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how can i convince my bf to peg him?
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>>17907156
just ask him if hes down. if hes not, let it be. if you are of suspect character, coerce or bribe him.
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From talking to chicks, i've realized 90% think it's unmanly and unattractive for a guy to like pegging or being submissive in general.
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>>17907156
I think the best way to go about it is make a deal, you let him do something he likes and he'll let you do something you like.

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So me and my friend are straight and he has never put his dinky in a girls butt and I have. I'm trying to explain to him that it's overrated, but he won't believe me.
I say blowjobs are way better than anal.
Anyone have an opinion on this?
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why don't you two fags suck each other off so he can find out for himself?
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>>17907144

Anal is severely overrated

Getting your dick sucked is fantastic
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>>17907144
yeah, sex is over rated and people dont realize it until they have sex.

i thought sex was going to be mind blowing, it wasnt. sex can be nice but its not absolutely amazing.

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Sometimes when I wake up, I have dreams that come true. They're almost always lucid and I'm not aware that they're dreams until waking up. For example, one time I had a dream that I was at a broken down carnival with some friends. I picked up a shady beverage that was lying on the floor. My friends warned me not to drink it, but I did. As soon as it went down, I felt indescribably one with nature. As I danced, clouds started to accumulate and everything became dark. The next day, when I woke up, it was raining for the first time in weeks. I have other ones like that too. Is this normal? Should I tell somebody?
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The "I remember dreaming this" is actually what deja vu feels like.

Deja Vecu is normally what people think of when they imagine deja vu.

I used to think I had prophetic dreams, too. But it's not true. Sorry, man. It would be awesome, though.
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>>17907113
i get it too.

so do most people.

its probably just because our brain things of all sorts of random shit when we are asleep and we happen to experience something similar to it one day and we get the deja vu feeling. i wish we where seeing into the future but i doubt it. i sometimes feel like like is preordained though
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>>17907113
It's >>17907119
The human brain has the neck to find patterns where they don't exist.

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Long story short...


I let my girlfriend move in with me about 4 months ago.

I have a snow removal company and keep all my company trucks in garage to keep the blocks warm in the winter.

Inside I keep the keys to all my cars on a hook in our bedroom closet.

I have told my girlfriend without exaggeration about 6 times total to never move any of my trucks or drive my vehicles for any reason (mostly because she's not on my insurance and has had 4 cars accidents in 10 years). I told her this after she moved one of my cars to park hers in the garage without consulting me the first month she moved in.


On the 22nd she again did this, She tried to move one of my plow trucks and hit another plow truck. Damaging the other truck and the hydraulics and plow of the one she was driving. The one she hit I had JUST bought and had not put insurance on it yet as it has not been equipped with a snow plow yet. She also damaged the block heater on the one she was moving


I was pretty pissed and told her she's paying for all of it. She said she was moving it so she could upload her Christmas shopping stuff and groceries and tried to make me feel bad for yelling at her.


I let it go for the holidays because I didn't want her upset about it over Christmas.


Today I gave her the estimate to have ME repair my trucks, Not a shop....and she said she doesn't think she should pay for it and she can't afford it and started to cry.
What should I do?


It's $3200 in damage with me doing all the labor and buying all the parts, AND doing the painting. Not to mention all the money and sleep I will lose having a truck off the road for the entire season
What should I do?


What would you do?
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This is terrible.

Is she dumb or an asshole? (That emotional manipulation, too...)

Tbh I'm overly protective of my belongings, so I would have not let her access the keys in the first place if she's not included on the insurance. But that's another story.

I would tell her to either to pay, maybe like 3x1100, and not 3k at once. Or to pay and move out asap.
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>>17907102
Does she pay part of your rent? Cable? Utilities? Groceries? If not, now she's gonna have to. At least half of the expenses.
If she does, then have that woman get a second job and pay for it. You warned her, she fucked up, and now she's gotta own to her mistake.
Relationships are a team effort thing, if she ain't putting in to her fuck ups now, then you're gonna be the one picking up after her all the time.
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>>17907102
You need to sit down and say you need to understand what has happened here. Use non-confrontational language. Use " I must" " I loose" , not "you did" or "you didn't". Treat it like a joint problem to solve. God Speed OP.

