Hey /adv/, 18 year old in college here. I'm still technically in high school but I take all my classes at college.
My mom is trying to force me to get a job even though I pay my car insurance entirely, forces me to borrow her money, and still hasn't given me her tax information for the FAFSA.
I have a 4.0 collegiate gpa and she's trying to force me to work because "she did", when she failed out of uni and cosmetology school.
How the fuck do I deal with this? I might just join the navy so I can stop talking to her and not need her for the FAFSA as she's starting to be a fucking leech and I'm sure she's not above not helping me with my FAFSA down the line if I refuse to borrow her cash.
Also, I pay all my bills, I just saved up a lot during high school and now literally don't need a job for these months before college.
how does she force you to borrow money?
>>17943286
She basically forces me to loan her $100 or more so she can pay bills because she literally can't pay her bills with a salary of $50,000 a year somehow. I assume if I don't borrow her the cash she'll kick me out as she often threatens to do, even though I'm still in high school.
>>17943295
oh she forces you to LEND her money
Hello I'm 19 from Europe and I met a girl and I really wanna meet her and have sex...but I don't really know what or can not do there so if u could help..
>>17943239
You never know until you go there and try.
>>17943239
That's haram, if their parents fins out, you'll be dead as soon as you step foot in Saudi Arabia
But if they know already and they like me?....I mean the law not then...can they do something to me?
Why do i always try to be sad? When something good happens (very rarely) i listen to sad music and remember sad stuff so that i can be sad once again, i always look for sad comics/mangas to read to make me feel even sadder.
The thing is: i'm not doing that to get attention since nobody cares about me, i have no friends and my parents think i'm a failure so nobody will give me attention.
Maybe you enjoy the feeling of sadness?... Many people do.
The thing is, good emotions are enjoyable too. You should try and give yourself the oportunity to cheer up for things.
>>17943223
Because tragedy is good art.
>>17943223
Perhaps you feel like you don't deserve to be happy.
Maybe some part of you feels guilty when you're happy, so you need to sabotage it because good feelings "aren't for you"
How the FUCK do I find my passion? I mean, I wasted so much free time doing nothing. I hate myself for this, I don't progress on any level.
I love mountain biking, I love making youtube videos but I'm not doing any of those. Like what the fuck?
I already made 200 euros from youtube, but I can't think of new ideas. So my channel is dead for the most part. I'm wasting the opportunity to succeed even more.
It just feels like I'm stuck, I can't think or do anything, I'm just a worthless, jobless, socially incapable cunt. How do I change that?
https://markmanson.net/passion
>>17943196
>Linking some normie article instead of actually offering your own advice
I hope this doesn't start to become more common. I even like his stuff myself but it's annoying when people just shill articles they read instead of offering their own perspective.
>>17943196
I read articles like these, get motivated for a second and then I'm back to doing nothing.
I think I'm just a lazy cuck. It's like, I WANT to be youtuber/mountain biker or some shit, but I don't put the work in to achieve that.
How do I break out of this "shell"? Just start doing shit? I know no one can give me legit advice, I'm kind of just venting to strangers on the internet who don't really give a fuck. God damn it.
How do you plan out a first date with a girl? All of my relationships just kind of happend, I've never had to "date" a girl into becoming my girlfriend before.
I've asked out this girl I like and she said yes, and now I don't know whether to ask for input from her or to just tell her what we're doing and when. Also unsure if the usual drinks/dinner and movie is a safe bet or to try do some activity like bowling or ice skating. It's hard to plan when you know very little about the girls interests and comfort zone.
>>17943123
You wanna go to a place where you are comfortable at. thats should be your main concern since you asked her out.
I took my now current gf to go hangout with me at 7-eleven while we smoked cigarettes in the parking lot and ate burritos. why?
Because thats what i do every weekend regardless (the 2nd date we went to a restaurant)
now some uppity girls might expect to be wine and dine but frankly you shouldn't date somebody that high maintenance tbqh
>>17943141
That's very good advice thanks. I'm comfortable doing anything but honestly feel like activity based dates might get boring pretty quickly for me, despite the company. Movie and dinner is pretty cruisy and enjoyable, but I also think because it's something we will likely be doing a lot if she becomes my girlfriend it might be better left to later. I guess that just leaves maybe going to the beach, having some drinks and going for a late night walk or something.
I don't think this girl is high maintenance at all, I just don't want to choose the wrong activity to suit her personality, because I don't know enough about her yet. Would asking for her input be too cowardly? Or suggesting something and asking for any alternatives she could think of.
