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>>18054937

If you were in love with your wife once, you can get there again if you both work on it. Go on dates, do new exciting shit together, have more sex and intimacy, etc. Marriages die when people stop working on them.
If you (or her for that matter) are unwilling to work on it, then it's better to accept loss and divorce than to cheat on her. Basically it boils down to whether you think your marriage ks something you want to save or if you're feeling more inclined to move on.

>>18054944
Good points. I have tried working on it but she is content to ignore issues and takes the "it will all work out in the end" stance. Maybe I am being too aggressive or maybe she is being too lax. I can't speak for her

>>18054944
not worth the effort

>>18054937
break up. marriage is not for us. we just love the intense feelings. just keep fuckin around

Just how sexy are you?

>>18054685

I get flirted with every time I go out and a lot of men ask to see me naked or try to grope me, even his friends tell him how they think I'm pretty and really hot

Why are you even dating? It doesn't sound like your relationship has any benefits for either of you.

He might tell you he loves you but loving someone isn't the same thing as being in love with someone.

I'd break up with him, personally. I think you'd both be better off for it.

>>18054642
You used too be fat so you should know fat people need love too, you should post a before and after pic too

>>18054642
I think a woman with a tenor voice is hot as fuck. But different strokes for different folks. There are plenty of men who would date you. Yeah a lot will be permavergins, but i guarentee there is a guy who takes care of himself and loves vidya like you, or just loves you enough to do the things you like with you.

>>18054642
Recovered neet here, trust me when I say the quality of men increased dramatically when I started taking better care of myself (flattering wardrobe, well-maintained skin and hair, etc.) and took up a few normie hobbies like going to art galleries etc.

Honestly, men are very visual creatures and the most important thing, at least at first, is to look physically appealing. Not necessarily overly hyperfeminine or slutty or anything but at least try to avoid looking manly or unkempt.

Also if you want a 100% harsh-but-honest truth, people tend to not be interested in weebs unless they are also a weeb, so that's probably why all of your matches are losers.

Well the aim is to tax writes

No consumer base, don't apply,

My mother is disabled ask a question

There's little you can do. My hairline is also receding and I'm 25. Either put down some serious money for a hair transplant or deal with it.

honestly bro you are fighting a losing battle, just accept your baldness and shave your head. a bald head definitely more attractive than shitty attempts to hide a bald spot.

>>18054525
Wish it was just a receding hairline. For me it's entire top of my head. You can see the scalp in some places already if I don't comb over well enough. I don't have money for hair transplant right now, but I'll need to preserve as much hair as I can till I get one, so my only option is fin. Which I really didn't want to take, since I always get all sides... It's so hard to just deal with it.
>>18054527
I know it's true, but I just can't do it yet. I imagine how I'll look without hair and it terrifies me.

>>18054410
you're 26. Gave no info on your GF

She won't. Look, if you cum soon then just tell her you were so amped because you care about her so much. Stop fucking worrying about it.

Dude 26? I just assume it is either religious or you fucked up one time and then it fucked everything else up.

So yes. You fucked up by not telling her you're a virgin. You can use this as an advantage if you two get serious.

>>18054410
You already fucked up by lying to her. If she's really interested in you for you then she's not going to care about virginity status. People overestimate how much partners care that they are a virgin, the reality is people care a lot more if you are a slut who has had a lot of partners because then there's a risk for disease

Just tell her the truth. Let her guide you through sex the first time if she wishes to do so. If the truth freaks her out then she's a spazz, don't waste time on a spazz

>>18054415
>You can use this as an advantage if you two get serious.
How do you mean?

>>18054065
Let her pay in fucking paypal, holy shit is that such a problem? Use Venmo, it's even easier

I know you're 18, but you're going to learn quickly that not everyone is going to do everything the exact way you want them to do it

Would you rather have your money through some online service, or would you rather not have it?

>>18054072
I don't want to create and pay for an account on a service that I'll only use for one thing. It's much fucking easier for her to literally just get cash or write a check.

This isn't the only thing she's done either, she's been an awful roommate since we moved in. She stole my other roommate's vicodin when she got her wisdom teeth pulled, threw away some stuff because she didn't like it or some shit, and freaks the fuck out whenever any of us owe her any money at all.

>>18053959
Not an answer but real talk right now: These posts scare the shit out of me, I've been with my gf since I was 16 and I have no idea what I would do without her. Seeing you guys like this paralyzes me with fear, knowing I'd be useless in trying cope with losing her

>>18053959
It's a slow burn, but the embers will die and the pain will stop. Time has a strange way of healing, but heal it does. The short term solution is to acknowledge the thoughts when the come up, experience them, then consciously release them, let them go, and get lost in something. Read a book, watch a TV show you've never seen before. It'll help.

