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I'm in a rut.
I'm a paranoid, anxiety-filled mess and I can't find anyone to confide in. My life has ground to a standstill and both my social and work life is suffering tremendously.
I'm almost in my 30's and I've lived the past several years with elevated blood pressure and racing thoughts ever since the Snowden revelations.
I grew up on the Internet since the mid-90's. Warnings and stories against government surveillance were part and parcel of just about all online communities back then.
The present-state of things is beyond distressing. I can't find anyone to confide in. I've been to several psychologists and none of them have any idea of what I'm talking about. One of them even had the gall to ask me if I took any illegal drugs when I was talking about my anxieties related to mass surveillance.
I feel alone. I'm afraid to do more research on hacking because of fearing surveillance-obsessed Feds' neurotic ignorant obsession of all things tech. I'm finding less and less joy and freedom in all manners of escapist nerd subcultures because of SJWs and the influx of privacy-hostile military folk. I can't even look at porn without my mind inserting how impossible a situation would be because the NSA or some other agency would discover it and stop it.
I'm terrified and alone and I don't know what to do.
(Inb4 an hero)
(Inb4 nothing to hide nothing to fear)
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>>17784009
Sounds like either sever anxiety, have you tried ativan?
Alternatively it could be borderline personality disorder senpai.
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>>17784070
I haven't tried ativan. I've tried a number of other antidepressants. At best, they've helped numb the anxiety at the expense of numbing me to all my responsibilities that caused me anxiety. Made escapism too easy and largely unsatisfying.
It also all but killed my libido, which made for sad porn sessions.
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>>17784095
Ativan is better for anxiety.
Tell me, are you depressed? Do you find you take lots of drugs or drink?
What's your perception of yourself? Do you feel in control of your actions and emotions? Have you tried to kill yourself? Do you feel like your feelings about others will flip flop daily, weekly or sometimes hourly?
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>Talk to girls
>Actually hit it off
>Get super excited
>Say dumb shit or say to much
I just have too much to tell them. My text to reply ratio is way off charts. For every message girls send me I send 4 or 5 back. But it's not only with girls this is just how I write, like as if i'm still on MSN.
How do I not fuck this up? I scare them off by being over joyful and enthousiastic.
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It's not only at the start of a relationship btw. Also when I finally manage by some miracle to actually land a girlfriend it goes very well in the beginning. I keep my cool, message sometimes. But then I start to really like them, and I start to miss them and care for them. Maybe even love. And then I usually get overexcited and I want to be with them more and more and keep sending more sweet stuff to them which probably annoys them and this scares them away.
Wat do
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>>17783992
I have this same problem anon, just take your time replying and act like you dont care about them. That seems to work.
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>>17784011
I will try but its difficult because I need to lie then.
It just sucks because it's either
A)
I start spilling spaghetti right away since the start and they just stop responding
B)
I actually do manage to land them and keep my cool, then I start to like them more and more and this scares them away
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Is being too quiet a reason for a girl to lose interest in you? I feel this is my largest downfall and I never land dates because of it. I'm no mute, but I can be pretty silent or oblivious. Once in conversation I can get talking however.
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>>17783988
kinda. but people are cohesive and they tend to like you or dislike you for cohesive reasons. people dont sit here and think
>anon woudl be the perfect dating material if not for the fact that hes silent
>that one feature is causing my nipples to get soft
>oh look, theres that guy who looks completely identical to OP but talks a little bit, boy are my nipples erect again!
in movies they act like its one issue but irl people just do or do not like you as a complete person. the default state is NOT liking you.
if the girl was interested in you its very hard to say she lost it becuase you were too quiet. rather, she never liked you to begin with.
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>>17783988
I also have this problem. When I start dating a girl I just straight up tell her I like to be silent most of the time and that if she wants to date me she has to expect a lot of many akward silences.
If she doesn't agree to that I tell her to fuck off. (in a nice way).
