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I'm scared to date someone who drinks alcohol 2017-02-15 09:06:27 Post No.18052522
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I'm scared to date someone who drinks alcohol
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Im worried that they'll inevitably get drunk and fuck up somehow, whether that be cheating, revealing sensitive info, etc. I didn't trust my previous girlfriend of two years because she exhibited some shady behavior but it was small stuff I was willing to work out or look over, however once she started talking about going out to drink once in a while my paranoia became too much and I cut things off.
I'm questioning myself not because I'm thinking of getting back with her (I couldn't trust her period, she cheated on a previous partner) but for my future relationships, I'd hate to meet someone who I really liked and fuck it up because I'm scared they'll get drunk and cheat on me.
What do you think /adv/? What are your thoughts on the topic?
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why?
when you're drunk, you become the real you and not the person that acts the way you think you should. you don't radically change your personality when you're drunk unless you're fake to begin with.
my advice. learn how they act while drunk and if its shady then don't date that person.
do you drink? It doesn't sound like you do
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>>18052574
This is a good answer. Plenty of people can control their behavior and responsibly drink. Plenty of people can't. Go out with them, have a few drinks with them, and see what kind of person they are.
Booze isn't inherently evil. In fact, it's a lot of fun.
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>>18052574
>>18052599
I don't drink, I had an uncle die in his 30s due to liver failure from alcoholism and when I was was with my previous girlfriend's family (who drank a lot) it was always a bad time. Her mother and her boyfriend would always fight, he even punched her in the stomach one time and bit her another, he'd then come home and puke all over the floor, they both cheated on each other while drunk for over 5 years, and when my girlfriend was drunk when she was younger,he uncle who was also drunk molested her.
I don't think alcohol is inherently evil,I've just never had good experiences with it and like to avoid it because of that.
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Turning life around at 30 2017-02-15 09:04:03 Post No.18052512
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Turning life around at 30
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>Be me
>30
>Unemployed
>College drop-out
>No skills
>Overweight
>Few friends
There are a few factors that led to this, some weren't really my fault (undiagnosed mental illness), and some were (drinking too much), but since I turned 30 this year I have decided to really turn things around. Here are some things I am doing already:
>Started regular exercise regimen
>Taking free 3 month course on basic construction skills
>Abstaining from alcohol
And my longer term plans
>Complete a 9 month pre-apprenticeship program (electrical)
>Move to big city (No jawbs where I am now)
>Find temporary work in construction
>Seek out electricians to take me on as an apprentice
>Once I have job I will start socializing with people from Meetup
How does this seem for a pathway out of the NEET lifestyle?
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Suggestions or criticisms are appreciated.
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You could try OKCupid for dating, or Tinder for hookups so you get better at sex in general.
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>>18052540
Are you in the right thread? I have lots of sexual experience from when I was younger. And I'm not looking to date just yet.
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Is it unhealthy to be a celibate and live without ever having relationships?
I feel like approaching women would fuck up my mental state which is why I don't want to try, also because I think that it would be pretty unlikely for me to be successful. Basically I have a low self-esteem and don't think that I am good enough for a relationship, not that I'm trying to steer attention away from the original question.
Male btw
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How old are you, OP?
Because I`ve done the celibate thing for a while, but then when I turned 26 it was like there was a biological change and now I feel extra-lonely, and to make it worse, everyone else in the world has had 12 years worth of dating experience that I didn`t have.
I used to be like you but I can`t anymore.
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>>18052541
Dude, fuck sex. It sucks and its terrible.
However, fuck not having relationships. You're 18. Hurry the fuck up and start, NOW.
