a pro gf - my friends have such gfs, blahblahshit, and lick my dick instead of this fucking exhausting shit hee hee"
>>17750270
sure
need advice on how to handle a bratty child. my step daughter is a complete nightmare. she lives full time with my husband and I, her bio mom isn't in the picture. the child is so bad all the time. back talks, dose badly in school. brakes everything, furniture, toys, tares up clothing. she even pees all over the place if you try to put her in her room. I'm really at the end of my rope. I love my husband but he doesn't help much and I really don't know how much more i can put up with this without losing my mind.
Young children are like pets. As long as a child is having their needs met, outside the normal range for a child, there shouldn't be any huuge problems. This child is a product of their environment and if they are misbehaving in this way, there is something in their life that is making them behave that way.
I don't see you discussing any other factors here, you haven't even mentioned the child's age which makes it looks like you attribute the misbehaviour and assign blame to the child.
>>17750268
>dose badly in school. brakes everything, furniture, toys, tares up clothing
did you greencard marry your husband kek
>>17750268
She's probably distressed about something, most likely to do with the corcumstances in which the mother left. (Unless you skipped something important)
That child could use a therapist/psychologist.
What the fuck do I do? Every day at like 5 am my neighbors let their dogs out into some tiny ass fence outside and they just sit there and bark at fucking everything. I've never met such rude people in my entire life.
They never let them inside or stop them from barking and theycjust sit there and viciously bark at everything that moves every hour. They wake me up non fucking stop even like an hour before I have to be awake or if I try to sleep in or anything and they wake up my dad constantly who works late and has to sleep during the day.
Every day I wake up all warm in bed with a boner and just relax then I realize inwas woken up by those retard dogs again and I just get pissed off. I constantly feel like I'm going to get in trouble because I throw eggs at their house and scream fuck you and flip them off from the road.
I looked up the local dog laws and they break pretty much every single one of them. I've tried reporting it to a dog warden and they just ignore everything i do. I'm not condoning it nor would I do it but if anyone wanted to give me any tips for feeding them anti freeze it'd be appreciated.
>>17750251
>I constantly feel like I'm going to get in trouble because I throw eggs at their house and scream fuck you and flip them off from the road.
Lel post disregarded.
Is this a joke? I think you and your neighbours both live on exactly the right street.
>>17750251
you should talk to them first about this situation, how you feel, how you're tired etc. if these fucks won't listen to you, then call somebody who is responsible for an order on your district
Simple(ish) one for you /adv/
This is meant as an insult, isn't it?
"It means a lot for you to tell me this. It really does. I'm more than happy to continue supporting you. I always will. You're a great person. Everything aside, the past and all that, you are inherently a good person. I see that in you. I know that. It's rare. I appreciate you being good."
That was the response to saying I value this person as a friend.
Opinions?
>>17750111
I see no insult in there
>>17750111
This strikes me as something Luke would say to Vader.
>>17750111
did you do something bad in the past?
I went on a date with a girl I'd been talking to for a month.
At the end of the date she thanked me, said she enjoyed meeting me and that I'm a nice guy.
I really felt it with her and want to see her again but something about that line sounds like a rejection. What do you think?
>>17750097
What did you do for the date? How did she act towards you?
>>17750110
>>17750110
We went for a drink, she was shy at the very beginning but then pretty talkative, asked a lot of questions but I don't put any stock in that, anybody would do that even if they weren't interested to try and avoid awkward silences. She asked what type of girls I usually like but that was early in the date. At the end initially I was elated and thought she was into me, but now looking back I'm not sure at all and think she probably wasn't interested at all.
It was hard to be physical with her, it was almost like a coffee date but in a pub. And when I walked her to the train station it's really busy there so it wasn't right to kiss her.
For me I really enjoyed her company. Just before she left I told her that I will talk to her soon. And it REALLY bothers me that she didn't say that to me first, I think she was going to leave it at saying it was nice to meet me (she said the line in the OP in the pub just before we left, and then again just before she left for the train).
