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If you're going to be homeless in one area I'd suggest squatting, an empty house that's foreclosed or something, maybe it'll even have running water.

>>18041996

I'll be sticking around in one area. I'm still going to school and I'll be working, I just don't want to spend over 50% of my income on rent anymore when I need that money for tuition loans and food.

Is there any way I could leave my car in a parking lot long-term and sleep in it?
What kind of parking lots are available for this?

>>18041955

Different anon. I don't know where you live OP but here in New York police usually check parking lots for people sleeping in cars or around them.

>>18041935
You're talking like you did pcp not pot. You're fucking fine jeez woman. Just don't smoke pregnant, not that it'll harm the baby but it's very frowned upon. Weed isn't harmful to you, maybe to a little by of your brain development since people should use it until they're adults and their body has stopped maturing. But it doesn't mean you'll make retarded kids, other factors could determine that however.
Your brain has cannabinoid recepetors, for cannibinoids found in weed, so fuckin chill man.

>>18041935

you're a /pol/ retard and that is why you should not breed

>>18041943
Well I did drink in my youth too, and ivedone pills somewhat. That is it though, nothing more. I have never been on antidepressants and never used birth control. I have an appointment for an endocrinologist this march so I can ask note questions, then. What other factors are we talking here...

>>18041947
I don't go on /pol, I've been watching bark Vikernes videos that's all.

hospitality industry

>>18041932
Thanks I'm looking into it.

Could you advise on anything specific?
I got a good hit on this one actually. Its mainly catering at the airport. But I have a truck the truck license required so at least its a step in the right direction.

Polite bump

>>18041880

>5 lines
>cont

no.

>call new friend (let's call her 'kay'"a week later
>it's 8pm, the day before Christmas Eve
>"im at the pub, Kay do you wanna join?"
>"sorry anon I'm at my mums house in [2 hrs drive away] but we'll hang out after Christmas!"
>christmas eve I come back from work at noon
>husband picks me up, buys me lunch and compliments me
>thinking he's feeling guilty about something
>we get home and his Facebook notifications appear on our computer/tv screen setup
>message from husbands coworker "I just don't know what to do" "I'm angry and hurt"
>I look at my husband
>"I didn't want to tell you until after Christmas anon... Kay passed away last night and we don't know how"

>

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>>18041897
Oooh shit this is getting good, continue plz

>>18041877

people who are spamming the same message are breaking the rules. people who are unwilling to take advice and just attack everyone who gives them advice are also breaking the rules.

do not be afraid to report these people.

>>18041889

and yes, constantly asking the same question when its clearly the same person counts as spamming and is a bannable offense. since the new janni took over we've seen the obvious re-posters disappear.

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To the guys and girls here:

I just want to thank you for helping me feel normal.

I've been having some girl trouble lately and have been feeling generally worthless about it, but then I found these threads. Now I can see that other people have the same problems as me and I'm not so weird after all.

Thanks, all you glorious fags.

> Is it worth it going on tinder?
What the fuck do you have to lose? Just do it, you sadsap

>somewhere between chubby and built

First of all, that's a huge fucking range bud, don't lie to yourself

>I'd rather none of my friends find out i'm on there

What's the big deal? The majority of college students I know have used it at least once

>>18041867
>First of all, that's a huge fucking range bud, don't lie to yourself

Well my upper body looks slightly tones, but i have some flab here and there.

>I'd rather none of my friends find out i'm on there

My friends know I watch hentai, and them knowing I was on tinder would still be more embarrassing for me. We've discussed it before and agreed that it's for the desperate or for hook ups. I'd rather they not think I was there for either reason.

>>18041856

>get one F
>get rejected once
>I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE.

My father had a stroke last night. his entire left side is paralyzed and he'll never work again.

you're doing fine man, just wake up tomorrow and try again.

>>18041865
That's just what happened this week. I am sorry to hear about your father, though.

I don't know how much longer I can keep going.

>>18041882
Just ride it out and you'll be fine.

No, she thinks she looks good and wants other people to see it and think to themselves "holy shit she looks good"

>>18041824
i agree with
>>18041828

it's like facebook it's to show other people how cool you and your life is

>>18041824
Maybe nigga tell her to come over for a few drinks if she says ya she likes you if she says no she doesnt

Bump, because I'd like some insight into this too.

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>>18041783
Probably because you look like a serial killer and they don't want to die when you sperg out when they say no

Well for starters, get off the internet and out into the real world, and get to know some more women. Second, don't expect any logic from any women at all. Don't look for reasonable explanations for any of your questions, you're not going to get any. And finally, if they are annoying or too much of a hassle, dump them and move on.

>>18041757
IDK dude. Be frank about it. Not in a "it's me or him" way, but just in a "you need to think about this and come to a decision" way. She can't put off chosing forever.

Also try and make sure her bf doesn't know you or he might wanna throw hands

>>18041757

>nicest

by not being rude. you need to be frank and state things as they are

> i love you, but we can't keep doing this. if you want me, than choose me. but we can't keep playing this game

>>18041810
pretty much this

>>18041713
Hey anon. I've been suicidal and even attempted it. Obviously I was unsuccessful. I'm still struggling with major depression and on meds and see a counsellor and doc twice a week. It's tough. What helps me is a lot of coping mechanisms and my friends and family and coming here to 4chan. I look back on my suicide attempt and see it as a very painful time in my life and think on it with regret. It's still fresh, just a couple of months ago. I still have suicidal thoughts from time to time but distract myself and talk about with others every now and then. It's a struggle but we can make this anon. Just know you're not alone.

