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>>17949483
Really how bad can it be. You're a spoiled little brat. Sweden is one of the best countries to live in, with good and free education, good healthcare, good infrastructure..

If you really must though, just finish your education there, do not emigrate before that as it's just much cheaper and easy for you to do that in sweden.

Afterwards I'd recommend countries easy to get into. The US isn't easy, try countries in Europe where the language will be easy to learn. Think of England, norway, finland, denmark, germany, austria..

>>17949493
Yeah, it's great on paper, but have you tried living here? It's just a really sad little place without much opportunity really, and really closed up people and not much fun in general. I think someone who has lived here for a year would notice that if they came from a non-Nordic country.

All the countries you listed are too similar to Sweden and they probably have some of the same problem. Spain, France and USA don't. That's why I target them. I've never been to Australia but I can imagine it should be on my list as well.

>>17949483
EU is definitely (in every way) easier, more affordable and overall realistic when it comes to any plans for immigration.

> I could just move to Spain or any other country in the EU but then I would have no way to get an education as it would cost too much

Have you looked into it? I have a Swedish friend thats studying here in Germany with me.

Realize that unless this person plays an active or important role in your life it won't affect you in the slightest. Who gives a fuck what some random stranger who you'll probably never see again thinks. Focus on the people you're gonna see everyday or who might be in some position of power over you or your life.

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>>17949810
>don't care about what people you'll never see again think.
I used to think this way i high school, but some unforeseen events changed that, now i care about what everyone thinks of me and it bothers me so much that i don't even like leaving my room when my family is awake. It's like everyone's laughing at me behind my back. I wish i could just kill everyone and not have to worry about what they thought of me.

>>17949820
>I stay in my room all day everyday and cannot even leave my room to be around my family

Woah. That is a significantly more pressing issue and we should talk about this instead. There might be a lot more going on here than a basic fear of being judged by other people. It's one thing to be self conscious or even have social anxiety. But to never leave your room at all even with a close immediate family?

I have severe social anxiety and even I am not this bad. You should consider seeing a therapist for this. You can't just stay in your room all day for the rest of your life.

>It's like everyone's laughing at me behind my back
This is especially worrysome to read. Unless you have a very good explanation for why you think people are laughing about you, then this means you're completely convinced of a very negative belief that isn't true at all. A false belief or tendency to come up with with negative untrue beliefs about social situations that could be majorly responsible for why you're having difficulty socializing.
That was the issue with me but on a much larger scale. I never thought people were laughing about me. But I did worry that people were not having a good time if I talked to them or hung out with them. But even I was putting myself out there a little and coming back to try again and socialize better. This is much worse than what I as going through

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Here's what you do: You stop being a huge faggot and posting a variation of this thread every goddamned day

>>17949402
yes.

Assuming you're not a troll, nothing constructive ever comes from these threads. Nothing.

Your feelings will never go away. /adv/ willl just berate you. The thread will turn into an arguing shitfest of 300 replies. Rinse and repeat every single day here.

>>17949386
No some people are just nice

>>17949417
Then they're weird and coming on way too strong.

>>17949417
Perhaps, but that's just gives off mixed singles about what their intent is, and what they're getting out of it. Having someone be 'just nice' to you, despite not knowing each other well enough, is creepy and imposing.

>>17949365
tell him that you identify as an a10 warthog and that attack helicopters trigger you

>>17949387
Lol for real tho like its killing who i want to be and what i want t do

Go listen to some Lincoln Park kid.

Yoga might be your best option. You burn a lot doing yoga. Or bicycle

Also keep your metsbolism going. Dont count calories. Munch all day on fruit, nuts, etc. people who count calories usually go "oh its only 300 calories a slice so i can have 2 for lunch' kind of thing.

>>17949302

Swimming is the lowest impact exercise I can think of. Just be aware that exercise is mostly about improving other aspects of your health; unless you are an athlete (which you aren't), more than half your calorie need is taken up by the basal metabolic rate which you have more or less no control over. Exercise for your ticker, not your tummy!

This shit is simple. Calories in must be lower than calories out somewhere in the region of 3,500kcal per 1lb of body fat, but expect to lose more due to water weight and burning up glycogen reserves, especially if you restrict carbohydrates.

Diet is much more important than activity, it is really hard to burn 300kcal off exercising at a decent intensity compared to avoiding like, half a fucking sandwich or three spoons of mayonnaise.

Calculate your TDEE based on height, weight, age and typical activity level, take 300kcal off of this figure and plan your meals accordingly. You'll quickly figure out that lean meats and fibrous vegetables with a small amount of fat and complex carbs gives you loads of food to eat compared to trying to live on chips and chocolate.

Your body might be fucked, but it doesn't mean you can't do stretching, mobility drills, joint stabilisation exercises and work on your posture and muscular balance, most of these exercises use bodyweight or very little resistance, like a couple of pounds or a broomstick or something and it'll help you in the long run and is better than being inactive.

>>17949284
Maybe, maybe not. You probably already have HSV anyways.

Just for the benefit of those listening in at home, there is a fuck-ton of stuff you can do with random sex partners that doesn't involve fluid exchange. Get in the shower naked with a bottle of lube and grope and stroke and probe each other to oblivion. Have a little self control while you explore your sexuality, and pat yourself on the back later that you did it without catching anything worse that wierd vibes. Save the fluid exchange for people you want to bond and mate with.

A friend of mine in the military regularly goes to masturbation parties with her male and female friends in the service. The way she describes it it sound like alot of fun, everyone sits around and drinks and shows off their skills to each other. Oh, to be young again...

