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At work, I'm the chill guy who always has a smile on his face and will make a joke every time you have a conversation with me. I've been flirting with this coworker of mine over text for a few weeks now. We both happened to be working together today. However, I learned about my friends death while on the clock today and did my best to hold it in... Didn't last more than 5 minutes and broke down crying. Everyone knows about what happened and she saw it go down too. She's still at work. I'm trying to grieve and it would make it easier if I knew if that killed the chances I had with her. Please be straight up.
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>>17961087
Yes, take it from me. Crying is a real pussy repellant even if you have a good reason
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>>17961087
You are a whiny bitch in her eyes, even if your cause is righteous. Give up on her. Pussy is plentiful.
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Dont listen to those beta animals.
Crying because of death of someone, especially close is normal. if it broke chances with her she's a thottie and isnt worth it.
Just ask her out asap tho, texting so much isnt a good idea.
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Is it really a waste of time to go after a girl who has a boyfriend?
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Absolutely. I dated plenty of women who would always show me messages of the guys that would message them. We both thought they were funny and called the guys thirsty and pathetic. You're being laughed at if you're trying.
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>>17961061
So?
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No, not always, but you're a piece of dog shit if you do it. Just wait for them to split. Don't be a cunt.
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I've been seeing a girl for a few months now. We go out for dinner at least once a week, have a good time and then have sex at her place.
I have no intentions of dating her seriously and have told her that i don't want to be in a serious relationship. She obviously does, which is why i was sure to tell her.
Sex is very good and she has an awesome body. Her background and future are shaky and she is definitely not a girlfriend type of girl- so there is no chance i would want this to last long.
Is it wrong to keep going out with her? is it worth it? I'm not currently seeing or interested in anyone else so its her or nothing (read: great sex vs no sex.) Will she inhibit my chances of finding/starting to date a girl i see a future with or is it harmless fun that will not hinder my future?
Related stories and their success/damage please. I would like some insight from anyone who has been in a similar situation and how it played out.
Pic not related, more of the type id like to end up with.
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>>17961041
As long as this girl know she a side hoe it's all good. She can't accuse you of shit because it's laid out clear from the get go
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You're leading her on. That's pretty messed up
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>>17961108
no i was clear very early. I get that she may be taking us still hanging out as her maybe hoping or something.. but what else can i do? i already stated it. and we have nothing like a relationship, its not affectionate at all. on purpose. she's told me about a few dates shes gone on as well. and i dont get bothered by it at all or tell her anything against it.
like the pic says ask me anything
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>>17961027
are you a cute girl?
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how big is ur dikk
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why should i? what can you add to my life?
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Quick question. Does anyone here believe that sexuality is a choice? Or does everyone believe that it's irrefutable and locked in for life?
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I'm not convinced that choice exists at all
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>>17961021
its a bit like your tastes OP. the first time i had a beer it was disgusting. now i love beer.
some people love beer the first time they try it. some never do, or will claim certain beers are shit and that others are better. some beers are generally more popular than others for no real reason.
to sum up, its generally not a choice. if you're going ot hate something you're going to hate it. sometimes its an acquired taste.
my sexuality is that way but in reverse. i was pretty fucking gay til recently, but the more i fool around with women the more i start to like it. acquired taste.
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So basically it's whatever.
I feel like my brother is flirting with my gf. He's 21 and we're 26 and 27. I don't think she pays it any mind, but he buys her Starbucks gift cards and shit and is constantly sending her messages and it seems inappropriate to me. Should I say something to either of them or am I just being insecure?
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expressing your insecurity is the quickest way to lose a girl.
If some guy is flirting with your girl, getting jealous about him will elevate him to 'forbidden fruit' status, and make her want him more, where she previously might not have been interested at all.
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>>17961020
if it is making u uncomfortable. exsplain this to your gf and see what she says. also if my brother did anything like this i would have a word with them atleast.
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Question 1) does your brother have many friends? If not he may feel comfortable around her because its his girls bro. My brother is obsessed with my wife. Always asks her questions akways messages her. Always asks her for advice. He views her with alot of admiration and respect and thats because its his older brothers girl.
2) is your brother a fag and you just dont know it? Generally guys that like to hang with girls or want to talk to girls are beta, feminine or simply gay.
I highly doubt hes trying to cut your grass considering you guys are brothers. But then again i dont know you guys.