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/adv/ I come seeking the wisdom of your wisest sages.
I've heard that it takes about 8 years to get your doctorate. I'm going for my master's degree because I want to teach at the college level and eventually get tenure.
My question is this: is it possible to teach at the secondary school level or at the community college level while I work on my PhD?
If these are not options, I am going to go to the career fair my university is holding this spring and see what options I have.
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>>17907090
What program are you going for? I'm going for a psychology PhD so what I can speak to are those programs. I'm sure there are similarities.

>I've heard that it takes about 8 years to get your doctorate
Not even close. Even clinical PhDs take 5-6 years, and that's including the year-long internship. A non-clinical PhD can take around 4 years.

>is it possible to teach at the secondary school level or at the community college level while I work on my PhD?
For the secondary school, absolutely not. Any teaching in K-12 requires a license and thus and education degree. For the CC, depends on the school. For "regular" universities there are assistantships that are usually teaching and the programs themselves may have "teacher-track" options (basically prep for university-level teaching after graduation).
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>>17907247
For the timespan point I made, I'm assuming you've already completed undergraduate. From undergrad to PhD is about 8 years.
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>>17907252
Yeah let's see...I'm going for English literature
I'm glad you set me straight on the time frame. So once I get my masters it will take me about 4 years, that is a much better estimate than what I looked up on the internet.
I currently have an assistantship at my program, but my school does not offer doctorates in my field so I am going to apply to a nearby grad school that does when I get closer to earning my masters.
Did that give any better info?

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>am pretty serious about her (we're both 23)
>father takes her as seriously as my relationship when 12
>he doesn't like her because she has a thyroid condition (read: NOT fat, but other health problems that make her not so healthy)
>can't be arsed to remember her name
>another example: she bought me some special headrests for my car because it's very meaningful to both of us
>"You can get those at the dollar store you know"
>confronted him before about what his problem is, and he talks like I'm 12, "there's other girls and you're still very young" etc

Shit like that makes me fly up the wall. How do I deal with it? She's only becoming more important to me and it does bother me that my father is an ass about her
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Went through something very similar recently. Don't have any advice, I just know that I'll be keeping stuff like that more to myself the next time.

It's not really any of his business.
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>>17907029
>he doesn't like her because she has a thyroid condition
It just means she has to work harder to lose weight, not that she can't lose weight.

Maybe its something he doesn't want to tell you....are you a mixed race couple? if you are thats the problem and your dad is right.
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In this age of millennialism, it's hard to give this advice but have you ever stopped for 5 minutes and thought that your dad has much more experience than you and has your best interests at heart?

Your dad obviously sees that this girl is or will drag you down with her and having only regard for your well being is trying to make you see the error of your ways.

I'd pay atleast some heed to what he's saying, after all he obviously has raised you and clearly wants you to be a successful man.
You should feel feeling thankful for having a father like yours and try never to let any woman come in between the two of you.

Good luck.

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When can you be true to your girlfriend about your insecurities?
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>>17907028
Always. I told her before we started dating
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>>17907028
Never. Use your family for that. If you dont have family use a friend she doent know and that you dont care about. Or go seeca shrink.
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Always. If you can't, she's a shitty girlfriend.

anyone have experience with antidepressants?

I was always sort of depressed, but still had the energy and motivation to at least try to do things or draw and make art in my spare time and the past years Ive hardly been able to get out of bed.

thinking of starting with medication
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Yeah

My dad is depressed, but thats probably because he spends all day in bed. He used to be an alcoholic and binge drank, but until he started antidepressants he had cooled it on drinking for close to a year, two weeks after being on antidepressants he started binge drinking again.

Shit doesn't work or is bad for you, you're depressed because your physical health is bad. Fix that and your feelings will soften, not completely go away, but you'll be on the way to fixing yourself.

This is easier said than done.
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I'm on them right now, along with benzos. Been taking them since April. Helped me with a lot of things, old phobias, hypochondria, panic attacks, social anxiety, depression, starting going to the gym, etc. Getting over being lazy is still an issue, but I'm much more functional than before, I finally started socialising with people instead of being a socially retarded 4channer.

