>first world problems inc
I'm scared of The Game. The Rat Race. Whatever the fuck it's called I'm intimidated, scared, and exhausted just by thinking of it.
I had tiger parents growing up, who demanded A's, elite college acceptance letters and high salaries. I ended up going to a pretty good uni and have a full-time job atm, but while I was in school I took i easy, got shit-mediocre grades, and didn't get 'the best jobs' like all my peers did.
I was fucking free from the chains of people breathing down my neck, from type A crazies, from d1 ivy league crew olympic caliber athletes who were also on their way to elite business schools or the Chad type finance bros on their way to wall street- fuck all that nonsense.
i wanted a low-stress life, so I've been trying to make one for myself. If someone talks to me about their plans to make it to wall street or harvard med school or climb the corporate ladder or whatever at a bar I'd just tune the fuck out. I want to enjoy a beer and watch the game or something, let loose and do fun shit.
>>17912126
>continued
but there's a part of me that's always comparing myself to others. 'oh fuck i'm only here making x amount of money a year, and some prick from high school is making twice that at an investment bank". I'm caught between "i just want to work, do my part, live life and have fun", and "fuck, i need to become CEO Doctor Triathlete Powerful Elite 1% otherwise nobody will respect me, love me, fuck me, or just like me". I constantly see myself as a failure, not living up to the standards of my parents and my peers.
I went through a phase where I tried to put the blame on everything else but myself. Now I feel like I'm doing the opposite, that everything that didn't go according to plan is 100% my fault- but if I fuck up this bad (read: not be in an elite top 5 firm) and can't make it, then I'm really fucking worthless.
Throw in trying to meet girls and making new friends while simultaneously "keeping up appearances" and it's just a huge clusterfuck.
I don't know what to do. Is this just what life is?Is this the rat race? How the fuck do i figure out who i am and what I enjoy in life if I'm clouded with all this bullshit? I don't even know if I have the effort to 'advance my career' if i'm going to constantly be compared against 100000 more successful people than me.
>>17912126
volunteer at a homeless shelter or soup kitchen, talk to some of them, ask what happened
and try to grow up before you do something stupid and fuckup your life
>>17912127
At the end of the day, you are the son of the enviroment you grew up in. There is a certain mindset that defines the way you think.
You could try to change that, but it would take so much time and effort to change yourself that you may as well just work hard to feel better instead.
I think you should focus on something that will give you good feedback and make yourself feel accomplished. You don't have to be the greatest but if you have potential, you should utilize it somehow.
My gf told me she wanted me to leave a permanent mark on her boobs. Shes been asking me for a month now.
I bit her boob and sucked it as hard as I could 100 times. It looked really bad. But this was turning her on.
Then she wanted me to bite her neck really hard and suck but she told me not to leave a mark. Well I realized I accidently ended up leaving a mark this time and then she was upset with me and said "are you proud of yourself? how am i gonna explain this to my parents?"
How is it my fault? She has this running joke she says "thats your idea" and winks at me. Whenever she suggests anything new or kinky. Why does she want me to take responsibility?
>>17912123
Tell her stupid ass to put some make up over it and all will be well.
>>17912123
So what if her parents see it? If they know you're her bf then they also know that you're fucking her pussy every night, why would they be mad about a mark on her neck?
>>17912152
its trashy
> Be me
> Find girl on date website
> We have good chat on website
> Exchange numbers whatsapp
> Have good few days talk, even sexted
> Last conversation is about her at work, nothing unsual
> Text her next day, nothing
> Text her day after, nothing
> Text her happy new year, see she read it but no response
> Text her day after if she is ok
> Says shes been busy, doesn't always reply
> No kisses at the end of this text
> Text her saying fair enough text me back when you are not busy
> Has been going online since but no reply to me despite saying she is busy but not busy enough to keep going on whatsapp
Have I fucked up somehow? We were completely on the same level then suddenly this.
>>17912103
Its over OP. Move on.
>>17912108
It's just so odd though, seriously there was no weirdness or anything and we even went into detail about our past bad relationships and shit, doesn't make sense
>>17912117
It goes like this when you find people online. It's more common than you'd think.
As things are now you should move on.
I'm 19 and am working seasonal right now (mid December through January) at a retail store I used worked at once before. My coworker, who just started working here back in September, just turned 17 years old.
We have very similar fashion styles, interests, tastes, and personalities. When she started, my coworkers even told her about how we should meet because we're so compatible.
