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just ask her over but don't put yourself out there. she may not be able to anyway and if you ask it like that then you may get it in your head it's because of what you said. if she can't don't spaghetti. if she does just be glad and after a few hours you can casually mention you're glad she came over because it brightened up your day.

do NOT ask her to come over because you feel vulnerable. she's not your mom.

Have you had sex yet?

>>17772253
No
>>17772251
>you may get it in your head it's because of what you said
That won't happen.

The issue is that I'm generally very chipper and upbeat around her. Is it okay to just invite her over and then be sad and mopey and clingy for the duration? I really could use the emotional and physical closeness right now.

it just sounds like a double date to me. stop being autistic and stop worrying, just do it.

>>17772197

If she asked you to invite someone else, just say "Nah it's fine."

The worse thing she can say is no.

Also I'm well aware this is easier said than done.

Also wait for other anons to give advice cause one might give better advice.

>>17772197
Dude, that sounds perfect. First dates are best in groups IMO.

Less awkward, less pressure.

>>17772188
That's what hotlines are for, it's their job to care. They specifically chose to take up that job so they can help suicidal strangers in need.

>>17772199
Anon, it's their day job, they literally just get paid for saying "don't kill yourself ok", they don't actually care about some random fuck.

The people who care about you would much, much, MUCH rather you 'bother' them about your suicidal thoughts than you act on them and leave them reeling, thinking there was something they could've done or something they should have noticed.

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>>17772081
>Advice on wedding songs
Hokey Pokey

Chicken dance

candy shop 50 cent
evanessance wake me up inside
soulja boy soulja boy tell em
nickelback photograph
hamster dance
one direction baby u light up my world
gangam style PSY
let it go frozen
fancy iggu azeala

>>17772081
Tyga - Rack City
DJ Paul Elstak - Rainbow High In The Sky
Toy Box - Best Friend
Glee - Don't stop believing

>>17772014
It's some Chad logic about confidence building. But it's complete horseshit and if I were you I wouldn't.

>>17772014
It might take the chip off your shoulder and make you a more pleasant human being, which might in turn make you more attractive than a guy who thinks in terms of "fat chicks"

>>17772014
It's practice for your social skills, bed skills and tiny bit confidence boost.

Think about what will come if you have good grades, thats what i do.

Firstly and most importantly, talk to whatever teachers/tutors about your situation. Make it clear that you've fallen behind, and that you want to do your best to catch up, just generally make it known to them. Teachers/tutors will just assume that you're fine unless you clearly state a problem. They might not have a solution, but we're all better knowing that someone is having a hard time rather than assuming they're just being lazy.

So, secondly, I'd find out about some sort of counselling that might be available in your place of education. It's worth it and will help you in the long run.

Thirdly, a lot of people have periods like this, so it's rather normal. It's a time in your life when other issues do come up and block you, importantly you can grow and move past it. You may have to accept that your grades won't be super high- but passing (or getting 60) is your target now; to be honest if you pass it's great.

Despite your fear about failing, stop focusing on what's wrong and focus on what you can do. You have a good amount of pressure that will help you get a surprising amount of work done. Look after yourself, that means eat right, drink right, take breaks and small amounts of exercise, spend time with friends, while working harder. Just limit it a bit because you got a lot of pressure.

For what it's worth, I wrote my 10,000 word dissertation in the two weeks before the deadline and achieved the highest grade for it. I felt quite similarly to you.

Tl;dr - make your problem known to relevant people and get support, work your arse off and improve for next time round. Have a chocolate bar or something if you feel overworked.

>>17772141
Funnily enough this isn't the first time this has happened this semester. I already went through the process around midterm time because I found myself in a similar situation. I was surprised with how understanding and helpful the teachers are. In all honesty my biggest worry is that they'll be like, "you're having these issues again???"

I know it's silly, and my anxiety is just making me think about the worst case scenario.

I started counselling the beginning of the semester. It's been helpful and I'm noticing small improvements in my life thanks to his help. Due to a scheduling issues we had its been a while since I've seen him. He said he'd let me know if any cancelations came up so he could get me in sooner but none have come up. Our next appointment is at the end of the month well after most of my assignments I'm worried about are due.

Yeah, after talking to people about my issues I realize how I'm really not alone with my problems. I try my best not to beat myself up about them, but I do, often desu.

I'm not overly worried about failing most of my classes desu. Despite some difficulties I've been doing well enough that I don't have any real legitimate fear of failing them.

