Need some girl advice, of course, /adv/
Merry christmas to you first of all
>have something going on with a girl for half a year
>she goes back to her ex
>throughout a year we text on and off
>she's indecisive, still
>month ago
>tells me she's gonna block me because she needs to figure stuff out, i've been influencing her to one side
>2 weeks after that
>get text telling me that the only way is a new relationship and let the past be the past
what the hell am i supposed to do now?
am i supposed to do something?
is it ok to just outright ask her what she means with that?
because as of now i'm unsure if she means what she texted me or if she's still with the guy she's unhappy with
>>17889779
If she still couldn't decide after an entire fucking year, she's not worth your time. Just say "I'm over this" and block her, it was never going anywhere and it won't ever go anywhere.
Merry Christmas anon. Unfortunately your situation is not uncommon. Girls like that just want attention and even if she gets with you within a few weeks shell be talking behind ur back with that other guy or even a different one. She doesn't want to choose bc she she just wants the attention of both. She doesn't love or respect either of you. Best advice is to ignore her and move on theres plenty of women out there who don't play these irritating mind games. You'll be much happier with someone less selfish
>>17889779
Shes using you to feel better about herself. Tell her to fuck off, block her, and never talk to her again.
Merry Christmas to all!
For those of you who are alone, and don't have anyone to spend your holiday with. Come join us in this thread. Enjoy your time with your fellow anons :)
Nobody is alone!
Cookie time
>>17889771
Merry Christmas anons!
>>17889792
You too!
How do I put more space between my boyfriend and I? He needs more space, and while I need his attention 24/7. I message him on Facebook or steam or continue conversations for a while after he messages me when we're not together, and I inevitably want him to stop playing video games and spend time with me when we /are/ together. Should I break up with him to make it easier on him? I'm worried that it is inevitable and that he will grow to despise me. Or should I seek therapy and find a way to stop talking to him? How do I do it?
Ok? I'm might be confused, as too many times I am. Did he say he needs more space? Why would u set yourself up for a broken heart by making it easy on him?
first of all work on your self confidence, this is fucking sad.
you dont need a therapist or a break up (if there isnt anything else going on youre not telling us). you need a normal, non-passive-agressive conversation with him about this. dont do it at the christmas table. dont to it with "dont you love me anymore" kind of shit. just tell him excatly what you told us, you like spending time with him and would like to do it more.
no big deal, just a completely normal thing to tell your bf.
>>17889777
I do tell him these things. He knows I need this much time, but he tells me he can't do that, because he needs alone time; he urges me to make friends and get hobbies other than him. I have plenty of conversations with him about this.
So I've apparently gotten a massive crush on my uncle's wife.
What the hell do I do?
Nothing, you do nothing.
>>17889755
How do I get rid of it?
Our family's tight and I really like my uncle, I'm bound to see her everywhere.
>>17889761
get a crush on someone else
I can't stop seeing sex as degrading to women
I can't seem to come to terms with women liking cock
Whenever I see a woman bragging about sex I just wince because it seems so degrading to me.
I don't know why I have these connotations or how to think in a healthier way
Pls halp
>>17889705
Women also love sex and there is nothing more degrading about them having sex than with men, they are not fucked; they have sex.
Your mother is not dirty because she she has or had fun with your father and other men before him and other women are not your mother.
Same for your sister(s) and daughters.
>>17889705
madonna/whore complex
find a therapist to deal with your mommy issues
>>17889717
Googled it.
I might have this...
I don't want to see a therapist. Anything I can do for myself?
So my best friend, who I know a ludicrous amount of dirt on, kissed the chick I've been talking to.
He said that he would as a joke, but I pissed him off (because he pissed me off) and did it.
He is currently dating two women, neither of them know of the other.
How do I proceed? Obviously I don't continue being his friend, the cunt. The chick and I do have something going on though. We text 24/7 and shit through snapchat.
If this seems like a highschool drama deal, it is. I'm 18, friend is older 17.
Do I spill all the shit I know about him? Help plz.
>>17889701
Also, I just learned this through the chick. We've been texting for like 6 hours and she brought it up.
Just texting, I'm sure the girl sees nothing in you if she's already kissed your friend .
Don't fuck your friend over because you're a beta. Save it for something more profound .
>>17889732
The friend isn't my friend. He's a cunt who's only back stabbed me. We also already have plans to go hangout in the future.
I'm thinking the same thing. Got a gift card of 25$. Maybe some cheap headphones or a nice shirt.
a big pack of bananas from the local store, gunna last you atleast 2 weeks
I'd buy me a video game, maybe a t-shirt or a book.
