I went to visit my long distance boyfriend a few months ago. We spent a week together but he seemed a bit off in that week.
When I flew home he didn't return my texts for 2 days and so I eventually asked him if he's breaking up with me why he was doing it and he said because of his ex.
So we kept in contact and I supported him as he was upset about his ex and that he couldn't be with her. Talked him out of suicide and into getting professional help. It hurt that while I loved him he never felt anything for me, he didn't pine for me at all, he only cared about his ex.
So my parents live in the same city he lives. I was going to visit them in December/January and he suggested we meet up.
I agreed at first, but I started to feel hurt. I told my ex that I didn't feel right about seeing him after everything that happened, that I still cared about him but I didn't forgive him. I told him why I was hurt and I told him that I shouldn't have seen him the first time. He tried to justify what he did by saying that the weekend I came to visit him he was supposed to visit his ex but he felt too bad to just leave me alone. He could have salvaged his old relationship. Honestly this just hurt me more.
He said he still saw me as a good friend after I helped him deal with the break up and he hoped I would reconsider meeting up with him. I told him that I decided to fly back home early. But I'm glad we could be friends. He never replied to me. And we haven't spoken since last week Wednesday.
I noticed he blocked me yesterday on whatsapp and removed me off Facebook. If he saw me as a good friend, why would he do that? I know I didn't see him but I explained that it would be too difficult for me. He didn't even remove that tinder girl that turned out to have a bf, but he removes me " a good friend"
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He wanted you back. "Friend" was just a word to warm things up again.
I'd personally move on.
He sounds a bit too self-absorbed. Also, long distance relationship with a bad start. Hope you two are young.
Good luck.
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Early 20's for me mid 20's for him.
And thanks for the luck.
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You're not the only one who has made a long distance mistake. So if you feel like you wasted time, money, effort, etc. You have no idea.
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How do people (especially couples) have something new to talk about every day? I spend my free time reading about science related topics and I don't watch movies or TV so it's hard from the start to find something to talk about with people. Science doesn't go over well; their eyes glaze over and all you get is an "Oh yeah?" which is extremely annoying btw when it's something important. I'm also conservative in a liberal city so ideas and viewpoints would clash with most people. Is anyone here a social butterfly?
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>How do people (especially couples) have something new to talk about every day?
>especially couples
So in my relationship we talk about the obvious, such as work and school, plans for the future, etc. Being long distance most of the time we also talk about what goes on around the cities we live in, or some mundane occurances in our days.
(What I think is) our most interesting conversations generally stem from: we both read the news, I listen to podcasts, reading magazines, watching documentaries together, interesting articles about various topics online, etc.
I'm a poor conversationalist aside from with him, and I also don't really like interacting with people very much in the first place, so what I've described above may or may not help generate conversations with people outside the relationship. I have a feeling being informed on a wide variety of topics is typically a good idea.
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>I spend my free time reading about science
For example? Unless it's something crazy specific related to your university, most people should be able to follow the shit and have something to add. Just gotta find the right topic, it's given that most won't have much to say about CPT theorem. Though generally it's a heavy subject, unless the person is totally obsessed by it, they don't want to talk about something complex while eating a burger. Work often gives decent conversation topics for your SO/friends, almost daily. Doing stuff with them or your friends helps too.
Besides, what about reading non science stuff?
>conservative in a liberal city so ideas and viewpoints would clash with most people
So what? As long you're somehow educated about politics, as are your conversation partners, it can still lead to interesting talk. Assuming neither of you are too extreme about shit either. Hell, by caring about science and not coming with the "climate change is chinese invention" bullshit, you should even have common ground on a decent amount of subjects.
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>Besides, what about reading non science stuff?
I know, I just feel it's a waste of time. And yeah, it's generally specific, heavy science which I read, because I feel it's a waste of time otherwise.
>Assuming neither of you are too extreme about shit either.
Yeeeaa, about that...
I'm not wondering about having conversations with multiple people. I'm talking about multiple conversations with the same person.
