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As someone who is also anorexic, there's not much you can do really. The issue lies within her, only she can choose to accept help. You can keep telling her she has a problem, but she's either going to listen or not.

I don't listen to people either. I know I have a problem, I'm just not willing to do anything about it. I'd rather have it this way than the alternative. She's probably in the same mindset.

>>18019237
I don't know what you can say to her

My uncle died of it.
I know you're like "A man? WTF?"
He was gay in the 90s
Add the rest up

Nonetheless he died because anorexia weakened his body too much

My grandmother was there in the room when he died
He was immobile for days, but at the last moment he sat up out of the bed and gasped and fell down dead.

I know logic won't sway her thoughts.
It's logical to say that if she continues this path, she will die.

Just be there for her, regardless of what happens

You can't talk her out of this man. As someone who's struggling with eating disorder and depression and anxiety, you can talk til your blue in the face, it won't help. If you want to help, it's better to have her see professionals, because an eating disorder is related to mental health. This is serious and needs medical attention.

Nothing it's like falling asleep and never awaking up

Life is what you make of it and enjoying the journey. You don't need to follow any rules to love a good life do simply what is entertaining for you, and when you are nearing your death bed you won't want to live anymore and will be okay with dieing

>>18019139
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VbcwAPZycGE

I became much more aggressive and assertive (relative to my passive, self-conscious self before) by being a lot more selfish. I also have higher self esteem.

I found that excessive kindness and politeness actually stemmed from me being insecure and afraid of conflict. I got frustrated with "you go" "no you go" scenarios so I started unapologetically pursuing what I wanted. Fighting the reflex to apologize or overexplain myself (a big one) was huge in helping me be more assertive and "real".

Basically, you're a nerd and you think too much. When Chad tells you to "be yourself" he doesn't mean be a beta fag who holds the door open for someone 20 feet away. He means do what you actually *want* to do, which is let the door shut and get to where you need to go. Shed the fake vacuous "niceness" you're smothered in and find out who you really actually are. Stop dwelling on what "should" be, eat weed brownies and Dr Pepper for dinner. Stay up late if you feel inspired to write or build something, even if you have a test the next day. Don't say "just kidding" when you're teasing a girl. Let that person think you're actually rude. Park in the handicap for your soda run.

Your natural reaction is going to be "but I don't want to be a piece of shit!", but there is a lot of leeway between absolute savage and beta niceguy. You know that, you're just afraid to test the limits of it. I'm giving you permission, go do it.

You'll enjoy life a lot more once you start living honestly.

>>18018976
More Virginfags need to hear this

Just realize that being highly confident is perfectly logical. Confidence increases likelihood of success after all.

Why wouldn't you just send him a friend request...?

As a guy, I wouldn't mind if a girl comes up to me to chat. Just act natural, chances are he didn't even see your message anyways. It's actually not a big deal anyways, go for it.

>>18018791
He seems really private. No mutuals, no friends from our workplace, I feel like I'd be overstepping a comfort zone or something if I sent a friend request out of the random. I'd rather just talk casually by text first and allow him to make that step rather than put myself out there just to be rejected? Is that an ass move?

>>18018748
it depends what you mean by disabled

>>18019578
This. There's a big difference if you're wheelchair bound, or just have a "disability" that doesn't actually affect your ability

>>18018748
How do you gain 50 pounds that quickly? Wouldn't you eat less to compensate for the lack of exercise?

>>18018208
She may actually like you.

>>18018208
Ill think up of some more once i reach my desktop. For those with approach anxiety, scared of making a move, remember this;

Instead of being cat-called, treated like a sex object, genuinely compliment girls for their self-esteem. Only applies to naive, sweet to regular girls, there be alot of bitches who be ratchet

You're allowed to what you want simply because it's what you want to do rather than constantly worry about whether or not you're "supposed to."

I feel like crap. I got drunk and flirted with a friend who has a gf. Well, not really flirting just being way more friendly and talking to him more than i would if his gf was there(she doesn't like me that much). i know I'm doing this because I'm really lonely and single but how do I stop being a bad person? I'm going to quit drinking for a while but i just feel like i'm in a bad place and don't know how to get out.

>>18017553

It seems you have the problem identified. Solve your issues, or at least get to grips with them.

Guy here. 21, I like a girl who's 23. She's a couple inches taller than me and just a larger person. Kind of a stupid question, but do I have a chance?

Haven't talked much but she's been pretty receptive to me so far. Of course she's probably just being friendly at this point, but I'd like to steer in that direction if I can

I'm a dude and even I think having had sex with 70, 80 girls by your mid-20s is pretty gross.

Sounds like he just fucks anyone, and I personally don't date people with such low standards. Says a lot to me about how they think about themselves and others.