/adv/ pleSe help. Im drunk at my friends, weve all been drinking and his sister has been looking at me. Shes 17. She told someone earlier she doesnt have a bf while lookong straight at me and has been laughing at all my jokes. Pls help
call'd the feds ponyboy. aint gonna get away with this shit famalam
>>17889660
How old are you?
my friend is 23 and dating a 17 year old. besides us joking around with him about it, nobody really gives a shit.
just do it famalam.
bf and i want to try some roleplay. we never did anything like it before. how do we do that so things don't get awkward or unerotic?
does anybody have any good tipps?
pic kind of related
Have a safe word pick characters and behaviors beforehand and don't hold back if you let yourself get completely into it you'll have fun if you try to still act like the ppl you are it'll get really awkward.
I've tried roleplaying incest with my gf before but, even though both of us find it hot, it was impossible to roleplay without being awkward. Possibly because it has less to do with a behaviour and more with the "relative" bond
Watching this thread, tips are welcome
>>17889651
Accept that its going to be awkward the first few times. Have fun and laugh together. Talk about what both of you want / expect.The more you do it, the easier it'll get, just like any sex stuff you do.
I'd suggest start light, as in just roleplay talk or with a simple scenario, and build up from there.
>got drunk and sent my ex a bunch of messages
>she's threatening to file for harassment
>I said nothing sexually explicit or violent in nature
>it was just one night for about an hour
I'm perfectly safe right?
>>17889609
Screencap of some messages? So far it sounds like you're fine though.
>>17889615
Me:Why did you have to hurt me so much
You made me feel like I finally found love and then hurt me
I finally thought I could be happy and you stopped loving me the second you got out of oasis
You told me you loved me and then you tossed me aside like garbage
Did you really even love me in the first place?
I know I said some bad stuff but you promised not to hurt me and you hurt me more than anyone else ever has
I loved you and you just hurt me and made me feel like nobody could ever love me again
I loved you, but apparently you didn't love me
You hurt me worse than anybody else ever has
I was even ready to help you with your pregnancy but you shut me out like you didn't care about me at all
I loved you and you couldn't see why I couldn't settle for anything less
Because no matter what we were I would still love you,and you said that I only wanted to talk to you if you would date me
Did you consider that I loved you,so much it would hurt me to talk to you without being with you?
I went through all that paranoia and internal struggle just for you to be like everyone else and just hurt me and abandon me and stop loving me despite you telling me you did
Sorry im drunk and a lot if bad menories came up yesterday
Why do you have to make me feel had from you hurting me?
It hurt me to be just friends with you when I still loved yoy
Her:
Are you serious??? We just spoke about this. I'm not doing this with you.
Me:
I wasn't worrying about sleeping with you I just wanted tou be able you touch you like a normal relationship
her:
It's Christmas and I was sleeping. Two children will be waking up soon which means me waking up.
I didn't want to be touched 24/7
me:
I lov3d you,and you shut me out and made it clear you wanted nothing to do with me
her:
so he would drop your hair over my sleeping face
me:
It took me going to the hospital just to get a hug from yoy
>>17889616
>>17889615
Her:
Are you serious??? We just spoke about this. I'm not doing this with you.
Me:
I wasn't worrying about sleeping with you I just wanted tou be able you touch you like a normal relationship
her:
It's Christmas and I was sleeping. Two children will be waking up soon which means me waking up.
I didn't want to be touched 24/7
me:
I lov3d you,and you shut me out and made it clear you wanted nothing to do with me
her:
so he would drop your hair over my sleeping face
me:
It took me going to the hospital just to get a hug from yoy
her:
I would have been cool with me if you would you not try to cling on to May 21st 7. Amy I tried to be with you even after you got a gun pointed at me. And the reason I gave you a hug when you came back from the hospital was because I was still in the hospital. And then you still lied about all of your problems to the doctors
you told me for yourself that you weren't being honest with the doctors. why would I want to be around that?
me:
You told me that you loved me and then completely stopp3d the,second you got out if [mental hospital]
her:
It's called hormones
Did I fuck up?
I started my first security job at this huge mall as a traffic officer. It was seasonal but they keep the people who do good and stay until the holidays are over. However, today I got fired because I asked to go to the bathroom and my supervisors didn't answer. I really had to go and asked several times and no answer. I went down to the 2nd floor of the parking deck ( I work the 3rd level) and I asked him if my radio wasn't working. He said he heard me so I tell this extra guy who happen to be in that level too if he could cover my level while I go piss real quick. As I go inside to my way to the bathroom to security director sees me and soon after my supervisor suddenly answers the radio and tells me to go home. I go to the office and explain to all of them what happened but my supervisor kept on talking trash how they don't need me and how dare I let the director see me walking around the mall.
