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LDR, Protective Parents 2016-12-31 07:22:28 Post No.17908267
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My girlfriend and I have been together for over a year now. We met over Skype and thats mainly where our relationship has stayed - we call every day. We've only gotten to see each other offline twice, the first time being introductory, and the second was meant to be a little more private and sexual.
Unfortunately, her parents knew I had come, and prevented her from being alone with me. We are both 20.
On one hand I feel like I have to respect her parents, but on the other I feel like it's wrong for them to keep their daughter locked away like this, especially when even her crying to her parents about wanting to see me won't make them budge. I'd like to gain their trust, but when I have so little physical time in the area she lives due to living a country apart, there just isn't enough time to get them to trust me.
What should we do, for the next we see each other? We were thinking that next time it would be best to not tell them at all that I'm there, and just have her say she's going to a friend's place for the night. But at the same time, would that really be the right thing to do?
We're both 20. She lives in Sacramento, I live in Ontario.
tl;dr, my LDR partner has extremely protective parents that won't let us have time together even when I travel across the country to see her. Any advice on how to handle this?
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>>17908267
>Any advice on how to handle this?
It's not really for you to do anything. There isn't much you can do, especially since it's an LDR. She needs to stand up to her parents, or move out.
>We were thinking that next time it would be best to not tell them at all that I'm there, and just have her say she's going to a friend's place for the night. But at the same time, would that really be the right thing to do?
If something goes wrong or they suspect anything, they're just going to tighten the reigns. Doing shit behind their backs is not going to make them trust the two of you more.
And you need to consider this from their perspective. You're just some guy from Canada that their daughter met online. They have no idea who the fuck you are and whether you really are who you say you are. Yes, we live in a more globalised world, but I don't think it's unreasonable for them to be concerned for her safety.
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>>17908281
>And you need to consider this from their perspective. You're just some guy from Canada that their daughter met online. They have no idea who the fuck you are and whether you really are who you say you are. Yes, we live in a more globalised world, but I don't think it's unreasonable for them to be concerned for her safety.
I realize this but it isn't their decision what happens. We are both adults in an adult relationship and regardless of how uncomfortable they are with this they should have to deal with it. Instead they forcefully kept her in their house and wouldn't let her leave (her dad has a good 2 feet on her, and has physically kept her from leaving before). That isn't ok.
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>>17908295
If you're going to pull the "we're adults!" card, you have to remember that they're under no obligation to let her live under their roof now that she's no longer under 18. If she doesn't like their restrictions, she can always move out.
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My best friend and my girlfriend are really close and it bothers me. I saw her phone when she was away for a bit, and she is always talking to him. Long essay like texts. They seem to share a lot with eachother. She writes things down that she learns and shares it with him, but not me. She also copies a lot of what he does, like the writing thing and even small things like gestures. I feel like she respects him more than me. She told him he's the best person she knows and it just made my heart sink. I asked her about what the most she's done with him is and she got really clearly agitated and blew up on me. She said the most she ever did was hold his hand before we were together. Then I remembered something, which is a day we all spent together, and an object he gave her... she always carries that with her now.
I feel very threatened by him. Am I right to think this? What should I fucking do?
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lol maybe she's using you for sex and is waiting for your friend to hit on her indefinitely so they can be together then you're alone and have been cheated on. if you feel that threatened, either talk to her about it or just break things off. this whole situation has too many red flags
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He's her emotional tampon. It's pretty common. People call them beta orbiters. Basically, they're not a threat. She doesn't think about him sexually in the least.
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That's what I'm hoping, but I thought a lot about some of her actions and I realized something... whenever he's going to be around, she dresses up. Whenever she even sees him, she preens her hair and looks at herself in the mirror to fix herself and she doesn't do this for ANYONE else. I don't know man. I hope you're fucking right
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My neighbors who live across the street from me just had a very loud and bitter argument in the middle of the night.
The wife opened the garage door and got into the car, and started the car. The husband was walking around in the garage waving his arms and yelling very loudly, which included many expletives (I couldn't really follow what anyone was saying beyond that though).
They have a high school age daughter who was also in the garage for some reason. She was sobbing the whole time.
The wife eventually turned the car off and went inside. The husband followed, still yelling. The daughter stood in the garage, crying for a few minutes, before closing the garage door and presumably heading back inside.
This all just happened. I didn't see any physical violence, only verbal and emotional.
What do? Should I call the cops if I see this again, or only if it happens again but with physical violence? Should I do nothing? Should I try to find an opportunity to ask the daughter what happened sometime?
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I wouldn't call the police unless there was violence or becomes a regular disturbance. Maybe the wife is a cheating whore, who knows.
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>>17908184
Yeah I don't really know the family that well so I have no idea if this is about adultery or what. I thought maybe the husband was drunk, but it could just be that he was really upset and angry. Too difficult to tell. I didn't want them to know I was watching so I didn't open my door or anything to hear better.
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>>17908175
Sometimes people fight. Mind your own business unless it gets violent.
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How do i ask her out/to prom? 2016-12-31 06:44:16 Post No.17908174
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How do i ask her out/to prom?
