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>>18665897
>people know who I am because of my story

What? You famous? If you are not famous, then just don't tell people about your money. Problem solved.

Just look for the signs bro. You must have thought about that to some extent. Whatever potential relationship you have, you should establish clear boundaries for money. Don't tell her financial stuff.

>>18665897
>How do I find a girl that likes me for me

Be likeable.

Its normal but your parents want you to keep in touch.

If you don't feel like you want to, make sure you won't regret it when they die.

I personally don't blame you, and its far from abnormal, just mean.

>>18665885
Pass the word along via your brother that you are well and happy, but at the moment you feel you are better off without contact. Assure them that you will turn to them if anything bad happens.

Meanwhile, if you plan to stay in touch with your brother, give him permission to tell them anything he knows about your activities

What was your childhood with them like?

>>18665858
Carpenter here:

Take a course. Theres a lot of advanced math and physics and engineering knowledge youll need, not to mention tricks and gimmicks to make things come together nicely.

For example making a square sounds easy until you do it. Theres a bunch of stuff that could go wrong youd never predict. Also you would need to learn to apply Pythagorean theory to make your cabin square in the first place.

Youll need trigonometry, youll need practice with the tools, proper use training, so on and so on.

Can you do it? Absolutely. Is it a great idea to be trained and educated before blowing tens of thousands on lumber, fucking it all up then having to buy more? Abso-fucking-lutely.

Im a third year and good at my job. One weekend i decided to build my gf a kitchen island. It was more trouble than i bargained for and i ran into so many problems. It came out great in the end, but even with my applicable skills from work, i still would have benefited from being shown how to do that exact kind of work.

Ill bet you that scales up exponentially from a fucking table to a goddamn log cabin.

>>18665866
But how much does this carpentry course cost? and how long does it last? Could I do it aside to my normal work? I am really into nature and to living according to its laws. I am educated as a biological scientist, and I wanted to use this knowledge to earn necessary money to buy a piece of land and materials and tool necessary during building a cabin. I know it might sound naive, but I was thinking about learning from youtube videos like this one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKL6F5zw2o8&list=FLNf-Z39YvGT-rPDZusb5oSw&index=2

>>18665866
>>18665866
or maybe to use already pre-existing guides like this one https://www.logcabinhub.com/how-to-build-a-log-cabin/... I don't want to sound rude, but I don't want to waste another few years of studying to do something. I want it to be a more like an adventure... But not only to fail, I am not stupid, but with all due of respect, I will never get into carpentry to the same level as you do, I want to treat it more as a hobby, or passion.

>>18665819
It's the opening line from some sci-fi movie or book

>>18665791
All your hand looks infected anon

Yeah, don't put your hand near your crotch at all. When you think about sex, go onto YouTube and watch "How its Made" videos. It's interesting enough it'll distract your mind

For sure when you are getting into it do not use 4chan. Too much porn everywhere.

>>18665773
Forgot to mention that I used to fap twice a day; so me being already on day 3 I feel like punching a wall

diet + exercise (being full and exhausted lends itself to sleepiness)
nyquil is fuckin' amazing in a pinch like if you *have* to sleep right NOW
try getting a prescription for ambien if this is a chronic issue
melatonin has fucked me over so many times with oversleeping that I can't recommend it in clear conscious

>>18665771
Go to bed the time you should, even if you don't sleep
Get up the time you should even if you're still tired
After a couple of days of being tired all day your body will adjust to the new schedule

>>18665766

How did you get a girlfriend?

>>18665766
>I'm in college and I try to force myself to be social, but I don't seem to be improving

Keep doing this, you're onto a good start. You need time and practice. If your teen years lacked social interraction it will be harder for you, because teenage years are some of the most important developmental years. However, social skills are just like any skill: practice, regualar use and a variety of situations will eventually help you improve. Keep pushing yourself. Put yourself in situations outside your comfortzone. The more you do, the easier it gets. The more difficult social situations your put yourself into, the easier the regular interactions become. But don't be too hard on yourself, not everyone is a social master or a natural extrovert and nor do you have to be. Just consciously develop your skills and eventually you'll notice an improvement, but if you keep yourself to an impossible standard, you'll just end up disappointed and frustrated.

>>18665772
This. Enlighten us.

>>18665753
>I've seriously considered getting into a relationship simply to satisfy this urges.

Well why the fuck not? Seems like a simple solution.

# sexsualize

>>18665755
What about love

ear her out lots

>>18665724

It really depends. I'm bi myself and have been in a committed relationship for the past 6 years. Just because I find people of the same sex attractive too doesn't mean I love my SO somehow less or feel unsatisfied by our relationship. It's the same as in any relationship; some people wish they could fuck other people while in a relatioinship, some are perfectly happy and fulfilled in a monogamous relationship. The fact that she hasn't "dabbled" might even work in your favour: if she doesn't know what she's missing, she might not miss it at all. Or she might one day want to explore her sexuality regardless. It's really impossible to tell for sure, but you know her best, so you'll have a better hunch on what kind of person she is.

>>18665743

I actually have started to do it more by coincidence as we're getting more comfortable with each other in bed, I'll keep it up haha...

>>18665745

She said she doesn't think she is bi at the moment and just thinks people in general can be interesting to her which I sort of understand, the way she explained it didn't sound sexual at all. I get that it's not different to a regular relationship having its outsider temptations its more just that this is something she hasn't explored so at my age I don't want to invest time, money and energy into someone that will have a mid life crisis at 30 and want to try being a lesbian or something. I guess that's up to me to figure out if she would be capable of that as we get to know each other more. At the moment she doesn't seem like that kind of person but who the fuck knows, people change.

try really hard to distract yourself. idk what it's like to hear it as words though, sorry anon :(

t. had tinnitus my entire life

Smoke some weed desu, I know how that must sound but I had horrible anxiety and kept having repetitive thoughts about dying n shit.. To an unhealthy extent. But weed helped me break an extremely toxic and unhealthy thought cycle, so maybe it'll help you. Just a suggestion, hope you do OK bud

>>18665788
Basically I hear "Combo breaker!" b/c my sound has notes that form and kinda feel like the vowels in the words. And the "C" just comes from the accented introduction of the sound. Lmfao just the Killer Instinct announcer saying CCCOMBOBREAKER constantly. Which, in highsight, is hilarious to read and its perfectly fine to laugh. But its no joke when it prevents me from enjoy music, movies, anime, hell anything I used to listen or watch to I just get pulled out of the moment b/c its too loud to be masked. I struggle to sleep now b/c of it and it just becomes all I think about. I've legitimately considered medically going deaf.

They can literally join the military???

>>18665725
Thier families might find them. They want to dissapear, and South Africa's military is crap.

I heard it has its ups and downs, and overall it's okay. Yeah, the exploitation is true, but you'd get that from most companies. If you don't have anything else better lined up, I'd give it a shot. As long as you're respectful of their culture, they shouldn't be too hard on you.

I heard people tip very generously on MyFreeCams if you're willing to fufill certain fetishes. Plus all you really need to average is an hour a day.

No. Nobody has fantasies. And not with that attitude it won't.
What do you need advice on?

>>18665673

I was just wondering what other people dream about in this context.

Mine isn't realistic, so I'm not really asking anything regarding that

>>18665635
I did this during summer FeelsGoodMan