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my girlfriend just gave me an hour long hand job and I never felt close to finishing. I've been taking longer recently, I'm getting tired of it. I love this girl, I don't know what's wrong. I understand it may be lack of variety, she refuses to give me blow jobs dispite me gladly going down on her, and doesn't think there's anything g else to do. I've got some dam blue balls right now, and there's nothing I can do about it. what can i do to combat this. I've cut back on masturbation a lot recently, and she hasn't touched me much over the past few weeks, so I feel I can rule out death Grove for the most part.
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Sex....?
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>she refuses to give me blow jobs dispite me gladly going down on her
You dump her is what you do.
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Shes a muslim and wont have sex with me until marriage
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How do I change?
How can I make this year finally worth something? I'm so fucking tired. I feel like im doing everything in my power to better myself.. I work from dusk till dawn, I work out, my looks got 10x better, I can say confidently I'm good looking, I'm making a real effort to socialize with people, to go out, I even met a girl off tinder, and met with a girl I met at a bar and got her number. but nothing is working out for, why do I work so hard and still feel so sad and alone? why am I still a virgin at 22. I look in way better situation than the avarage guy if you don't know me, fuck this life...
All my life I feel like pushing through barriers, trying to get somewhere, but life is shitting me back out. I can't get anything I want. I only get more things to struggle with.. sometimes I'm at my job, feeling like shit, and I think to myself "this is life man, keep struggling, things must get better for people who work hard, who make an effort, just keep working, just keep lifting, just keep trying to socialize, keep practicing guitar, keep swiping right on tinder, keep no fapping, keep being nice, keep pushing yourself - until someone loves you :'(
but nothing really changes, yes I'm stronger, yes I'm prettier, maybe smarter, but I feel the same, I'm still lonely, I still get depressed, I still don't see a point in life and have no direction, and worse of all I still don't know what it's like to feel loved, to have a sex life and to be free of shame, be honest and confident, around people, and with myself.
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Why did you even improve yourself in the first place?
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You are like the best archer in the world but with no target. You can shoot anything at exact precision. But without a target you can never find the satisfaction of success. You have got to understand why you even pull your bow in the first place.
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>I work from dusk till dawn and then I lift weights
>I'm so tired
>why am I unhappy?
The reason seems pretty obvious to me. You're working all day doing something that I'm guessing you don't truly enjoy. I'm not saying you should quit your job and quit working out, but you should find a balance. To be truly content with your life you need to do things that offer you instant gratification (like playing videogames, eating ice cream and getting drunk with friends) and things that give you long-term rewards (like working out, developing a skill, having a career). Many people become depressed because they only focus on instant gratification so their life becomes a spiral downwards so they end up living in their mothers basement doing nothing but watching chinese cartoons all day. You're in the opposite extreme, you only work for a future goal but never really enjoy yourself. This in turn makes you tired, frustrated and harder to talk to. Hence it's harder for you to find meaningful connections with other people - even though you try it to the point where it becomes a chore. Which also makes you more tired etc. Your life is also a spiral downwards, but in another way.
Besides, the long-term goals you're working for are generic and say nothing about yourself. You don't find pleasure in them, you're only doing it for the end result. Which may never come, as you have probably realized by now. Life is a journey, not a destination. So, while you should have long-term goals, you should set them in a way that would allow you to enjoy the activities you do in order to achieve those goals. This is also a reason why you can't find relationships with other girls - you're boring. You have no personality, no interests because you spend all your time working. What do you even talk about when out on a date?
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Is there any way to figure out if you've gained weight without access to a scale?
I keep feeling puffy and disgusting but a scale would cost money and I think I'll just go without buying groceries for a while.
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Sounds like a plan. Glad we could help
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If you think there's any visual changes in how you look, then compare yourself to older picture of you.
I went from 9 stone to 11 stone over half a year, and didn't have access to scales, but noticed that I had filled out more in places.
I did eventually get a set of scales. You should just order one off of Amazon or something, they cost like £10 or something (Whatever that is in $ - prolly like less than $15)
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You could offer some input on how to make this feeling go away.
