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>>17958307
Tell him "it WILL pass too".

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>>17958307
If he's serious, there's nothing short of police intervention that can stop him.

If he's just trying to attention whore then just talk to him and hear him out. You can figure the rest out later, letting him vent is more important.

Up to you to figure out which one it is.

>>17958581
Fuck kids that whine about suicide for attention. If your friend is one of these faggots, then tell him to man up and do it.

What drives you to lie?

>>17958301
Depends on the situation. Sometimes I do it to achieve certain goals, sometimes to fit in or stand out, according to the needs of a situation, but a lot of times, the lies come out for no reason.
I remember being particularly puzzled about why I lied about my month of birthday and zodiac sign when my boss had a teen magazine in hand and wanted to read my horoscope, for example.

pls respond

>>17958275
grab the shaft and cup the balls. If he's into you he'll get hard, if not the worst that can happen is getting fired and sent to prison for sexual assault (but you're a woman so we know it won't happen).

>>17958290
I'm gonna be a closet-hoe here and admit that I'm honestly gunning for endgame being able to plow him so hard he can't walk right for a week. I've got it bad for him. ;_; I need a fucking confessional.

By informing him of your interest directly. Think about it: would you desire this behavior being mutual for decades?

Only shooting stars break the mold.

>>17958269
I have no problems besides my crippling loneliness

>>17958269
Bump for interest. Have the same problem here. Please send help.

>>17958282
Thank you, this idiot online said his dick was getting smaller, I see that was bullshit

>>17958232
>when girl is attracted to you
Finding reasons to touch you, mimicking behavior, laughing at dumb shit, asking for your help for obviously stupid things, making herself appear smaller/submissive, hair twirling, extended eye contact

>when you're just a friend
she confides in you with feelings about other people, she says "aw that's sweet :)" when you express romantic interest in her

honestly anon

>>17958232
>What are the signs that girls show when they are romantically interested in you
She says yes when you ask her on a date.

>and signs that you are friendzoned?
You have known her for more than two weeks, but have not asked her on a date.

>>17958322
I guess I'll find out tomorrow

>>17958223
Date her first, and say that you love her when things is in their right place.

why do you have to 'declare' it

>>17958265
Ok, I might just try to kiss her or something, although that might be weirder.

However, I think you are right, thanks!

>>17958213

rich people can afford to live in the city. but a lot of people go there and become homeless, and many just go there and struggle financially for hte rest of their lives.

i live in los angeles and only make 1500 a month but its enough to fund my lifestyle because i made some smart investments and had a lot of luck thrown in. but i dont even get the basic luxury of say, a car.

>isn't it more beneficial to be social and in a city then anything

what? you mean is it more beneficial than ANYHTING? no. it literally doesn't matter. there's no real benefit of being social in the city than anywhere else. if ur tryna convince yourself that moving to los angeles or another city is your ticket to a good life, you're wrong. i love it here. i live right off the blvd and do whatever i want any time. i just got back from a great night out with friends.

but i also did that when i was in guam and even in delaware. life is what you make of it. and forcing yourself to an expensive place thinking that just living there will lead to money is pretty fucking dumb

>>17958221
You live in la on that much? That doesn't sound that hard. I wasn't thinking la in particular.

>>17958213
City dewller here, san diego is fucking expensive, not as much as San fran, but it's up there.

There's a reason why the homelessness problem is outta hand here.

I honestly dream of living in the countryside, but i still have a job here in the city and i go to college.

I am poor as shit living with a roomate for 800 a month, i dont get my own room or my own bathroom. It sucks.

No im not rich, and because of saturation, being social doesn't pay off.

Most people now are nicer to him and like him for his humour, but a few months ago, some girl he liked called him a "permanent virgin" or something like that and more. My good friend found out and wanted to beat the shit out of her (in reality, he'd probably just scream at her, but the intent was there), but when asked who told him that he refused to say so to defend her. He talks shit to everyone except for people who are legitimately mean to him and he is too afraid to challenge.

He is a really bad listener and a constant interrupter so he makes a really bad friend when it comes to developing meaningful relationships. Unless he really cares about what you're saying, no matter how important what you're saying is or how passionate you are about something, chances are he won't care unless it's a joke. He is really shallow when I think about him and doesn't seem to think much other than on being opinionated on certain political issues and some other stuff. Honestly, now that I think about it he's a pretty boring person. He must have a deeper side, but he hides much of it probably because he thinks it's boring in my case or doesn't trust others.

