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What can I tell her when she gives me that "What are we?" question? I always fuck up the answer
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Well, what do you answer?
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>>17947023
tell her what you want to be, cuz anythign else would just be putting on an act.
>B-BUT IT MIGHT RUIN OUR CURRENT ARRANGEMENT
it should if its not where you want to be.
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>>17947035
We are all products of our environment; every person we meet, every new experience or adventure, every book we read, touches and changes us, making us the unique being we are.
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How to stop wanting a relationship/love?
I'm tired of constant rejections. I'm tired of my sex drive. I'm tired of wanting intimacy knowing it's probably not going to come. I got crushed with my last rejection (#9 in a row and she ended our friendship) and I'm just tired of it. Everyone tells me things will come along but they never do. " Just b urself" means nothing when being yourself is nothing attractive. I feel like i was created wrong or i was made to be teased with this my entire life.
My therapist tells me not to worry about it but they admitted they had no trouble finding multiple women in highschool/college so they can't really relate nor give advice.
I've tried improving myself. I picked up hobbies I'm absolutely shit at and hardly enjoy, i tried making friends to no success and I'm do my best to forget about my loneliness by working non stop. I just want to disconnect myself from my feelings and truck on.
I tried nofap. I tried hypnosis. I've tried therapy, and I've even tried illicit SSRIs to attempt to kill my sex drive. Yet despite all this i still want to connect with others romantically and i can't even masturbate without feeling disgusted with myself. I want to feel intimacy but i know it's most likely not going to happen.
How do i kill this part of me. I wish it were like in the movies where the protagonist eventually stops feeling altogether.
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>>17947009
sounds like your standards are too high. which is understandable we all want an attractive partner but unfortunately we can't all have one.
that being said, you cant stop wanting it. its not a conscious decision you can make. you can make the decision to stop pursuing but not to stop wanting.
there is no way to stop fatties from wanting bad food. but they can learn to control themselves on their own.
you can also try to replace the bad thing. if fatties like sweets we get them on fruit and yogurt. if you like romance we get you on friendship instead.
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>>17947009
Are you physically attractive?
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> i can't even masturbate without feeling disgusted with myself.
Why?
Try to be someone who enjoys life. Make an actual effort to enjoy things you do.
Try to do exciting things. Try to make exciting things happen.
You have to build your life, anon. It doesn't happen overnight. It takes a long time. You have to try a lot, and maybe fail sometimes.
This won't take away your need for love, but it will make you feel better, and make you more attractive.
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Converting to Christianity 2017-01-11 08:32:04 Post No.17947000
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Converting to Christianity
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Hello. I need help with something I don't know where else to ask.
I've beenbrought up a Protestant Christian by my parents. Up to the age of 8 I never doubted it but in my teens I became very skeptic and became a proclaimed "atheist" of kinds. I am now 22. I've been thinking about religion a lot the past few years, and have come to gain faith. I've been reading the bible and interpretations of it by others.
I currently consider myself a Christian again. I tried going to church again, the same one as when I was 8, and where myparents still go to. But it's completely changed. The church is completely modernisized and it all looks like some new age hippy shit and I don't like it one bit. Church used to be formal.
Is this a trait of Protestantism? If it is, is my only other option to try go to a Roman catholic one? If so, how would I go about becoming a Catholic?
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Aren't Catholics the flamboyant ones? Anyway, I suggest that you give another church a go. They're not all the same, even if they're all the same faith.
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The church is the body of Christ, his followers. You can join Samaritan's Purse and still be part of his church.
You don't have to go to a specific building, God is everywhere. Though church buildings do bring people together easier. Just keep looking anon.
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I'm not talking about "flamboyant".. But for instance the church i used to go now had children shouting, and the interior is now a modern style which just doesn't look " churchy" to me.
Also i wouldn't know how to join a different church. Just walk in there seems odd?
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>Started talking to a girl a month ago
>We just started dating
>Been on two dates
>She is already getting clingy as fuck, we play vidya together online and talk a lot
>Me: "I'm gonna go play witcher 3 and relax for a bit"
>Her: "Uhh, is it just me or are you tired of me already?"
She has said a bunch of other clingy and insecure things as well, and she ALWAYS wants to be in contact with me throughout the entire day. I almost don't get a moment alone from the time I wake up, until I go to bed.
What do I say to her? Should I just move on? Plenty of other fish, yada yada.
I feel like I'm being choked to death.
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Ever try to explain to her that you feel the way you do?
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My ex gf was the same. You just have to be firm with her, tell her you need some time to yourself.
If she can't handle being alone for a few hours each day then she isn't ready to be in a relationship.
If she moans and cries about it you've just got to be firm with her, tell her you do enjoy spending time with her but you still want to do stuff alone too.
