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Maybe you were having a panic attack? I once had a panic attack so bad that I couldn't move my hands. Anyways, I think it was 100% the THC that did that to you, it's not completely harmless stuff. I smoked everyday for two years and I had to stop because it made me develop anxiety. I've had some pretty horrible experiences with weed.

>>17784821
Maybe. I haven't heard of any studies regarding negative side effects of weed. It also made me develop a bad stutter in speech when it was all happening. Honestly haven't heard of this sort of thing happening to any of my friends and I'm not like an expert on weed or whatever.

Could have been a panic attack but having had panic attacks before, it didn't feel like one.

If you were hyperventilating, it sounds like like what happened when I had a real bad panic attack. When you hyperventilate enough, it raises the acidity of your blood, which makes it so the chemicals that activate your muscles don't work, and you start to lock up. I had no idea what was happening and that only made me panic more until my entire body was pretty much immobile. I could barely dial 911 because my hands curled up and locked.

However, I have no experience with drugs or THC in particular, so I wouldn't dismiss that. If you're going to do drugs again, be careful. If this happens again, try controlling your breathing and see if it makes it better. But I would still recommend avoiding it, just to be safe.

I find if u make vow to not touch phone or electronic at all since u wake up until end of day it helps. Or just dont charge them and leave it be. Addiction is horrible but one step at a time. Distance urself from these things is the best thing to do. Oddly im going through the same thing.

>>17784789
It's accessible
You need to cut the devices out of your life.
1.Sell your Ipad
2. Get rid of your smart phone and get a flip
3. Get a routine down a follow it
Something like
Wake up at 9am
Workout (it helps with energy believe it or not)
11am -1 study/homework
and fill in your free time with things you like to do that don't involve your ipad or smartphone
treat those things like rewards
Bottom line if you don't get rid of your distractions you'll never get out of that cycle you don't have the will power so you need to toss those things

Adding to the stuff earlier anons said:

If you have something on the internet you want to look at, save it for later. Making it so you don't immediately click on and do things that have caught your interest helps curb device addiction. Save it for later, go through it when you have free time.

I also recommend making the work process as enjoyable as possible. Figure out what helps you focus, and implement it. Some people work best with no distractions whatsoever. Some people work best with a little bit of ambiance, like music, to keep up energy and maintain focus. Some people work best with a lot of ambiance, such as a movie playing in the background or the bustle of a coffeeshop. How do you work best? Make your work place as ideal as possible.

If you're at all like me, you need at least a bit of distraction just to maintain interest. I get bored as all hell when I have nothing going on except work, and that makes me so desperate for stimulus that I stop working. Find a balance. No phone or iPad, but find some sort of stimulus (again, like music) to keep you entertained. If you can make working more fun, you will work longer and better.

I also can't stress enough the importance of making work a habit. It's how you cultivate discipline. Set a time for work, and do your work. It sucks, but when you get into the swing of it, your brain will automatically know when it is time to work and will switch gears much more easily. I used to hate the idea of having a schedule because Muh Spontaneity and Muh Freedum, but it really does make a huge difference. If you can't set a specific time due to scheduling conflicts, have some other cue that you use when you start work, every time. The same location, the same snack, the same hat. Something that signals "work time now". The more of these signals you can cultivate, the better you will be able to get into a work mode. As long as you do not let the preparation and the signals themselves become a distraction.

Because you're making the situation awkward by being an autist and explaining shit that people aren't interested in, so in order to relieve the awkwardness people laugh.

I recommend reading some books and learning basic social skills, rather than trying to impress people by how smart you think you are.

>>17784778

You sound like a person who gets really into these types of topics and then goes on the preach mode without caring about the flow of the conversation. When people talk, they don't want an "in depth explaination", they just want to chat a bit for fun. Then when you sperg out on them, probably missing all the social cues telling you "now is not the time", they find it (and by extension you) sort of hilarious in a harmlessly awkward way. Just a guess though. Could be that your opinions or arguments are just hilariously stupid.

1. You need better friends
2. Your delivery is horrible/weird
3. Bad conversation timing
4. You are trying to explain something to people who don't care and/or not interested in "sensitive" topics.

>>17784749
Hey..ik it's unfair for me to say this. Cause I'm a girl. But come on man! They're just girls. It's not like its the end of the world. You'll do fine..trust me. I know the pain. Cause I'm suffering rn too. But, i'm trying to focus on getting better. Ik it won't be easy. But Thats just for few days? Weeks? And months? Soon enough. You'll get over it. Dont let it take you.. Time will come. You will find someone much better. And by that time. you will look back in the past and just laugh at the end. And gladly will tell yourself that. "Gosh, seriously? Good thing i made it" well since you're a guy. Take out the "gosh" expression :P haha. Anyways, Cheer up. You can do it!!!! :')

>>17784803
>But Thats just for few days? Weeks? And months?

Man here who lost his first serious gf and possible love of his life.

After 8 months my chest stopped hurting and it was easy to breathe again. Now I'm fine. Now I just feel empty.

