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Are you schizophrenic? If yes, you probably know it's just your subconscious. You understand your troubles, but you need to forgive yourself, and if that doesn't work, find faith.

I know it's bullshit for most people when they hear it, but prayer can help the mind. Either way, don't be stuck in the wave of guilt.

>>17908627
I don't think I have any mental illnesses, I feel like they would have been noticed long ago. I'm usually very aware of my emotions and thoughts. And I've tried prayer, I've tried religion, I just felt like after doing what I've done, seeing what I've seen, experiencing what I've experienced, they're can't be a loving gentle being that overlooks all of us, and if he does, why the fuck are me and my brothers I fought with being left out? Why are the people we fought being left out? I know it sounds edgy, almost, but religion just isn't for me. Maybe when I mature it will grow on me.

>>17908631
My partner was in the military as well, he saw his friend shot dead and survived three bullets in the chest, injuries on the head and leg. He had ptsd for a long time and it also took him a lot of mental healing to get over it.

You don't need religion to be spiritual but there is suffering in you and it's actually good you experience it now than later, because you understand this suffering. Maybe instead of looking down on yourself, try to do something good, help people, give those who also suffer a chance to speak out. Sometimes by doing something meaningful it will help you rebuild your mind.

In another case, if you can not relax and feel restless, I learned that cannabis can help (it did for my partner, because he really had a troublesome past and panic attacks quite often).

Whatever you choose to do, I hope this advice helps, I can not say much, but I know you feel pain and if you learned your problems and ask for forgiveness you will be forgiven. In any case, it might not mean much to you, but I'll pray for you too, for your well being and hope you get better.

since he's your friend, I'd go with the first one
I made the mistake of going to a party with no one I knew, slept with some random guy, felt like shit, all those new people I met don't even talk to me anyways

>>17908398
Yep maybe you're right. Thank you

>>17908398
>>17908428
Y'all aren't helpin' the whole "not all women are sluts" thing

>>17908185
>tfw 26 yo virgin

Can't help you with your problem. But here's a tip : giving advice and helping out others will make you feel better if nothing else.

So, how do I become a hoe? What's important?

Yeah, turns out meaningless sex being unfulfilling isn't just a meme.

>>17908881
Still, the bad thing about it is that you need to get there and do it before you can truly realise that.

So I repeat my question: How?

What's the best way to get a mistress? What do mistresses want out of life?

I had plans for NYE with a friend I haven't seen for awhile. I'm trying to figure out what time we will go into the city and he said he will be busy until only 2 hours before midnight. WTF. I put off other plans for this. Should I be annoyed with him for only wanting to do something 2 hours before midnight?

>>17908166
Sex without the commitment. But what's wrong with your wife?

>>17908158
Stop watching porn and take up no fap. Star doing productive/healthy things for yourself. Meditation, reading books (start with some classic literature imo, Don Quixote, Dorian Gray, Candide, etc.) and exercise. You will become a new person, and slowly but surely your old degenerate self will be completely replaced. I've been there but my fetishes were beastiality porn, IR, and hardcore BDSM type stuff. K am absolutely disgusted by porn and weird fetishes now. It is possible to change yourself, but omly through discipline and determination.

The Beatles in Within You Without You wrote "Try to realize it's all within yourself, no one else can make you change"

These behaviors have become part of you because you allowed them to. You can get rid of them if you allow yourself to by following my advice and picking up better habits and hobbies.

Why contain it?

>>17908158
You lost me at male pregnancy.

Inflation is pretty meh as well.

Actually, hell, I don't even like most of your shit.


Just be yourself man. We can't all have the patrician fetish.

Do a flip and send me a visa gift card with the entire contents of your bank account thanks

>>17908117
No im saving it for my real senpai

>>17908116
why?