Seriously OP, just imagine how you'll feel 6 months from now. I've been there, it is incredibly emotionally draining and it isn't fun at all. Especially when you work.
God just remembering it is making me nauseous. I have to have facebook and my phone on silent these days, any time I hear them go off I feel so annoyed.
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>>17946944
do you like her? like get tingles?
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I asked this girl if she would want to meetup and she said yes and now I haven't got a fucking clue what to do. There isn't much around town apart from coffee and cinema which I already had in mind to do. But I don't know what else we can do.
This girl has been my friend for quite sometime and I never really made a move until recently when we were drunk and we kissed for a while. So I will easily be able to keep conversation flowing.
I was thinking maybe bowling? But that is on the over end of town. Should I keep it nice and short with just a coffee then cinema or am I overthinking the whole thing?
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La La Land is literally the perfect date movie, take her to that.
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If you both 18 take her for a beer
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>>17946903
Just rape her, she is not worth more
Thank me later
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How do I get rid of neck wrinkles? 2017-01-11 08:02:45 Post No.17946902
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How do I get rid of neck wrinkles?
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Hi /adv/ I'm only 19 years old but because of long term slouching looking at the ground or my phone being a depressed insecure fuck, I might have permanently damaged my skin. I have wrinkles like pic related.
I had gotten sunburned several times but never directly on my neck and I have been moisturizing for 3 weeks with no changes. I'm also trying to keep my head up. I've read about neck exercises but they seem like a meme.
No person my age seems to have these wrinkles.
What actually works? Will I have to live with this for the rest of my life?
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>>17946902
I'm 20 and I have them. They are not ugly and nobody ever looks at them. Only you care about them.
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They aren't even a big deal. Most people have it and nobody pays any attention to them.
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>>17946923
It makes my neck look fat
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Knew ex for two years dated for one year (was 20 and long distance relationship). I had terrible no true self esteem abd confidence in myself at the time and was NEET. I visited her a couple times for few months, the time i was with her irl was pretty amazing and i felt like i was in a fantasy. Long story short found out she cheated on me with my old bestest friend (he lived in her state and introduced us initially). It was my fault for not realising, tried fixing the relationship but it went downhill as fireball exploding into the sun. She was crazy too, threatened to kill herself plenty of times.
Anyway, i ended up forgetting about her, getting a job and study again which im have 1 year left to complete (23 now) ended up in a 2 year long relationship, brokeup last month and all i can think about is my ex from when i was a NEET.
Im a confident guy, muscular, much more mature, can get girls and self assured now. But my heart feels a great pain and wants to rekindle my old relationship, even tho she was crazy and bad for me. Im aware of how terrible she was but why does my heart want her? It really saddens me. What do i do??
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what people desire the most is what they can't have
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>>17946878
if you leave a plate of decadent food in front of a dog, he will eat it until his stomach bursts.
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>>17946892
Ive had 4 serious relationships and its just the one ex i feel love for...
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I need a psych but I dont want to see a psych or have people irl worrying about me. Is there any program online
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Yes research online, try finding one that does cost too much , but is a good professional counselor.
7 cups of tea has some too?
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>>17946832
You're wasting energy worrying about these things. You are likely a male, like myself. The perceived social stigma around therapy and mental health prevent many men from getting the help they need. Don't avoid treatment from a licensed therapist if you're feeling depressed. Think of it as any other medical condition. People who feel sick or injured go see a doctor. This is the same thing.
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>>17946926
Try affording a doctor without insurance.
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I don't think my boyfriend finds me attractive anymore. What do?
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Ask him.
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>>17946794
I want to but I have major anxiety issues and I don't want it to turn into an arguement where I could possibly lose him. We just moved into a new apartment too so I don't wanna fuck things up
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>>17946792
Why do you think so?
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I'm a 23yo guy, average looks, average height, average intellect, average humor, life is boring (probably because i must be boring myself, some people already told me that i behaved kinda like a grandpa.), i don't have a lot of friends, i don't have sex on a regular basis, i'm disappointed with life, with people and with myself.
I don't crave money, i don't have a burning desire, i do have some hobbies but they don't entertain me that much.
My favorite activity is sitting on my bed and listening to music for hours while rocking back and forth like an autist.
What can i do to make my life enjoyable ? For example, I like to daydream about fulfilling relationships, but every time i try to make efforts and to be involved with others it tends to drive people away. I guess people can feel neediness and desperation, so i end up thinking that i shouldn't try hard. But i'm tired of not caring, why live if you don't care ?
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>>17946748
Take some vitimin d, nettle ashwaghanda, do cardio, and lift weights.
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What do you do all day? Work? School? NEET?