Yo feel for ya bro goin through exactly the same thing as you rn

Probably not very easily because you have to ask this question on a tibettan yak butter churning enthusiast BBS, which indicates a lack of experience and an unwillingness to just go out and talk to girls.

>>17784703
This.

Only true autists think they can use "tek" without getting made fun of. You faggot lol

>>17784693
Easily? With "great cash"? Buy a prostitute if youre that desperate. Otherwise just go to a bar or concert or some shit where literally 100% of the people there are thirsty af.

Almost joined, so glad I didn't. My father warned me against it and I now understand why; after his years of service he came out with no useful transferable skills or anything to show for it.
Go to college or university and study a STEM major.

I joined but regret doing so. Fuckin sucked.

>>17784665
My feelings about this cycle quite a lot.

Background:
>Cadets at school
>Officer Training Corps and Cadet Instructor at uni
>Was pretty fucking good at this shit
>Not able to balance it with my studies
>Slowly wind down and stop

Every now and again I realise that remaining in the reserves would have made me a more interesting person to others. However, it is a massive time-sink; you will be spending up to 1 in 2 weekends training. That's a lot of time.

Also, there are great opportunities to travel, meet new people, have sex with debutantes, the whole shit.

I think about joining up again now. my civilian skill-set is closely related to those which the army will make direct use of but my field is not something that the army use day-to-day. I would need to spend time in civvie street training myself up for my military role and this puts me off quite a bit. I don't want to spend a year out of training in order to wear a beret.

Having said that, I always feel a pang of jealousy when I meet serving or former soldiers/officer. I have huge respect for them.

>>17784656
"Sorry cant fuck today busy" x10
" sorry I sorta started seeing someone"
"Hey, is it okay if we cool it with all this fucking eachother with no strings attached?"
"You're fucking great, but I think it's best if we both move on before this gets any more serious"

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Tell that person that you wanna see soon, but never actually do it.

Give that person false hopes, and keep inventing excuses.

Now tell that person to get ready, cause you are going to pick him/her up then turn off your phone and land phone.

Next day invent the most idiotic excuse and tell that person that you will reschelue soon.

Ignore phone calls, see the messages but never answer them, so that person knows that it has been seen.

Promise that you will give a gift to make it up but never show up, instead turn off your phone and continue to ignore that person.

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>>17784993
Also, whatever you do, never tell that person that you want to stop seeing each other. Tell that person that times have not match, and that you need time to program your agenda.

Also, call that person at 2 am, and as soon as he/she picks up, hang up and turn off your phone. Next day, tell that person that yoy dialed a wrong number, that you wanted to call a pizza store or something.

The point here is to play with his/hers subconcious, so that it will think that she is the one who wants to be in a relationship with a self entitled asshole. Talking wont work. This method guarantiees that she will think it was her decision all the time, and not yours.

Be sure to call that person from time to time, and tell that person that you want to see again. If she answers something like "fuck off asshole", then mission fucking accomplish.

Before dumping a fuck pal, be sure to do the things on this list:

Naked pictures of her
A video of her doing oral sex
Anal
Cum in her mouth
Cum in her tits
Cum in her ass
Cum in her face

Save those pictures/videos on a password protected zip file, then you may proceed to "inception her mind"

Even if you dont feel like doing it, you must, otherwise you will continue to return to the same cumdumpster.

Been there/done that a million times

>>17784640
You a med student, bro?

Doctor, here

What is your exam about?

Basically flashcards.

>tomorrow
Yeah, I got some bad news. You're not supposed to wait till the last day to study.
Good luck

>>17784643
I've got 2 A&P exams tomorrow. One is specifically about labelling diagrams like this and covers the anatomy of the brain, spinal cord, heart, lungs and female reproductive system

>>17784636
If he doesnt really act like Chad, hes not really Chad as far as I'm concerned. Just because he drinks and parties doesnt mean shit, just that he's fun (and maybe popular). Whats more important is whether the dude is a kind empathetic person or not. Chad is not. But sounds like you think this guy is. Go for it femanon.

just tell him youll fuck him thats what you want to do

>>17784650
How do I even approach him? My friend tried, he tried asking if he has any other hobbies than partying. He told him that he used to game nd stuff but now isn't interested in that anymore. After my friend ignored every single party invite from him (about 5 or so, + one to bake "space cookies") he's started to respond way less to him. He still did message him recently with a party invite to one that he definitely can go to (my gay friend is underage [17] unlike us), which was really nice of him as he thought about him.
I don't blame Chad for not being as interested, there's no reason for him to if the convos are dry and my friend dips on him every time, but yea. I'm just afraid because of my French I'll be the same to him. I'm willing ofc to try out a party or two but what then? ^^ seems like he's not interested in much else.
...except that he posts really great photos done by him of silly things, has pictures of him with a snowman, stuff like that. Jesus I don't know.

[2/2]
This shit happens every time I like someone and it makes me feel so weird.
Why can't I want someone forever? Isn't that what people seek when they start going out?
Am I just some kind of psycopath that uses people to fulfill his emotional/attention needs and gets tired of them once he had all he wanted from them?
I have no idea how this works for other people, I don't know what people think when they start going out with someone.