When we met, she quickly took a liking to me. She always came to talk to me, texted me about non-work related topics once she got my number for shift-swaps, and even told my coworkers she thought I was cute. She's cute as well, but I tried to stay my distance because she's underage, still in highschool, a coworker, and I wasn't really romantically interested in her to much to begin with.
However, the other night after we both had long shifts, I accidentally went on a date with her (I saw it as just hanging out then). We got tacos across the street, perused the stores near by, and I dropped her off at her house. Before she got out of my car she said, "do you mind if I do something weird?" and before I had the chance to say anything, she kissed me on the cheek. She asked if that was weird, and looking back I can't really remember what I said, but it was probably some unintelligible "uh nooo" because I was so surprised and caught off guard.
Since then, I can't get her off my mind even though I wouldn't feel right at all being in a relationship with her.
What do I do /adv/? I don't even know what I'm going to do when I see her at work, she's got me so nervous like I'm in middle school.
>>17912022
You buy condoms and be yourself :-D
And you mentaly prepare yourself that nothing lasts forever so when the inevitable breakup comes, you will remain your sanity.
>>17912099
u can do this, but I've once started a relationship with a girl I wasn't romantically interested in either. It's fun to date and stuff but when things get serious and you find a girl you really like from the beginning, its gonna suck if you are still in a relationship with the girl you weren't really interested in. my advice is don't get a gf just because u can, also i don't think 2 years of age difference matters.
>>17912022
You obviously like her. She may be underage but she's only two years younger than you.
As long as you are careful and stay in good terms with her, even if you do eventually break up while still being co-workers, it will all work out fine.
Go for it.
Hi /adv/, this is my first time. I wanted to post my statistics for college as I am a high school senior and want to know what I can feasibly get into. My general overview is that I have pretty good stats and E.C's (Extra Curriculars), but I'm just too boring because I'm white and upper-middle class. Here they are:
ACT: 34 composite (35 English, 31 Math, 36 Reading, 33 Science)
GPA: Unweighted 3.7 (my school has a college grading system, so if I went to public school it would be in the 3.9's)
Weighted: 4.32 (same issue as above, would be more in the 4.7's - 4.8's, but I could be wrong)
School Type: Private, International Baccalaureate
Intended major(s): 1. Business, 2. Econ, 3. Music
Location: California
Ethnicity/Race: White
Income Bracket: Middle- Upper-Middle
E.C's:
>Have Played Double Bass for around 10 years, as was principal at a collegiate youth orchestra and was second chair in their university orchestra
>Have toured internationally with another orchestra
>Principal (first chair) for some smaller orchestras as well
>Vice President of Econ and Stock Market Club
>T.A. for IB Econ Class
>National Merit Commended Scholar
>Have a 3.8 GPA/transcript at an ivy league university, as I already took classes
>3rd degree black belt in Taekwondo (doesn't really matter)
And some other shit I dont remember. Basically, what do you guys think? I dont know what to think myself as I am getting acceptances from from schools like UT Austin and Indiana Bloomington with direct admission into the Business program and Honors Colleges, but I was rejected from Stanford and deferred from UMich (granted I'm a Californian so they defer a lot of non-mich people)
>TLDR: What do you guys think about my stats/what advice could you give me?
Bump.
Similar situation. Kinda interested
Goddamn you are such a nerd. You will go places in education though I assure you.
Why would you ask this on 4chan go to CollegeConfidential or something.
My sister ran away from home after fight with mum. Do I tell her?
Mum is somewhat unstable so Im not sure how she'd respond. Probably panic and pass out or something. Sister probably went to a friend's house but she's turned off her phone so I cant reach her. What do I do
I think she has the right to know but telling her wont help anything.
>>17911991
Report it immediately and yes, tell her. If she's underage she can easily end up in a compromised position.
>>17912007
She's 16. Just got off the phone with her. She's coming back. Should I tell mum now? I mean if she just sneaks in then they wont fight. If I tell my mother she will probably act aggressive and make things worse. But on the other hand I dont want her to think that she can sneak out whenever without any consequences.
So anons,
I live in canada (maritimes/east coast) and I have no money at all. I've been living off my savings for a while, and I've applied for over 150 jobs. Most places here hire women or immigrants only (i'm a straight white man, so privileged!).
I have just enough money for my insurance on vehicle, tank of gas, and a little for food,etc.
Anyone from NS/NB here who has suggestions? Or anyone who has suggestions/been in this situation before?