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reading female behaviour 2017-02-15 08:46:01 Post No.18052478
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>be me
>20 years old
>first semester of college
>went to party last saturday with some friends
>pretty comfy and nice music
>have fun and dance
>favourite song plays
>rock the dance floor
>some minutes after this a group of three girls stand near friends and me
>they are very beautiful and wearing tight and short, black clothes
>2 of them facing me and one facing away
>girl facing away is wearing a weard captains hat
>pic related
>i've seen many people wear this one hat at the party so i think it's some kind of a joke or something
>suddenly one of the girls facing towards me puts the hat from the girls head on my head
>i'm surprised as fuck and didn't expect this
>didn't know how to react
>avoid eye contact and after some seconds of awkwardness i try to pass the hat to my friend
>girl facing away turns around and takes the hat with a quick movement from my hand
>while doing this she gives me a angry but teasing look and turns her head to her friends again
>then she looks at me again and gives me a nice smile
What the fuck did happen?
Was she flirting with me?
What can i do to handle such situations better?
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>>18052478
Her friends noticed you looking, and gave you a chance to talk to her.
You whimped out, better lunch next time
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>qt gives me hat she was wearing
>instead of talking to her, how about I find someone else to give this hat to
Jesus fucking christ she wants your dick in her mouth OP
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>>18052478
>Was she flirting with me?
yup, they were out hunting for a man. You came off as a boy and blew your chances.
>What can i do to handle such situations better?
"The crew has spoken now I am the captain, all aboard the fun cruise"
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What do I do if college isn't for me?
>freshman in college
>mechanical engineering major
>pretty good at science and math in high school
>struggling in college chemistry and precalc
>failing computer science class because of absences even though I've passed all tests and classwork
>no clue what mechanical engineers even do specifically
I thought about going to a trade school for welding but didn't want to do manual labor until I'm 60.
Is NEET life really that bad?
What do?
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Sounds to me like you`re like me, OP - you`re having trouble with STEM because you`re more of a humanities guy, but humanities are stupid and useless (at least in my/your opinion) so you stick with stuff you don`t really understand.
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>>18052532
Exactly, I don't want to have to live paycheck to paycheck but the only majors that are remotely interesting to me have a median salary of $20-$40k
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>>18052556
Go to community college, get assoc degree, this should land you significantly less debt, then just go work in that low paid field and hopefully whoever you work for can help pay for the next two
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Is there a legit way to "hack" someone's Snapchat? Like be able to view someone's story without having them added
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How bout just adding them
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>>18052456
That's out of the question
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bamp
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How can i take a good profile pic?
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>>18052414
By getting someone else to take it.
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>>18052414
That nigga looks like the tip of a finger.
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You've just used one.
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I'm 18 and my parents, specifically my mother, force me to attend counseling sessions with a psychologist. I have not ever taken antidepressants, am not depressed, never been in jail or used drugs or involved in a crime. She regularly threatens to throw me out of the house and take away my stuff, some of which I legally own (like my books and computer).
I cant move out because I need to attend college and don't have a high school diploma yet and therefor a means of a job with a living wage.
What can I do? I try to be nice to her but when I didn't go to counseling yesterday she went berserk and would not stop yelling at me. She often throws shit at me.
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Just go to counselling? If it's this big of a deal for her, and you just want to live in peace, why not just do it?
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>>18052410
I missed two appointments and they want to charge me $70 before I can schedule a new one. I could get my parents to pay, probably, but
I don't want to go.
And it doesn't look good on a job that legally requires you to report such counseling.
My mother used to take money out of my college savings account all the time until I turned 18 and they told her she couldn't anymore when she went to the bank to steal my money. Then she came home and flipped shit and made me pay her $200 for a new phone.
She's always eavesdropping on me.
Seriously fuck that bitch.
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What's wrong with going to a psychologist? Their role is to help you better understand yourself and other people. They can give you advice on how to improve your mental state and your life as a whole. Simply talking to someone about your life and your issues could be very pleasant and productive.
From your words your mom does sound a little bit like a nutjob, but this doesn't mean seeing a psychologist is harmful. If anything, you should encourage her to do the same, not reject the idea for (what I see as) no reason.