>>17949284
>blowing gay dudes in the park
>believes the gay guy when he says he doesn't have AIDS

Oh boy...

GET THE FUCK AWAY NOW.

Romanian chicks are all self centered and toxic, after the honey moon phase you'll be in a living hell.
Personal experience.

>>17949292
That guy said the exact same thing. «It's all fun and games until she starts showing her daddy issues, gets jealous and leaves you.»
I was kinda hopeful because my friend (the one who's living in Chisinau at the moment) met a few and he said they're chill and open minded. I guess they're not entirely comfortable with him to show off their demons.

>>17949282
I told her she belongs in the kitchen and should be making me a sandwhich. She called me an asshole.

It was fun times. Hand a romanian friend as well way back when. He was a really funny guy. Super Christian and hard working so he'd laugh whenever I told him we just need to kill people off.

Romanians are a-okay in my book.

Quotes from older thread

You want the advice of someone that is going through some fucked up shit himself? Like, a literal conspiracy of a group of people harassing, insulting, and just... fucking with my head for the last few months?

Fuck em'

Fuuuuuuckkkkkkkkk em'

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Quotes from older thread

You seem to already have your answer. People like this can't be reasoned with, and if they didn't trust you enough to doubt this person, you're better off without them. You're only hurting yourself by trying to stay invested in this community. I know these kinds of people, and they are toxic; they'll make your life miserable if you maintain contact with them. I know it's scary to try to make new friends from scratch, but no matter how it goes, you win by severing ties with these terrible people. Good luck.

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>>17947787 #
This.

OP, just turn your back on them and walk away. Trust me, I've done it lots of times and it never fails.

>>17949251
no. its a slippery slope and it can be spun multiple different ways to ruin your reputation.

>>17949263
What if we don't call it a date and we're just two friends hanging out. Her mom likes me, but I don't know if she'd think I'm creepy.

This would be total normal in my European country (even having sex), it's just a cultural thing

Have you both considered not getting a ring?

>>17949249

She comes from a pretty traditional family. She would be happy with anything but I feel obligated to put something half decent on her finger. I just hate jewelry Jews with a passion. Just spent 350 on a shitty silver and topaz bracelet for Christmas which they probably paid $40 for. It kills me inside cuz I'm not rich.

>>17949244

I bought my diamond from a guy I knew who was a licensed dealer and had a reputable local shop set it in a band they had on display. I think it ran me about 1300 for the stone, band, and cost to set it?

I'd recommend that route, seemed a LOT cheaper. My impression is that retailers were mostly ready to give me 50% off just if I asked, they were marked up that high, and that was still expensive.

If you go that route I would recommend that you go to bluenile.com and find a stone, .5 carat and above will look nice, and find a local shop that can set it in one of their bands, and ask to see their stone sizes too so you can get a feel for it, and hell show them that you plan to pay $900 for such-and-such rock from BlueNile and see if they can cut you a better deal, they probably will.

It's hard also because I keep getting overwhelming urges to talk with her but I know I can't anymore and it's killing me inside.

Just give it time man, I know it's horseshit but the reality of how many girls there are out there will dawn upon you soon. I fucking guarantee it

My advice? Stay up all night, listen to all your favorite sad, mopey music and just indulge that feeling. You'll wake up the next morning feeling pathetic and wanting to move on from that horseshit, and you will

>>17949237
That's not cutting contact, OP.

You've just internalised the shame and anxiety you probably feel due to being in a number a often marginalised and shit on groups as self hatred.

It is a fairly common thing amongst young guys, especially experiencing the world during the period when they have to self actualise their sexuality and they start to come into conflict and smack up against reality.

It has been studied to death, mostly with gay guys who develop mental health problems trying to come out and don't deal with it very well. Drink, drugs, unhealthy sexual practices and exploitative relationships.

Don't know how to help you though, but it is probably self hatred due to internalising the bullshit the world throws at you for having sexual urges which aren't mainstream.

>>17949094
>internalizing
There we go again with the bullshit.

Op, you just spend too much time on 4chan.
You also probably watch too much pornography.

Try and go cold turkey for a couple of weeks, more if you feel like it, and get immeresed in something else that keeps you busy.

>>17949252
I don't think it is bullshit. Plenty of people fail to understand their drives and desires and as a result they manifest themselves in dishonest and self defeating activity.

You are pushing a solution without really addressing the problem. OP didn't say hey - I feel I spend too much time on the internet and watch too much pornography.

I'm also not saying that internalising an issue is not sometimes an active choice, ultimately anybody can do the self work to understand these kind of thoughts and behaviours and decide if it is helpful in moving them closer to how they want to be in life.

Like if I meet a self hating gay who drinks themselves insensible on the weekends and then has risky sex with strangers while going on about how they hate camp faggots I'm not like, oh you poor man, I'm like lol, get a fucking grip, but it doesn't mean that I'm not going to assume this person is struggling to express their sexuality in a healthy authentic way.

>>17949057
Same boat here. You're bored. You need a thrill.

>>17949057
Drugs

>>17949072
>a thrill
Like some hippy shit as traveling the world or some shit?
I have no idea what would excite me anymore

>>17949029
You should probly flee the country for a while. All women will accuse men of rape if they regretted sex in 2017.

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>>17949029


>I know I fucked up by trying it on with a feminist, but what are the chances of me being falsely accused of rape here?


0/10

Very poor quality bait.

No wonder she left when you have that kind of mindset.