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Ok /adv/ im not sure what the age limit on this board is but ill be straight with you.
Im 15, secondary school, UK. Prom is just around the corner and there is a girl im dying to ask out. Shes a 10/10 (imo) and we are both half greek. I am fairly confident and not socially awkward but when it comes to her its a whole different story... The problem is, ive only spoken to her a few times throughout the whole time we've been at school. I'd like to make friends with her before i do anything but we dont sit together in any classes and i dont feel comfortable just approaching her at lunch... I cant even become friends with her let alone ask her to prom. How can i develop a relationship outside of school? >What do?
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How do I reconcile the distaste I feel for most people my age and crippling loneliness? 2016-12-31 06:43:30 Post No.17908171
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How do I reconcile the distaste I feel for most people my age and crippling loneliness?
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I'm in high school, and I find most of the people very tedious; only interested in bitching about others and talking about Beyonce 'totally slaying...YAAAAS bitch" etc. etc. etc.
My entire school seems to be basic peopl talking about that kind of stuff, veganism and lattes, there's not even a goth group or anything (Not a goth, it's just unusual to not have any style variations in 2000 teenagers).
I don't find most of the people very interesting, and yet I also yearn for friends, but not friends where I have to fake an interest in Twenty One Pilots for, someone I can genuinely connect with on my own interests and preferred conversation topics.
How do I deal with this contradiction?
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what are you into
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>>17908171
Stop thinking you're a special snowflake that is better than the rest of them. Just because they have interests you aren't fond of doesn't place you in a higher position above these kids. If you want friends, you'll have to pretend. That's how it works most of the time when you can't find people with similar interests.This is coming from someone who used to have a mindset like yours back in highschool and spent the most of my time either eating in bathrooms/secluded places or having family members pick me up during lunch so I wouldn't be alone. All that time being a loner just because I didn't want to associate with anyone because I viewed them with such distaste.
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>>17908171
Have you considered that the same people might also share your interests and simply don't talk too open about them? Only way to make sure is befriending them.
Other than that, if you can't find something interesting about other people, usually it's because you're boring and shallow.
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my gf drives me insane and is mean to me, but shes qt and my only friend and I feel like my last chance at companionship
how do I make myself move on from her
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>>17908164
If she is loyal and you ever had love for her, then fight through this and keep her. I made the mistake of letting go of the love of my life because we were having a bad time for a few months and she was driving me crazy. It has been 7 months since the breakup and I can't stop missing her. Women do this from time to time they can't help themselves.
Specifics would help though.
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>>17908199
I don't even know where to start man...
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>>17908210
Don't make a hasty decision like I did bro. Think very hard about what you're giving up. Does she love you, do you love her/have you loved her? Could you get her back if you regret your decision?
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I'm not doing so good right off the bat. 1.43 GPA for this first semester, freshman year. Have to work hard to get it up to even a 2.6. My parents are considering taking me out. We have a decently large college savings account, and I honestly hate this shit.
Is it possible for an 18 yr old like myself to do some MOOCs or bootcamps like Firehose Project and get a potential internship or something? I honestly want to skip the whole college thing and just dig right into the technical stuff.
I understand there's community college too, but that doesn't really seem satisfying either.
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Why can't you do better? College is super easy. Getting less than a C average is like literal retard tier.
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>>17908159
This. I just don't see how people fail unless they have some sort of learning disorder or mental illness, in which case they should know they need to address that first.
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>>17908153
College isn't for everyone despite what the Boomers think. Even if you don't use that money for school, it's still yours (well, your families at least).
>but that doesn't really seem satisfying either
With a 1.43 GPA, I think "style points" are the least of your concern you ungrateful bitch. You have literally no right to act like you're above it.
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Guys I really need help 2016-12-31 05:09:37 Post No.17907994
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My boyfriend has told me he prefers bigger boobs. I don't have that.
I have such a problem with it it's killing me. Literally killing me.
Some context: He has paid a lot of girls on myfreecam, often with huge tits, to make a show for him and also chat with him and keep him company.
I can't stand him being around girls with big boobs, it's like a knife in my stomach, I can't stand him preferring them over me. He will never look at me the way he would look at one of those girls.
This is becoming an obsession and I can't stop. Please fucking help, this is killing the relationship.
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I think you should dump him
Especially because of the cam thing I can't believe he lets you know he does that
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>>17907994
guys always say they have a type, but all in all, when they find someone they truly like, it all goes out the window.
I prefer girls who are pretty skinny, with brown, wavy/curly hair, yet I'm in love with a girl who's athletic with strawberry blonde hair.
Think nothing of it. He still loves you just the way you are.
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>>17907996
I made him stop. But that doesn't really do much does it -- telling him to stop.
He also kept nudes of his exes without me knowing.
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How to stop being bitter 2016-12-31 05:04:39 Post No.17907981
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A little bit about myself, I'm 26 and I am a firefighter in a major us city.