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I'm 20, bought a certified used car back in October. Last week I parked my car on ice in a park when I was on a date with this girl. When we stepped out of the car it started slipping itself into the lake ahead, thankfully I ran to the car and pulled it into reverse before it got too deep. I would say the front wheels were 4/5 submerged before I pulled it into reverse back to shore. Back on land, I had small puddles at the bottom of my car. Not enough to submerge my foot or anything like that.
The car still runs fine, I have been driving it, and it doesn't seem like there's any engine damage in general. The only problem I encountered is that the air bag light came on the dashboard. I took it to the dealership and they said that the srs unit got fucked by water damage and I should make an insurance claim. My dad handles my insurance, so I told a white lie to the insurance company saying that I'm not sure what caused the water damage, and that it could have been driving through deep puddles or spilling a bottle of water in my car.
Did I just commit insurance fraud? Is there any ramifications of this or should I call my insurance company immediately and tell them the truth? Bottom line flood damage was done to the car and it was my fault, will they take away my policy or something if they were to somehow find out about this?
Also, (I know this is a bit of a long shot) speaking from a mechanic perspective, did completely total my car, or is it simply a matter of water leaking to the wiring getting water damage from leaking from the seats, which can be repaired and replaced?
The inspector is looking at it tomorrow. I'm just looking for some reassurance here. Realistically should I be freaking out over this, or am I most likely going to be alright with this situation?
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>>18052294
You're most likely alright. I'm assuming the water puddles have dried up and/or you vacuumed the car out?
If not, get on that shit because having water still in there is going to make you look bad. Apart from that just keep your mouth shut about what happened and stick to your story. You fucked up, whatever, but coming clean is not going to make it right for you it's just going to potentially fuck up your life.
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>>18052315
Yeah, I vacuumed all of the water out and dried it with towels as much as I could. The carpets are still drenched, though.
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>>18052315
Even as a mechanical issue, will my car be salvageable? Is it likely that that much damage was done to it if it was halfway submerged in some water for a few seconds?
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Fuck this, i became beta as fuck growing up
I was more of an adult when i was a child than now that i'm 24.
When i was a child i wasn't self concious at all, i was brave, had strong morals and stood up for what i believed in.
Now i'm self concious as fuck, socially awkward, constantly supressing my anger and frustration, overthinking everything, blaming all my problems on feminists (fuck them btw) and i became a coward.
But what is cowardice though ? I think the main problem is that i'm lost. When somebody says some dumb bullshit, would it be brave to call them out on this, or would it be braver to just endure it and shut the fuck up anyway ?
When somebody insults you in the street, is it brave to confront him and to wreck his face, or is it braver not to react and to just let it go as it's not that important anyway ?
What can i do ? Will i stay a frustrated mess all my life ?
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>>18052156
The obvious question here is what happened between childhood and now to make you feel this way?
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>>18052156
1. yes
2. call them out. in that way you are also helping them by teaching them, otherwise you're allowing them to continue to fail
3. context is important. stand up for what you believe in and all but don't be dumb enough to get yourself killed for something small unless you want to die for your stand
4. You were given life by your parents. What you do with it is up to you. You have everything you need to have success and move up in life; it's up to you whether or not you do.
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>>18052159
The breaking point is very clear for me, i will sound like a pussy because i understand that it may not seem like a big deal, but i lost my best friend when i was 13.
He didn't die or anything, it's just that we always were together and i loved him like a brother. I was very extroverted (Maybe too much, some people thought i was crazy.), i had no ego or superego, no interior voice to tell me when i was doing stupid shit. But then he just started hanging out with somebody else and i can see myself in the classroom, looking at them laughing while i was now alone at my table, i felt humiliated and betrayed. I never told him about this.
I looked at them and i instantly retreated in myself. I was super extroverted and i suddenly fell into the exact opposite. I've been introverted and awkward ever since. High school was shit, i had no friends, all my former relationships gradually faded and i felt even more unadapted and shameful.
