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>>18666333
666333, fuck.

I dont know man, I know that struggle though. Was unemployed for a year, burned through all savings and lived off my partner working a billion hours a week. Finally got a position thats with some of the dumbest and entitled old folk I've met in a while. The kind of people that have horrible as fuck business practices and ethics but think "Well what the fuck else are you going to do this is the way it is" when it is very clearly not the way it is for anyone thats done business with anyone else.

But I can't go back to not having some money ocming in and I have no idea how to make money without bending over and acting like however they want me to act.

>quitting your job without having another lined up
Enjoy being homeless

>>18666363
People give this line a lot.

What I've never heard is how do you respectfully look for work while you have a job? There was one time when I told my employer that I didn't think it was the right fit for me - not even that I was looking for anything else - he agreed and let me go on the spot.

The human in me says its more respectful to leave a place you dont fit in and search on your own time, instead of taking the place of someone who wants to be there and looking for a job on someone elses time. Thats rude a f, and if being homeless means being a good person so be it.

Autocorrected from chickens

>>18666332
whats your user name, i'll add you as a friend, i have a taor rep

>and I walk like a swim suit model
y donchu show us summa dat dere ass then

>>18666461
Nah senpai do you read?

>>18666505
but I did anon, you're clearly a closeted fag and I'm asking you to come out

I don't even know wtf pmo is or why you'd expect people to know

you're obviously too dumb to understand there's the mother of all grey areas between walking with your dick between your legs and going full gangsta nigga
like
you know
MOST normal people walk
dunno, maybe look at just about any fucking sane person on the fucking street and observe
see how they just....walk?
that thing you learn when you're about 2-3 years old
you go from A to B and focus on the way there, not each fucking step you take
or every breath you take
>but I'll be watchin you babby

>>18666298
Stop watching porn

>>18666298

Just stop. No one is making you do it.

>>18666292
There is trading online. Some websites ask for your information (Ensure you're not money laundering or anything). While some websites you can trade with whom ever.

I can't tell you where to buy it, every market has advantages and disadvantages. Just do a bit of research.

You might base it on things like
-anonymity
-easy of purchase (Especially how (Paypal in this case))
-security (Terms of hacking, and a reliable supplier)

Many trading sites online.

Coinbase if you're in the us is a good place to buy, you can just use a credit card. But the fees for that are high, better to link your bank account. Even then the transaction fees are so high it's better to just buy things in cash. What was it you wanted to buy anyway, nothing illegal I hope.

So How can I convince my doctor this is important

>>18666260
I've been where you are. I could've written your post myself. I went through a similar experience around the same time you did and acted in a similar way. After some hard introspection I realized some things.

Though I wasn't actively looking for a woman, I was totally desperate. I felt fine when there was no prospect but as soon as we started spending time together I got insecure about the relationship and started trying to force it to an expected end instead of just enjoying it for what it was.

I completely creeped the girl out and she is NEVER EVER coming back.

It's better to let someone walk away, hurt in silence and maintain my dignity and integrity than to chase. A few months ago, I felt like my life was over. Now I'm mostly over it and I just feel an overwhelming sense of shame at how weak I acted. It's taken a lot of self-compassion to stop beating myself up about it.

This too shall pass.

OP, no matter how strongly you feel for someone, you have to respect their wishes and you have to maintain self-control. I'm sure before she started to put distance between you she warned you in subtle ways that you were coming on too strong. This isn't to blame you, it's just to say the warning signs were probably there and you should think and try to recognize them so you don't make the same mistakes next time. You'll get over this and you will come across other girls you're interested in. Give it some time and try to focus on loving yourself for now. Most men have had an experience like this in their youth. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just learn from it.

I acted so week and pathetic. The worst part is I realized what I was doing but was powerless to control myself. I'd never in my life acted that way towards a relationship or anything. That's why it hit me so hard. I just don't understand why the feelings I have for her haven't dissipated at all, and the pain hurts just as much. Even though I've dated and seen other girls, it never goes away...

I simply can't get over this girl, and I don't know why. Most days I'm ok, but whenever I have alone time, or worst yet when I see a truly happy couple, I think of her. I almost wish I'd never met her, but I don't. Because I'd give just about anything to relive those brief moments I had with her.

Yet after 3 months of not even seeing her, I still feel the same. Thank you for the advise and kind words anon, it helps.

I'm not sure how it is where you are but usually people who finished the course sell their old books for way cheaper.