I've thought about trying to get welfare or join the military (though i've heard it can take a year or so to get in the army, and I may be too old? ive just turned 31 btw).
Willing to do pretty much any real job, as long as its 40 hours and isn't fastfood/walmart (they only hire for part time here anyway).
>>17911973
Firstly, you need to tell us what skills you have and also if you are able to travel.
Sell your underwear online.
>>17911973
Holy fuck dude is it bad in Ns and Nb too?
I'm in NL and I'm in the same situation sort of. Been living off of my savings for the last three months after losing my job and I can not find work anywhere. I have just enough money for my next car/insurance payment and that's it.. It's like nobody wants to hire me or some shit. It's so fucking stupid.
I don't have any advice for you but I do wish you the best of luck.
>be me
>really sweet girl at uni
>start working with her at uni
>went with her to a party last week
>she said she really liked it and it was the first time in a long while she felt she could actually talk with someone (we both ar ementally fucked up)
>I always have to write her she never writes me I had to ask her last week as well first but then she came with me alone to the party
>yesterday she said she's going to have dinner at a friends place and then go to sleep since she is ill and has to work tomorrow (today) but she will go partying today later
>I want to go with her
>She obviously won't text me
Question is should I text her? Everyone tells me I shouldnt because it would make me look as if I am chasing her because she never initiates on her own if we aren't already together.
>pic somehow related
kinda reminds me of her
Sneak into her room at night while she's sleeping and cuddle. Bitches love being randomly cuddled
>>17911959
to give more context if we are alone though she acts heavily as if we are a couple already.
>last week party
>everyone thinks there we are a couple thanks to how she acted
>we sit down just talk
>while she tells me her girlish shit she has the biggest grin on her face and the widest puppy eyes ever simply out of joy talking to me.
>still she never ever feels the need to write to me on her own without me starting it.
There are many reasons why she would act like that, so we can't really say what's going on inside her head. It may also be because you're too clingy (yeah, I know you don't think you are, but most people don't realize it when they are). Thing is, I see this kind of behavior as a red flag. It's what books about manipulations or seduction teaches you to do in order to make someone fall for you. It's also a thing many girls do, consciously or not just to feel good about themselves. But, of course it may be nothing like that, let's not jump to conclusions.
If I were you I'd ask her out soon, preferably somewhere you can dance. If she declines it because she's busy ask when she's free and set a date then. If she's never free or she doesn't want to go out in the first place it's ogre. Stop contacting her. If she does accept go out with her and be as flirty as possible. Compliment her, make sexual jokes/remarks, talk about intimate stuff, touch her, go for a kiss. Basically make it clear that you want to fuck her and keep one-upping your advances until she stops you or you get her in bed (or until you kiss if for some reason you don't want to/can't fuck her). This can obviously blow up in your face pretty hard, but if she's actually attracted to you she most likely will go with it. Especially if there's alcohol involved.
I live in town A and met a girl living in town B and I am there once a week for work. (Travel time: 2.5h)
We had one date and wanted to meet again, but now she texts me that she's unsure if she can handle our distance, as we can only see us every now and then, and that we maybe should end it before we fall in love.
What should I do or say? I don't wanna let go yet and it would be possible for me to move to town B in future, but not now and not just because of a date of course.
I'm 23, never had a girlfriend or a date before, but I think she could be the one for me.
LDRs don't work. You're delusional.
That's not too big of a distance. She must not care enough if she would rather end it then relocate. Sorry op
>>17911967
If we would get to the state of a relationship, I would probably move.
would it help to make her a promise like this at this point?
So I was thinking of going to Germany and studying there
The issue is , I'm kinda low on money,
I'm going to go mostly this fall , with level b1 learned and i have to learn till b2
And for that I need a language school .
So I was thinking if you guys could guide on my search for a cheap language school
I'm still not sure where I'll be staying but it doesn't matter as long as it's a cheap one
How cheap we talking ? Around 60 € a week
I know that may not exist but oh well , I was thinking if you guys knew any
Not sure why you want to go to Germany in 2017 but if you do, just buy the Arabic pack of Rosetta Stone and that should get you by just fine
>>17911954
What other country do you suggest anon ?