>>17943154
>Would asking for her input be too cowardly?
saying "Are you cool with hanging out at the beach and having some drinks later" should be fine IMO
Hi /adv/ going batshit crazy today so figured i'd come here
Im 26 and came out of a 5 year relationship 9 months ago. She left me completely out of the blue, she was the love of my life. She went no contact and i havent heard from her since. Were still friends on fb though, but not spoke once. I've been everywhere and done all sorts of 'new life, new me' shit, got a passport, been abroad, festivals, parties and one night stands. I never really wanted to, but faced with restarting life you force yourself to do these things. Now all of that has settled, got it out of my system or whatever i've just plateued, accepting of the drudgery of everyday life, working full time to come home and see i've been tagged in a funny meme. Day in day out. Ive had one or two flings through tinder and badoo, but nothing but a bit of loose sex and conversation drowned in alcohol, nothing meaningful. She was always there. I've started seeing a new girl, who is local and we met up last week. She was cute, and we slept in my van, and i'm picking her up later to go for dinner and drinks. Great. She's messaging me now. Truth is, i have absolutely no genuine interest in her, or anyone for that matter. This girl will only serve as a distraction to my loneliness and provide someone warm to cuddle up to at night, but i know inside, i will only want her.
I cannot escape this grief. I long for her everyday, and wonder what she is doing. She is imbued in the world i'm lost in, her face is alive in my head. I just don't know what to do, /adv/ and fear i am becoming more and more isolated and removed from the world because i am harbouring this immovable burden. Thanks for any input
I am fed up with waiting, waiting for the strength of my lust for her to yield until it finally coughs and splutters away into nothing. She is so blissfully unaware, so carefree of all this mess. She left me incidentally, by which she didn't even bat an eyelid. She said she'd already grieved for us when we were still together. She minimalised those entire 5 years to almost nothing. I've not been the same since, and just feel that that was my life's fill of love, and that's the price i pay for loving someone. I cry for the past, for how happy i was and how much i took it for granted. Am i doomed to permanent misery? Has anyone found love again?
>>17943099
Don't worry, you'll eventually stop feeling this way. It's already happening, see? You're starting to get frustrated with her. When you love someone a lot and that person doesn't return your feelings you will get hurt and as a result you will slowly start to hate them. Usually people can get over it before that happens, but in some cases, such as yourself you just can't let go of her for some reason. And you become miserable, you start blaming her for it and eventually you grow to hate her and that will stop you from loving her. You're on the right track, buddy. Let the hate flow through you.
Contact her and ask her what happened for some closure.
Autsit here, am I fugggly?
Also, do I look like I'm 18 or not? I get told I look young.
Any general tips regarding looks to help me get women?
You look fine. Get a haircut, contact lenses and workout. You´ll drown in pussy (or whatever you´re into).
>>17943038
Thanks m8
Yeah I really need to get contacts bad.
Any tips on how to find a good haircut ?
>>17943036
not handsome
agewise normal. 18-20
glasses too big. try different glasses or no glasses
getting woman is all about confidence. or money
are there any low skill low wage jobs that are fairly interesting? thinking things where you get to see a weird part of society or have the potential for funny stories. i'm looking for a temp job as i'm taking leave from university. would love to hear stories of your own experience
Bumping because I wanna know about this too.
Bouncer? Work on a boat.
>>17943009
Live in a fishing/port town, can vouch for this. Never done it myself but lots of people here find good work on the fishing boats and meet interesting people, see crazy things.
Grueling work though I've heard.
I've been dating this girl for a while now, and what was great at first has turned into what feels like hell for me now.
She feels like she's controlling everything I do in my life, and it's scary. She always guilt trips me and always has to get her way. She tried to stop me from seeing a friend I haven't seen in 5 years, but I still got out to see him. She pretty much forces me to have sex with her by making me feel like shit and getting all aggressive and threatening me, leaving me to feel like shit afterwards.No matter what, I'm always in the wrong, and she always walks away when I try to make a point, and forces me to apologize. She stopped me from changing from university and threatened our relationship and said I wouldn't leave my course if I cared about her. She stops me from doing my hobbies and I can't have fun anymore. I can give more details on what she does if someone asks, but in a nutshell I need help, and I don't know what to do with her.
>>17942961
Leave. Like any abusive relationship, this will only get worse. Don't wait for her to change, don't have some vain 'She'll be nice eventually' ideal, just get out.
>>17942971
Surprising that that's exactly how I was thinking, that she would get better. Man, I'm scared to leave her because she's threatened to kill herself if I do because of some other stuff. I just don't want that on my conscience.
>>17942994
That's very typical abuse tactics. She won't kill herself, and even if she does it's not your fault, and that's not your responsibility.
I'm European citizen living in Australia. I have a 12-month working holiday visa and I got eight good months to go.
I know that I need to go back home and get a proper degree, and therefore a finacially secured and stable future. However those next years which I have to spend in my country of origin are going to feel long as ever. I've fell in love with this country, I really feel home here in so many ways.I am actually happy.
Where as in August I'll have to fly to a foreign small city and start studying again. (I don't know anyone from that city nor have I ever even been there but that's where my university is.)
