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>be in love with childhood friend
>she's had a terrible life
>molested as a kid
>dad beat them and left
>we finally get together in HS
>feels good man
>she feels undeserving of happiness
>tells me she likes someone else
>crushed
>we break up
>she changes her mind and confesses she lied
>too hurt and insecure to amend things.
>go our separate ways
>never stop loving her
>she continues horrible life
>gets with a meth dealer
>does meth and moves in with him
>gets pregnant
>twice
>meanwhile I'm dating around but still in love with her
>find a different girl
>she's just like me
>get along and date for years
>move in together
>life's good
>4 years later
>somethings missing but happy
>log onto FB
>first time in years.
>old message from 3 months ago.
>it's her
>we text
>tell her about my gf
>she seems jealous but quickly changes
>talk continues
>she finally admits she's jealous
>says we should meet up
>midnight meetup
>tells me about her life
>went back to shit
>baby daddy in jail for 20yrs
>another abusive boyfriend
>brother in jail
>she was on meth for a while
>lost kids to CPS
>Won them back. But it'll be 9 months before she recovers them
>we admit feelings
>tells me she ruins everything
>wants to ruin my life again she says
>we make out
>it's late
>she has to leave
>I go home.
>she changes her mind
>asks me to come back
>I sneak back into her parents house
>we lay in bed together
>make out
>sex available but I don't want to officially cheat and add to this chick's problems
>leave after an hour when she really has to call it
> it's 4am
>plan on meeting again
>few days later
>ask to hang out again
>"we can go out tomorrow. I'm on a date rn lol"
>wtf why
>"I needed sex and you're with someone"
>wtf it's been 2 days
>"idk what the big deal is"
>sperg out
>dump all my feels
>she says she still loves me and is just waiting
>tell her I'm done
>she says I'm not thinking clearly and goes to bed
>tells me to think about it.
>currently laying next to my gf
>heartbroken

What do?

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Hey /adv/

Lurking for a while. Today is the day.

>be me
>dating gril since junior year of high school
>both introverted/depressed as fuck
>decide to date, steady with a few ripples
>always been there for her
>fast foward 2+ years
>College, long distance
>first semester seems fine, don't talk much
>introverted as fuck still, don't talk to anyone
>winter break, seems fine back together
>second semester starts
>depression kicks in full force
>lonely as fuck
>text/call gril for help with half ass responses
>major trust issues with everyone since childhood
>says she mentally/physically can't text/call give time for me b/c of school
>fast forward to last night
>home for weekend (her school is close)
>pick her up, she cries/wimpers in car
>partially ignore, keep in back of head
>go shopping/see movie/eat food
>long drive back to dorm
>talk about talking to each other, go through text/call bs
>destination. sit in parking lot of dorm
>>I don't want to hurt you anymore..
>I still love you more than anything. Do you still love me?
>>y-yes.
>okay. since you're overwhelmed.. let's just take a break.
>>alright. we can take one and see if we still want to be together at the end
>bawl at decision made for a good ten minutes after she leaves

Point is, this gril has sent me mixed signals since the start of the semester. I feel like I've done nothing but radiate kindness, shelter and become her feels body bag when she needs it. I've taken this shit all my life, but what can you do. I think.. she wants to end it, but either wants my approval, me to do it, or take another easy way out. I want to make this work, and I'm willing to try for it. Now, I could barely go through a few days without at least texting her. I have legit no friends, with the exceptions at some connections at work and online.

How the hell do I get through 2+ months? What can I do to occupy myself?

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i married with 20yr older woman and she was fine for couple years and started to gain weight. she is now 165cm 75kg it is heavier than me.
don't look like we have lots of same interest. she talks a lot and i don't like her high pitch voice.
wanna divorce but she paid for my debt(50grand)
her parents adore me and i like them too.
but it is very embarrassing if i go out with her in public as we get too much of intention.
i started not holding her hands and she said to me that she feels sorry for me too.
she is very warm and kind person. if i ask for a divorce she will be devastated.
i am very young and can't imagine i spend my rest of life with her like this.
what is your advice?

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Ey /adv/ice
Getting teased by these/this girl(s) that are like younger than me.. how to response? Not to make it stop but, just how to give a little backfire.