>>18053965
I'm a pretty rational, easy going guy and could not even imagine it would hit me this hard. I pray you never have to feel this anon. I've felt physical pain that was so bad they had to give me morphine and I wished for death. This hurts more. There is no morphine for this.

Probably not the best time to watch 500 Days of Summer.

Sounds like you're introverted and depressed.
You look inside yourself a lot but don't like what you find.
Pretty much agree with you on just about everything.
I don't have the answers but what im doing is saying fuck it and traveling overseas to japan.
Going for 4 months and trying to live there afterwards. Maybe all you need is just a different environment and a change of pace

all you need is a job and to be less self absorbed.

Vast majority of your problems can be condensed into "I have little to no confidence or self worth"
So that's one thing you should work on. Your list of positives should not be shorter than your negatives. You have the drive to fix yourself, which is great. Thats the first step. You want to start liking yourself a bit more. Seek therapy if you can, this is the kind of shit that really can't be done on your own.

I'd focus on that and getting yourself settled independently first.
Finish school, get a job, move out. Those should be your priority. You want to be financially stable on your own.

Do those things, be financially independent and gain confidence, and your life will 180. I promise.

>>18053255
Why do you care so much? What are you, a psycho bitch?

guy here
1. call him a creep/ask him why the fuck he sent you a picture of his penis unsolicited/confront him about it if you feel really uncomfortable about it

2. I have literally no fucking idea, it's so retarded and I don't understand why people do it

>>18053263
Because I have a boyfriend and I'm only on social media to make friends, and it seems like I only get attention from boys when all I want is a simple friend with similar interests

Honesty, my friend, honesty.

No, don't tell them you're a virgin. Maybe if they are a virgin, too, crazy about you as well, and place importance on purity.

Other girls, if they find out you're a virgin, they'll think you're lacking in options and play hard to get. This happens even if you do have other options. You're lack of options could be in your pickyness with women, they'll sense that, and make you work to see just how much you like them. They also could be afraid of you getting clingy, which is a valid concern.

I say don't do it.

>>18053115
Depends on if your incel or a virgin by choice. My friend was just holding out for the right girl, so it never hindered him. But if you come off as desperate, girls will probably be turned off by it.

I always think it pays off to be honest though. If you do fuck a girl, she will eventually find out you were incel, and resent you for tricking her into sleeping with a loser.

You can't change them, and trying to will only push them away even further. Don't.

Just let them be. If they decide that they love someone, they will do it on their own time.

I have a feeling she`s only asexual and arromantic for you, OP.

If not, there`s nothing you can do, it`s like trying to convert a butch lesbian.

>>18052738
She brought it up completely from out of nowhere right after she said "I want to love you but I can't and I hate myself for it"

Like, I literally never displayed any kind of romantic interest for this girl (because I don't have any) and she just said that one day whilst we were texting.

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>>18052662
>like checking out each other's boobs, looking for ticks, massaging each other... cuddling
idk what kind of weird friends you have OP, this is not the norm.

No.

I'm a gayfag and I don't do any of that shit.

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>>18052662

This is the most confusing post I've read in a long time.

>>18052297
No. Anti depressives make you feel nothing.
You also get stomach pain, drowsiness, weightgain, erectile dysfunction etc. etc.

When you start with anti depressives, it's a bit like walking around with a clothes iron on top of your head.

>>18052317
>>18052324
Dude that's fucking terrible. There has to be a way to replicate this feeling. This is all I've ever wanted in a drug but i don't want to spiral out of control.

>>18052234
>Is it ok
no. You having found something is not validation that violating someone's privacy was acceptable. Would you like it if someone casually invaded your privacy?

That doesn't mean what she's doing is OK either.

>>18052255
I would never text stuff like that with another girl though. She is completely disrespecting our relationship. I also work nights so she has plenty of time to cheat on me. I don't think I can trust her.

>>18052234
it's flirting but escalating slowly and if he pushes a bit more she'll cheat since she's already opened the door. Use what you know and plan a romantic date or weekend but do not disclose what you know ever. You need to be able to go back and check.

Keep in mind that new friend or workmate is always your possible replacement or at least the guy your gf will get her side dick from especially if things have gotten stale. That said sometimes it is exacerbated because they meet a new guy and causes things in your relationship to deteriorate quickly.