He started working out to lose weight and he's dedicated which is good. He is into politics and world events which is probably how we got along. We usually talk, laugh and watch YouTube videos rather than do hobbies together. He can be pretty fun, but he isn't trustworthy. He leaks things that sound bad about people behind their back and talks a lot of shit. I would be fine with that if he only told me since I never tell other people's secrets unless it works out for all of us, but he tells secrets to the kind of people who leak everything to everyone they can. He's gotten fucked over by them before, but despite my advice he keeps coming back for more (though somewhat more reluctantly).

I want to bring up all these faults so that he can make new friends, hang out with more people than just me and be happier. How can I unload this into him and help him change? Getting to discuss his depressed feelings is the first step, but what are some key things to bring up in the conversation? Is it worth it to try to change him? No matter what I say he won't cut contact and stop being my friend (unless I do and say things I would never say in real life). After all we've been through and my feelings about and reactions to the things people have done to him, I have to say that I really care about him and his well-being to the point that I would use violence to help him (that's why I started working out, the only reason I don't even tell the authorities about it is because he begs me not to and prefers to maintain the vicious cycle). Can I actually change this guy's life?

tl;dr My friend is depressed and needs help. I want to talk to him about it tomorrow. Are there any key things I should or should not bring up?

Same issue. Just bottle it up, and see if you can meet new people. There's nothing much you can do except hope for a rom com situation or actually go for it.

>>17958239
Sucks, doesn't it anon?

How disproportionate preferences and feelings are, how we might project our own attractions onto our like interests....versus what's actually going on haha.

Thanks for your remark. I'll see what I can do about meeting other people.

>>17958252
Its sucks so bad, that I think that I'll never be happy.

I hate it so much

>>17958173
Sorry bro, that's what happens sometimes. Don't worry about some cosmic justice. There's nothing you can really do anyway, so there's no sense getting all worked up about it.

In this senario maybe the date had an emergency?

But all in all you will get taken advantage off nany more times

Human nature budy so do as the above says

>>17958181
Then what do I do? I am just sick of letting go. No one else seems to.

If there is no cosmic justice... that means the only justice you get is the justice you take. Just so sick of me having to yield. Why do they never have to?

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>>17958064
>tfw this is true

>>17958074
Yeah thats very true and makes me feel like shit. How are you supposed to find girls over 20 who are virgins.

>>17958078

>How are you supposed to find girls over 20 who are virgins.

Go to a remote foreign village or marry a very religious girl.

>>17958061
By encountering a lunatic psychopath

Because no ordinary individual would do something like that unprovoked

>>17958061
Jump in front of a moving vehicle.

>>17958061
Wear blackface and a trenchcoat, and talk to a cop with your hands within the coat.

Going to parties sure is a blast but you should aspire to a range of different relationships, some of which go deeper and allow you to be closer to other human beings. Parties and the like are typically just surface-level.

Fortunately, there's no hard and fast rule, there isn't really a way a friendship can be quantified- what I mean is you've everything to gain. Less videogames is always good.

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I'm experiencing the same problems as you, OP. I'm finding that my problem is that I am shutting friends out who could otherwise be there for me on a deeper and more meaningful level of interaction. Just be cautious that you aren't doing the same.

When I go to parties or a pub, I simply make drinking-friends. These are people that I barely say hello to when we bump into each other while sober.

I think you need to look for other arenas to meet people, and you might want to actively look for people with similar interests. If I share very little with someone, it usually ends up with little to no contact after a very short while.
I simply forget about them, and/or can't be bothered.

>>17958022
dude just fuck her
marital rape is a myth
stop letting her cuck you

>>17958026
Yeah, that would go over well. Great idea.

>>17958031
it is a great idea
act like a damn man instead of a little boy considering literally shrivelling his balls into nothing because his wife is cheating on him

jesus christ

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>>17957967
Anyone?

>>17957967
All those years of playing video games and spending time on 4chan has atrophied your social skills.

You're going to have build yourself up to make up for all the years you missed out on development.

Work on your self-esteem. Find a hobby or skill and work on that so you can learn to love yourself.

>>17958004
What kind of hobby should it be?