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Go to Japan and teach at a language school. Get drunk every day and fuck your private students from the university. /r/TEFL

>>17940664
idk nihongo that well fml

>>17940700
Neither do the gaijin, senpai

>>17940649
Give her the ol missionary position. Bitches love it.

>>17940649

Degrading???? LOL

Bitches are more bitchy by the day. Degrading would be making ass to mouth FFS

>>17940649
That bitch thinks it's degrading? Do what
>>17940671 said and give that ho ass to mouth. That'll teach her about degradation.

By working hard, things like studying, applying yourself at work (no daydreaming) and becoming organised. But you're not going to do any of that.

I'm interested.

Lower your standards

Please go and die bk in ur on crappy country....this island is ours big mac

We have barely any cemetry space left as it is

Byeeeee

Missing you already......

this will be hard as fuck. it will get show you your boundaries.
but in the end, it will be worth it. you will have acomplished something you can be proud of.
you made something out of nothing simply with determination and discipline.
you helped your family and have been very generouse and selfless.
you have achieved a lot and in hindsight it will only have bewn a short and intense phase that you got trough without serious harm.
make priorities. those are family and study right now. there will be times where you can focus on the social parts more again. you will be behind peers your age in those matters. but mever forget that you will have a HUGE FUCKTON of advantages over them in other aspects that will proove to get you very far and make you an awesome human being. suffering and struggling is what makes you mature very fast. it will catapult you ahead of your peers in no time. just don't let it drag you down. instead of comparing yourself to people from upper middle class in a 1. world country, focus on what you have accomplished so far. don't look left snd right. look back, be proud and then look ahead and do what will make dou proud to look back in a few years.

for the records, i'm already proud of you now

>>17940590
Thank you very much kind anon, that really helped me out! I do realise the things you're saying are true but sometimes I can't help but feel trapped, since I've always been behind my peers in a social aspect. Professionally I excel, but deep inside I am unhappy. I should not compare myself to the rich kids though, you are damn right about that.

Inconcievable bump

Just find a suitable human. It will take some time and force you to live through terrible situations but you might grow from that. Use condoms. Ask if she's interested before you jump someone. You'll be fine.

>>17940545
Masturbate a lot. Especially before you know you're going to go socialise. It's simple and it works.

Have you tried eating less fat and/or cutting out dairy?

>>17940538
Cut out all sugar from your diet. Processed foods in general should go. Just drink water. Milk only if you can tolerate it well. You should increase fiber from plants as a priority and also consider eating more fermented foods and/or adding a probiotic to your diet. Also make sure to get 30 minutes intense cardio every day.

>>17940548
the only dietary thing I have tried is cutting carbs(for weight:if you can't tell from the picture, I'm pretty fat)
I never considered cutting out dairy because I love so many dairy related things. Once it clears up, could I go back?
>>17940549
Only water? what about home brewed organic green teas and stuff like that? as mentioned above, I'm a fatass so I suppose any cardio at all could help?

>>17940520

Seek help, sounds like major depression.

I probably suffer the same mindset as you OP, sadly my lame suggestion is you have to keep trying even if the whole world turns its back on us.

Begin by taking a hobby, get fit, read something psychological, do something that is not related to videogames like cleaning your house, taking up gardening etc., nobody said there is an easy way out of being a loser, your potential has yet to bloom. If you're young, like 24 years old and below young, then you are never too old to try almost everything.

>>17940520
>>>/r9k/
Faggot.

>>17940497
>Said she's still trying to wrap her head around everything that happened and grieving like she didn't know was possible.
>Asked her now that she knows my thoughts on staying friends and how I still feel if she can feel right about still being friends for now
>She said yes.

That was right at a month ago. I know that's not all that long, but I'm trying to occupy my time and learn to be OK with being single, but it fucking sucks.

Thing is I know outside of my romantic life, I've got it made. I'm a good looking Baltic, homeowner, dope puppers, new truck, a few really good friends I see frequently, money enough to support my hobbies with a bit of saving etc. I just cant shake the urge to want to be with someone. Can't stop wanting to be wanted.

>>17940497
>>17940500


this is an interesting case. some people are just more co dependent and while that isn't preached as healthy, its not something that seems to be causing ongoing suffering. your relationships are with people you appreciate in the moment and you aren't afraid to leave them when it goes south, so its hard to say that beyond NEEDING someone that you have any real problem.

the general issue is people don't have enough self love, but your post doesn't give off that vibe.

that being said, try the following
>Treat yourself the way you would a girl.

think about all the dates you went on with this girl. have you been doing those things since you broke up? if not, do them. take yourself to dinner, or to the movies, or anywhere the fuck you want to go. people dont realize that htese experiences can be just as enjoyable on your own.