It's like someone dipped me in glue and rolled me in the boiled down physical embodiment of disgust.
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IF YOU'RE HAPPY AND YOU KNOW IT . . . .
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Are you happy? I'm happy. I'm doing pretty well in school, I have a great girlfriend, and as far as I know I have no mental illness.
What are you happy about?
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absolutely nothing
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>>17911389
Nothing
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>>17911389
New car, new gf, passed the course I was worried about, sick mom is better. You're right, OP, it is good sometimes to notice that you're happy.
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Where the fuck can I reliably meet some decent girls? Interested in dating, tired of hookups.
I'm a reasonably good looking 21 year old guy, but I'm in computer science so I don't typically see girls in my day to day, and cold approaches aren't my thing.
I've joined some school clubs like theatre stuff/improv, and I met some girls there as friends/aquaintances, but the turnover rate is so low and I'm not interested in any of them. I've tried clubs or bars and Tinder but I'm really looking for a relationship, not hookups.
How did you anons meet your qt gfs?
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Try other school clubs; book clubs are great. Or libraries.
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>>17911363
I'm entering my last semester and then I'll be done with school, so I also need advice for outside of school.
As for libraries, what do you suggest? Cold approaching some girl who's looking through the stacks?
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>>17911372
Yeah, something like that. Even look in sections you're interested in, so you have a talking point.
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How to deal with the fact of being "dead inside" ? 2017-01-01 11:04:51 Post No.17911329
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How to deal with the fact of being "dead inside" ?
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i don't describe myself as someone who is sad or depressed,i'm just so static that almost every girl i know finds me weird.physically i'm a solid 8/10(smaller version of pic related),and a lot girls are lusting and orbiting around me,and i'm physically attracted to a lot of them and i wanna fuck them badly.everytime a girl approachs and starts to lure me,the first days go smooth and then i quickly get bored and cold because i feel like i have zero toleance for women bullshit .the only thing i can feel toward them is purely physical,and i can't go any further.
many beautiful girls (+7/10) felt davasted and started to question their physical appearance because of how cold i was.
i work as software engineer and the reason of me being dead inside is living a rough childhood in an extremly poor and fucked up family,i'm currently 25 years and i'm unable to deal with "happiness". i simply feel neither happy or sad,just empty inside and can hardly be emotionally moved by anything.
how i'm a supposed to deal with this mess ? i think even a doctor cannot help me because i'm leading a healthly and extremely productive life...i do hard mma workout,i don't drink,smoke or do drugs,and i spend most of my time coding world in front of a computer screen...
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>women bullshit
Like what? Everyone has bullshit. Bullshit is a human thing.
It sounds like you have some kind of Autism spectrum disorder. Go see a therapist
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>>17911335
Woman bullshit = drama
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>>17911337
Drama is only fodder for immature girls. Anyway, my advice still stands; see someone. You've got something going on there.
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Drunk me wants to kill me
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I, I think drunk me just left a suicide note.
"If I end my life trough my own power"
Is the note he left me. I am concerned. How do I deal with suicidal drunk selves?
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Kill yourself before you kill yourself so you get the last laugh.
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>>17911353
1st post best post.
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>>17911322
Stop getting drunk
Okay, what the hell else was I supposed to do here?
At around 8 PM this girl that i've been on a few dates with sends me a snapchat saying "just me and this bottle of wine tonight I guess".
I respond and after a few messages I say "well if you're not dead set on finishing that bottle of wine by yourself just let me know!"... to which she repliess "I might take you up on that offer!"
Well a few hours later and she texts me asking me what i'm up to and we start having a conversation and everything but she never invites me over... I don't get it...
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Ask if she's down to hang dude, it's not rocket science. If she says nah, then fuck it dude.
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It's a girl's way of saying "I'm horny as shit and you've been selected to come slay my pussy".
I wish girls would actually text this, but we must make do.
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I mean, I felt like I put the offer out already.. I didn't want to be pushy and say it again. I felt like the ball was in her court..
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Any good YouTubers or books on spirituality that are not scam?
Pic related, guy I watch on YouTube right now for self-development.