I hope she doesn't just blank me because even leading up to the date when we were flirting hardcore her texting reply times were long (she even initiated texting sometimes though so I know she was into it). If she blanks it would be difficult to tell whether she is just taking long like always or ignoring me.
I'd rather her talk so I can invite her out again and then brush me off, if she isn't interested.
>>17750118
Why didn't you ask her if she wanted another date
Alright so I'm in a weird spot right now. To make it short, I've been with this one girl for 3 years. She's suffered with BPD for a long time but recently it's been getting worse. Between counselling appointments, and constant medication, and multiple suicide attempts it's been a struggle. Her last attempt, she told me I was her only reason she's still alive. I'm constantly there for her and supportive in every way possible. The thing is, the stress that puts on myself is too overwhelming. It's so overwhelming in fact, that I started to rebel in our relationship if you will. I've been talking with this one girl that doesn't even live in the same city as me. We have a lot in common and whenever I talk to her, I can't help but smile and feel happy. She feels the same for me, we're anxious to meet as our feelings towards each other are so strong. However, with all the effort I've put into my relationship with my current partner, I feel like if I leave I will be killing her. I do still love her, but I can't keep taking all of the hits within our relationship and I feel like I need a way out. The girl I have been talking to has no idea of my current circumstances or that I'm even in a relationship. I'm at a loss, I have no idea what to do as I feel I can't reasonably be happy with any decision I ultimately make.
>>17749993
Abandonment is BPD sufferers biggest fear.
You obviously love her because you've supported her for so long.
She obviously loves you because it's very rare for a BPD sufferer will enter into a relationship.
Saying that.... it's very tough being in a relationship with someone who has BPD.
>>17750098
>She obviously loves you because it's very rare for a BPD sufferer will enter into a relationship.
Hahahaha no
>>17750100
True
I just heard two Mexican and one black gang member outside my apartment say they have guns and are going to shoot trump supporters. What should I do?
>>17749964
Call the cops, maga. Send them back over the wall
Join them in their quest for saving freedom.
honestly you just let it play senpai. niggers and spics are too fucking stupid to do any real research in choosing targets so theyll probably just end up offing bernie supporters only to end up making the left look like complete fucktards
What would you do in my position
>Dated girl for 3 years (both of us 16-19)
>we had a break for a few months around a year ago she slept with 2 guys
>i haven't slept with any other girl
>we're basically all we know, ive redpilled her ages ago
>literally no problems with our relationship but i break it off to have fun but western women are retarded so now i just chill with my mates rather than try to pull
>were both fit, attractive and relatively smart both have good families
>she came over today to watch movies with my mum and theyre like best friends
>feel like a piece of shit
>should I get back together with her? I am pretty sure she will agree to doing so or should at least try to sleep with someone else first?
Pic related
Shameful self-bump
Finding a partner that you and your family gets along with very well is hard. Also having mutual attraction is even harder.
I'd say stop thinking with your dick and get back together. People like that are very rare to come by and the extra pussy is not worth it based on what you've described.
>>17749888
You're retarded and your ex would do better with an actually decent man who isn't a red pill autism, leave her alone
So what do people mean when they say "go outside"? I do go outside. I work, I buy things, I see family, I see old friends. I go for walks. But what does it mean?
I've been told that I would have more luck with women if I was visible/accessible in public, but I am like that anyways. I have this feeling that the people that tell me to "go outside" assume that because I'm a man, there is an inherently just world that will embrace me as soon as I step outside my front door. But life doesn't work like that. I want my life to get better, but people are incredibly elusive, vague, and mysterious when they give "advice".
Going outside means fresh air, obviously. Just sticking to indoors stuff means you won't be getting anywhere and since you do all that stuff, you're good going. Improving in those areas that you deem important, so it's good.
indoors activity
>>17749841
I'm sure if you set some time apart and go to a place, like a gym/park/church, you'd find some people who are interested in doing similar activities as you do. I hear there's even clubs for all sorts of stuff.
Build conversation off a common interest, chat them up, get to know them better.. and you might be well on your way to developing meaningful relationships.