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guys, what diagnosis would my ex come under? I think it's BPD myself
>daddy walked out
>dead bug collection in middle school
>cuts herself
>ex from before me was psycho stalker, ask why she didn't threaten him with the authorities, claims she liked the attention
>skips showering
>drinks alone to numb or some shit
>gave me a bj in alleyway on second date, took my virginity the next morning
>would sometimes tremble with some kind of anxiety at random
>purges after eating
>highly intelligent academically, squanders it and has poor school attendance
>was on suicide watch when we split up as a result of me moving away to uni
>felt guilty as fuck so I tried to get back with her, said she felt like she still loved me but was too needy for LDR, still cool with non-exclusive FWB deal
>goes exclusive with guy from her school a few weeks later after leading me on and saying if she could be with anyone it'd be me
>was institutionalised for a couple of weeks after suicide threats, self harm, hitting her mother, says she noticed that I'd been ignoring her texts when she called to notify me(literally one inconsequential message about finding a missing bank card in her room)
>new guy apparently got emotionally destroyed, begged her not to leave him
>still love her and want to do right by her and for her to be the mother of my children
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>>17961017
sounds like u only want her cause u cant have her. so many red flags its not funny. prety much pursue at your own risk.
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>>17961031
Oh, I no longer want her. I'm just wondering precisely what mental disorder she had, we weren't seeing each other that long so I didn't get the chance to make enquiries.
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*bump*
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How do I make friends?
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offer value
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Engage with people, don't just talk to them.
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stop being a slut
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>weed is a waste of money
>weed makes you unmotivated
>weed makes you lazy
>weed ruins your short term memory
>weed ruins memory in general if you smoke long enough
>weed will shape your brain abnormally when smoking heavily in your 20's and earlier
I freely acknowledge these, but I'm having the hardest time ever stopping smoking.
My roommate has weed whenever I don't, so even when I stopped buying I still felt and followed through on the compulsion to smoke with him.
It sounds retarded as fuck, but I have a real problem with weed and can't stop myself... Been about a year since I started smoking regularly, terrified it will harm me mentally as I'm in my early 20's...
Sorry for the blog post, desperate for advice from people who might've been in similar holes. Specifically asking /adv/ because I've seen many (seemingly and rarely) motivated and helpful posters here who have helped with more serious drug problems, so mine must be a breeze.
Thanks
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>weed makes you unmotivated
>weed makes you lazy
>weed ruins your short term memory
>weed ruins memory in general if you smoke long enough
>weed will shape your brain abnormally when smoking heavily in your 20's and earlier
None of that is true. By the way, you're the only thing stopping yourself from doing what you want. Stop blaming and start taking responsibility, you limp wristed degenerate.
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Might sound cliche, but you need to find a greater purpose to work towards. Something you want to accomplish, that won't be possible as long as you waste your time with drugs. As long as you're aimless you're going to find addictions to fill the void.
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>>17961013
personally for me it does fuck my short term memory. and the it affecting ur brain if u smoke pre 21 is completely true. idk about it shaping ur brain though
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Part 1/2, (there is a TLDR in part 2)
This has been nagging at me really hard ever since i woke up.
Went to the club yesterday drinking n' dancing and shit. Me my crew and everybody we talk with are having a good time.
For some reason start slinging out phrases in spanish for fun, my spanish is decent but really just doing it for fun, also girls be mirin' so keep doing it.
Went to the toilet, still talking a bit in spanish.
Fucking faggot enters, says "you're -insert real nationality here- and not foreign" i just laugh and say something in spanish, can't remember what.
This fucking guy. As i try to leave he blocks me, tells me to admit that i am not spanish.
Speak english with spanish accent, try to get past him
- he continues to block me
I start getting really pissed. Now he wasnt that tall, only like 6'1 or something and i'm 5'10. But he was clearlier bulkier than me, nothing insane at all just standard really, but i am skinny/skinnyfat. mostly skinny tho.
So I quickly realize I can't get past this fucking fag by just pushing him a bit, and i dont wanna get too aggressive with my pushing and push him roughly since if it would turn into a fight i would clearly lose, also had no idea what kind of guy i'm dealing with-
the fucker just laughs/grins and smiles the whole time. Asked the other guys in the bathroom (in english in order not to break character as being a foreign fag) if they wouldnt mind helping me, nobody did but i totally understand that.
Don't have the patience for this (could might have bored him if i just stood my ground and waited, but no patience), and really just wanted a nice night out
so i break character and say something in my mothertongue to the faggot, who immediately stops blocking and starts grinning even more
he pats me on the back and says some shit like "i knew it" or something, can't remember cause drunk. We both just smile and act as it was totally normal (which it probably is when you are drunk) and i leave.
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Dont think about it more the whole night, continue to have a nice night, getting home way too late.
