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How do I find girls into BDSM? I'm in my mid 20s and I've had two flings with girls who were into rope, whipping/spanking, gagging and all that entry/mid level shit. Both of those girls happened by chance, and now I want to continue on as a dom.

But I'm still an amateur- how do I find girls who would be down to try shit with someone who isn't an experienced bdsm god? Do I lie? Do I join a bdsm community?
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Punch girls until they say "i like that"
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>>18044837

fetlife
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>>18044837
I'd suggest BDSM groups online or in person, but single sub women are very rare everywhere.

Your best bet is to move your BDSM wishes to the back burner and just meet and date girls "normally." Once you're in a sexual relationship you can gradually introduce BDSM into your play to see if she responds. It's a very slow process, but short of just happening on a sub girl at random, really the only way.

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How do you spot a stupid a person, and what do you look for to make that judgement?
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Im afraid of bad, not very nuanced, biased opinions

an stupid person whos interred in accuracy could be my best friend
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>>18044812
I personally consider all women to be stupid, but that's just me.
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>>18044812

they tend to be quick to judge others on their seeming intelligence, often trying to write them off without actually getting to know others as a person.

I loved you Brittany with everything I made lots of mistakes that I wish you could have gotten through with me but you will always be the one for me. General getting over losing the one person who means everything thread
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I do hope you decide to give me a chance to show you hpwuch you mean to me and how sorry I am I didn't want to break up at all I made an immature snap decision that you can't let go but you're. Hurting us both talk to me. Outside the chans
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You didn't deserve to be broken up with but I wish you would just talk to me Valentine's is tomorrow I want to spend our one year anniversary together for the rest of my life please give me the chance to do so.
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I know I want to be with you for the rest of my life and make a life with you, but if you don't share those feelings anymore there is obviously nothing. I can do but be alone without you. The more I try to move on the more I realize you're the one

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It seems like antisocial (not asocial, antisocial!) people often want to be my friend or girlfriend. I usually figure out what's wrong with them, and ultimately distance myself, if there isn't some ugly falling-out early on.

This leaves me alone, wondering why I'm so fucked up that normal people smile and chat with me, but never form any sort of bond. I could get in a fucked up relationship with a sicky who wants me around most of the time, who wants to be "bffs" or even get married, but I can't take a normal person out for coffee.

Maybe I just don't know how to interact with people who are socially functioning. I'm gonna make more money to perhaps buy concert tickets and do other activities...but part of me is afraid that a functioning person will never care for me.

Advice? Feedback? Relate?
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You have to put in effort too. People aren't going to bend over backwards for you. If someone spends time with you and you like that person's company, you have to ask them to hang out as well.

What do you mean when you say you can't take a normal person out for coffee?
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>>18044817
You're right. Nobody is gonna break down the door and sex me.

>What do you mean you can't take a normal person out for coffee?
It's just that the people I can relate to most are all misbehaved wrecks, many of whom don't even believe in finding peace. I felt like a grey sheep when I was a kid, but definitely like a black sheep now...after all of the coming-of-age insanity.
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>>18044845
If you want to spend time with "someone normal", there must be something appealing about that person that makes you want to hang with them. I think things will be better if you just adopt a more carefree attitude.

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>Miss deadline for CS assignment 30 minutes ago
>Literally missed the submit button by 5 seconds
>Project was worth 5% of our total grade
>Probably going to get a zero even though I did all the work and put in time
>rotating back between anger over missing it by a few seconds and panic attacks about the grade
I need a 3.0 this year or they're kicking me out of uni, this is not going to help. How do I get myself to calm down and realize I can still get by if I just buckle down and do the work/go to class? This whole ordeal just blew the tires off my motivation and now I feel like I'm about to miss a bunch of classes and get kicked out. PLEASE FUCKING HELP. On top of that I'm really struggling with self-worth and desire to live, and like I said earlier, this event is really not helping that.

I bet I wouldn't have these problems if I wasn't raised by a single mother, but oh well. What do I do now?
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Is there a way you can manually hand it in? Like emailing the prof with or without bullshit excuse like the site wasnt working or your little bro was suicidal so you had to wait an hour. Maybe youll get lucky and it will be accepted. Theres no harm in trying but act quickly.
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>>18044735
It happens. Imagine missing the break pedal by 5 seconds and totaling your car instead :D

Puts things in perspective, doesnt it?
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>>18044744
I doubt it. This is one of the harder weed out courses for the major, so they're really fucking stingy with deadlines. The official policy is that they won't do shit for you unless you e-mail them at least 3 days prior to the deadline. I really don't think this is a huge deal in the grand scheme of things, but I can't escape the lingering doubt. I already feel kind of off balance with this class because I've been missing lectures and now I need to perform even better going forward to make up for this 0/100 that's probably coming my way. I'm going to try to not miss anymore classes but I keep having anxiety about getting kicked out.