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>>17911289
alan watts
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Ajahn Brahm.
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>>17911289
Is spirituality related to religious? If not, this thread's for me too.
Just asking coz I don't natively speak English. :)
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Am I being irrational for feeling uncomfortable with my girlfriend being in the same room as her naked female friend? Nothing going on, just her friend is naked.
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No, theres nothing wrong with you being naked in the presance of another male either, its the culture that was created of "gay suggestion" that allowing faggots to be open about their fetish that castes doubt on heterosexual friendship.
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>>17911265
Provided you're not in the room oggling the friend, it's fine.
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>>17911265
Just out of idle curiosity, why is her friend sitting around naked?
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My life has been taking away by so many.
I've realized I've been desperate. So desperate at the wrong wrong people and i couldnt express myself. I shouldove kept my mouth shut but I shouldove obeyd.
I can tell you, the more you remember the more you become an anemic fool and that's were your suppose to relax and face the other way.
Surrendering awaits and you must sit.
Facing , will slice your brain and the blood will be cleanse.
Its your becoming.
Its poor to know that these addictions ruins people life's. Its not my fault. I know what I have but they also know very very well.
So much progressive with darkness that we don't see, we get blinded by adreline (anger,that's were they control its perversion)
But its good to know someone's out there to help us but remember. We have only one god.
Spend time with your expression of sadness,happiness, etc. Because there will be someone looking to suck your blood dry like a dead rodent.
As they say the young grows tommorow.
Fear is key. Fear it works. U don't even have to face it because you, as a person is always right.
But don't forget who is trying and throwing something at you. Don't over think. Think with good heart.
The word desperate is what makes us want to know but blindley become anemic.despratness is our human weakness.
Remember who's watching you
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>>17911252
Is this a really lame attempt at post modernist poetry?
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>>17911252
OP your post is so disjointed and badly written as to be almost totally incomprehensible. You seem to be unhappy about something, but that is absolutely all I can understand from your post.
Try again, working REAL hard to decide exactly what you want to say and to say it as simply and clearly as possible.
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>>17911275
Oh shit, this is a suicide note.
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How do I make my first friend?
I'm in my very early twenties , I haven't had any friends in some years
It feels so weird starting from this point, I forgot how to even get past the acquaintance stage to making plans outside of school/work and I haven't really done so in years due to some sort of avoidance personality disorder, deep social anxiety and I guess not actively looking for people with similar interests as I
I start college soon, and not sure how to get into the mindset of someone that isn't a societal freak. I'm ashamed to get closer to anyone cause I'm scared they'll see how lonely I am and the barren calendar and evenings that are my 'life'
I can barely keep eye contact with people, and mainly when I'm talking much about something specific, then I can feel my face light up and can pretend to be a person much easier, otherwise I'm usually awkwardly silent or inquisitive to a somewhat naive point
I'm sick of staying home every night, especially weekends or times like this when everyone has plans with friends or family, I feel sick thinking about how much time I spend alone, and that I don't know anyone as socially isolated as I am or have ever encountered such a coward and miserable person, who doesn't know how to express his emotions besides a few repetitive gestures or replies which I'm sick of doing myself
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Why didn't you start college at eighteen?
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>>17911245
I worked a while, and I'm glad I did. If I had gone straight to college I would've chosen a shitty major I had no idea about
At this age I'm much more academically open, chose a good engineering major for a good paying job eventually with grades in mind
I don't see why this matters? Many people start college in their early twenties
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Lurking ITT
I've been recommended Civic Orgs and Church but theres no civic orgs around here and IDK if I can wake up that early reliably
How do I be less horny?
>gets into a comfortable position on bed
leads to erection
>sits on the couch in a good comfy position
leads to erection
>reads something that is slightly sexual
leads to erection
>sees a non naked well dressed woman
leads to erection
>in class doing nothing but sitting there
leads to erection
Why the fuck does erection happen to often?
Note : I'm not a virgin and masturbate quite occasionally.
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lmao
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>>17911286
Uhm???
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>asking Middle school sex ed questions
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