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My nigga, I'm in literally the same position as you. It's been about 2 months now and I've never felt better.

I just try to think positive, find the good in most things and tell myself no when thoughts get cloudy and bad again.
Just keep moving forward and everything will get better along with you.

>>17825786
>>17825797

there's no real answer. but my advice? try to look at life like a video game. when the hard part comes you dont turn it off. its part of the fun. think of life like a TV show. the main character doesn't spiral into depression and stays victimizing. he finds out what hte problem is, tries to fix it, and uses it as a learning lesson.

most problems are fixable. the worst case scenario is you let go of something or someone holding you back. if your dad depresses you, dont call him.

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>dude, just, like, think positive bro

REEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

>>17825776
god damn that bitches face is tiny

Assuming your business doesn't fail (which it probably will) and you're left with this debt that you have no way to repay, it's also fraud. Depending on where you live, money for student loans also sometimes go straight to the school to stop people like you abusing the system.

Also that girl is wearing such an unflattering outfit.

>>17825781
Well say I only use 1 k to start a couple of small endeavors and one of them takes off and I use the money from that to start a bigger one

My friend used his student loans to buy and resell supreme for example and never had anything go wrong but he didn't expand it to a bigger buisness

George W Bush, should be a piece of cake to analyse.

Robert Frost

Edgar Allan Poe

>This so unfair
No it's not. Cancer doesn't discriminate. And it's not like he wasn't warned about the dangers of smoking either.

>>17825727
If he keeps smoking of course it's going to get worse.

>>17825735
It's unfair, because some people smoke all their life and get cancer when they are 80 and have already lived their life to the fullest, had children, grandchildren, etc. He hasn't even had a chance to live yet.

I could use advice form both genders on this one,

I have developed feelings for a friend of mine and I'm pretty sure she doesn't feel the same way (I have no idea for sure so I'm guessing but let's say it's true for this post), I think I need to cut her out of my life so I can get over her. How can I cut her out without her being hurt from me ignoring her?

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straight girls

Do you really find the average male body attractive? Whats the appeal?

I am not talking about Chad Thundercock ripped.

>>17825707
>Do you really find the average male body attractive?
Sure
>Whats the appeal?
Big, warm, fun to cuddle. What's not to like?

I don't understand how this could be a fetish for you, you can't see yourself with the mask on.

>>17825665
prostitutes ?

>>17825665
You don't logically convince a girl to do anything
While you're fucking just say
"Hold on, you know what would make this better" put it on
And if she says anything
Say "it just makes things so much sexier"
Let me know how it goes

>>17825615
what a stupid fucking waste of time question. I don't understand why you've posted this

>>17825616
Just want you guys to know he has a gf. Let him be happy.

>>17825615
If I were you I'd do them together.

>>17825604
does the landlord know when you actually moved in "illegally" ?

get your friends to say you moved in last week or something

asking for back rent is kind of iffy see what the lease says

>>17825604
If he wants you to pay the past 5 months increase ask to pay it off over a period of time instead of as a lump sum. If he wants you to pay and you refuse he can take you ANF your roommates to court over it. Even if he's a nice guy you've cheated him out of a shit ton of money, apologize and if he asks for the last five months negotiate for time to pay it off.

>>17825651
Back rent would be the lenient legal way to handle it, if he wanted he could take them to court. In civil court a more than 50 percent chance is considered enough proof, he could just point to the increase in utility usage.

Don't start reading manga you fucking weeb

>>17825597
In comic tbp size, flipped so it reads left to right.

Don't be a weeb bro.

It's how I read all the good ones in the 90s.

>>17825600
I make sure to keep a good 10 feet distance between myself and japanese culture otherwise.

>>17825592

>my friends are telling me I am acting really arrogantly.

life is a constant struggle between being yourself, and improving yourself. its hard to tell where the line is of being a better person and just pretending to be something you are not.

its a lot like that greek legend about sissyphus, forced to push that rock up a hill, and everytime he'd get close, it'd slide back down.

but sometimes it wouldn't slide back as far. and sometimes it might slide in a bit of a different direction. maybe its not about finding that spot at the top of the hill, but a different spot on the side of it.

if you are actively thinking about what you say and do, you will examine yourself more. your past actions, and then your current ones. just try, and apologize when someone calls you out on something specific. just dont think yourself the worst person in the world for it, that just makes it a different problem, it victimizes yourself instead of pushing you toward self improvement.

>suicide

sin isn't real. 'selfish' is a lie you tell yourself to make you feel noble. you don't want to kill yourself, otherwise those wouldn't be a real issue. you are just tired of life as it is, and you can't understand the idea of a new life.

>>17825606
I went and looked and I can't see what they mean, but I feel like such a goddamn wreck I probably wouldn't see it anyway. When I asked for examples they just ignored me.

I don't know how to change it, and believe me I've tried.