Mother and best friends also took antidepressants, helped both of them.
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>>17907017
Hi anon, I myself just started taking antidepressants. I was sceptical at first until my clinical therapist and psychiatrist explained it like this to me:

Feeling really really low is usually related to lack of chemicals in the brain. If one is working as hard as they can to do things that bring them joy (like drawing and stuff) but it feels like an uphill battle, antidepressants come into play and can help bridge the gap a bit by boosting the person taking them so that the person can regulate their emotions at the same chemical level as everyone else.

After that explanation it made sense to me.

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Is this herpes?
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No comments about toenails plz
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>>17906955
spider bites m8. dont itch em man cuz i know they itch bad. one of my toes are scarred because i was drunk and decided to itch and itched too hard cus feelsgoodman
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>>17906955
I'm not a doctor, so go see a doctor, but that's athletes foot.

Go see a doctor, or be like me and by Lotrimin Ultra. It worked for me, but I heard it doesn't necessarily work for everyone.

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So Everytime I finish taking a shit like 30 minutes later I still smell like shit. I wipe from back to front if that helps so my wipe ends at my taint. So anyone got some tips to help me stop smelling like shit when I open my legs
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>not wiping from taint back
>not using flushable fresh scented wet wipes

Nigger, what are you doing
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Wipe both ways, front to back and back to front, happens to me too. Sometimes you have to fold it a few times and put your finger a few centimeters in your ass.
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Alright I know that I'm wiping the wrong way but it's become second nature and it hurts to wipe the other way

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Long story short, I fucked up in college and banked everything on a job that I never got. I'm going back to a cc to learn programming but I don't want to fuck this up. I plan to go to their career center and look for internships.

Any other advice for getting a good start? Parents are no help, all they tell me is "Haha, I've never had to make a resume!" and they've worked the same job for 30 years
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>>17906899
Source?

And look online for resume advice, and I think your career center will have advice on building a resume.

If you are willing, I highly suggest learning a trade. Good job prospects, and good money, and trade school is way cheaper than college.
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>>17906915
Valkyrie Drive, best mom Torino.

I don't want to commit to a trade just yet because I at least want to try to put my degree to use (math) and I figure programming is my best bet.
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>>17906935
Oh hey, fellow math major.

Have you considered grad school? If you find the right program they'll fund you in exchange for teaching. It's what I did, my advisor even hooked me up with a sweet job.

Also, what states/cities are you willing to live in?

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>Dad asks me if I'm doing anything for New Years
>I'm not
>I can see the disappointment in his eyes, that his 19 year old son lacks a human relationship outside his family
>he knows
>I know
>no one speaks
>looking at his face is like being punched in the gut
>he leaves
How do I make him proud?
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Why don't you ask him yourself? Don't be afraid of your dad. This is something you should really bring up with him.

Also go to church or join a civic organization to get some friends.
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>>17906893

Go to a new years event. Even if you don't have friends, itll be good to put yourself out there and try. Worst case scenario, you end up sitting quietly by yourself which you do at home anyway.
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>>17906893
he doesn't get it.

it's a new age.

everything is digital

you can be around everyone, while being around noone now.

>mfw dad will never see the fireworks light up the two moons in the sky behind Stormwind while I sit on the wall with my internet girlfriend from the gates
>mfw dad will never know the joy of throwing snowball at your guildmates in Goldshire during winter's veil
>mfw dad will never know the team work involved of running a 25 man raid team through Tempest Keep as the main tank and leader
>mfw dad will never understand what i means to be a title holding arena PVPer during the glory days of WoW
>tfw dad will never see all the sexy lonely milf tits I've seen because I sweet talk them on ventrilo while their husbands are at work
>tfw dad will never realize I had the same experiences he's had in his life, just in a digital format

Hi!

I have a weird problems with my friends but let me just give you a little background first.

There is this dude, let's call him Joel, that was a really close friend when I was a kid/pre-teen. We kinda lost each other but we started seeing each other this summer. First it was just once but I quickly met all of his friends and integrated the group pretty well.

We spend the best summer ever, it was almost like one of these cliché teen movies.

Fast forward to last month, obviously summer break is over so we don't see each others nearly as much as we live pretty far apart but we still talk a lot over facebook and that kind of stuff.

I got invited to his birthday and I saw everybody after 1 and a half month of not seeing anyone IRL. It was a really nice party and everyone seemed really happy to see me. Last thing we talked about was how we should try do another party across multiple days soon and all that.

