>female friend is hinting that she wants to set me up with a friend of hers
>hasn't outright stated it but mentioned that we would get on, then invited her to something I was going to
>I like the girl but I'm a socially clueless sperg
>not sure how to proceed
Ask female friend for input? Man the fuck up and ask the girl out somewhere? third, not considered option? wat do?
Don't worry about being clueless, "clues" aren't allowed anymore. Everything has to be direct and concise. All jokes aside though, don't sweat it. You already know you like the chick so you're not going to have any trouble being around her. That interest is usually enough to keep things coming on its own; it's when it disappears that you'd be in trouble.
>>17822882
Wait wait wait. So your friend invited her friend, trying to set you up. Did you talk with the girl? Did you hit it off? What happened?
>>17822904
I found it quite hard to read desu. We had a bit of banter and she did add me on facebook within like 5 minutes of leaving the event.
Female-friend then mentioned how girl has spare tickets to a show and nobody to go with but I'm not free to do so due to other commitments. I'm not sure if the girl is asking them to do any of this or if it's their own initiative. I have no idea if she's interested or not.
I've not spoken with girl since meeting her last week because awkward as fuck.
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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
><random insecurity>
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No.
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Fuck off
I want to start talking to and maybe ask out a girl that I have a small class with.
Problem is I already did the same with another girl in the same class and got rejected which was a little embarrassing.
Do you think it'd make the next girl feel like a second choice or find me less attractive?
Its been a month or so and me and the first gal are just friends who sit together and talk during class.
>>17822714
Gtfo with this shit
>>17822723
Why was the first girl rejection public? How does the second girl know?
I'm 30 years old, live in my moms basement, have no job, have no friends, and have no hobbies aside from addictions. I avoid alcohol because I have a serious problem with it. I'm completely addicted to porn (3x a day most days). Ive held jobs in the past (9 years in a grocery store). I've recently "quit" smoking weed (day 4 today) and absolutely NOTHING interests me. NOTHING.
I can't even accurately describe what that feels like. I wake up every day and literally wait until it's time to TRY and fall asleep and then I spend hours forcing myself to sleep. Everyday is the same, no friends, no family other than my mom, just nothing.
What's worse is that even if I suddenly won the lottery tomorrow, nothing would really change. I'd still have my addictions only then they'd be more dangerous if I had the income to support all of my bad habits.
I used to go for hikes as my only means of excersize, the problem is that the only way I could motivate myself to get up and out was to pack a bowl and smoke before I started my hike. Walking for 6 miles in the woods stoned is fun, walking 6 miles in the woods sober is boring as fuck. Now that I don't have weed I have no reason to leave the house. I have no interest in anything at all. The antidepressant I'm on has lowered my sex drive a bit and now I'm not really even all that interested in trying to find a girl or anything. What the fuck am I supposed to do? Work really hard to get a career that I'm going to get sick of? Work my balls off to pay for my own place so I can ruin my life with as much drugs and alcohol as a rich man can afford? I have no real hobbies because nothing interests me, how am I supposed to get a hobby if in 30 years I have never been able to find one? People are supposed to have dreams and goals. I have none.
Why should I keep trying? How do people get dreams and goals? How does one "want" things like hobbies and social relationships?
>>17822665
>What's worse is that even if I suddenly won the lottery tomorrow, nothing would really change.
This is bullshit. You don't have interest because you don't have access to anything interesting. This is a common problem - thinking life is shit because YOUR life is shit.
>>17822665
>how am I supposed to get a hobby if in 30 years I have never been able to find one?
Why would you be able to find something if you're addicted to dumb shit that steals your attention from anything else? If you're lived in a bubble all your life, it's not that surprising that you lack the motivation and drive to leave it.
Most people find their hobby from trying different shit, often something their friends suggested or do.
Goals are even easier, no matter how ignorant or apathetic you are, one usually realizes that their position could be better and wants to improve it. More able people look beyond their own desires and try to improve their environment, etc
>>17822698
I agree with this, but you are only judging and dismissing me without offering any insight. How do I fix this common problem?
>>17822720
So you're saying all I need is friends? What time is the friend store open today? Do they accept IOU's? Again there isn't much insight here, it sounds like you are just telling me to "cut the shit and get your shit together"-which is great advice, just not very insightful. You are basically saying "Better people than you actually go out and do things" which again, you are 100% correct, I just have no idea where to begin or how to start.
Hi, everybody! I want to change my life, but i don't know how. I'm tired of currently life. How can i open new targets?
if you're not emotionally unstable right now, it helps sometimes to take stock of your current situation. current good things, current things you'd like different, etc.
make lists so you can see it.
