Manipulative ex texts me last night at 6:22pm "hope you're okay", inb4 that he hasn't tried talking to me since the 5th.
What do? Do you need more details about the relationship?
23 happily single white female from USA, he's 24 white male from USA
>>18046763
Block caller.
>>18046774
>He is blocked, the messages are still viewable in the app
I turned the notifs off because my best friend confessed to me that he would never date me because I don't meet up to his qualifications when it comes to mental stability and I've done too much for him.
>help me /privatearmy/, I'm a girl on the internet and I am being abused
>"hope you're okay"
i'm two years behind in medical school. Had to change school cause i had a quarrel with a professor. I feel miserable here, but i am told everyday by my parents that i won't make ends meet if i drop out and become a professional translator (i would be doing german, russian and italian). What do you guys think? I look into myself and i see only confusion and disarray.
>>18046715
You need to survive and take care of you and yours first and foremost. Sucks you're miserable but this is the path you chose. Your family is going to be fucked without your support it seems, so don't fuck them just because the school environment inconveniences you.
You feel miserable?
Focus on your end goals
Sacrificing it for temporary relief is not a mark of a disciplined man
>>18046715
I'm 30 years old, and I've been in my profession for about 6-7 years out of college.
I'm gonna be frank, I've suffered through a lot of job disappointment because I didn't follow my dreams, and took classes that "made more sense."
I think being a professional translator is a perfectly reasonable profession, and that forcing your way through med school is a very poor idea. "Making ends meet" is a lot different than being as loaded as a doctor.
You have to do this, not them. Do what feels right.
>date girl for 2 weeks
>girlfriend-ish out traveling, climbing mountains and shit
>she comes online after hiking
>she hasn't messaged me yet
>it's been an hour almost
How do I stop myself from overthinking situations like this? I want to message her but I don't want to come off as clingy and desperate either.
>>18046638
Go do something else like a hobby.
Realize stalking her online activity will only hurt you, drive you nuts and screw the relationship.
Date more than one woman.
You're not fucking married, so don't act like you are. Where confused young women plague the world with militant feminism, confused young men plague the world with "I'm waiting for the right one" which leads to "holy fucking shit I'm so stressed out over the amount of time she takes to text me."
This kind of attention doesn't benefit or please women. It's the most annoying thing in the world to bystanders of both genders, so kindly stop broadcasting it.
>>18046647
This.
I have started to hate my fucking life...
I've tried to be a good boy all my life, and everything is turning into shit. No one ever fixed in my sucess, but now i failed every single shit around me is pissing me off. I'm fucking done about everyone and I'm fucking done of this life.
>>18046622
Then change it.
>>18046637
Change for me is becoming a bad boy....
That's why i'm here.
>>18046687
Being here is the opposite of being a bad boy. Its conceding to mental masturbation and delusions.
Do ladies sit there alone late at night years later pondering what they did wrong and what could've been too? I feel like I'm going crazy; we've been apart longer than we were together, but every day it's still there.
>>18046610
>Do ladies sit there alone late at night years later pondering what they did wrong and what could've been too?
Yes but not until their 30's
>>18046619
AoC to 29 is the females' playground.
30 to ripe old age is the males' playground. As guys get older and less concerned with earning headpats from females, the social power of females drops like a meteor. Proper boys' clubs can't really happen before the age of 30.
Every day of my life for the past 7 years I've been single, and I'm only early 20's
18 year old high school graduate just wondering what I can do to insure that I'm not working class for the rest of my life.
I've lived in poverty my whole live, in a highly populated city and I'm just not ready to fall into the cycle. I know I'm smarter than the vast majority of my peers and highly capable of accomplishing big things.
Go to college and major in a STEM field
>>18046544
this is so obvious i wonder whether you really are that smart
>>18046579
Maybe post-secondary education isn't an option for whatever reason.
Hi everyone.
I have a crush on this guy that seems to be really reserved. He barely pays attention to me, but he says he cares. I guess I just want to get closer to him, but I don't know how. Our interests are very different, and I think it starts there. Any suggestions?
>>18046519
Just be straight forward and ask him out. Some women go a lifetime not understanding that men don't understand women games.
>How can I get an anon boyfriend?
You'll have to ask another website, we don't have real answers here. We just have preaching and flame wars.
>>18046519
real talk, ask him what boards he goes on, cos theres a very reasonable likely hood he expects you to literally be a dick receptacle and nothing else
25yr old here.
What are some supplements I can take to help make me concentrate and focus?
No prescribed meds please!
Nothing, all of that shit is 100% scam
>>18046503
>>18046503
32, ADHD here
I have a cup of green tea and sometimes lay down for 5 minutes focusing on breathing or counting to 100.
Its personal preference. But psychosomatic trick work well.
>boss has started smoking again
>only for this peak season, he says
>he says he can't give in and buy a pack
>i.e. he bums them off me instead
>cigarettes I have can only be bought in Japan, I have a finite amount
What do? Inb4 quit smoking, this does not solve the problem
Keep shit cigarettes on you so when he bums some off you, you have that.