If she agrees I can just be myself without any pressure. With my last girlfriend we had moments together where we where silent for many hours or her just talking and me pretending to listen. Quite nice. Silence is golden, it feels more intimate to me.
If you just embrace the silence with confidence the awkwardness goes completely away.
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this
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Well, how am I supposed to maintain a relationship, platonic or otherwise, with someone who doesn't talk?
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im in love with my bestfriend. we both have feelings for eachother and we've tried multiple times to make things work out. after many times of her doing me wrong and me forgiving her i dont know what to do. i dont want to lose her.
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Loose her or loose yourself
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raep
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>>17783960
>after many times of her doing me wrong and me forgiving her
How about you ask for forgiveness for all the times you fucked up. Or at least admitting that it's not all on her.
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What's the best angle to achieve with a 9mm shooting full metal jackets to effectively end it? I don't want to end up a vegetable.
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You need to hit the pons.
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>>17783961
What?
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You take the barrel and put the gun on the fucking table.
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Lads, if I wanted a job in the nuclear energy industry which would be the better choice? 2016-11-21 16:45:25 Post No.17783947
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Lads, if I wanted a job in the nuclear energy industry which would be the better choice?
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>get an apprenticeship with EDF
>go to uni and get a BSc in nuclear technology
I'm inclined towards the apprenticeship, but my family think it's too basic for me since EDF are asking for National Fives (=GCSEs) and I have Highers (=A Levels)
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please answer, I need to know what to do
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posting comfy pictures until I get a response
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Ok so ill start-- Im 18, a junior in hs, and im so additcted to companionship with a female. The problem is I'm hated by literally everyone, my friend even told me he asked people if they hated me, and they all said yes, but they said they didnt know why? Im afraid that being hated by almost everyone, abd being unpopular will ruin my chances od a relationship in my school. Is this a possibility, and should i wait until i reach college in 2 years?
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Hang out with other hated people. Stick to your own kind weirdo. This is the single most important thing you will learn in high school
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Edit-- I am very good looking, i have been told multiple times, jist putting this in there.
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>>17783892
But the thing is i have the mindset of a chad
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Absolutely nothing turns me on. Porn whatever kind or fetish or extremity it doesnt matter it doesnt even get my dick hard.
How can I get the feeling of being horny again? This has been going on for a year now.
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>>17783841
I worked with my Psychiatrist to change my depression medication as I was showing signs of improvement and we agreed to try a less aggressive therapy. Well turned out my meds were the reason I never had puberty. Boom hormones and all hit me at 28, finally understood why my high school friends always talked about girls and sex.
Still given the how much maturity I had developed before all that I had a much better time with it all. (like I didn't get anyone pregnant or crash my car trying to impress someone)
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>>17783841
can you imagine how her tattoos will look as her ass and thighs sag
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>her
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>live in a house that has an extra bedroom/kitchen/shower outside
>the family rents it
>a bunch of people have lived here throughout the years, nothing bad ever happened
>suddenly a new family moves in this year
>they constantly have loud, drunken fights, are always at the bar
>constantly bringing people in and out, both their family members and random friends of their son/the bf of their daughter
>they're complete white trash, their daughter is already pregnant at 19 by some black guy
>recently stopped paying the rent for the past four or so months because the wife broke her leg
>this is a total excuse, as they still buy everything else, basically taking my parents for a ride
>we rely heavily on rent money
>as a result of this we often lack money to buy things for our own house, like food, which already was making me increasingly angry
>to make matters worse, clothes have started disappearing from the clothesline which is located outside
>I personally lost $280 worth of clothes that simply disappeared
>it's obviously them
Cont.
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>my mother lets them stay there despite all this because "they're poor" and "we can't go blaming people"
>yesterday she tells them if they continues not to pay they'll have to move out
>they magically pull money out of their ass
>obviously they're bullshitting through and through
Which brings us to today...