>>17822567
I want to be actor, but i finished finance univercity. I was freelancer all time. My acquaintances have good job with relly nice salary. I have nothing. My parents are very old and i must help them. New day like past day. Do I need to start looking for a good job, build a career?
>>17822612
well, you need a job period. If youre going to act, you need to understand most people who do are not making much money except the very top tier.
debt is your enemy. learn what it takes to live within your means.
So. How is this looking for me?
I guess like 50/50 right now?
(Other messages from her are longer on average aswell)
The ball is in her park, she'll probably forget about it.
>>17822438
Maybe. I did mention a day that I know for sure I'm free. But went dark after that. (But usually does around then)
This is kinda how she responds to the rest of the messages. (Length and detail wise. I specifically asked about classes)
I don't think I can live in modern society anymore.
I used to work at a pretty big software company and had decent pay, but I hated it. I felt dead inside. So I thought I'd go back to Uni and get a harder degree so I could work on cooler shit, maybe even start my own company, but honestly I'm hating it here as well, everyone is arrogant and the material isn't even that interesting.
It seems that no matter what I do, I'm never happy. I'm a programmer and honestly I can't say I enjoy it, I can get jobs but they're always stressful and I always see the same bullshit of managers getting paid 3x as much as everyone else for doing jack shit.
I'm not full nihilist (yet) but right now it seems like there's no point to any of this since I can't seem to enjoy myself. I think I made the mistake of pursuing "success" in my adolescence and early adulthood, so I don't have many friends or people to even talk to. I'm spending more and more time just procrastinating by myself, which I know isn't good but I'm losing motivation to do anything else, because I feel like I'll just end up in the same shitty place I was before.
One thing I've considered is going full hermit and living in a cave somewhere but I've put barely any real thought into this, and I always think about how I'd miss things from my old life (like the internet).
>>17821893
>I don't have many friends or people to even talk to.
There's your problem. Get off 4chan and go meet people.
>>17821893
same boat brother.
Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. Consider getting treated by seeing a doctor.
Just found out my boyfriend is cheating on me, after discovering this I immediatley felt like puking. I still feel sick, I'm drowning my feelings in alcohol right now. I haven't had the chance to speak to him yet. What should I tell him besides the standard freak out bullshit?
How do you know he is cheating on you? Is it possible its a misunderstanding?
>>17821627
figured out his fb password
Confront him but be calm, move on and don't look back. Most of the time it's better to just let go, he will keep making mistakes.
I know because the same thing happened to me, I walked away and he got what he deserved through his own doing.
Question for men and women in their 30s+
I'm a 21 year old girl and ive been going on dates with a 37 year old man. Ive been told repeatedly by friends that he's most likely just interested in fucking a younger woman. Is this most likely the case?
>>17821492
Sounds like a cradle robber to be honest
>>17821500
Yeah I know. But since there's not exactly a line up of decent men into me I have to take my Chances if I want a little affection.
>>17821492
lol
why exactly do you think they are dating you?
do you honestly believe they are thinking long term with you?
If the only think that you want is attention, you probably can get it from them, but under any circumstances think it would be your end game.
what do you do, if your girlfriend doesn't want to please your fetish (don't know if that is the right wording, not a native speaker)?
We've talked about it, and she knows how much I like it, but she won't do it. I won't die or anything, but I thought, maybe somebody out there found a good solution.
pic related is a very subtle hint
well, if she's not comfortable with it i think the best thing to do is leave it alone
i used to date this footfag and idk i wasn't into her licking my feet so eventually it stopped happening and then we broke up
>>17821138
you want to eat her ass? stop watching porno or she's going to leave your ass.
>>17821175
okay, i guess its the best like that.. Did you tell her you didn't want her to do it and she just stopped? Or what happened?
>>17821203
You have to try it though
I'm going to a concert downtown tonight at a nightclub downtown in my city. I live out in the suburbs, and I usually don't go to concerts (or downtown) alone. I have no experience with clubbing or any of that scene. I'm a 20 year old female, and I always get mistaken for much younger, like 14-16. Not because I'm small, but I have a youthful face. My parents are concerned I may run into trouble either at the club or on the way home, as I'd have to take public transit, and it's Saturday night so there will be lots of people drinking. I have no street smarts and I'm very shy and non-confrontational.