>Strengthen your other relationships

your desire to be wanted seems to be purely romantic. have you considered deepning your friendships? it sounds gay, but most people don't really make their friends a focal point.

you can have a friend you've known for the length of three of your romantic relationships and still treat them like a casual friend becuase society tells us nothing is more important than romance.

consider taking that ot the next level. become the center of your social circle and create lots of fun manly bonding activities. focus more on 1 on 1 or smaller groups as opposed to the popular dynamic of large loosely affiliated groups of friends hanging out. those dont bond people.

>hobbies

you mention them, but what are they? consider working on something that ends with somethign being made. you can appreciate it yourself or have others appreciate it. its fun.

>dope puppers

dope puppers indeed.

She sounded like she need space to grieve.

Having a romantic interest when you're grieving is very taxing. Married women go to their moms and sisters when something big happens. It's just the way life goes.

The problem is clear,you need to learn to be alone. You clearly can forge relationships easily. But a marriage after a few months is a red flag (to me) of a person attached to other people. I'm sorry but true happiness doesn't lie with other people. Work on that.

You should love from a position where you are selfless and serving their needs. Don't be a doormat but do be a guardian.

as you've surmised, it's all about energy.

Right now your energy is spent on curbing anxiety and your depression, which leaves little to share for others. That's fine, you just need a way to create 'energy' or spend it efficiently.

Either manage and curb these afflictions or you will have little energy to meaningfully share to others.

>>17940507
not op, but I have a similar problem. How do you create energy ?

>>17940481
bump.

>>17940454
bump

>>17940454
Google compound interest. That's how I would start.

>>17940588
Compound interest is your friend

Make an appointment with a financial adviser

>>17940446

What do you want advice about?

Please exit to /r9k/ please.

>>17940451
>triggered roastie
lmao

>>17940446

>rarity increases value

it only increases value if something already has value.

being the only ugly person in the world doesn't increase your value as a sex partner.

if anything it decreases it.

>>17940405

No hymen no diamond.

Virgins don't have periods dumbass

>>17940431
>tfw can't tell if troll or serious

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pls

have you ever considered the military?

>>17941094
I wanna join the army. But the site said i need college credits

"Do you find me attractive?"
"Do you think we could ever be a couple?"
etc

Literally say I like you or I like hanging out with you...

Go to da movies or movies at your house

Put your hand on their shoulder and gage their reactions

Usually they will either shrugged you off if they're not interested. Otherwise, move your way down their back, and if hey still doesnt shrf you off or they haven't already responded in a similar manner, go kiss their neck.

Works for.me.

At this point I'm visibly erect. I nibble o her ear lobes and she lets out a sound. That means 2nd base.

Glhf

>>17940399

the problem here is that you're acting like there is some pattern that if you hit it, will guarantee pussy.

there isn't.

i can get a date with a girl with just one conversation. I can get laid by a girl with just one conversation. not ALL women, not even close. but if they are into me thats all the time it takes.

so if you're into someone, make a move. ask them on a date like activity. then while on that date like activity, make a move. donjt care about when or after how long, just go on the date and do it.

asexuality is a mental disorder. just like being gay or transgender.

the problem is that it gets so hyped nowadays as being a way one can be born.
it's like fat acceptance. it's ok to the point of trying to get society to stop bullying those people who already struggle a lot with their disorders. but as soon as it tips over into "it's natural and beautiful and you should accept it and even compliment me on being so courageous as to live my asexuality/size/gender/whatever regardless of the judgement i face every day", it gets really bad.

that's what happened to asexuality.

no, it's not something you "just are".
just like there are no people who "just have anger management problems" or "avoidant personality disorder". those things are fucking real and they suck ass. but they are treatable. maybe it will be fucking unpleasant. maybe you will have to discover that you are one idiotic cunt. maybe you will have to relive very painfull memories. but god damn itms worth it. the sooner you start the faster you will be done with this teenager-special-snowflake bullcrap.

good luck op

>>17940367
"asexuality" is a symptom of physiological and/or mental illness. it does not occur naturally in species that rely on sexual reproduction. i recommend consulting with a physician.

t. science

>>17940441
>>17940404
Well I've been seeing a therapist for 2 years until I stopped. He said he didn't understand me. I don't know if I want to look for a new one, it was too much money.
Is it worth it? I don't know if it really gets in the way of my life except that I would like to have a romantic relationship with someone.