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>>17773050
what would you even say OP

>>17773050
>"Oh, hey anon! Yeah, things have been going great for me. I've been seeing this guy for the last few months, he's the best bf ever!"

>>17773066
Fuck... that hit really close to home. I am a fucking wreck you guys. I cut contact and all I did for four months was still think about her. FUCK!!!

What kind of 'moves' gave them the creep vibe?

Yeah need more info mate, it's super easy to avoid being creepy and u don't get what happened if you had close female friends, thats shows your pretty good socially

>>17773048
Daily reminder you can do anything to women if you're attractive

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It's actually very close to the whole old "YOU DARE INSULT MY HONOR?! HAVE AT YOU SIR!" trope as well.

>>17773004
you need to accept the fact that people can interpret your actions in the wrong way because they can't read your fucking mind
then you need to confront your anger and realize it's useless - the angrier you get, the more you'll convince people you actually are a bad person.
You might become abusive towards potential relationship partners if they have paranoid tendencies - and trust me it won't help them.
Get help if you can't do it alone.

>>17773100
How am I supposed to know whats going to hurt their feelings if I cant read their mind either?

>>17772977
No one cares about intellectual conversations
Why do you feel you must have live up to some imanginary bar of intellect

You think other bros want to hang with insecure beta who thinks he needs to prove his worth with wit

Or You think girls panties get wet when you speak about philosophical conundrums such as the meaning of life

All this shit is ego based, let it go
No one cares if you're smart or not
This place isn't NASA motherfucker

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>>17772977
For me, I have accepted my situation. I have been always told that I am """smart""", but I can't imagine by what it is supported. I couldn't get any grade better than C as in either university or high school, even with struggling and putting an effort. Although I am living alone, I still lack a common sense in everyday life. I am very self-conscious about that and sometimes having an internal conflict hearing someone saying that material is easy breaks me down.

>>17772986
He is right.

>>17772986
>>17772986
Okay, maybe using "intellectual conversation" isn't really the correct terminology. I just want to have conversations about video games or music or whatever bullshit, not philosophy or other shit. I just want to be able to talk about it and gain a sense of mutuality with the other people who enjoy it.

Every attempt at discussion I make essentially goes like:
>"Hi I like x game/artist/album/movie/show/etc."
>Cool, but why do you?
>"Oh of course, let me list off all the self-proclaimed reasons I formed about why I like said thing."
>You make no sense in your reasoning, and even someone who also liked it will tell you that's not what makes it good. This is your favorite yet you don't understand? You're just a pleb/cuck/word used for dilettante. Leave

I wouldn't be bothered so much if this was only on 4chan, but the same applies in real life as well. I've gotten excluded from groups of people who share the same interest, or if I don't, none of them take me seriously like I'm a hivemind sheep who can't form an individual thought, and isn't actually interested in the topic but only in it for the ride.

The only difference in real life is that unlike 4chan, there's a filter for what is socially acceptable to say, otherwise they would be saying the same shit as people on here.

The core issue is the same, and I want to fix it.

No queers allowed here REEEEEEEEEEEEE

t. heterosexual

>>17772953
You're in 'murika?

If so >>/soc/ is literally calling for you.

>>17772953
> I am a guy

dropped

>>17772957
Please what?

Enjoy

>>>/soc/24488964
>>>/soc/24488964
>>>/soc/24488964

>>17772963
Dont need anything like that and I live in the EU lol

thanks anyway

Do you even want to be in a relationship? Also, are you basing your expectations of what being in a relationship is like on TV and movies?

>>17772931
I want to be in a relationship with someone and share experiences in life with them, care for them and be cared about in return. It's not based off of TV or anything just things I notice with people irl and stuff like that. But when I try and see myself with someone I just draw a foggy blank

>>17772951
>share experiences in life with them, care for them and be cared about in return.
sounds like you want a bro, not a bitch

OP here. To clarify, I have never cheated. This is more a question of ending the relationship to find something more, or staying in it for practical reasons.

>>17772923
You make him sound like a total beta provide so just introduce him to cuckolding. He'll probably love it.

>>17772923

What's the problem with the sex?

>>17772853
if it's early in the friendship and you're not too invested in her, just ask her for a coffee or something. Something that makes it clear to her that you want to know her better and maybe date her. If that seems too straightforward, just try to get closer to her slowly.

>>17772892
I think my life would be worse if I never saw her again and I wanted to be friends with her before I started crushing on her if that changes anything, I wouldn't want to do anything that kills the friendship but maybe that's asking too much.

I very much want to ask her out like this but maybe I should be content with friendship?

>>17772980
If you think the unrequited crush is bad now, wait until she's telling you about her new boyfriend with stars in her eyes.