It feels like I'm going to go through the worst breakup in the existence when I leave this country. I'm gonna miss these places and people so much, and knowing that they'll live on and go on with their lives is heartbreaking. Even though it's still several months away, it's killing me already.
>>17942958
What city are you in OP? And what city are you going to?
>>17942976
Sydney.
Going to move to a medium size Scandinavian city.
>>17942985
>Sydney.
Pretty good.
>Scandinavian city.
You'll probably be in for a pretty boring time then. Why aren't you studying here instead? Sydney and Melbourne have great universities.
Lots of water
Stop masturbating for a few days
edging
do girls even like facials or do they just do it to please the guy? i gave my ex a facial once and the cum went in her eye and gave her pink eye, was hilarious.
>>17942953
The first time my girlfriend did this to me it was only to please me but after some other facials she said that she begin to like it.
Having 6 of my close friends round tonight to chill and watch 80s movies with.
What do you think I need to buy/do to prepare?
I've got food and drink figured out so far, but thats it.
>>17942928
When did alcohol become the beverage of choice for adults to seemingly have a good time? What happened to water and soda and juice? Is that seen as too "childish" just because it doesn't give you a buzz?
>>17942928
What the fuck else do you think you would need? Weed and condoms?
>>17942928
Make sure you have 80s movies. None of that early 90s shit
I got prescribed 5mg morphine hydrocloride after my surgery but I wasn't instructed in how to use it. The receipt says to use when needed, but how much pain should I be in before taking it? I mean it's fucking morphine, I don't want to play around.
(I know I should ask my doctor but she's on fucking vacation. I called a medical advice line and they said they aren't allow to give advice on prescription meds.)
>>17942898
Any good chemists in the area? They should be able to tell you
Take it without pain for maximum effect
>>17942901
Sorry, I'm not natively english. Do you mean a literal chemist or some kind of pharmacist? There are pharmacies around here but I don't feel like walking over to one.
I TALKED TO MY GIRLFRIEND ABOUT /r9k/, /pol/, /k/, PEPE TRUMP MEMES. she seems fine but I maybe look like autistic on her. WHAT SHOULD I DO T__T
nothing?
she's your gf. she knows you're autistic
Dude 4chan is mainstream now its not a big deal
>>17942937
>Dude 4chan is mainstream now
No. Don't fall for it.
>age 14 - 17
>be in highschool
>edgy loner
>never got along well with classmates
>they literally despised me and i never gave a shit
>age 18-24
>be in college
>still an edgy loner who never made any friends like in highschool days
>failed so much on my courses that i was kicked out
>enroll in lesser prestigious school
>made some few friends
>still never got along well with some people especially with extroverts
>finally graduated
>be 25
>get the first job
>people finds me awkward because i am socially retarded
>can't even do job properly
>never made good friends with co-workers but i tried getting along with them
>finally kicked out of the job 6 months later
>currently 26
>helping out at a business
>try to self-improve by going to gym
>tries to be totally friendly to people
>adds my former highschool classmates on fb but majority of them ignored/never accepted even a year after i sent a request
>checks out their profile
>they are friends with one another
>except only me
>all of them has their love of their life sitting beside them in their profile pic
>mine is just a faceless default pic with no more than 200 friends
>only because im fucking ugly
>tfw you are the greatest loser ever walked upon the earth
What kind of advice can you give to people like me aside from killing myself? I have literally fucked up this life and to be honest, I don't even know what to do anymore.
I wanted to think positively of myself and try some stuffs that I might like, unfortunately I find myself way behind every other people I know in my highschool and college days then fall into depression. I still keep trying though, reading books, going to gym, practicing speech, learning stocks, and driving on the countryside has been the things I've been doing up until now. I wonder if it's still possible for social losers like me to get on their level?
Just start posting your face on your facebook man, also get some therapy you really need help with your self-esteem. Even if all you're saying is true you can easily find a girl whos just as fucked as you. Its honestly hard to give advice when you're being a huge downer man.
Try introducing yourself to people and being straight up "I am socially retarded"
What happened to the friends you made when you were 18-24?
Why don't you try picking up some kind of creative hobby, if you're on the self improvement track? It'll make you more well rounded, and you'll be more attractive to girls.
I highly doubt you're as bad as you think you are. That's the low self esteem talking. I believe in you anon. You can do it and pull yourself out of this slump.
Some general tips for talking to girls that I was recently taught, so don't treat me as an expert but it has good reception so far.
>look at her lips not eyes
>touch her hand/arm/back/shoulder when you feel you can get away with it, when you're looking for a girl they either immediately show what they think of you or they stir the thought of a relationship in their head then its the perfect time to ask.
How are you ugly? Shitty chin? Grow a beard, but make sure to get beard oil or that shit will hurt and be more coarse than your pubes as well as shaving off the parts that grow in really thin. Like for me its where my hair meets my beard, so I shaved that off about two inches and it looks fine now.