I've been incredibly bitter about the world since I got on the job 3 years ago. A few shifts ago we had a call where some guy car jacked a girl and made her drive him out of the city. She resisted while on the freeway and escaped. Traffic stopped due to this, so he gets out and starts jumping on other people's cars. One person, he shoots 3 times in the neck chest and elbow. This was our patient for the call. It was determined at the hospital this kid who was 21 and just driving down the highway for whatever reason is now going to be paralyzed for the rest of his life because of the bullet that went through his neck.
This is just one call but I've been on countless fucked up things like it. Seen dead babies because of shitty parents. Things I couldn't even imagine before hand. It's made me incredibly bitter about humanity. I don't think I ever want to have a family now and bring them into a world like this.
Is there any way to be more positive about things? I can see myself slowly spiraling out and I don't want to be so angry and jaded
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>>17907981
Even at your job, you're seeing only a tiny part of how horrible humanity is ... the positive side is that we were much, much, much worse couple decades/centuries ago and constantly improve. It still sucks and it's likely that humanity will continue sucking during your lifetime but progress is there and it's massive if you look back in history.
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>>17907981
Now listen here OP. You need to get professional help RIGHT NOW. You need to be able to deal with that shit in a professional way. Source: Being in a War.
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Do some volunteer work feeding homeless people or building low income housing or some shit. Get to know other people doing the same. Congrats, you now have some of the best people humanity has to offer in your life.
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It it normal to be in love with a girl but not think about them sexually at all? About 2 weeks ago I realized that everything about her is perfect to me and I want a life with her but I don't think about her sexually at all, anyone else experience this?
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I go through this. If I'm really, really into a girl, it takes me a while to warm up to the idea of sex with her. I have no idea why this is a thing.
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>>17907989
But is there woman that you would have sex with at any given chance?
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>>17907945
This means you respect and value her. Sex is still important though for a healthy relationship.
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I hate seeing things like pic related. I also hate when people say "adulting."
It is like if you didn't have a good childhood, or a good adolescent experience, then you're fucked. Your first 21 years are the only time you're able to have fun.
But fuck that, I'm 26 and I'm having more fun now than I have in my entire life. I'm finally free to do what I please. I dress how I want, act how I want, do what I want. But it seems like somehow I'm inherently "misbehaving" or not acting my age.
What gives? Why are people like this?
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>>17907924
>in college is different than in your 20s
I mean christ if I was a 20yo dropout who did backbreaking manual labor every day I'd be in bed before 10 every night too.
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>>17907924
They're "Virtue signalling"
They're saying "Look at how responsible I am"
It's like wearing wearing expensive clothing to say how rich they are.
In reality, your life is what you make it
I know lots of 30+ year olds who still have fun
I know younger people who go to bed at 8:30
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>>17907924
Or perhaps the picture is about "having a good time as a kid doing whatever", "following social norms as collegefag/young adult" and back to "good times, doing whatever you want as 30 year old"
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So I've been talking to this girl I met on Tinder. Turns out she's pretty cool. I really like her personality-wise. The pictures on her profile are great, she looks cute BUT she says that those pictures are old and now she's gained a little weight.
What if I meet her in real life and she's not attractive to me? I don't want to be a jerk.
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>>17907916
tell her to send you a timestamped picture with shoe on head
duh
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>>17907916
Get her Snapchat
Or go out with her and find out she's fat, be nice and hang out for a little while then part ways and start over again. This has happened many times to me where the girl was a lot fatter in person also I didn't like their personality as much in person.
Dating is basically hopeless
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>>17907916
You'll want to meet her in person regardless. People are much more than what shows up on a screen.
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Want to get my ex back 2016-12-31 04:38:45 Post No.17907904
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Gf broke up with me in July. Have gone on dates with other chicks via tinder and banged one of them. Really didn't enjoy any of them, even the one I banged. Probably went out with 10 or so girls.
Still feel like I "love" my ex. Whatever the fuck that means. But not a day has gone by that I haven't thought about her. I deleted her on all social media and deleted every picture of her I had on my phone but it hasn't helped. I want to text her but my biggest fear is she's moved on or worse is seeing someone new.
If I truly want her back should I text her or should I just deal with the fact she dumped me in the first place and move on (which I've been trying to do and haven't been successful)
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Go with what the dick says OP
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>>17907910
You mean my dick?
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Drastic drop in libido
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>>17907892
mdma
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>>17907892
Did you happen to start taking antidepressants?
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>>17907958
No, not at all. Its so wierd, less than a month ago i was sexually hyperactive, i could masturbate 5 times a day and still be ready to fuck on a moments notice. Rigth now i can only with a lot of effort get a soft, half boner. I dont know why the fuck.
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When should I block a guy after hearing nothing from him after a first date?
P/s: he did text me right after I came home though.
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>When should I block a guy after hearing nothing from him
I can't comprehend this logic.
If there's nothing coming, what are you intending to block?
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>>17907881
If he's not going to text you why do you need to block him?
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Well I meant he still there in the chat. And I don't know if there's any text from him in the future. Also he'll know if I block him
I don't really want to hanging up someone's number that have nothing to do with my life on my phone