My parents are concerned for my safety, and now that they're bringing it up, I'm starting to get nervous, too. Is this too dangerous? How do I handle it if someone comes up and talks to me? I don't ever want to cause a scene and I've been groped on public transit because I'm too nervous to speak up. Also I'm friendly when someone speaks to me, even if I'm not interested in them. How do I handle these situations in a way that isn't rude or mean, but still gets the message across? Should I just not go?
Another thing to note is that I don't drink, so I will be totally sober.
Also to note, I dress very modestly (band t-shirt), and it is winter so I will be bundled up in a big coat/scarf/hat when outside.
>>17820856
Take a taxi home
>>17820863
taxi is expensive and I've never taken one before so I'd rather avoid it. What's the etiquette?
Let's talk shit about our exes.
Mine was downright allergic to any mention of anything besides pure monogamy but he acted cuckier than anyone I've ever met. He acted like those closeted gays who run anti gay camps except with polygamy instead of sensually rubbing other men's balls. I can't think about him without thinking ''enormous god-tier cuck''. I have nothing against cucks, but Jesus Christ.
He had a big Napoleon complex and thought of himself as a hot shit Casanova because he was able to attract ladies. He always went for the lowest hanging apples, though. You know, the fat chicks who have low self esteem and hit on anything with a pulse. Whenever a girl would look at him in the street he'd start bragging about how much they wanted him. I got plenty of those looks from men but I always assumed it was because they thought I looked weird. Go figure.
Talking shit about exes expose you as well, remember that.
There is literally nothing more off-putting than people talking shit about their exes.
Like - you dated them. You choose them.
It shows that you're either desperate or retarded.
what is the most alpha sex position you can do?
Something that instantly signals to your girl that she is the bitch and you are the alpha male fucking her
just learn to fuck better and she is gonna be happy ;)
Doggy I guess, you are towering over her while she (if she knows what she's doing) accomodates you the best by lowering herself. Plus no eye contact etc just plowing her from behind.
But if you want to degrade a woman you're better off talking dirty to her from that angle. No woman who enjoys sex is going to feel like she's put in her place (unless she's into that thought) because someone is giving her pleasure and hard for her.
>>17819181
you fuck her mouth
anyway you need to do alpha things outside the bedroom. At a party, girl in the lap of her bf and I grabbed her hand as I walked by and the stupid bitch got up and followed me right into the bathroom and fucked me. bf knew cause he was standing outside the door when we came out
OP from a thread in the last day here, no prizes for anyone who guesses which thread.
Boyfriend went to bed in another angry rage again. This time for nothing I fucking did. This is the fifth night in a row he's lashed out at me and gone to bed without even saying he loves me and has left me to cry by myself. Is it bad I find it manchild behaviour? He doesn't get his way so he runs off. If I stand up for myself I'm an unreasonable bitch. What am I meant to do, be a doormat?
>>17823471
That sounds entirely reasonable to find it "manchild behaviour"
i don't know the context of the original thread, but it sounds pretty bad.
>>17823498
I can elaborate if you want me to but I know if he lurked and saw this I'd be dead meat. Not like he doesn't talk behind my back either and right now I have every right to want support from people when he's going and being like this to me.
>>17823500
I don't want you to get into trouble, but if I knew some context I'd be able to give better advice.
From here it sounds kind of abusive.
So i bought a custom computer over 2 years ago.
Swapped out the PSU for a stronger one ( 500W ) and got a new graphics card ( gtx 750 ti ) a year ago.
Now i want to move all that into a better case because prebuilt cases are shit.
Could i move a prebuilt motherboard into a custom case like this one?
Uhm yes? What motherboard and what case
The motherboard is a Gateway DX4870
And this is the shitty case i wanna swap from
I didn't mean to put custom i meant prebuilt in the first post
I literally cannot help myself, I just love to flirt and tease guys. I like to type to them and talk dirty, I just love knowing they are sat there getting excited and wanting me. I like to think of them going away and thinking about me as they cum.
Am I just a naughty slut?
I guess the advice part is me asking if there is something wrong with me for doing this? I am not doing it with multiple guys at once. I choose one who I know will enjoy.
>>17823184
depends. there's no strict definition of a slut. someone will call you a slut for sleeping with 100 men. someone will call you a slut for sleeping with 1.
the idea of a slut is someone who just has sex for the sake of sex. so if you're not attracted to the guy, you're a slut. if you're with someone cuz they're easy and / or convenient instead of someone you actually like, thats slutty.
but those are the definition im comfortable with.
you are a naughty slut, but in the fun way. its okay im the same. im basically just a tease
>>17823191
nah, unless you turn it into homewrecking, which isn't cool.