Now things got somehow a bit better, i more or less learnt how to behave in society so i now have some "friends" so i'm not a total recluse anymore, but i still struggle with the matters i spoke about in my previous post.
Sorry for the blog post, wanted to answer your question precisely.
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>be me 18yr old virgin
>friend went on date with girl ages ago
>apparently all she did was talk about herself bit on the chubby side
>friend makes her out to be a bit of a slut says "i swear all i had to do was call her pretty and she would have banged me"
>he had no interest stops talking to her after that date
>now im contemplating just trying to get set up with her so i can just lose virginity
>is it worth it or should i just wait for a girl i like to come along (pic is her)
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Wait
Don't regret losing your virginity with a whale you don't give a fuck about
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>>18052055
She looks gross, but be honest is she in your league? Like if she is go for it but if she isn't do downgrade. Like in life don't expect others to go down to your level and vice versa. You have a level for a reason, embrace it or try to move up but never move down.
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>>18052055
That's not that bad OP. Lots of dudes on here would cut off a nut to have a chance at that. I'm not one of them but I would stick my dick in her.
Virginity means shit bro, people that say otherwise are retarded. I've had a lot of good sex and the first time was pretty much the most disappointing, and not because I was bad, but because I expected so much.
Also, it's easier to get laid in highschool (assuming you're a senior) so take advantage.
>friday-sunday
>visit college I graduated from with a friend
>we go to a party at a fraternity he went to
>this girl keeps looking at me
>our group goes to a dance club
>pretty drunk, dancing by myself because I have a gf(dying relationship) and she probably wouldn't appreciate me grinding on another girl
>this girl and I keep making eye contact
>group leaves the dance floor, I follow
>girl grabs me by my arm and pulls me back to the dance floor, dancing and grinding proceeds
Fast forward a day
>go to hose party
>girl is there again,
>our group walks to same dance club
>we split up this time, most of then mingled at bar
>girk and I dancing the same way
>we eventually begin making out in dance floor periodically
>2am rolls around
>I say "want to go back to your place"
>she looks down and says "I'm not that kind of girl"
>Not really bothered by it
>walk her back to her dorm and walk back to where I'm supposed to sleep
Where did I go wrong? Was she really not that kind of girl or did she just get cold feet all of a sudden. She's the one who started all of this so I'm kind of confused
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>>18052019
you didn't go wrong she just doesn't fuck guys she barely knows. Ask her for a date
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>>18052029
>ask her for a date
Not a college student anymore that would be pretty strange. I'm like 5-6 years older than her kek.
I did get her number thought and she asked me to keep in touch and visit again. Probably just formalities
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Apologies for typos I'm typing in between work so I don't care to check
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If a girl always argues with you, makes fun of you, and gives you an attitude everytime you talk to her, is she interested?
>we argue like a married couple
>call each other names
>she makes fun of me for being single
etc.
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>>18051867
Maybe, maybe not.
I do all those things with friends, and I do them with my boyfriend.
Just ask her out.
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>>18051867
Read Much Ado About Nothing.
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>>18051870
>boyfriend
No gay people allowed.
She only does this with me though.
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Weird request here but if anyone can help let me know.
Does anyone know anywhere online that you can buy refined chemicals? In particular im looking for cyanide, tried making it from apple seeds (yes i know its a different kind of cyanide) but wasnt refined enough and im lazy.
Anyone know any sites? preferably something deep web
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>>18051548
I can hook you up bro
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>>18051548
If you have to ask you don't need it
If you want to kill yourself or someone else there are better ways
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to the guy who offered to hook me up, sarcasm or for real?
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What are the some bad habits to stop immediately or I'll regret big time later in life?
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Not brushing your teeth regularly
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>>18051246
Anything related to sleep
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>>18051246
>porn
>coffee
>cigarettes