>>18046491
stop letting him bum smokes off you.
>but he is my boss
Fuck a job where you have to provide someone paid more than you with smokes.
>>18046491
go to the store and buy the cheapest pack of cigarettes there give them to him when he asks for a cigarette. the whole pack. if he says he can't ttake it say your cigarettes are imported so you're rationing them.
dear /adv/arks:
women are beautiful and i love them and yet they seem to only choose chad. needless to say it is because i am too nice, but i cannot not be nice. you've heard it before, but give me a decent tip.
wat do?
here is a picture of a pineapple
bump
in the words of gang starr, 'my only crime was that i was too damn kind'
>>18046480
Stop talking in memes. Stop generalizing.
You are not nice, you are the awful "Nice Guy" that thinks he is owed sex. Grow up.
>>18046480
live your life, get out regularly and women will come to you.
Can I be the dark mysterious guy if I'm often serious, introverted and thoughtful/neurotic but also an insecure virgin?
How do I play that role?
I'm also attractive
How many dark mysterious guys do you see on a regular basis? Very few, if at all, because they don't really exist outside Mills and Boon novels.
Stop trying to be edgy and create a persona.
been like that for quite some time. the thing is, girls don't approach guys in their 20s, no exceptions. What you will get a lot will be girls that avoid you after a few weeks because they hoped you would approach them but feel bad because you didn't. You have good chances with girls, if you are looking for somethign serious, but you have to beat your insecurities before you can get to those chances.
I still can't and have avoided approaching chicks iRL, I only date online because it's a lot easier and you can go for the girls you like.
If you just want to lose your virginity, go for imigrants, black chicks or hookers if you got money, they can teach you quite a bit, but be nice and don't abuse their trust for your gains.
I would definitely suggest you try to get some not serious dating experience before you go for serious dating, because it will help you tons with getting along better with women and the next girl will be at least two ranks higher than your first.
1% of attraction comes from personality so yeah, confidence and attitude matter very very little. Looks and status is what really makes you attractive (there's a sea of studies about this). That role is retarded and cringeworthy, however chances are it won't do anything, maybe just appear like a narcisist with a personality disorder. But girls really won't care as long as you are physically attractive.
I'm going away this weekend to see my parents.
My boyfriend is gonna drive 3 hours to spend the weekend with a female friend from college
I checked her Facebook and I must say, she's really hot and dresses slutty in all her pics.
I trust my boyfriend and I keep telling myself I'm just being paranoid but I can't stop worrying about him cheating on me
Anyone else been in this position?
>>18046296
I don't trust anyone including my partner to a certain extent (I.e. they could always wind up cheating). Always mentally prepare yourself for the worst.
>>18046306
This. No matter how hard you try, you can't really stop him from cheating. Godspeed.
>>18046296
put a cb on dat nigga
How do I convince a girl to give me fellatio?
say bitch get over here give me some brain. works 100 percent of the time 70 percent of the time.
>>18046251
"I would appreciate it if you sucked me off"
Any girl? Go outside.
One specific individual in particular? Get rich. Or, face your stage fright and ask her one day "what are you into?"
"What are you into" was the 1970s version of 'hello.' What the fuck to people say to each other in this decade? Anything at all?
I feel like I'm slipping into the friendzone somehow.
I had amazing sex the day I met this girl. We sort of just hit it off instantly, and I was more forward than I had ever been in my life.
Couple days later we meet again and just chill and talk, have a genuinely good time. The two days later the same... and again. But I feel like that fire that made us get together and start having great sex isn't there anymore, and she treats me like just another pal. Affectionate gestures seem to go nowhere, and she just goes back to talking about nerdy shit (which I love too but). I also think she might be slightly autistic or have aspergers, which is OK but maybe thats a factor?)
I kinda feel like maybe I messed up and was alittle TOO relatable in a friendly way. how do I stop this from happening? I want to have sex again with her, but I don't wanna like, demand it.
I noticed no responses, so is this just dumb or an incredibly trite thing to ask?
She was never interested in you romantically for more than sex. She was acting on lust and now she's got it, she doesn't need it.
>>18046414
what's that even mean?
hey adv. this is probably a question that gets asked almost every day but
how the shit do i message someone on okc or pof or any of these dating sites/apps? I feel like being authentic and real is the way to go and just yolo say what ever comes naturally. do I need to use some cheesey dumb fucking line? what the shit do I say?
I guess ultimately I'm afraid that no matter what I say it's just going to be spergtastic. but its that kind of thinking that keeps me from trying anything at all. help me
say "they call me the blizzard. i'll give you seven to eight inches and make it mildly uncomfortable to move around in the morning".
Say: "Are you an archaeologist? Because I've got a bone that needs examining."
>>18046219
>>18046223
solid lines my friends.
but seriously. is the only way to get a response is to write some terrible terrible line and hope it works? seems ridiculous and like it would never work. maybe i'm just not that type or person so it doesn't seem natural to me? idfk. i'm already socially awkward/afraid and this shit just makes me overthink