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>fast forward to tomorrow
>we meet up in one of the libraries on campus, it's cold as fuck and they're late (they apologize but I don't mind)
>it's awkward for about the first 20 minutes but both of us seem to be getting more comfortable as we talk more
>wrap up studying, I suggest getting coffee (there's a starbucks right there)
>they agree, we start talking more and more while waiting in line (as opposed to my usual completely silent self)
>I notice they have a hatoful boyfriend backpack and point that out
>their face lights up, apparently nobody has pointed it out before?
>our coffee gets there, and I'm looking at the cups to figure out which is which and they accidentally take a sip out of mine
>I think it's really cute but I'm not going to say that, brush it off
>I assume we're departing at that point but as we leave we just sort of naturally walk the same direction and just talk for ~10 minutes straight
>it felt like forever, as though we were in a bubble and nobody else mattered (come to find out later they're ENFP and I'm INFJ so that may explain why conversation flowed so easily)
>part ways
>damn it, this didn't help me liking them at all
>it made it worse
welp
>text them 2 days later saying I had fun and would like to hang out again
>get a text back saying they had fun too with a smiley face
>aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

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this is getting long so I'll wrap it up
>hang out again a few days later to go over the final study guide
>they mention they take the bus and would probably be a bit late
>it takes a second for me to process that this may be a hint
>ask if they want me to pick them up
>"that'd be nice lol"
>well I guess that was the right thing to do
>pick them up, hang out for a little more than an hour, I had somewhere to be after so it ended up being perfect timing
>we just talk and talk for most of the time and only study for ~15 min. at most
>semester ends after exam
>just send meme snapchats for a few days
>both of us are on break, they just got back in town from being with family and I'm still out of town until sunday
>there's a week of free time before next semester starts

>keep in mind they haven't brought up their gender identity OR relationship status, so they probably just see me as a friend
>at the very least I've made a friend I suppose but still, aaaaaaaaaaaaa

basically, /adv/, I really like this person but am understandably confused the fuck out of my mind, so what do you all suggest I do?

What's the problem anon?

It sounds like you made a new friend. They might have personal issues, but if you learn to accept them for who they are they'll learn to accept you for your "social anxiety issues".

They might introduce you to some new activities and new people. Don't let your negativity drown out what could be something positive. I had a gay friend in uni who was admittedly sort of strange, but he was really passionate about his major, was interesting to talk to, and always helped me score some drugs when I wanted.

>>17905671
you know the answer to this and it's not you it's him but if you continue and think he will change you are wrong. It will only get worse. Hope you think a relationship with him is worth it

So you think he's weird cause he's stopping you from whoring yourself?
You do as the man says if you know what's good for you.

>>17905676
we've been together for a year. this has all happened in a matter of about two weeks. i don't know what his problem is... he never did anything like that before.

>>17904930
what do you expect them to say?

>>17904930

lol, what do you expect them to do? you get mad if its just a 'hey' you get mad if its questions about whats up, and you get mad if they cut to the chase.

what are they supposed to do if literally reading your profile is considered 'trying way too hard to impress me'.

maybe you should do the lfirting and guide the relationship if you're that good at it.

Im a dude, but I have noticed online dating is like an extreme of regular problems of dating. I will send out literally 500 messages, get 1 or 2 replies, often the 1 or 2 turn out to be scam sex bots. My friends who are girls get spammed with a ton. Its a totally different experience.

I dont think there is any advise, its just society.

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>>17904602
>fix

>implying if you're 25 and a day you're doomed

There's a "coffee social" at the local library early next Friday. That's also the day I'm going to a LAN party with a friend late at night.

I'm more curious about the first thing, and what kind of people would be there, since I already know what LAN party people are going to be like. The LAN party is going to have better potential techy job connections though.

Don't think I'd be able to do both in one day without it stressing me out too much. I'm already anxious about the LAN party itself, since I'm not the one driving there which means I can't run away without burdening my friend if it gets to be too much to handle.

Maybe I'll just blow off the idea of doing either. Shut-in life, baby.

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>>17904003
delet this

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>>17904014
For what??? I didn't post any weird or offensive shit

>>17904003
Bump

>>17909500
What has happened? No dying anon.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zvkbHIrrrvU

What up bro

>>17909401
You're an 18 year old child. Fucking teenagers.

Wow what a loser

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>he doesn't know how to download flacs

alcohol

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It's not so bad. At least we live in the time of tv and internet. Make yourself comfy.

>>17909367
Got some of that, definitely

>>17909371
Anything good to watch you'd recommend?

I like your attitude

go with the music let it flow thru ur soul and shit

>>17909350
practice, anon. same way you git gud at anything. or just get drunk so you wont care how awful you are at dancing. thats what i do.

>>17909350
why does the toaster have two handles? You only need one to put the bread down.