I'm Bulgarian and don't want to stay in this shit country
>>17911961
New zealand
Have been splited for 1year half already....
but still thinking of her. I really poured my whole emotion I could give. and I still don't want any new person
while she is already gone to another guy right after we broke up
https://youtu.be/pYSrlygyhi4
There 7.3 billion people in the world don't give up
She did you a favor. You dodged a bullet. Think of it this way, coulda been worse, she coulda stuck around and ended up cheating on you with this guy at some point. She essentially did, in your mind. But in reality, she doesn't care about you.
The people who care about you are THERE. She isn't THERE. The people who want to be near you are THERE, she doesn't wanna be. So go be with someone else. But focus on yourself first. Your life has value, value that she took for granted, so move on.
>>17911906
No one wants pajeeta fondling their balls, calm down
So I just found out everyone in my workplace, where I've been working for 4 years, have a whatsapp group without me (and without a couple more people) and are meeting for drinks after work nearly every day, and have had trips together and parties.
I always felt I was on good terms with them because we say good morning and sometimes joke near the coffee machine, but apparently I am being shunned. Is there any way to change this and become part of the group or is my social life beyond rescue as long as I stay here? (at least 6 more years)
Just do what you do. Why would you want part of a group that didn't invite you into their clique? You have friends outside of work right, anon?
>>17911894
Definitely have my own friends, but it feels weird that I keep working with all these people every day now that I know they're actually all friends except me.
>>17911894
>>17912186
And the highlight might be that they actually thing I'm a snub!
Do any of you dudes here put off relationships out of not wanting to risk becoming a parent when you dont want to yet?
I've seen lots of guys around me of my generation working similarly low pay jobs that just screw up their lives having children and they're never going to get out of that rut because all their time and money is spent on raising children they didn't really want and they can't provide a good loving home for their children because they're stressed from work/ have no money/ rely on benefits etc.
Am I being rational? It's been a long time since I've had a relationship and I miss it but at the same time I don't think I could cope with becoming a parent in my circumstances.
What would you do?
>>17911837
>What would you do?
be smart?
its not that hard if you're careful. wear a condom or get her to take the pill, do both if you're really scared. if you fuck up, get her to take the morning after pill.
>>17911843
Some of the guys I know did all that and still ended up as parents.
Maybe the condom broke or she "forgot" to take the pill etc then there's no going back because the woman wants to keep it and the man just has to accept that.
How else can you escape that risk other than a vasectomy?
You can be in a relationship without sex or vaginal sex until you're both ready and more comfortable.
There's also better birth control than condoms and pills, like the arm implant.
I know someone who publicly berated his gf on Facebook and now she left him. So we had a talk about it and he regrets it. At the end though, I made a stupid joke about it, told him I'm glad I don't have Facebook so I don't end up insulting my gf on it. He wasn't looking too pleased with that. Was I wrong? I thought it was funny.
>>17911815
Too soon
>>17911822
I also laugh at my own jokes. That's probably what done it?
>>17911815
Bump
Underage Drinking Last Night (3 days from turning 21)
So I came back to my town for winter break from University. I decided to go out with some friends to a house party out in the country; I live in Wisconsin. I had a beer around 9, and when we arrived I had two more, after that I didn't drink. Around 1140 I decide to go outside, shortly after a two county sheriff comes out of nowhere and gathers up the 5 people that were outside, meanwhile there's atleast 20-30 people inside the house. Tells us he got the tip from snapchat (beware of what you post on social media!). He takes all of our names and shortly after has everyone breathilized. I told the officer I had drank, but only a beer and didn't finish my last one. I end up blowing a 0.023, which the officer says is typical for a beer. After I get breathilized I tell the officer my story. How I'm only 4 days from turning 21 and how I have some scholarships on the way. He gives me the good old "actions have consequences", I agree with him on that statement and ask if there's anything I can do. He tells me he'll give me a call tomorrow, I tell him thanks and shake his hand. I end up getting a ride with this girl I know back home right after.
I was very compliant with the officers and really tried standing out from the others who were being smart assy to them. I told the officers about how many people were inside and who's place it was.
I guess the police officers camped out of the party for a good 20 minutes after we went our way. They never came back and everyone kept partying after they left.
What are your experiences with underage drinking citations or being caught with drugs?
Did you go to court to have it exponged?
Is there any chance of me not getting a citation?
Thanks /adv/
http://milwaukee-criminal-lawyer.com/underage-alcohol-consumptionpossession-tickets/
Drink wisconsinibly
>>17911999
Thanks anon,
This could mess up your scholarships tho depending on their clauses so go to court do whatever you gotta do to not have to take out a student loan.