What the actual fuck. Was i in the wrong here? I didn't really try to fight it since I am leaving for vacation this Monday and it was a seasonal job. But my other job I got fired for being late all the time which is understandable. I am trying to figure out what's reasonably expected of me in the work force.
I am 21 years old.
What country is this? I'm pretty sure it's illegal to deny your workers access to a toilet
Sounds like a really shitty place to work desu
probably american, typical fire them before december ends to boost the yearly hired worker statistic numbers
this is my first post on /adv but Long story short i got some Christmas gifts for some friends a few weeks ago but they have been complete assholes leading up today im just wondering should i just return their gifts or should i have them open them up today and when they act all wow that's such a nice gift i tell them theses were you,re gifts but you guys have been such assholes to me so now you guy's don't get shit from me then kick them all out of my house and never see or talk to them again.
Not sure if you're drunk, but that's a terrible rambling post, man. Anyways, I'm sorry your friends have been so mean to you recently. Trying to get petty revenge will only create more problems with your strained friendships, possibly end them. Can you talk to your friends about what's been bothering you? What did they do that hurt you?
yeah im kinda drunk sorry about the rambling post.
I have tried to sit down and talk to them about whats been bothering me but unfortunately every time i bring it up "they don't wanna argue about stuff" or they just put me down or try to delegitimize my feelings. i really dont to get into details about what they did due to the fact that they use 4 chan. you're probably right about not trying to get petty revenge.
>>17889608
I'll be blunt, if they really can't talk with you about this these sound like shit friends. If you were to try again, I would take the risk and be vulnerable like this: when they tell you they "don't want to argue," tell them that you don't either but that you felt hurt by [THING THEY DID] and you want to talk about it with them so you can move on.
Do you have closer friends? What did they do, in brief?
I will try to become more social, and then have an anxiety attack at some kind of social function, leading me to shut myself in even further than I am now.
Then all of my insecurities will alienate me from my online friends when I complain to them too much while they're maybe trying to improve their lives and have better successes at it.
Finally, my sister will cheat on her husband one more time, and that will be the last straw with him, and then I will wind up helping trying to raise her two sons, while doing a bad job of it.
That's what my most likely 2017 will be.
>>17889571
It will come sometime between 2016 and 2018.
>>17889571
Exactly the right amount of news to fill the TV newscast will occur every day. Nights will tend to be darker than days. There will be weather, accompanied by temperature and humidity. And /adv/will be dominated by people complaining they can't get a girlfriend.
I had a fling with a female friend and she dumped me before the holidays because I was possessive and clingy. I would do some crazy shit too. I apologized but because of the crazy shit I did all our friends assumed I was insane and kicked me out of our little circle. This was a couple of weeks ago, now a couple of them are reaching out to me saying that I should make up with them soon. They were my closest friends but I've grown to resent them because they kicked me out, although it was kind of my fault, and that they're having fun with each other without me. And I'm not over the girl yet and told me she didn't want to be friends anymore. Do I just drop them as a whole?
Being socially isolated is just about never a useful thing. If these really were your closest friends and if they're reaching out to you despite having done "crazy shit" then that sounds like a friendship worth salvaging.
The "crazy shit" sounds like something to work through. Could we hear about that?
>>17889560
I'd log into her social medias to see who she was talking too. Post breakup, whenever I see her with other guy friends, I'd text him and harass him about it. I'd ask my friends that were there if they were starting to see each other and I guess they got tired of it and told her. I'd say a bunch of clingy and sappy things and it just made her uncomfortable. I went to her house once to apologize and asked her if she wanted to come outside but she told me to just leave.
I want to be their friend again but I don't want to stick for the ride while she falls for someone else. She said we could be acquaintances but not friends and that tells me that things will never be the same anymore. That there will always be something to keep me at a distance from getting close to them again.
>>17889569
From what you've said about violating her privacy and harassing other people, I think it's understandable if she doesn't see a way for you to be friends again. But do you think that bridge being burned really stops you from reconnecting with other friends who also know her? I think if you make it clear you're working on self improvement, the friends who are reaching out to you can be just as close to you as they were in the past. I think it's very important to hold on to those connections.
>its fucking pic related (no pun)
why does this happen? its an animal ffs
anyway has anyone else ever dealt with this? I'm considering ending it but we've been together so long, and it did take a long time for her to come out with it so i know she'll be crushed if I do.
Holy shit son. This is a once in a lifetime opportunity you have on your hands. It's incredibly rare to find a woman into beast. Have you considered exploring it yourself? Maybe look up a few videos?
If you break up with her I'll take her number, thanks.
>>17889528
Abort, damaged goods
>>17889535
>Have you considered exploring it yourself?
Are you sure you understand what i'm describing?
then again you're probably trying to bait me
>>17889537
i had suspected as such, she was raised by a single mother but I was her first