>my mother asks me to go down there and tell them about the missing clothes, and ask for them to buy a lock and put it in their side of the house
>I go there, do exactly that, and the mother starts being very belligerent to me
>saying that it's impossible to put a lock on that gate (being that we had one in the past), that she simply won't, that I should put the lock there and give her the key
>tells me none of their clothes have disappeared, only ours
>which is a dumbshit response since it obviously proves it's them doing it
>I tell them I had suspected their daughter's boyfriend, since he's always hanging around suspiciously and is about my height
>she gets extremely offended and starts going off about how good of a guy he is, a family guy, despite not working and getting her daughter pregnant and cheating on her daughter
>starts raising her voice at me and repeatedly saying how offended she is and that she doesn't like what I said
>I just sit there and listen trying not to burst
>finally lose my temper, we start arguing
>my family hears it and goes down
>both my mom and her bf start shouting at me without asking what happened and saying I'm in the wrong because "she's a woman"
>my mom starts pushing me, then telling me to stop hitting her (for real)
>they all start screaming and making an even bigger scene, I get madder, scream too
>they all defend her while she's actually smiling behind their backs
>somehow I find the strength to not break anything and just leave
>my mom stays down there and shittalks me with her, despite complaining about her actions for the entire past week and ASKING ME to go down there
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>>17783826
And I think that's pretty much it. Which brings me to right now, where I basically just want to kill someone.
What's the best course of action for me in this situation?
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>>17783827
do nothing. sounds like you spergd out of control and your mom is doing damage control?
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Unorthodox lessons you learned in your life.
>The truth doesn´t have an inherent value: if you screw up and then tell the truth, people don´t really take in consideration that you had the moral fiber to speak out
>Random, good things do happen once in a while
>True love is a very different thing from the "love" books, songs and films portray; it´s a passive feeling, not an active feeling. It resembles much more a very deep friendship than a really hot and steamy connection with someone
>Most friendships have an expiration date, and that is natural because you are changing every day, and these friend´s personality no longer fit yours. It isn´t a sad thing, and you can always have a throwback day with them every once in a while
>When it comes to attraction or flirting, most people will start to be in sync with you if you start first; people tend to develop an attraction for another person if they know the other person also has an attraction
>In the end, a doubt is a much heavier burden than a failure
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>>17783809
All relationships are about power and control (be it familial, friendships, social gatherings, work, etc). If you do not believe so, you are on the receiving end of someone elses control. Always work to keep your freedom and maneuverability and resist others attempt to put you under their control.
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>Crazy is what crazy dose
>People lie a lot
>Don't help anyone until you know you can really on them when you need something
>Have realistic expectation
>How something looks is more important that what it really is in the short run
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Accept what's happened and move on.
Believing without proof is silly(no offense), but when you see evidence to back something up it will be much better.
Love at 18 isn't the same as love at 20,25,30..it matures as you mature
you can't change the past but you can make sure history doesn't repeat itself for u
Work is meant to be enjoyed not hated everyday
Emotions always overlay righteousness with females, accept it
You can't always be right
There's someone always stronger than you
How you look isn't that important
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Hey people, what do you think of couples in which the man is two heads higher than his girlfriend? I am 180 cm, my girlfriend is 145 cm... For me, personally it does not matter at all, actually I even enjoy that she is so light because I can do many sexual things with her that would be impossible or much more difficult with heavier women... However, sometimes I wonder what other people think when they see us walking in the street... I am a Caucasian btw, she is Asian ^^
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We think "that's how it's supposed to be".
You will never be judged for this in any way.
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>>17783796
It'll look weird to most normal people, but not worth worrying about. More importantly, how are you two, I imagine it would be hard since face and eye contact are very important for a lasting relationship and she spends most of the time either looking at your armpits or strains her neck.
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I am in the same sjtuation, only I am the 1.48 m woman and he is 1.90. I love it and I feel safe walking with him on the streets, such a big man taking care of me.... don't ever worry abou what other faggots think. They are just envious. Love her and be her man.