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He was rubbing his eye an hour ago and then we went for a walk when I got back inside with him his eye was like this. Is there anything I can do?
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>>18044680
The Light bothers him, I left him alone by himself in the dark living room. I bathed him today
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>>18044680
I can't get any more pics he won't let me
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>>18044680
Check it if you can later, he might have an infection or something is irritating it. Wait a few days to see what happens.

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I think we're literally fucked.

mom just cheated on dad and dad went nuts. he packed up everything and moved overseas. He left us the house but mom doesn't have a job and i'm pretty sure we're going to end up losing the house at this rate.

How fucked are we? With my limited time and resources I don't know how i'm going to get through this one!
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>>18044660

>literally

seriously though, sit down and look at what your rent or mortgage is. get your mom to start applying where she can, and if you dont have a job you do the same.

in the meantime you each go to the bank and take out a line of credit. this will support you in the meantime.

if the place is too expensive / nice, you immediately give 30 days notice and go downsize to some cheap smaller place.
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>>18044676
it's already paid off but she's so bad with money, I just know we're going to end up having to sell it
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>>18044701

then be smart with money. or move out. your call

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What's the best way to approach a girl without seeming creepy or an asshole? I have a girl that I want to get to know better, but she's almost always around another person.
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Bump. I'm in a similar situation too bro.
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look better
talk better
live better

If you spent the next year training all three diligently, then dating won't seem like such an alien concept.
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>>18044662
Thank you.

Your answer helps literally nothing, and has very little in relation with my question, but thank you.

I just quit school from depression and loneliness. I'm rather introverted but I need people as company. Especially when I'm alone I want to find love to get rid of my loneliness.

Somehow now that I'm home, I've lost the will to find a date. Not only that, I lost the will for almost very thing and I have no direction in life.

I don't feel sad I just feel empty and my existence feels like a pointless dream. Sometimes this makes me suicidal because why not quit this game if it's pointless anyways and I'm not going anywhere.

I'm really lost. Help
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2-BtquTKw78
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>>18044648
This is true if he has no family that will miss him. You may hurt a lot of people if you do this.
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>>18044620
Why did you quit school? Did you fail or something? What were you majoring in?

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TL;DR: Need recommendations for a small, but still kind of realistically sized dildo to practice stretching myself out with. Preferably pretty cheap.

Lately, I've been trying to get into the casual sex scene. I've given up on finding a boyfriend, it's just not happening, at least not till I'm middle aged. I still want companionship though even if just for a night. Idgaf anymore.
I've never masturbated with penetration before and I've never used tampons before.
I met a guy a while back ago, but when he tried to finger me, I was NOT expecting it to be that painful. I don't think it was that I wasn't wet enough, I was pretty fucking wet, it was just terrible. Never got to sex because of it.
Later on when I was by myself I tried to finger myself with plenty of lube. It was also, very bad.
I think I just need to, train my pussy I guess? Stretch it out, get it used to dick. I've never bought a dildo before though, just external use only vibrators. All the dildos I've ever seen in stores are like, these fucking monsterous shits. Where can I get a tiny thin dildo?
Also I heard there is like, numbing lube you can get, usually for anal, is that safe to use on the vagina? Recommendations for that as well?
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Stop trying for attention
You're ugly
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>>18044616
Duly noted.
Thanks for bumping my thread,
anyone with a real recommendation?
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>>18044608
>Later on when I was by myself I tried to finger myself with plenty of lube. It was also, very bad.
Unless you're incredibly turned on (not just wet; you can be wet and still not be turned on), that's pretty normal. Hands are pretty rough.

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I can't imagine life sober

I'm literally drunk right now I'm starting a program tomorrow and they expect me not to drink or do any drugs throughout it and I cannot imagine going through life being sober 100% of the time.

Anyone else a substance abuser here and got through life doing it 5% or 10% of the time because I cannot imagine 0% of the time but my sibling tells me I need to be 100% sober 100% of the time otherwise I'll fail
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>>18044600

once you start living sober you'll realize its not as hard as you thought. you've used alcohol for a crutch.
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>>18044602

It's not hard just fucking boring.

I've gone months without drinking/smoking/dosing
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I used to get fucked up Friday-Sunday every week for almost a year. Now I'm 6 months sober. It's not bad you just have to do other stuff. I've been reading a lot of books, skiing, gambling, and skydiving. Drugs are cheaper but at least other stuff gives me cool FB pics and memories with normies.