Hi anon. I did. I have extremely serious PTSD and a long, long long list of mental, emotional and physical trauma caused by growing up in horribly abusive and dangerous ho.e/family environment. I see a few different doctors now and the current belief is that I will struggle and be behind mentally and physically my entire life.

I survived, accidentally, 3 suicide attempts and was on the brink of a 4th for a good 5-6 years, then for the last 2 years I've been more or less coming out of that fog you lose yourself in.

>>18042111
The hardest things were A) finding the doctors who would take me seriously B) proper support C) Finding some productive shit to do that is soothing and works WITH my disabilities and D) Accepting and forgiving yourself despite any negativity that you or others have beaten through and locked inside of you.

Things CAN get better, but you will have to put in way more work just to stay balanced than normal, healthy people. And it will feel like you're alone, but you aren't. Recovery from suicidal depression is something that will take years, dude. I've been fighting mine for roughly 25 and just barely starting to find some level of peace.

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>>18041710
Talk to gay guys if you want a male friend.

>>18041710
Sit or stand alone in a corner for five minutes, make eye contact and don't have your back to anyone, guys will talk to you in no time.

>I don't know how to handle guys.

Step back a bit, guys are just like girls in that we're all people. Guys have to breathe, shit, work jobs, they have things they like and dislike, etc. Don't over complicate it.

>I had an all-girls education all the way through high school and now at uni I'm finding myself increasingly awkward around guys that I have to admit I have a problem.

It will take a while for it to feel normal, probably.

>Is the "no such thing as guy *friends*" meme real? That two people can't hang out and watch a movie together without being sexually interested in each other?

I'm a man with a huge amount of female friends. Attraction does / can happen but it's normally fine.

>Where do I draw the line?

That's largely to do with you and your boundaries. Some girls won't go out 1-on-1 with a guy unless it fits into a dating/romantic context, whereas others are more flexible- happy to go to dinner with a guy just for the sake of it. It's really up to you to explore and learn about, so I wouldn't worry, I'd just take it slowly and work out how you feel about things.

>How do I know if it's legit hang out or a date?

Normally, you'll work it out from intention and attitude. However, it's not like the rest of us here are all perfect and unable to make mistakes- a lot of crossed wires and confusion does happen in the dating world, it's something to be expected.

Basically don't worry and just get out there and learn, you feel nervous about it because you're very aware of it but you've already learnt most of what you need to know.

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>tfw garbage men in Canada make as much as teachers do in America.

>>18041691
One job is literally shittier though.

Personally I don't care but most of society will look down on a garbage man and then praise a teacher. There's a stigma to being a garbage man for some reason. People will think you're dumb and dirty, but really someone has to do it so who cares and it does make a decent salary.

I'd do it if I didn't already make more than them right now. Seems like an incredibly simple and responsible free job.

>>18041691
They get paid well because you need a certain class of driver's license to operate those trucks. If garbage men were offered minimum wage or whatever they would just become truckers.

I did it when i was a lot younger.

Its worth having it checked since some of them can be bad news like cancer or if you cut it while shaving it may not stop bleeding.

Mine was on my cheek and my face. I forget the exact reason why it was done but I remember it being a small health concern.

But it wasnt a big deal. They numb it then cut it out and thats it. Prolly one of the easiest things I ever had done. And yeah I am glad I did it as people gave me shit over the mole of my face.

As far as cost? I say it prolly depends on your insurance.

Leave them alone they're facking cute

>>18041647
Moles are cute providing they're the flat kind not the weird sticky out flappy kind.

>>18041646
If you're into weeb shit there might be a weeb club in your area. Or go down to your local seller of nerd stuff and see if they do events.
You got hobbies? There are clubs for pretty much all the hobbies.
Do you like shit that isn't weeb stuff? Rocks? Snakes? Chess? Music? Horror novels? Wood Working? Hiking? Stamp collection? Fight Clubs? Movies about French People?

You're not really willing to put any effort into it, so we can't really help you.
Try online dating,
work on your self esteem,
It's 100% perfectly fine to make friends at work. Go talk to the guys. Make opportunities to talk to them. If my dad can sit in a cubicle all day and still know and be good friends with every single one of his coworkers, so can you.
Shitting where you work to a certain extent is a meme. It used to be that most people met their spouses through work back in the past before online dating. If you meet someone, go for it. You're adults.
Drop the defeatist attitude of "nobody will accept me" and just fucking go join a club regardless.
You're spending an hour and a half on an average work day studying, which is totally fine and I think it's cool you're learning another language, but if you've got time to do that, you've also got time to maybe allocate one day a week of that time to something more social. Not to mention, you must have at least 2 days off a week. Use them wisely.

But uh, yeah, if you do any of these things, do the self esteem one. No reason you should ever have the thought "I don't deserve friends/nobody will accept me". If you can't kick that, you really will never have friends, because you'll never be giving an honest try.
See therapy if needed.

>>18041658
This.

Dude, you don't have "friendless loner since the age of 14/15" written on your fucking forehead. Clubs are meant to bring together people of similar interests, you're bound to meet interesting people if you start participating in a anime community or whatever.