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>>17946767
Other dude here, I think I look really good, average height, kinda smart, kinda wild humor, I do have lots of friends, and a girlfriend who puts out too little, so sex on a regular, albeit too seldom, disappointed with life, people and myself, i dont crave money, I don't have a burning desire, and my hobbies either don't entertain me much or are very hard to do alot, like weightlifting and cooking (I live in a dorm) My favourite activity is gaming, watching some tv show, lifting or cooking when I can, tried ashwaganda, take vit D, and do cardio on the reg. What do? I think it has a lot to do with my gf... Can I dump someone for not putting out enough?
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Is sex the most enjoyable activity average human could experience? Or are there any other, more enjoyable activities one could practise instead of sex? Can you substitute sex with some other, non sexual activity?
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>>17946670
Skydiving, riding a motorcycle or car at top speed, wrong a really good plate of food. There are comparable things. Sex isn't the end all be all.
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I guess it depends on a person. For me, sex is on the bottom of the list of enjoyable things. Might be that my bf just sucks at it, now that I think about it.
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Adrenaline rushes are good substitutes
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Girls on 4chan / Falling for them 2017-01-11 06:43:02 Post No.17946658
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Girls on 4chan / Falling for them
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>Have a really nice girlfriend
>She's really sweet and we get on well
>End up on 4chan one evening and get talking to a girl in a thread about a bunch of topics, mostly literature
>We exchange emails
>A few months later I have completely fallen for this femanon in every way and am furtively arranging to meet her behind my girlfriend's back
Not interested in judgmental shit femanons, so keep your claws to yourselves this once.
I just want to know if anybody has been in this situation before.
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You are a worthless piece of trash.
Signed, a femanon.
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>>17946658
You're scum. Stop leading your gf on and dump her so she can find someone decent.
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Excellent and worthy advice from femanons as ever. Kudos.
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femanons,
what are things your partners do that get you really horny?
i feel like my bf and i suck at foreplay. we have a lot of sex and we have good sex. but it's rarely the case that i get into that "oh god i need to fuck RIGHT NOW" state and i wish it would happen more often. i also can't see any pattern, so i can't try to recreate it.
basically, how do we build sexual tension in a long term relationship?
there are short glimpses of what i want. one instance i can remember happened yesterday. my bf was wearing a grey shirt that was rather tight and he looked fucking hot in it. i got the urge to rip the shirt off of him and fuck him. but it was just a split-second. how do i take moments like this and pour oil in it? i mean, i went up to him, grabed him and told him i want to rip his clothes off. we ended up fucking, but somehow along the way, i lost that initial spark.
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>>17946656
Instead of going up and telling him your fantasy why don't you just go over and initiate. You don't have to say anything, just start kissing on him and tell him you like the way the shirt fits him. Eventually kissing turns to touching and touching turns to fucking.
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>>17946686
yeah, i get that. i do that. i know how to initiate sex. i want to know how i can keep my initial excitement. because if i act on such a moment, i eventually fall out of it again.
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>>17946696
Does he know what to do to drive you crazy? Do YOU know what to do that drives you crazy? Maybe you two just need to communicate more, or experiment.
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How to get out of depression 2017-01-11 06:41:22 Post No.17946651
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How to get out of depression
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I'm not clinically depressed so I can at least be helped.
I have tried exercising, getting into relationships etc, but every time they seem to go wrong and it simply makes me worse.
I exercise 4 times a week, I go out fairly often, I have hobbies etc but I still don't feel better.
Is there anything I can do?
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cKzUBb9b0bo here you go
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>>17946651
Well if those activities aren't stimulating have you tried also volunteering? From the local homeless shelter to an old folks home? They would love to give advice on living in sure. Also talking to a psychologist might help. It doesn't mean you need meds but perhaps you can get to the root of the problem. What is really keeping you stuck. Good luck!
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>>17946666
Thanks, I'm looking at going to a psychotherapist because I don't think I can do this myself.
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Talking to random girls in public. 2017-01-11 06:32:53 Post No.17946634
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Talking to random girls in public.
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What are good ways to start up conversation with random girls when you're at the bar or just out in general? Bear in mind that I am a slightly above average looking guy who dresses well and takes care of himself.
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Find a common interest if you can, saw a girl at the bar with a Cubs jersey so we talked about them winning the world series and about Chicago. That will lead to other conversation. Good luck desu
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>>17946648
Hints like that are definitely good, but what if it's just a girl wearing regular going-out clothes?
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Any number of things can start a conversation, most of the time for me it's observational. Another example was when I was waiting in line at the bathroom and a drunk person in a super thick accent asked me something and I had no idea so I turned to the girl next to me and talked about it. The key for me is to let it happen naturally, liquid courage helps too.