Normal to some extent. Some reasons are;

>when you're fulfilled in a relationship and getting regular sex you are typically happier, more relaxed and thus more attractive
>you care less about impressing random women when you're with someone so your interaction with them is more confident and natural, you don't try as hard to please them
>girls who like to flirt without any intentions to get more than some attention/excitement in their day like to do so with happily taken guys who won't accuse them of leading them on for not spreading their legs after some banter
>obviously there's the minority who just gets a kick out of trying if she can get a taken guy to go starry eyed for her, or just ruin your girlfriend's day by flirting

Besides, three one nights stands in seven months is hardly "shit luck". Flirting is a lot more common than actual casual sex.

Chicks like attempting to ruin relationships for guys because it's so easy for them to gain. Literal flaunting.

>>17772812
It's shit luck because only one of them came close to the level of my ex. Haven't had much success flirting with girls since the break up, really. Anyways not the same quality girls as my ex.

Damn it, I'm depressed and totally regret breaking it off now.

Do what feels right to you. Although I will say that eventually you'll want female companionship and you'll regret not having experience. If I was you, knowing what I know now i would start trying to get a gf, just for the experience and knowledge of how to handle woman and the inevitable rejection.

>>17773381
>Do what feels right to you.

This. So what if you got fit and have girls notice you? So what if your parents are proud of your progress? Sure its a confident booster but you can only be truly happy if you do what makes you happy, not what you're told that is expected to make you happy because it made OTHERS happy.

If you want GF get GF but not for the sake of having one, develop a relationship over time with a woman who means lot to you that is compatible with you or else you'll think she a naggy nagger.

Because you did what you thought other people wanted from you
Not what you wanted
Next time don't be a pussy and do what you think is right not what others expect of you

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The thing is she wasn't the best looking girl either, I would say I outclass her on the social ladder and attractive scale. I even remember her eyeing me one time after the bus dropped us off and she made a complete U-Turn to follow me for a bit, I saw this from the corner of my eye. I was thinking she's been hurt enough times she would tell me straight away she hates people to test me if I would stick around continue to pursue. She also probably got nervous because I just started talking to her out of the blue. We're both bad at math I learned and her class is right across from my mine on the same lecture days funnily enough.

What do you think?

>>17772730
>>17772733
I mean, what do YOU think? She sounds kinda weird and awkward. But if you like her, try to strike up another conversation and maybe invite her to hang out sometime. It sounds like your paths cross often enough that you'll have another opportunity

>>17772737
I think she is a bit weird and awkward, seems to me she has poor social skills to bluntly say she hates people.

>>17772721
To continue, the only sliver of joy I've experienced recently is a short period after I buy myself something of the internet and it's delivered, but that only lasts about a few hours and is limited to direct interaction with it (books, comics and such).

Ive experienced this as well.

Through high school i lost the will to live and everything stopped being fun until i saw the most beautiful girl i had ever seen. It took 2 years before i talked to her and after we fell in love my life stopped being shit.

>>17772731
>whenever I talk to my gf I fake happiness for whatever I'm supposed to.
>my gf

you're basically telling him to break up with his gf because he doesn't have the same happiness that you have with you gf

and if it takes 1 girl in your life to make you happy then you're admittedly a simple person

His problem seems to be personal apathy, being bored with yourself and not the things around you

>the only sliver of joy I've experienced... ...only lasts about a few hours and is limited to direct interaction with it (books, comics and such)

best option for him is to try to find a skill that lets him create

he would do well teaching himself how to draw or make something from scratch

this my seem a bit presumptuous, but men in general need to work with their hands, create something, or accomplish a goal to feel satisfied

if you're not working on something, not improving, or making something then you get bored complacent and disinterested in things in general because nothing is giving you that feeling anymore

of course this is more conjecture on my part rather than an objective view on apathy

>>17772654
My ex girl got like this when she found twerk videos in my search history.

doesn't help that I cheated on her with a black girl either, I guess.

It's not anyone's fault, though she does seem very insecure. It sounds like she'd be jealous of her boyfriend's porn habits regardless of who she was dating. I've met women who act similarly, once they find out their boyfriend is watching porn they assume it takes a bigger part in their life than it does.

She is absolutely insecure but come the fuck on, it's 2016, more and more women watch porn. Obviously if she is just trying to get a rise out of you that's something else by itself, but if you think she is a slut for liking dicks, don't forget that if she didn't she'd never be with you ffs.

Absolutely not.

Girls will try to alienate you from your friends very often. And you need to hold the line. Because if the girl will just up and leave you because you have a friend you are gonna need those friends sooner or later when she leaves for some other trivial bullshit reason because she cant get her way,

>>17772607
It's not wrong. But how are you allowing the female to treat you? Do you allow her to flirt with you at all?

If she speaks with you like she is interested in you, tell the friend to knock it off.

If she doesn't speak with you like she is interested in you, there's nothing wrong and tell your gf to knock it off.


You both sound 16 though.

>>17772614
Didn't mean to link that other post.