>>17825629

>they dont tell me what the problem is
>BUT BELIEVFE ME I TRIED TO FIX IT

thats pretty contradictory. you cant say you tried if you never found the problem.

again, sissyphus. you will never reach a perfect state of personality. we all need our flaws. we are balanced people.

people who tend to be selfish tend to be very confident and secure.
people who tend to be selfless tend to think of themselves as lesser than others.

someone may be humble, but dumb. so smart people tend to be a bit more egotistical.

a nice person may be a push over, and someone who is steady in that sense might come off as mean.

what i mean to say is we are all a balance of qualities, usually ones much more subtle than what i list here. our defects tend to be caused by something positive going 'too far'.

what you need to do is not fall into victimization as i metnioned, and thats what you're doing now.

you've reached a place of
>theres a problem with me
>I CANT CHANGE IT I TRIED

so you arent here looking for advice, you are trying to be talked down to so you can fall deeper in that hole, turning yourself from the villain, to the tragic hero, a man stuck inside his intrinsic flaws that no one can love.

don't fall into that. keep at it. be proud that you are working at it and approach your friends about what you do in a humble way, not a 'prove it!' way.

>>17825588

how would we know you attention whoring faggot

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>>17825588
kepp twitting stuff & driving the libbies nuts

>>17825635
I hate how you retarded trump cucks call anyone who disagrees with him a liberal. As if there are no sensible, normal people who see through that sick carrots shit.

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Now my mother found out today that I vaped and also smoked in the past, and she completely kicked off. Fucking knew this was gonna happen which was why I never told her about any of this. She went completely off her head, screaming at me, calling me an idiot, telling me that I've "no fucking right to be stressed" because "she knows how it is", telling me to look for my own place, which I've already told her in the past I was trying to, it's just a matter of saving up money and finding people to move out with. She then went on to criticize my entire life, called me scum for ONCE bringing a girl from Tinder over when my parents were in, telling me that she had no idea I'd sink so low etc. I enjoyed spending time with that girl as well, she didn't want anything too serious but it was a good experience for me since we could have sex, cuddle, watch movies and talk for ages, just a nice relaxed atmosphere which was really good for me since in high-school I had proper self-esteem and anxiety issues and didn't lose my virginity until I was 19. But apparently if I don't make her my gf straight away I'm a fucking deadbeat loser.

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I couldn't be fucked with any of that so I just told her to stop talking to me as if I was still 13 and that I wasn't gonna speak to her until she calmed the fuck down.

Then my dad came back home and said something about how much disappointed he was and that he thought I had my shit together but that I clearly don't. Which is a bit of a joke since he's in his late 40s and all he fucking does with himself is go to work, watch shite on youtube and play videogames. At nearly 50 years of age.

Best part is that both my parents vape indoors as well since they quit cigs too, but when I do it it's suddenly the end of the world. Got told that if I wanna do it I've to fuck off outside, to which I replied that when I see them doing that then I will as well.

What the fuck /adv/, am I somehow in the wrong here? It's technically not even "their" house, we stay in council housing. Haven't spoken to them in the past 5 hours and frankly have no desire to. Why the fuck would they kick off about something so minor? Not sure how to feel about this, apart from not wanting to put up with any of this shit.

>>17825581
are you asking for advice or just blogging ?

move out stop smoking vaping it really is bad for your health start exercising get your own apartment save $$ etc

>>17825563
Also it may be worth noting that I don't currently have a job. I used to work in a gas station, but I absolutely hated it. The pay was actually very good, and most of my co-workers were fun to be with, but the job itself was awful and I hated dealing with customers.

Bump, same problem op.

My dream is to be a game dev as well, and I'm trying to juggle and balance all sorts of things and experiences at the same time too.

B-Bump?

Ask your doctor for something called zineryt.
I used to use it often when I needed it and now only use it every now and again for new acne breakouts. Once you get it down it gets easier to manage. I'm almost 100% spot free now!

>>17825550
see a dermatologist

clindamycin, tetracycline

lots of prescription meds

try benzoyl peroxide OTC in USA

diet can make a difference too

do internet search for acne etc

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>>17825550

if your acne is really bad, then it can be hard to beat it.

pic related is me before and after isotretinoin. its a cream that kinda just peels the acne right off. its literally just a high dose of vitamin A to the skin.

however if your skin is sensitive you still spend your whole day washing and moisturizing and applying and eating right and trying not to touch it ti avoid acne. it sucks.

so i took tretinoin, which is isotretinoin but you ingest it in the mouth. you probably know it as 'accutane'.

i took it for 3 months and have had no problems isnce then, i look like the 'after' pic all the time now.

>>17825535
what is going on here ?

i read nothing is happening except lots of brainwaves in your head

who knows what she meant by that

next time you see her try to talk to her instead of just holding open door ?

>>17825551
Meant by what? I don't think she acknowledged me it's rather that I'm just interested in her. Also, ik, I regret not talking to her on the bus. Tbh tho I wouldn't even know how to engage a conversation in a situation like that.

>>17825535

it's common but pathetic
you're developing a crush on an imaginary person