What do I do if the day comes?
Do I lie to her and tell her I don't like her and spend months in bed obsessing and crying and feeling like utter shit whenever I see her?
Do I tell her the truth and scare her so she won't be comfortable around me anymore and force the both of us to avoid each other until we develop different groups of friends again?
Also, what's wrong with me?

Advice very much needed since it can help me in similar ocasions in the future.

Hey..cheer up, we are so much likely the same. Trust me i feel you. I feel like i'm the one who's writing what i'm reading rn. If you love the person go and fight for her. Tell her what you actually feel and ask what does she think about it. If she doesn't feel the same way well. Atleast you tried. Instead of doing nothing and just regret at the end right? We really do have same situation rn. But mine is different cause i'm a girl. And you're a guy it feels like the guy i liked and cared so much doesn't like me now after saying he loves me for a few months. Things ended up between both of us few days ago and i couldn't accept the fact That he's leaving me now. But i fought for him untill yesterday. But then we had a talk just this morning a serious talk. Cause I'm getting sick for days now and had to go to hospital today and have myself checked up. So yeah long story short we talked about us and we had an agreement to yeah end things up. And just stay friends than nothing. Cause we seriously dont wanna lose each other even we're not lovers. So yeah. Eventually i gave up and agreed to what he wanted. Even if it kills me desu. But here iam. Getting better. And trying to be a much better person now. It wont be easy. But soon enough you'll be pretty fine. Atleast you know to yourself that you tried so hard,even things might not end up pretty well at the end. Atleast you wont regret that you didnt gave it a try you can do it!!!!

>>17784783

Thank you for your reply

The problem is, she has already been through a lot of shit in her life.
Problems with her family, etc.
She's brave and strong and admiring her so much is one of the things I like so much about her, but the last thing I want is to be yet another thing in her life to make her feel like shit.

I think I'd rather hold back and miss the chance even if I can't stop thinking of her now

(I didn't reply earlier because the page kept saying connection error)

>>17784585

depending on where you live, you should try and invest in a really fucking warm blanket. thermal under clothes and socks would be ideal while sleeping in your car.

save up, and find a place to live. thats it. if you got a job and you got a shower, you're not doing too bad.

its going to be difficult but please try to save money by not eating out every meal. stock up on a bag of apples, some bananas etc. anything that doesn't require codl storage (unless its just winter freezing where you live in which case you're kind of in luck).

if you have friends, invite yourself over to dinner or to chill a lot.

>>17784585

if you're in the los angeles area i can house you until like... monday.

>>17784607
Don't be a bum, if they offer help accept, but you don't wanna lose your friends on top of your home. I'd trade my car in for a camper van if i was in your shoes. What's the timeframe you're planning on being homeless?

>>17784571
That sounds fun, she can give you head standing up

>>17784574
>>17784571
Plus the difference in height means you'll smash her in bed.

Hope that she's a masochist.

6"8' master race.

Short girls like it if you aren't stiff. If you are goofy or funny or can sit and talk, they like that.

>>17784554
One thing you can't lie about is when they eventually fact check your resume and find out that you lied about everything and proceed to give you a horrible reference which spreads to over job postings that you go for.

Lying to an employer regarding your grades ( especially a degree ) is stupid as more often or not they will require certification to prove your degree.

>>17784560
>more often or not they will require certification to prove your degree.
that's really not true. Only places like government positions or maybe Google will do that shit. For the rest of everybody else it's not worth the cost unless they don't believe you from the interview.

>>17784560
That's a rational response but doesn't really answer my question. Thanks for trying though!

Exactly the same here. My advice:

1) Pick a study that sucks the least and join a club of some sort. You'll be fine from there, the plans will be made for you.
2) Take a year off to just think, maybe travel. It might enlighten you, it did for some people I know

Honestly, in 2 years we'll be thinking ''Wtf was I stressing about''
This is not stuff to be lying in bed awake about, it will just be fun. Good luck!

Is there a community college in your area? Sign up for classes there, it's hella cheap and easy, you can see what's its like to take a college class without too much financial risk, also there are classes specifically for helping freshman find a field they can study, usually it's called a counseling class

>>17784460
18 here, in first semester of college
If you don't want a shit degree, don't do a shit major
Apply early if you do college though, it makes it a lot easier to get in
Freshman year is easy, and college is a second chance to make friends and do things you never could in high school

>>17784431
Damn that sucks. Im deep down really mad at you and think you're stupid for leaving a girl you make sound great. You sound selfish worrying about money, yourself and how it effects you. Me me me. But i know love makes people do dumb shit. And i know that you will probably end up hurting your current gf more. You in a fucked situation anon. I dont envy your current situation or sympathize because ill kill to have what you have. I can empathize tho.

>>17784451

Trust me, I know how selfish I'm being. But you can't expect someone to live their life a certain way just because they're lucky. I know a lot of people would kill to have a kind a loyal girlfriend like I do. But I'm miserable with her. Also, I did mention that one of my biggest concerns was her hurting herself, but I do respect your opinion and your right to be upset with me.

kill yourself