I wish I had your problem

>>18666255
>the second a grill starts showing me affection I feel physically sick to my stomach, and have this feeling of dread I cant really describe

You need a professional, man. Go to a psychologist or something. This sounds pretty intense.

>>18666255
You seem to be focused on losing your virginity, maybe you've got some performance anxiety going?

>>18666211
Normies are not self aware, so if you have to ask then, no, you are not.

>>18666226
This

I've never had a relationship before, so definitely never taken a break in one.
The last time I heard of that happening it was pretty much a waste of time but everyone gets different outcomes of course.

Personally in your shoes I'd ask him if he'd stay and help you get the help you need "to make it go easier/ease you into it"
Make sure you explain his help will make your recovery faster and easier. I think if you make that point it'll push him to agree more.

Best of luck to you Anon, I hope you get the help you need.

>>18666205
my gf of 8 years took a break to fuck other dudes when my life was looking shitty
of course this was after her dad killed himself but they were never close anyway
we got back together after that summer but now here i am looking to take a break and fuck other people

Taking a break can work out and you can get back together, but you need to take stock in yourself more than your relationship, go see a shrink and take care of yourself better. it's going to be okay

>>18666205

In theory yes. I worked away from home for 5 months only coming home every 2-3 weeks. It did a lot to restore passion to my gf and I's relationship.

The problem is that break was caused by work and was involuntary. As soon as you say "i think we need a break" it will fill your partner with mistrust and anxiety and with all the shit online about Cheating partners s theyll likely assume thats what youre up to.

If by break you mean just spend time apart for awhile, and you can get your partner on board with trust and a mutual goal, i think itd be amazing.

If youre tryna fuck other people, and you need it so badly you have to tell your partner off for awhile to shield yourself from your own guilt so you can have your cake and eat it too, then you need to seriously reconsider your relationship and whether or not its working, because id bet its not.

>>18666199

Why are you afraid?

>>18666202
Afraid of rejection, afraid of being ridiculed

>>18666244

Have you ever been ridiculed for talking to people? What happened?

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>trying to get off Benzos and hold down a job
You're fucked m8

>>18666184
you should listen to them and get off the internet for a bit

>>18666184
just go along with what they say....for now

read books

>>18666184
>23
>still lives with parents
Yes, they have every right to do this as long as you live under their roof.

pt1:
So I've been with my GF for 5 years now
>for 3 1/2 years we had an amazing relationship
>I left where I was living for her
>Living somewhere I'm miserable culturally but financially well off
>had amazing life with her for a while
>My entire family dies
>no family left
>Her family has been a real family for me
>Our life together is comfortable
Then her eating disorder kicked in
>at first, it wasn't too big a deal. a little worrying, but figgured seeing a psych, nutritionist, and doc once a week would turn her around
>Doc perscribes Prozac
>Over time she becomes worse and worse. It's like she has no emotions or feelings
>Her eating disorder eventually puts her in the hospital because she drops unconcious.
>Ever seen pic 'diet win' on Efukt, at her worse she was worse than that
>Goes to eating disorder facility places for 5 months

>>18666150
pt2
>Finally comes home
>She's worse than she was before
>She's a controlling cunt
>Only has 2 emotions, normal and bitch
>She's back to her shit eating habbits
>Catch her secretly working out more than once
>Disregarding advice
>She's losing the weight she gained
>She's refused to change from Prozac despite a year of me saying its turned her into a zombie
I've gotten to a point where I sleep in a seperate room from her.
>I don't want to leave her. I want to give her one more chance with an eating disorder center before saying this is hopeless. At this point I know it's a bit of a sunken cost falacey, but I truly loved her and miss who she was.
>I don't want to leave the comfort of the life we have together. Our apartment and expenses are quite nice.
>Financially, solo life would kinda be hell. I'm too old for roomates. I don't want to go from potential home owners to spending over spending over 30% on my income to get a 1 bedroom in a half way decent neighborhood.
>I love her family. I still want them in my life.
>I'm pretty much done with chicks after her. I'm in my 30's and am frankly disgusted with the behavior of women now a days.
I'm unsure how to move forward. I feel like I'm holding on to false hope. I want to give it one more chance getting help, but honestly I'm feeling pretty checked out of our relationship and uninterested in others.

I guess I'm looking for advice, even though I'm sure the answer is just going to be leave her. Feel free to troll me as well. At this point I'm checked out of talking about my feelings with this as well.

>>18666148
Just eat more