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>>18045540
Shit, forgot to mention, 24 years old.

>is mostly free of the constant and unsatisfiable longing for physical affection by members of the other gender
>complains

>>18045574
I constantly have to explain why I don't feel like having sex, or if I am, why my dick goes soft so easily.

It's gonna be problematic when I'm looking for something longer-term. I need to be able to fuck people regularly; once a month isn't gonna cut it.

>>18045436
I kind of hope you die.

that's terrible

can you give him for adoption or something , doesn't sound like this is a good situation for anyone

>>18045436
I have a autistic brother.

I only glanced through your post because you've pissed me off.

1) I'm terribly sorry, it's horrible dealing with an autistic child and saddening, for that I am truly sorry.
2) You don't matter. Now that you have had a child, it is your sole responsibility to care for said child no matter what. As soon as you had a child, you stopped thinking about yourself and now have to focus all you attention on him.
3)If you cannot do that, then you probably have to kill yourself because even if you ran away you would still be feeling with the guilt of leaving your autistic son without a father.
4)Look after your fucking child sir.
5)Look after your fucking child.
6)Life sucks, look after your fucking child.
7)You love your child no matter what.

>>18047280
Ask him what he wants you to know. If I was a dying father I'd be glad my kid asked that.

>>18047280
Ask little questions everyday and write them down, stuff about his childhood, his family etc. just tiny little questions like "What was your favourite icecream growing up?" Can mean all the world when someone is gone

>>18047280
My mom is at mayo clinic for a prolonged stay. MS related kidney growth that keeps coming back that doctors here couldn't seem to diagnose. She very well could die because last I heard she went septic.
I'm reflecting on my fears. I'm asking what things I couldn't possibly stand about her dying. My conclusion is that she's the only person I will ever know who will love me as much as she does, and that fucking kills me because I can't ever thank her enough. I can never give her the appreciation I feel like she deserves both because of my own mental blocks and because she wouldn't accept it. I want her to live forever and be the pedestalized superhuman I thought she was when I was little, but she can't be, and I guess to some degree I feel at fault. I've deluded myself into thinking that her raising me drained her of her superhuman abilities.

well as far as I am aware of, this is not even a topic to ask, because it should be the norm. As long as your BF behaves and doesnt live there for more than a few weeks.
I mean might be different for your country but if nothing different is written in the lease or in courtcases in your country you will be on the safe site.

Check your lease first and foremost.
Most of the time, the lease has some sort of guideline on visitors. So long as your bf doesn't break that lease, it don't matter what your roommates think (though I wouldn't go picking unnecessary wars).
Usually though what I see isn't going for weeks at a time though, but still worth checking. If only so you know you could potentially get kicked out if your roomies complain enough.

All you can do is ask. They'll either be cunts about it, or cool until something pisses them off. I probably wouldn't care myself if I were warned in advance and he didn't disrupt my life at all, however I am incredibly bitter and salty about being single so if I had to watch you fucks be lovey dovey or worse, hear you fuck
ever
I'd be mad.


Only other thing I got is
>6 times a year, week at a time.
So that's like a month and a half out of every year. Being there for 1/4th of a month might entitle him to chipping in a little on the water bill for that month at least, imo. If you want to sway questioning room mates, you might give that as incentive. Let my boyfriend stay a week and you won't have to pay as much of the utilities for that month, or something. Decide whatever amount you think is fair for that.

If you don't want to be a cunt though, do take the bathroom sharing roommate's feelings to heart. Some chicks are really weirded out by sharing a bathroom with a guy. Be respectful of that. If she's not ok with it, then either get your man a hotel room or work something out.

>>18047263
This is completely normal and reasonable, you're paying rent, it's your home, you're entitled to have guests within reason. This is within reason. Your suitemates might not be 100% thrilled about it, but that's just one of the challenges of living with others

If it's not a yes it's a no.

>>18047216
She's
1) in to you, and playing hard to get because she feels like you'all value her more if you had to work for her
Or
2) not sure whether or not she wants you to be able to snapchat her/see her story, so she'll give it to you later when the conversation keeps going well.

>>18047232
3) she kindly refused
But I'd bet on the second one honestly.

why not go back to her?

>>18047173
She was an abusive girlfriend anon, I'm not getting back in that mess.

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>>18047171
>I just dumped my gf of 1 1/2 years last week, and I've moved on. How long do I have to wait before dating again before I don't seem like an asshole?

You're not supposed to WAIT at all. If the shoe were on the other foot, the woman would have already had her next lay lined up before she left you.

>>18047131
Call her before then get shit faced.

Nothing to gain. She won't take you back, you'll look pathetique, you'll remember how stupid you were for the rest of your life

>>18047133
>pathetique

oui oui he will be, eh, seen as so PATETEEK, ness pa?

>>18047089

get your fucking life together jfc

dont let your hormones contorl you. use ur fucken brain, shitlimbs

t. angry drunk man

>>18047109
My boyfriend is on anti depressants so he doesn't really have any sex drive, so we aren't really having sex at all and I think my hormones really are the problem I am a shitlimbs

>>18047115
Please don't fuck his friend because you will destroy their friendship. His friend should know better than to let you get that far but it's also on you to do the same.

>lose weight
>dress scantily (but just for him)
>worship his body and cock

>>18047028

do you have sex now?

if yes, you're 80% there.

figure out what about you makes him able to be attracted to you sexually and improve/develop those things further.