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All the guys I've had feelings for in my life didn't like me back. How do I stop crying? I cry every day, it's been like this for years
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>>17783785
stop being a bitch
hit the gym, get some hobbies, make some money
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Sell your body on cam, then go to retail therapy you vacuous cunt.
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Begin to change how you look at life and the world. You're currently telling yourself a sob story which repeats itself every day.
Emotional change comes last so don't expect a miracle. But it's time to change your frame of mind and your approach. People go through far worse and endure it in a 'good way'- that's not said to guilt you but to make you realise that anything is possible.
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Hey /adv/
I'm a guy and i only hang out with girls.
I never pursue friendship with guys, i avoid them and i don't like them.
Sometimes i see some dudes being all bro together and it makes me somewhat envious, irritated, and puzzled. I think to myself: "These stupid fucks are faking it."
I wasn't always like that, it started when i was around 13. I'm 23 now.
I feel like the problem comes from me, i'd like to be able to befriend guys too. I think it has something to do with me being insecure and feeling inferior. I think it's symptomatic of a bigger problem, and i'm also afraid it will cause me some problems later in professional life.
When i talk to a guy, i'm stressed as fuck and i try to avoid or to end the interaction as fast as i can.
Do some people have experience with this?
PS: I'm not gay by any means. I'm only attracted to women.
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You sad sissy
I bet you where raised by a single mom and her sad alcoholic sister.
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>>17783768
Nah i was raised by normal parents
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>>17783771
Than ask your normal parents father how to throw a football, how to drive a stick shift, how to make an old fashioned.
And stop hanging out with girls especially if they see you as one of their own. It will twist your sissy mind.
Just hit up a bar and talk to a guy that looks like he might punch or puke on you.
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Transitioning from bestfriends to couple
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Me and my bestfriend have admitted to each other that we have feelings for each other. We slept together some 2 months ago, and since then we´ve been physically together two other times. We´ve talked about the direction we should follow, and I think both of us are a bit scared of the more formal aspect of it all, like start thinking about each other as "boyfriend" or "girlfriend", or telling other people (we kept this a secret from everyone).
I know I´m being a bit vague, but I am a bit confused right now. I too think it´s weird to see her as my girlfriend and not as my bestfriend (we´ve been really close for 10 years), but I think she panics more with it then I do; and she said that if we´re going to be together as a couple she doesn´t want it to be a secret.
Has anyone here ever dated their best friend? How did it happen? And how did it work out?
I can give more details if you want. And please feel comfortable to share your stories with me
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Bumping with one my favorite songs this year
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fd1Xc6-6VVg
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So no one has a bit of advice for me?
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>>17783800
>So no one has a bit of advice for me?
i dont see why you are afraid. i was together with my former best friend for 4 1/2 years. just started when we did holidays together and just clicked. in my opinion it is nice as you already know who you are dating^^ some think it lacks the "interesting" getting to know each other part but that sucks anyway. so id say you are cool!
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Sooo, took LSD for the first time ever two weeks ago and had a bad part of the time. A week ago I had a panic attack and now I've been having panic attacks every day.
Wat do. Never had panic attacks or anxiety before and I have no idea what the fuck I should do.
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>>17783746
What do you think a panic attack is?
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>>17783746
Don't blame the drugs, blame yourself for being shitty. If the drugs helped you realize it, they did their job.
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Lots of people have a few weird behavioral 'glitches' the first week or two after taking a new drug. I don't actually think the drug matters, but as someone who has taken a lot of drugs, who knows the real physical effects of taking the drugs, and have convinced many people to take drugs, I think it's largely in your head.
LSD can cause flashbacks, but not after taking one tab, and not after a week. It takes a long time of use to have that happen. I felt weird and depressed the first few days after I smoked weed for the first time. I think it has a lot more to do with the "oh man I tried a drug" attitude than it is the drug itself.