But today ever since i woke up, i've been thinking about it.
It nags me that i was so quickly to give up the struggle, even though it might have been the wisest decision.
Can't get the thought of me being a total beta pushover at the moment out of my head.
Really fucking pissed actually, if i could go back in time to the situation i would have stood my ground, or pushed him with more force.
How do i get these angry thoughts out of my head/deal with them, and do you guys have any comments on how i acted/how i could have handled it differently?
TLDR fag blocks me at some club's toilet section for talking spanish and acting as a foreigner, for some reason he wouldn't let that happen, me just being the absolute madman talking another language and enjoying myself doing it
so he asks me to give up the act, i eventually do and now i'm pissed at myself for doing it.
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>>17960986
I used to have more of a personality like yours in terms of my fear of confrontation. How old are you?
As I've gotten older I've gotten a lot more confident. I'd recommend getting into better shape, it's a lot easier to be confident in confrontations like that if you aren't weak. If you're in alright shape something like martial arts/boxing will do more for your confidence than just lifting, but if you're really skinny, I'd try putting on some weight. People won't fuck with you as much either. Won't do much if you actually get in a fight, but you'll still be better off than before.
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You will meet instigators like this in life. This is normal. At the end of the day you did not go to jail or a hospital. Move on.
I started my first job about a year ago. Lately when I go to work it's like a switch flips inside me where I become the most outgoing and greatest version of myself but also recently as soon as I clock out I'm physically and mentally done. I don't want to go out with anyone or work towards any of my goals or do anything I really want with my life. My life revolves around going to work then coming home and shutting my brain off for hours so I can mentally prepare for the next shift. I used to have dreams and aspirations.
I feel stuck in this loop and I don't know what I need to become myself again.
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Describe your diet, exercise habits, and drug use incl drinking.
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>>17960972
so how is work going ? is boss happy with your performance ? all the co-workers like you ?
maybe you need to see a doc, get physical, energy problems can be all kinds of things check TSH blood test anemia leukemia etc etc
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>>17960978
Diet is I eat too much but it's all healthy. No sugary foods, water only, etc. No exercise outside of owrk and no drug use.
>>17960979
Boss loves me, coworkers love me, customers love me...except for some but you can't make everyone like you no matter how hard you try. I should go to the doctor.
Should I move here? Does this look like a pleasant place to live? Rent costs $350/month, utilities included
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>>17960969
looks awesome
what about bathroom & kitchen ?
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>>17960969
What city is it in? Have you talked to the landlords? Who will you be rooming with?
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>>17960999
This looks like somewhere in Latin America
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>parents gave me a shit life and the whole world expects me to work twice as hard
>everyone expects me to make my own life while fixing my parents mistakes with 0 resources
>dad is an idiot who bought a 40,000 dollar truck in massive debt without even trying to buy me a cheap car
>live in the middle of nowhere with jobs 60 miles away
>parents won't let me drive their vehicle
>something bad happens that's not my fault every time I drive anyway
>parents don't buy food or care about anything
>starve every day until I'm dizzy and have to clean up after 3 people by myself
>no car or money
>health is bad and stress is so severe my depression won't let me get out of bed, I'm fat without eating, and my hair is falling out in clumps
>have no job can't get one without a car live in the worst county ever
>have to drive hours for a part time job
>have to do all this shit while borderline fainting, no food, and stress and ptsd from my parents
>parents are abusive junkies with nothing in a broken down house covered in mold
Is it time to be homeless? I can't take suffering in poverty like this from my parents I know I would do 100 times better if they weren't involved in my life.
>it's so fucking bad
>no bread, milk, or anything
>poorest and hardest life out of all my peers I talk to
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>>17960958
Sorryi messed up my thread I keep getting light headed and dizzy I haven't eaten in a week
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>>17960958
Steal from them and leave to a homeless shelter.
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>>17960963
They have no money to steal whatsoever they have money like 3 days after they get paid then they spend it all on hotels and alcohol cigarettes gambling and food and then we run out of food the next week and their bank account is on 0.00 and my dad goes in debt buying cigarettes and has to pay ton of service charges and gets even poorer every pay check while spending more and more on useless crap while I starve and clean up their mess
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How do i know if a girls into me and how do I make the first move
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take a giant shit and leave it in a bag on her doorstep with a note saying "you leave me shitless"
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ask her if you can succ tha tity
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: Dddd
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so i think im actually obsessed with my boyfriend like i plan my time to revolve around when i can speak to him
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your relationship has two more weeks max
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you should probably give the dude space
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>>17960917
Ok...and...are you looking for advice...?