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If a friend starts to enthusiastically tell you about some trivia he heard, but it's something you've already heard yourself, should you pretend it's new to you so that he has the satisfaction of telling you?

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Hi /adv/, I haven't been on here for awhile but I need help. So my friend gave me about 180 micrograms of LSD and I had a somewhat neutral trip and the effects are still lingering on.

Will these effects go away? Will I be returned back to normal once again? I don't want to have this daze where I can't focus on anything anymore.

I don't want to have this feel anymore.

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Hello
Would it be worth trying to initiate a conversation with a girl in my class, I would consider her very stunning but I know nothing about her? Keep in mind I spill spaghetti easy, but I started taking meds around 1 month ago and I've been feeling extra confident lately.
Or should I wait and hope somehow we get forced into a conversation together or she speaks to me?
In other words do I try and make conversation and most likely fail or do I wait and hope everything falls into my lap?

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has anyone had an abortion? this girl i fucked is about 1 month preg. what do?

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Alright boys. What's your go to line to either

A. Introduce yourself

B. Compliment her

C. Seal the deal for heading back to yours or hers.

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I just found out my ex died today.
I hadn't even spoken to him in a few years.
I feel like I shouldn't care but we were together for 4 years.
My first everything.
It's making me remember things i haven't thought about in a long time and i hate it.
He treated me terribly
So why do i even care?
Any one out there been through something like this?

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I think I've lost all drive, ambition and will to do anything more than a shit job for the rest of my life. Two years ago I had to quit school after spending six year working towards my degree. I couldn't afford to go any longer, and I felt like no one there cared. I also had a lot going on at home, and not having any support from my professors or couselors I sort of feel betrayed by the educational system.
I guess I thought that given their job they would care if a student was struggling and reaching out for help, but that was not the case. Anyway, I've done various different jobs since then, and have come to the conclusion that I don't care about what I do for work anymore. As long as it pays me well enough to live, and allows me the time to enjoy what I'm paying for. Is that bad? That I've just kind of given up?

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I'm 24 and began going to college for psysch last year. Realized this degree is bullshit.

I'm about to apply at this factory, drop out of school end of semester, and pay off all my loans. 3 of my friends work here and they each made 50 grand a year their first year, no college degree or previous experience.

I've lived in Wisconsin my entire life. I've barely travelled, the farthest I've been in recent memory is chicago. While the state itself is beautiful theres literally nothing here except for drunk rednecks. All of the girls are hideous, and the conservative government has become progressively more insane over the past 7-10 years. My seasonal depression has gotten worse every year since I graduated high school.

I'm a nobody. People don't really like me, i've burned all my bridges. I dont make new friends, i never really get along with people my age. I'm on probation right now, but a few years ago I was a big time acidhead/hippie. I still hold alot of the values I had than but i'm not as outspoken and keep to myself these days. I honestly just don't fit in.

My family and society has all these bullshit expectations for me, my therapist tells me its time to stop partying and go to school. Theres nothing here for me, this path is meaningless.

So I got to thinking, go get this factory job, resign my lease in september. Bust my ass off, work over time every week until my roommate graduates and my lease is up fall 2018. Than what? Move to california? not LA southern california. Not even san fran. I'm talking up north, humboldt county, mendocino county maybe even lake tahoe area. I was looking at rent to owns in mendocino and they don't even look like their as skyrocketed as everyone claims they are.

Get a job, start growing pot. Maybe eventually find my place in the marijuana industry. Be surrounded by prettier girls that Wisco, where nobody knows me.

Tell me why this isn't going to work if I leave wisco with 10-15 g's saved and my loans paid off in sept 2018.

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I've been employed 4 times in the past 2 years.

Each time I stayed only for at most 4 months.

My most recent employment was at Mcdonald's and it was only 2 weeks.

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Any advice dealing with finger pain?

I swipe my thumb left for about an hour every day, barely ever right so it's a bit unbalanced. Anyone know some good exercises to fix this?

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My friend was cooking a plantain and as they flipped one of the slices, it slipped and then splashed oil on their forearms.
What is the best way to treat burns?