Do what you will, obviously. Just saying that I don't you're insecure for or there's anything wrong with you for having reservations about the kind of sexual history he's describing.

lower your expectations i guess? or find someone better.

I'd feel dusgusted too if a girl in her mid 20's burst out saying sumn like that to me. What you feel is usually the truth, if you feel disgusted, it's disgusting, if you feel ashamed, it's shameful, etc.

You don't have to fall for a good guy/bad guy meme, just internalize how you feel, and imagine that it's something you can overcome, if you can't, you gotta move on.

At this point though, you'd probably feel guilty leaving, but nothing is above your peace of mind, if your ability to forgive is tested daily, it's gonna hurt.

Without wanting to sound condescending, just grow up. As in literally, this stuff becomes so unimportant as you reach your late 20s. It's a young adult thing to be concerned about it.

Also, why would you feel less than his previous partners since he stayed with you and didn't stay with them?

>>18016351

it would just be an act. as for being attractive, you know how you look. you know how oyu want to look. aim fori t. just kjeep in mind that anime rarely translates well into real life.

She wants you to become employed by androgynous pedophile. Then go on a lifes quest to kill your brother. Joining a terrorist organization ran by a group of circus freaks might help as well.

>>18016351
If she wants you to be the equivalent of a non existent anime character, you may want to reconsider your relationship. You couldn't really look like Sasuke unless you cosplayed every day.

>>18020180
Youre nervous.
Try a penis ring.

Are you gay?

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>>18020180
performance anxiety. Common in young males. Seek outside 4chan for methods that will help. Lay off the porn a lil.

>>18020051
>Hey /adv/ I am a young (M). In HIGHSCHOOL.
Lmao that fucking wording.

>Looking for sex idk how to approach this. I'm not extremely attractive but I'm also not ugly or overweight I'm a pretty decent if not over average looking teen, 5,8 feet.
Okay so you're normal-looking and horny.

>There are tons of sluts in my school and I wouldn't even mind dating one I just don't know how to approach them.
If you disrespect them enough to identify them as sluts you probably would regret dating them anyway. Ease up, kiddo.

>They are all bitches.
Either you're projecting like a mini Elliott or you're talking about the girls who aren't worth your fucking time.

>I am also freinds with mostly girls so that's a benefit.
Your chick friends are easily your best source of advice here. Tell them you're getting kind of tired of being single and ask them to help you figure out how to come off as a good option, maybe even help you find someone who'd be a good match for you. They'll have fun with that shit and hopefully so will you.

>But my goal is to be fucked, date someone or at least be blown by the end of highschool. We have some nice girls in our school. Any advice?
Stop focusing on being fucked/blown and focus on finding someone nice to date. Sex without some feeling of companionship (whether a romantic lover or a close friend) is overrated, once you're getting it on the reg you'll know that.

Just ease up and paint a smarter target, don't blame other people when you fuck up, and don't waste time on easy slags when there are still cool people to meet.

L'eddit >>>>>>>>>>>>>>

End yourself

>>18019952
Fucking die for being a 4chan user.

>>18019959
The hypocracy is strong with this one.

>>18019962
>he uses 4chan so he must support le 4chan XD XD

Fucking die

>>18019931
How long have you been moved out?

>>18019931

Where do you work?

I've got a pretty shitty family, black sheep of it always blamed for everything.
I'd still rather see my family than work a double shift for double pay.

What the actual fuck? Good jobs do exist?

>>18019934
A month, and this isn't the first time I've moved out. I've lived on my own for spans of time before - up to an about a year, for school - but I lived at home for 2016 and only moved back out again this new year's.

And I didn't think of an excuse quick enough so I have to go today and I really wish I didn't have to.

is this a joke? a best friend who fucks your ex a day after and you think about fixing things?
he is not your best friend and she is not good for you.

What was the argument about?
Are you sure they fucked?

>>18019893
Exactly! She even fucking told him that we "broke up" the night before. But of course he saw the opportunity and took it, since he hasn't had a girlfriend in years and who knows when he'll get laid again. What a shitty thing to do to a "friend." If I were in his position then I wouldn't have fucking done that.

Anyway, I know she isn't the best girlfriend ever but we do share a lot in common and doing a bunch of things together. I don't want to see her go, even though she fucked up. Ugh my feelings are all fucked up.

>>18019638
Break it off before you fuck her and yourself up.

Yes, you are being stupid.

>Hear me out: I can't tell if I feel distant to her because I don't live around her anymore, or if it's because I genuinely don't have feelings for her.
It doesn't matter, you don't give a fuck about her and nothing is going to happen in the near future which will allow you to test which of the two options it is.

OK.

How do I break it off?