But you have to be willing to objectify yourself a bit because thats how most guys develop physical attraction; thru basic objectification.

Where do people get this idea that all men want asian girl? There are some guys with yellow fever out there, but the majority of white guys still prefer white women, at least in terms of looks.

Go hit the gym, become /fit/.

>>18047011
Limerence. and they're all the same thing.

>>18047011
Here's how to tell:

Infatuated- means that you're experiencing feelings of passionate love, but they're temporary and fickle. Most relationships start off as infatuation, and some develop to love. If the other person was in a terrible accident and lost their leg, or if the other person got in a fight with you and said something very hurtful or stupid- would it make you less attracted to them? Yes? Then you are infatuated.

Love- this is a more passive feeling. It's a state of being comfortable completely with the other person. It'a feeling whole in a calm, soft way when you are with them. It is missing them when they are away. It is wanting what's best for them rather than prioritizing your own wants. It is understanding them even when you disagree. It is working through the tough times and supporting them unconditionally.
Limerence- (never heard of this one but i'lol try my best). This one seems to be more focused on the feeling of love and having feelings reciprocated. It's confusing because you may think that the person is the subject of your feelings, but actually the feelings themselves are the subject. If your feelings were not the focus, the person would lose importance. This is In comparison to love, where you continue to care just as much for the person even if there is not a focus on whether or not the feelings are reciprocated.

A relationship is a mix of these three- and finding the balance is important.

It usually starts off as mostly infatuation. The person seems so great and hot and you are very excited to see them and touch them. This is the "puppy dog" or "honeymoon" phase. Flaws are minimized, attraction is heightened. This can be in combination with the limerence state of mind- where you begin to want something back. You want commitment, your want validation, you want them to return that admiration and infatuation.
When both of those conditions are met, you can begin to learn more about the other person. They become honest with (c)

>>18047218
(C) who they are and then love develops if they are someone who matches up with you on more than just a physical/first impression basis. It's things like: do you make each other grow? Do you make each other comfortable? Do you have similar senses of humor? Do you have similar values? Do you have similar goals? Basically any commonality that would suggest long term compatibility contributes to developing love as long at the categories of infatuation and limerence are being fulfilled.

>>18046878
You have no interest.

>>18046878
Bump

Start with the Greeks.

Yea. Suck it up and go.
Skip everything else except the funeral.

>>18046870
>funeral months later
Wtf he's probably a skeleton. What the fuck. If someone here dies they're buried the next 2-3 days

>>18046870
firstly it's the right thing to do
secondly, if you don't you will only fuel her hatred for you more and she might even turn your coworkers against you out of spite. Since you didn't show up, they might very well judge you for that

At the dubbed anime club. What kind of answer would you expect? Maybe you can find some small online community, but that's it.

No one cares if you watch chinese cartoons with subtitles or with voiceover. The most you'll get is probably a "lol pleb" from some /a/utist. How would the fact that you watched it in dub prevent you from joining in the discussion? They wouldn't even know that. And if they did they wouldn't care.

>The most you'll get is probably a "lol pleb" from some /a/utist.
I only watch anime raw on my HDD recorder in my apartment in Japan

/a/ is the pleb

>>18046892
Theres actually a small subreddit it seems, I suppose I could start there.

Thanks for the reply, I feel a bit better about it now since yeah, nobody will probably care.

>>18046865
Hangover lunch*

>>18046865
Where do you get said lunch?

>>18046893
In a pub in west London, they do the best hot dogs I've ever had hng

>>18046838
well less is better for a variety of reasons. Motivation and sensitivity being the main ones.

But nothing wrong with your numbers. I am 32, fap at least once a day, sex 3 times a week for about 10 years. Minus wifes periods and childbirths. Which i fapped 2-3 times a day

I fap a lot. Like two times a day. I work from home so I am alone pretty much all day.
Weekends could be more but as wife is around and kid too (school during the week) usually it's the same ratio.
I've read that everyday is normal. I don't feel like normal. Also, it happened once, I left my computer downloading porn thru the night and hated that my wife had to stay at home the following day.
Again I don't feel like normal.
.....regarding my wife, she's lovely, great person and careful mother but she don't give a fuck about sex.

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Fapping due to boredom is a sign of addiction and is a waste of useful energy. Pick up guitar or something.

A man age 18-30 should only masturbate/ejaculate once - twice a week (every 4-5 days.)

Your body needs time to restore the semen which takes a lot of effort and vitamins.

Too much ejaculation can lead to:
>Anxiety
>Grogginess in the morning
>Low energy during the day
>weak erections
>low libido
>Thinning hair/baldness
>Lack of ambition
>Feeling satisfied with being a loser/having no life.


I only cum once a week and I have sex often. I only cum during sex if I haven't cum in the past three days. I work 40 hours a week and play guitar so I need all the energy I can get. Not masturbating for more than a week age 18-30 will lead to having TOO much energy, in which case that's the proper time to ejaculate.

Get a hobby, bro. Bopping your weasel is not a hobby. If you played an instrument you'd realize how draining ejaculating is. If I cum, I can't play guitar well for at least 6-12 hours. It's that powerful. If I haven't cum recently, I can play guitar with ease.

Even Miles Davis knew this, he NEVER came before a show. Also remember the term "no sex before a game" which is common among athletes is very true. Ejaculating results in decreased performance in almost every aspect of life and requires some time to recover.

Basically you're not going to be as good of a person overall if you are ejaculating too much, you are missing out on useful energy.