Hey, the first few times I met my roommate he talked about how his cousin molested him as a child and it's something he brings up fairly frequently while he's high. He talks about hating gay men and hating his family for not believing him mostly, he doesn't talk about it in an adulating way.
Cut to, he's high, he came out of his room to offer me a hit, I accept sit down on his bed, and look at his computer monitor and it says, it's one of those old style forums and i can see he's reading a thread and the banner up top says:
"CHILD'S PLAY" and next to it is a picture of a naked three year old girl exposing her whole body.

so afterward just now, i google "child's play forum" searching for it because i want to make sure it's not cp like i think it is, but i can't find *any fucking record* of this forum on the internet, which only makes me more fucking suspicious? i'm not cool with cp shit at fucking all. i don't care what his "backstory" is. and now i feel creepy about how frequently he tells me (a single girl in my 20s, he's in his 40s but lies that he's in his 20s to a lot of younger girls who believe him because lol he's a black dude and looks younger) that i shouldn't go out alone because there are a lot of serial killers out there, like he seriously tells me constantly about how i should worry for dudes who might want to murder me because they're everywhere, there are so many of them, and he says this ***every time*** i mention anything about my going to the bus or out on a walk or hike or whatever, idk i feel worried but AM I JUST HIGH AND PARANOID
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>>18044564
Okay, was it like a "Oh cute, little Susie escaped from the bathtub and is running around naked let's show grandma"? picture or "Naked child on a cement floor in a basement" picture?
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>>18044571
Her hands were on her hips and it looked like she was "being sassy" ? Some red lipstick and a garter belt but it looked like a professionally taken pic
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>>18044577
>red lipstick
>garterbelt
>toddler

That sounds like CP to me friendo. You should definitely move, for one. And maybe call the nat'l child abuse hotline? IDK what the procedure is on that

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Hello, I don't want to read stupid forums and diagnose myself or see similarities and cry myself into oblivion, so I'll just post here. Basically there will be times when things seem too real, like I'll be at home and textures will be really detailed to me, it's like I can see every fiber of my blanket, the walls are too detailed and I can see all the paint streaks I never could before. I guess it would be like suddenly turning up the graphics on a video game? Bad comparison, but it's the best I got. I'll look around and see stuff and I recognize it like I know that poster is familiar, but what is it? If I'm with people I know who they are but it's a moment of wow these are real people? This is weird? Just get a WEIRD feeling? Everything is too real and unreal at the same time like I'm in a dream. Does this happen to anyone else? It isn't scary just a bit strange as it happens randomly and goes away shortly after.
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>>18044545
Also rereading this I sound really stupid but it's hard to put into words! Sorry if it's all jumbled and awkward to read
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>>18044545
Yeah I know what you mean
Like you try to stop it but you can't
But then it passes on its own

You can make it happen all the time when you reach the right amount of drunkenness
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Woah shit. I get that too, like almost word-for-word what you described. It's really rare, like a couple times a year. I have no idea what it is, I've never been able to describe it to anyone in a way that made sense to them, but it's not hurting me any and I've always figured that if it was a symptom of brain cancer or whatever I'd have died a long time ago from it (I'm in my 20s and I've been getting that since I was a pretty young kid).

The only difference for me - unless you just left this out - is that for me it also messes with my sense of time, like things that happen very slowly seem like they take place incredibly fast, and everything also feels simultaneously incredibly heavy and also somehow fragile. But everything you wrote about things becoming more detailed I could almost have written myself, word-for-word.

So ... yeah, I can't really help you. I wish *I* knew what it was too.

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Ladies, do you ever listen to music you associate with your ex? Does it make you miss them or do you associate new feelings with it?
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>>18044521
I had severe issues with this cuz i love listening to music and some songs just got tainted with the thoughts associated with them. I had to stop listening to a lot of songs in the process of moving on from a girl. After you've truly moved on, you can listen to them, but there's still gonna be a thought, not an harmful one though.
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>>18044550
Oops, may or may not have failed to read "Ladies"
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>>18044550
My XBF (who's now my BFF because life is funny like that) used to have Jeff Buckley's 'Grace' playing in the background during sexy-times. For years I couldn't listen to the album at all for this very reason. Although I recently found myself listening to 'Last Goodbye' because of a break up.
I also dated a guy who lent me his copy of 'Wave of Mutilation: Best of the Pixies' but I kept listening to that even after we broke up.

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I'm usually on 4chan using my cellular data. Never had any troubles, but today I got this.

How long until this goes away? It has to do something with my carriers IP, so is this a error or what? Why would 4chan block an entire network?
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>>18044506
They really hit your personal info right on the mark huh
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>>18044506
My phone does this too! I don't have any insight, but I can't post shit from mobile either
I have AT&T if that has anything to do with it
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>>18044516

I guess? That means my whole entire carrier is blocked right?

Wifi works fine. But I can not post from data

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