I just have one class that I'm really worried about. My C++ class. I didn't do well on the first assignment (90% sure I passed, but not by much. Got a 60 if I'm lucky). And kind bombed my midterm (I'm not sure if I even passed it, best mark I can see myself getting it a 55%). So me passing is really dependant on these two end of the semester projects and the final and right now I'm fucking it hard.

Cont.

a flip

>>17771982
Seek professional assistance. If you can't afford or are in an emergency call a suicide or depression helpline.

>>17771996
I am seeing a therapist.

>>17771976
Sexologist would be the person to see about this. Look them up they can be a pain in the ass to find. Also they are expensive as fuck.

>>17771976
Do you enjoy when you suck other dicks?
What you enjoy more in gay sex?

>>17772001
i dont sucking too much but since that i am not bad at it, i do it to please the guy i am having sex with.
I am so inexperienced at sex so i dont know what i like. I am not even sure if i am a top or bottom.

>>17771959
Well don't put her on the fucking spot at her birthday

Get drunk and listen to Prince you fucking idiot.

>>17771959
Cum onto her.
There is no typo there

>>17771924
>health benefits
Sounds like bullshit, humans are omnivores.

>now i know people say astrology is bullshit
That's a fucking understatement.

>ethical reasons and enviromental reasons
Now these are good reasons for veganism.

> So how to stop this fight in my head ?
Well, you can either prioritize your beliefs or practicality. Or you can simple take the middle way and attempt to live as ethically as possible without inconveniencing yourself too much. As an individual your impact on the world is almost irrelevant either way. There is no reason to stick to absolutes.

For example...
>But its pain for my friends to go out with me
Eat a burger with them here and there.

>its a pain to listen to family and peers
I fail to see how this is even a thing. You have reasons for your lifestyle, they have for theirs. If they try to change you completely, tell them to eat a dick (or whatever the vegan equivalent would be)

>its much more complicated to travel on budget
Minimize unnecessary traveling, take a bike if you got the time, etc, etc. It's not like you have to become a frequent flier.

>>17771924
Literally the only reason you have the intelligence and moral code to not eat meat is from eating meat (especially cooked meat) you are literally throwing away the single greatest evolutionary step homo sapiens ever made .
Hope you feel good about that.

>>17771947
>>17771947
>>17771947
i guess the middle way it is.
I get your argument for not having almost any impact on whats going on on the farms but i look at it as the elections.
My individual vote is nothing. but if enough people vote the same, its something.
But again, the vegan movement is not going to take over the world realisitcally speaking any time soon (or ever because of how well this current system is set).
see im not even able to stand by one or the other opinion

>>17771850
I like it quite a lot, thank you.

>>17771850

Infrequently, with a committed partner, after an evening spent strengthening the emotional intimacy between us.

But then, I never got into looking at porn. Plenty of my friends have sex drives that, from my perspective, seem like addiction. Of course, my sex drive, to them, seems non-existant.

>>17771978
girls on adv are so pure
haha
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>>17771848
Why the fuck would you care what a bossy bitch says?

>>17771848
It's already too late for a witty response you utter cunt

I have an extremely low self esteem and It would ruin my reputation

Learn for next time. If you like a girl, ask her out on a date. Don't orbit.

>>17771821
le friendzone xddd

>>17771821
> I cant stop thinking about her.....

Here's some advice: If she already said "no", obsessing over it will change nothing. Don't try to "win her", just understand that she said "no". Move on.

>yet

Means

>never

Move on. Don't waste your teenager years on beta orbiting.

If you really like her, give it a month or two. By then you will know what to expect.

>>17771773
We've all been there.

Don't see her for a month and try to go out as much as you can with friends. You will realize what you really want.

And don't call or text her.

I have ~100 8-10/10 matches on tinder so i guess im good looking. But my self confidense is SHIT

>>17771763
Yeah man I got lots of success on tinder too and people on /soc/ always called me really handsome or even a chad, and until recently I was pretty sure I was good looking. But I'm afraid I don't look as good in real life. I mean I don't use Photoshop, filters or MySpace angles (though I did take the photos slightly from below mostly) but I look my best in these photos and also you can't see the fact that my head is comparably small and narrow in pictures. Well I hope I'm still attractive, just slightly less than I thought.

>>17771772
If people say you're good looking all the time, it means you are good looking. Maybe you need to get laid with a hottie to be sure?