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OP, when a friend dies people arent concerned about who gets to grieve more. It doesnt turn into a grieving contest.

Honor your feelings. If you feel sad then you feel sad and you shouldnt fight it. You have a right to be upset. If its more than what your brother is feeling, then so what? Everyone grieves in different amounts in their own ways.

Its not like your brother is going to call you out and say "hey stop feeling more sad than me! He was MY friend more!" Wtf? He would like an asshole. He would never do that

>>18045431
Thank you, I only really got to know him over the past few months, and he was an absolute delight. But I guess in my own way, I'm worried that I'm turning something tragic into being about myself, adding another layer of guilt. I'm feeling alot of different things at the moment.

>>18045466

If youre worried that youre accidentally making it about yourself then youre not. If you were making it about yourself then you would have already made the conscious effort and decision to make it about yourself and wouldnt be worrying about it.

Whatever you are feeling, dont fight the emotions. Embrace them and feel them as they come.

you're seeing the matrix m8

>>18045439
How do I stop?

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>>18045472
once you take the red pill you can't go back

>>18045294
I gave myself alcohol poisoning last time just because I was so miserable.

Crush up morphine, dissolve in water, shoot up bum. Guaranteed happiness.

*May contain traces of completely ruining your life.

>>18045296
I always get super fucked up too, that's why I was looking for ideas to avoid it this time.

Good luck and most likely cheers tomorrow

You sure it's not just porn? I had a phase where I loved watching Japanese school girls urinate on guys but I doubt I'd absolutely have to be in this situation to feel arousal irl

>>18045270
Fantasies and sex are different. I hate watching blowjobs in porn but I love sucking dick.
Maybe when you're actually at it you'll just enjoy it. Don't just decide you dislike fucking without even trying.

>>18045278
>>18045285
I fap almost entirely to imagination and honestly can't even get aroused without thinking of it.

I dunno what to do I'm worried honestly, the fact that I can hardly get a boner from the thought of normal sex is pretty bad

>>18045242
You just stop.

Drink and become a shell of your former self

>>18045242
Meditate and practice conscious awareness. That is, move your concentration outside of your thoughts that create "caring". Move concentration into your body or your vision, without thinking.

Sorry if you wanted an edgy answer.

Depends on the parents pal, they gonna put you on the sex offenders list if they find out you're porking their daughter?

>>18045190
I don't think the parents would. They're pretty liberal, and both really like me, so I think I'm in the clear on that one.

>>18045190
Also, any thoughts on the other questions?

>>18045137
Also I'd like to clarify that I don't feel sad or depressed or anything. I just kind of feel nothing, but I don't want to feel nothing. I'd rather be overflowing with emotions with the risk of going into depression than feel nothing

>>18045141
I only play guitar my wife is like you she plays everything I'm going to surprise her with a new keyboard for our anniversary, because I broke hers but that's besides the point is try getting a new instrument or going to a show I've been planning all kinds of trips to shows I think she'd like to help her not stress over things so much

>>18045152
I don't need/want/have money for anything new and I saw two shows this weekend

>>18045071
They're supposed to be business-related or professional contacts (i.e., your former supervisor, coworker, or college professor.

>>18045080
yeah they asked for emails and cell phone numbers. wtf?

>>18045084
It's a huge red flag if you don't have any references. During one job interview I had several years ago, I remember the interviewer asking me how would he know if I was reliable or not without any references. You need to get references from somewhere.

Although unpractical, it is possible, but only on few specific circunstances.

>I've even noticed I've become much more rash to other people, especially to strangers

I have experienced that myself as well. If you think about it, it is just the natural way of things, given you are exposed to apathetic, selfish and ill natured people daily.
I would not concern myself over it as long as it does not turn you into a selfish bastard.

>>18045015
Helping is fine OP, but be aware that a lot of people out there may not do the same for you or even be grateful for what you do. Help if you want but don't always expect something in return.

>>18045092
This. Don't even expect your best friend to help you return and be extremely wary of people who constantly ask you for help because those are the type of people who won't help you back.

It's completely feasible. Pirate 4k Video Downloader, get a bunch of different calculus playlists on youtube, download all the good ones, then get a videoplayer where you can watch videos at 2x speed without fucking up the audio, and get as many e-textbooks as possible for problems.

That's what I did in my first semester of chemical engineering and I had dropped out of high school. I'd kill hours and hours of video lectures in a day.

>>18044997
Not possible to do the Spivak book unless you've already gotten so far in your math career you are comfortable doing only rigorous proofs. If you've never even taken a derivative before do what >>18045019 said. Calculus is not actually very hard, especially if you are already ok at algebra and trig.

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>>18044997
Very simple my friend. I'd ask a friend for a past syllabus of a course at your school and try to learn the concepts listed there . Also a good textbook would help. For basic, practical concepts I'd recommend "Calculus: A First Course" by Stewart.Or for more rigor the book you posted. Use PatrickJMT for supplement.

>>18044959
I have loads of people I want to fuck that I can't, such as women I know who are married or in long term relationships. Your sister is in the same category, don't treat those feelings as more important than the others.

>>18044959
My suggestion is to either:
- Completely supress the thought of it and try to fill it with something else (e.g. work on a side project, do push ups everytime you think about it). Avoid incest porn as well.
- Satisfy your desire using alternatives, such as diving hard into incest porn or girlfriending someone that looks like your sister.

In case you ask, I believe it is not a good idea to open up to her, it almost always does not end well.

>>18044959
JUST DO IT! Don't let your dreams be dreams!

Yes
Can you suck your own dick?

This has got to be the shittiest troll thread.

>>18044940
Haven't you been looking at the other threads on /adv/ the past few minutes?

Buy a pet, jizz everywhere, write your name on everything.

Jizz

>>18044868

nothing. you'd end up wasting money you're supposed to be saving to do any REAL decorating.

Get lil things like a rug,nightstand, small things so when the time doses come you will have a few things to make ur place feel like ur place

Dude fuck are you me Britt if you're reading this I love you and I'm sorry I know you still looking e because our relationship was way closer than those others please give me a chance

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OP here
The big issue is that her and i are under the understanding that i expect us to get back together, and in a few months we will start dating again, but i don't want to go back to a girl that sleeps with other people when times get tough, and this is that tough time. at the same time i want to show her that i will put in as much effort as is needed to show her that i only want her, by waiting these months if i need to

if i get what i want, she won't sleep around, and her and i will spend time together again watching movies and making eachother laugh

if i don't get what i want she sleeps with someone else and i waste months of time for nothing.

i don't want another woman, i want her and her only.

she has never betrayed my trust, but she doesn't feel i have a right to "stake my claim on her" with how things have been.

when i ask her if there's someone else or could be, she says "she has no time to do anything with other people"

But she doesn't say that she specifically wouldn't do it out of respect for my feelings

she's not the type of person to act dishonest, but the open window of not "being exclusive" leaves me feeling insecure about her only reason is that she "doesn't have time"

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would a 23 year old 10/10 care to save an 8 month relationship with a slightly imperfect person that she knows loves her dearly? or is she going to go and find the first dick to ride?

Talk about harambe and trump and memes

>>18044856
I have no idea about any of these topics, I'm also not american.

>>18044913

Well then be an American. Chicks love that

Chicks also love dick. Do you have one of those?