But here's the problem, I just find out that they were throwing a huge party for new years eve and they didn't invited me. They haven't talked about it at all.

Now that I trough about it, I realized they had seen each others multiple time between the summer and Joel birthday without telling me anything. They actually invited once between summer and Joel's birthday but I couldn't come.

What should I do? Why in the world do they seem to like me this much, but never actually include me in group plans? I really don't understand.

Any help /adv/?
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>>17906890
Bring the topic in a playful way and see what happens
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>>17906896
How would you do that? I mean, I'm not really supposed to know that these parties existed. I only know about them because of a few facebook mistakes.

How would you bring this up?
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>>17906890
>What should I do? Why in the world do they seem to like me this much, but never actually include me in group plans? I really don't understand.
Do you spend any money when you're with them on them? If thats not the case you should really just forget about it.

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Is it wrong to get upset with someone who has a low emotional response/does not generally feel empathy?

Let's say that someone close to me died. I talk to my friends about how my grandma or favorite uncle died last night, and they stay quiet for a while before turning the conversation back to the video game babe they'd like to bang. Ask them why they didn't listen, they say they just don't know how to respond, that what I'm experiencing isn't logical, or that that they're just not empathetic and can't help it. Is this a reasonable response?
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>>17906889
Would you rather they fake feeling empathy when there really is nothing there? Getting upset with another because they do not portray the feelings you initially wanted them to portray is a bit silly. I think maybe what you want isn't them to feel a certain way, but to support you and lend a shoulder, which would be much more understandable because friends are supposed to be a supportive figure in your life.
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They probably ignored it because it wasn't in their mood and they didn't feel like talking about depressing shit. Don't expect to force people to feel empathy when they're just having a good time taking about a silly fantasy of theirs.
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>>17906889
Yeah its wrong. I mean they are your friends but that doesnt mean that they will feel sad just because you are. The problems you have in your life are only yours. My points is that they wont change their emotions just because you have different ones.

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This is long, I'm sorry.

So I'm an introverted person that has very few friends. After moving back to my hometown for the holidays I met up once with an ex of mine that I talk with very often and are friends. It's been almost 2 weeks since then and while talking last night she says that I have no respect and no appreciation for her, and I don't like spending time with her because I never tell her to go out.

In the 2 weeks I've come home I left the house 3 other times, twice to meet up with my 2 best friends and once to go to a psychologist.

I apologise and tell her that I'm like that all the time and never take initiative to tell anyone to go out, she said that I just don't respect any of my friends or like them either then. I suggest we meet in a few days, she says that "it's something you should want to do not feel obligated". So I say, that if I didn't tell her to meet it doesn't mean that I wouldn't like spending time with her.

Now I'm left feeling like a pice of shit because I feel like she's right, but it's not like I don't like spending time with her. Even if I'm ever thinking of telling one of my 2 best friends to meet up, I don't, because they mostly like to go out at places with loud music and drink, both things I don't like doing so I don't want to interfere with their plans like a cunt. But when they suggest something I mostly accept.Also lately I've been feeling a bit depressed because I just quit university because I couldn't handle my studies.

So is she right? What can I do to change her mind?
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>>17906887
Seems like you're in a pretty dark place. I think a good way to seem more socially active is to just -ask- your friends if they want to hang out.They'd never think that was a cunty thing to do; they'd be glad you wanted to hang out.

As for the ex, gone is usually gone, but if you -really- liked her, then tell her that. Maybe send a long, heartfelt text or something, telling her that you "get it now", admit that you simply didn't think asking people out was appropriate and that you're sorry for acting like an ass. That you get it if she doesn't wanna hang out anymore but that you'd be really happy for just one shot at making things up to her. Finish with a mention of being glad to have known her even if she wants to end it for good.

I can't guarantee a success, but she might budge. Good luck.


I'm no professional but if you ever feel really down or want to talk, I usually hang ut at https://discord.gg/BzSuS .


Keep trucking, cowboy.
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>>17907006
Thanks for the advice and the invite. I'll speak to her but not in a text, I'd prefer to meet up and do it face to face.
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>>17907021 i youre right here, talking about this stuff over text is as useful as lint.
Also you shouldnt feel like you have to change yourself for anyone else. You are just as important as them. What they want from you isnt more important than what you want for yourself.

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